Things that make a man instantly hotter

ahavoc

That he's a man, not a boy, or a baby, and he makes no apologies for it.

jonbobfrog

good sense of humor (has one and understands mine!)
able to hold an intelligent conversation
doesn't like to go out too much (isn't a "party animal" so to speak)
loves animals
has tattoos (although this is not a deal breaker . . . he at least has to be tolerant of mine [and my piercings too!])
likes to text and does so randomly throughout the day
not prejudiced
not too skinny

afterthought: isn't obsessed with sports!

Melmade

A job! Ha ha ha!

flatbellybella

chin straps (neatly trimmed)
Nice hands
A nice voice
Intelligence
Nice arms/calves
Nice lips
A great personality
Good sense of humor
Nice shoes
etc etc lol

crisanderson27

That he's a man, not a boy, or a baby, and he makes no apologies for it.

You know...this is most likely the most difficult requirement I've seen on here yet. I've only rarely met a man that fits the above description...without being a complete *kitten* to boot. The ones I've met that WEREN'T *kitten*...and still met the above qualities...can be counted on one hand (in 36 years of meeting new people)...were men I respected and admired...and a few, I even looked up to.

I don't look up to a lot of people.

I wish you luck in your search.

crisanderson27

I disagree with the whole "Relationships take work" thing,,, I don't see it that way.

Life takes work, careers take work, serving on a church committee or burying a parent or building a birdhouse take work. A good relationship is the respite, the safe place you go to recover and rest and be nourished and get back some of what you've put out.

I could be wrong, I dunno. I've only been married 24 years. Maybe next year it will start to be work.

Congrats on 24 years. I'm glad you don't see your relationship as work. I guess we could call it something else....effort? I have seen women complain that their SO doesn't ever compliment them any more, or do special things for them, etc. I have seen men complain that their SO doesn't dress up for them any more or do anything nice for them. That's what I meant by work. To many men and women both feel like after your married or been in a long relationship, that those things don't matter anymore. I do feel like I work at my marriage. I enjoy doing it but I put in the time to make him feel special, loved and wanted. He does too. He stills brings me a cup of coffee every morning after 3 years. That's what I meant by work, remembering to still make an effort.

I think you two just had a semantics conflict. I will also agree that a successful marriage/relationship takes work/effort though. Recently, my girlfriend said something she believed upset me. It didn't upset me so much as catch me off guard...but the next time we talked she not only apologized for her words...but explained the reason she reacted the way she did (yes, something I said/did was the catalyst, and she STILL apologized), and basically made sure that the situation was not only corrected...but understood before moving on. I of course respect/respected her regardless...but every time she does something like that...it brings into sharp new focus why I chose, and continue to choose her.

That is effort. That is work. That is the kind of thing that makes a relationship last. It doesn't just happen people. It's a voluntary choice you make every day of your lives together.

ohwhataday

A big ol' beard. I'm not talking long and scraggly. I'm talking full and thick. Oh and like Skittybang said. A penis.

Yes. Beard and penis.

koosdel

What about fire?

Fire is hot.

ma34113

just being nice to other people..having confidence...fit...and into trying new things

Autumn15

Sense of humor...rugged looks....and a winning smile

thegymbunny

I agree with being an unabashed, unapologetic man.
Love it. If I wanted a weenie I'd fine one.

And faithful. He doesn't have to shout it out on the mountaintops... but I expect that look in his eye like there is nobody else.
Good with children is a must. In fact just good with people in general. I tend to gravitate towards men with some innate "charm" **shrug**

also yes, male parts are preferred.

and a job


Thankfully these things weren't too much to ask for

Autumn15

Being a good dad.

Not a cheating *kitten*...
And has to take care of their teeth.

Again I say...aren't these things just a given?

Do most guys really suck so badly that women have to specify loyalty and being a successful father as traits that make a guy hotter lol?

Sadly Yes they do....guess maybe we are hoping if we keep saying it one day they will finally catch on.

lucylue21

has nice calused strong hands and can apologize when he is WRONG!

crisanderson27

Being a good dad.

Not a cheating *kitten*...
And has to take care of their teeth.

Again I say...aren't these things just a given?

Do most guys really suck so badly that women have to specify loyalty and being a successful father as traits that make a guy hotter lol?

Sadly Yes they do....guess maybe we are hoping if we keep saying it one day they will finally catch on.

Unfortunately hun...those are things you either have, or don't =/. Saying it won't change anything.

I guess I should be even more grateful my Dad taught me right from wrong. The crazy thing is...until very recently (and I'm talking over roughly 20yrs of dating and relationships)...I'd yet to meet a girl that genuinely appreciated it.

Imagine the irony.

smallerthighs

Seeing the way he interacts with his child(ren)
Seeing the way he treats his mother
seeing him do something sweet and helpful for an old person

These things are heartwarming!!!!!

mrphil86

So question...

How do these things INSTANTLY make a man hotter? I mean I understand what your shaping your dream man into but what gets my foot in the door?

thegymbunny

So question...

How do these things INSTANTLY make a man hotter? I mean I understand what your shaping your dream man into but what gets my foot in the door?

a good smile

Jennyisbusy

So question...

How do these things INSTANTLY make a man hotter? I mean I understand what your shaping your dream man into but what gets my foot in the door?

Do something genuinely nice and smile.

beach_bum_gurl

Being in front of me and yet stopping to hold the door open and let me pass through first...instant increase in hotness~

bhagavatilad1

nice shoes

handyman

cute touch

Troy67

Hahaha. A penis. That is hilarious skittybang. I about wet myself.

CasperO

Unfortunately hun...those are things you either have, or don't =/. Saying it won't change anything.

I guess I should be even more grateful my Dad taught me right from wrong. The crazy thing is...until very recently (and I'm talking over roughly 20yrs of dating and relationships)...I'd yet to meet a girl that genuinely appreciated it.

Imagine the irony.

Nothing ironic. Women are just looking for men who have all of those things, and is also a 6'4" attorney with a 30" waist. If the ladies you met didn't appreciate you it wasn't because the didn't realize you had many of the qualities they claim to be looing for, it was because you (I - we) didn't have all that other stuff.

Nice guys finish last, regardless what this thread says.

fteale

So question...

How do these things INSTANTLY make a man hotter? I mean I understand what your shaping your dream man into but what gets my foot in the door?

Cleanliness, good hair, good teeth, good clothes. Carrying yourself well (not slouching) and confidently. That is all it takes to be attractive. Anyone who does these things is instantly hotter.

i_love_vinegar

accents and nice breath

ItsCasey

So question...

How do these things INSTANTLY make a man hotter? I mean I understand what your shaping your dream man into but what gets my foot in the door?

See the very first post in this thread. It kind of got off topic with all this stuff about looks. I was thinking more along the lines of non-physical things that make a man more attractive to you immediately. Some of this stuff I don't put in that category, like having fresh breath. Okay, yes, that's a positive thing, but your breath is only noticeable to me if it's horrible. So meeting a guy with un-horrible breath doesn't cause any kind of reaction in me. But meeting a guy who knows how to behave in the company of women (i.e. manners) ... hot. A guy wearing a tool belt or performing pretty much any kind of manual labor ... hot. A guy who is a good dancer ... hot.

The things I listed are things that will get me to pay attention. Some of them are quirky (like the suspenders), some of them are things that will make you more attractive to pretty much all women.

mrphil86

So question...

How do these things INSTANTLY make a man hotter? I mean I understand what your shaping your dream man into but what gets my foot in the door?

See the very first post in this thread. It kind of got off topic with all this stuff about looks. I was thinking more along the lines of non-physical things that make a man more attractive to you immediately. Some of this stuff I don't put in that category, like having fresh breath. Okay, yes, that's a positive thing, but your breath is only noticeable to me if it's horrible. So meeting a guy with un-horrible breath doesn't cause any kind of reaction in me. But meeting a guy who knows how to behave in the company of women (i.e. manners) ... hot. A guy wearing a tool belt or performing pretty much any kind of manual labor ... hot. A guy who is a good dancer ... hot.

The things I listed are things that will get me to pay attention. Some of them are quirky (like the suspenders), some of them are things that will make you more attractive to pretty much all women.

So... pretty much I just have to be one of the members of the village people?

_beachgirl_

Bwahahahaha@Villagepeople

crisanderson27

So question...

How do these things INSTANTLY make a man hotter? I mean I understand what your shaping your dream man into but what gets my foot in the door?

See the very first post in this thread. It kind of got off topic with all this stuff about looks. I was thinking more along the lines of non-physical things that make a man more attractive to you immediately. Some of this stuff I don't put in that category, like having fresh breath. Okay, yes, that's a positive thing, but your breath is only noticeable to me if it's horrible. So meeting a guy with un-horrible breath doesn't cause any kind of reaction in me. But meeting a guy who knows how to behave in the company of women (i.e. manners) ... hot. A guy wearing a tool belt or performing pretty much any kind of manual labor ... hot. A guy who is a good dancer ... hot.

The things I listed are things that will get me to pay attention. Some of them are quirky (like the suspenders), some of them are things that will make you more attractive to pretty much all women.

So... pretty much I just have to be one of the members of the village people?

*shrug* it worked for me.

crisanderson27

Unfortunately hun...those are things you either have, or don't =/. Saying it won't change anything.

I guess I should be even more grateful my Dad taught me right from wrong. The crazy thing is...until very recently (and I'm talking over roughly 20yrs of dating and relationships)...I'd yet to meet a girl that genuinely appreciated it.

Imagine the irony.

Nothing ironic. Women are just looking for men who have all of those things, and is also a 6'4" attorney with a 30" waist. If the ladies you met didn't appreciate you it wasn't because the didn't realize you had many of the qualities they claim to be looing for, it was because you (I - we) didn't have all that other stuff.

Nice guys finish last, regardless what this thread says.

Oddly enough, I echoed this in another thread...though not quite so seriously.

And when I said didn't appreciate, I meant throughout the relationship. I'm not a 6'4" attorney, I'm a 5'7" business owner turned construction worker...but I've never had a problem getting my foot in the door when I'm interested.

Saruman_w

*takes notes*