The Bella Club! (Closed)

lori0287

Note to self. Pam cooking spray doesn't work well as a margarine substitute for grilled veggie/laughing cow cheese sandwich. It burned right away. Otherwise, the laughing cow cheese wedge works really nicely on grilled sandwiches. I like it better than fat free cheese slices.

Hubby is home and I am going to watch NCIS with him. Will probably try to turn in early tonight.

Catch up with everyone in the a.m.

Lori

Majunta

grmpy1

YEAH! It's almost here. Weigh in day. I am both anxious and worried. I have a number in mind I want to see in the morning and I am nervous as to which way it will go. I know as long as I lose something it will be a win for me, but I am getting closer to that 210 mark and my body always likes to stop and make me wait til it is good and ready to jump to the next level. Oh man, this is nerve racking.

Good Luck to all tomorrow..and no matter if the scale goes up or down, we are all winners here!!

D

ohhhhkkkk

Good evening Bellas!
Hope everyone had a good day and is ready for weigh in.

Lori, Elizabeth & Denise What you said about why you are here is my thoughts also. I would have given up months ago if I had not found MFP. So every day that I continue to log food is a bonus. Yes the last couple weeks have been difficult and I have not logged the food the way I should be - this week in particular, but I am still here. I am ok with not loosing weight one week, or so. I will get back on track and need to clear my head.

Marianne. Great picture. You look so young, and don't look like a house. you have done a fantastic job and you should be so proud with the new stats from your bio screen. This is fantastic proof of your hard work & determination. Keep going you are inspiring me. I need to get in front of the ducks too!

Denise, you are a great stalker and I appreciate your advice and comments. You are so uplifting, it always seems like you are talking to me. Your daughter is fortunate to have a mom that is so wise. I hope your family is doing well with the new adjustments at your house. Do you live on lake Erie?

Dodie, I know what you mean about reading the posts and the comments. I too need to make mort time to check in more often.

Lori, About how your body responds with weight loss, this is not a race and everyone looses weight differently. We don't judge the number that comes up on Friday. We are here to support everyone no matter how it goes. You treat your body so well and share so much with us. I am glad that you were able to join the group and spend time with us.

Elizabeth, I am with you, no tags. I have a needle phobia. I love the comment you shared about your thanksgiving dinner. I laughed so hard. My husband was giving me the strange look so I shared with him and he thought it was hysterical too! Sorry about the roof leak, we just had ours fixed. That sucks that you had things ruined.

Karen, congrats on the Free vacation! What an awesome feeling. You are a winner! I can have a bag packed in just a few minutes! You should buy a lottery ticket this week.

Ev, hope you are having a good week and feeling Better.

Red, hope you are not freezing out there!

....... OK, so no tatto's, sleeveless around the house recently noticed the arms are starting to get a little loose, used to be very toned with muscle, but since I am so lame; not sure how I managed to join the group but it must have been fate; starting to get turkey neck, and Oil of Old Lady doesn't do sh@t to make It any less noticeable.

Hope tomorrow finds everyone feeling light of a feather!

Sweet dreams everyone XOXO
Kim

ihavenowaist

Oil of Old Lady doesn't do sh@t to make It any less noticeable.

Hope tomorrow finds everyone feeling light of a feather!

Sweet dreams everyone XOXO
Kim

Love it, gonna get me some of that oil of old lady!! Sleep well, Kim!

Majunta

Just something I read on one of the blogs this morning..."We learn to take solace and delight where we find it if we’re wise, and this is one of those times."

grmpy1

WOO HOO! I am out of the 210s and I am not going back!!!

It is gonna be a great day! I don't know what I am going to do besides the usual. But I am going to enjoy it!!

OK, I will admit. I wanted more, but I will take 2.5 lbs in a week. And thank all of you for helping to make it happen.

Denise

kdtann

Congrats Denise on the loss..I know getting out of the 210's was a big moment for you.. I know how you felt this morning. I did not want to get on the scale this morning at all. Hubby was up and watching. He never is up that early.. He said "go ahead you look good"... made me smile and get on the scale.. I was dancing in the car all the way to work.. Love it. and the support from my hubby..

And anyone who wants to join me on my mini vacation is more than welcome.. I do think it is going to be somewhere here in Florida.. They are mailing me the info..It would be a little bit of travel for you all. lol

Not much for me this weekend. 1 yr old birthday party tomorrow... More car trouble.. the culprit that had my car running hot is the radiator fan.. It is apparently not working all the time. So all week I have had to be careful and not sit with my car idling..or it would overheat.. Had to wait till this weekend to get fixed. Part is $120. good thing we have a friend who is a mechanic..

My son is interviewing for an Assistant Plant Manager position this afternoon. He so needs it. Everyone please keep your fingers crossed that he gets it. He is a custodian at an elementary school and the pay is not so good.. He would get an extra few hundred a month if he gets the promotion..
Thanks,

Hope everyone has a great healthy day...

Karen

kdtann

Quote from Bob Harper

"Stand up and finish what you started." -Bob Harper

grmpy1

Karen~ Good Luck to your son. I will keep my fingers crossed for him. And good luck to you with your car. Our truck is having problems too, we are hoping it doesn't need any repairs anytime soon, we just put too much into the power sterring that went out.
And FL is only a day away from most of us...if we drive straight through. Which I have done a few times. So don't count us out of your vacation.

I wish I could have seen you dancing in the car...I bet you got some funny looks today as you drove by. Keep up the good work and next you will be dancing in the streets!

Have a great day.
D

grmpy1

Before I forget...family update. My daughter decided to go back home last night. She basically told the hubby it was up to him if he stayed at the house, but she wasn't leaving. She wanted her kid, her dog and her house and if he couldn't live with her, he needed to move out. We will see how it goes. I am praying she keeps the new backbone she seems to have acquired. Love her to death, but she gives in too easy.

That's the newest in my ongoing life saga...finally some good news. Hopefully no one will screw up my good day.

Later Bellas!
D

ihavenowaist

Karen and Denise....Prayers for your kids...and your cars!! Our explorer has been randomly and periodically dying while driving. Kinda scary but so far, no real probs when it happens. It starts right back up. Took it to our mechanic (a local) who said that probably unless he was driving it and it stalled, he wouldnt even know where to start. We figure we could take it to the Ford place and pay out the nose to have the air filter replaced, only to have the engine stall again. Then back for a fuel filter replacement, and have it happen again...and so on and so on and so on. So, we are taking our chances. Most of our driving is very local. Both of our cars (as well as the 1987 jeep wrangler sitting in the driveway that hasnt started for a couple of years now) are 7 years of age or older, but I so dont want to buy a new one. Both are low mileage, and as of yet, not money pits.

I am once again optimistic about the upcoming week. We will see how things go. I have a meeting to go to tomorrow that includes lunch. Not good, as I dont get to choose, the lunch is chosen for me. Since it cost me $15, I am not likely to push it away, but I am so hoping it is something healthy.

Enjoy this Friday Ladies!! Elizabeth

Majunta

Here they are....

I've added a "Weekly Loss" column for quick weekly reference.

W. Loss = Weekly Loss
T. Loss = Total Loss (this challenge)

Great job everyone!!!!! Upward and Onward. Or should I say downward and onward :drinker:

grmpy1

Marianne,

Great job, as always! And the new column helps my brain..it doesn't have to work as hard this way.

Keep up the good work.
Denise

Majunta

I have a meeting to go to tomorrow that includes lunch. Not good, as I dont get to choose, the lunch is chosen for me. Since it cost me $15, I am not likely to push it away, but I am so hoping it is something healthy.

Enjoy this Friday Ladies!! Elizabeth

Could always make your own lunch and bring anyway. I know $15 bucks is $15 bucks but your life is worth more than that. Hope is not a strategy.

Majunta

Marianne,

Great job, as always! And the new column helps my brain..it doesn't have to work as hard this way.

Keep up the good work.
Denise

Me too! I like seeing the weekly loss.

You did a fabulous job!!!!! Wow...out of the 210's. What an accomplishment!

We're neck-in-neck for the weekly losses!!! How exciting!!!!!

ihavenowaist

I have a meeting to go to tomorrow that includes lunch. Not good, as I dont get to choose, the lunch is chosen for me. Since it cost me $15, I am not likely to push it away, but I am so hoping it is something healthy.

Enjoy this Friday Ladies!! Elizabeth

Could always make your own lunch and bring anyway. I know $15 bucks is $15 bucks but your life is worth more than that. Hope is not a strategy.

I could make my own lunch, but I wont. Since tomorrow's meeting is a gathering of women (I do so hate to be sexist, but I have found this to be true in the area in which I live), the meals are more often than not healthier than one might find elsewhere. And for me, it is so important to learn how to eat half-way decently in all sorts of situations. Last night, at a meeting at which dessert was served afterwards, I did eat carrot cake, but before MFP, I might have eaten two pieces, as well as the chips and CANDY CORN!! that were available, but I kinda give myself a pat on the back stopping when I did. I am hoping (there's that word again ) that tomorrow, I can eat in moderation. I will certainly go with the strong intent of doing so!!

grmpy1

DID SOMEONE SAY "CANDY CORN"?????? Hold me back!! (Ok, don't hold me too tight, I just want a couple)

Majunta

...And for me, it is so important to learn how to eat half-way decently in all sorts of situations. Last night, at a meeting at which dessert was served afterwards, I did eat carrot cake, but before MFP, I might have eaten two pieces, as well as the chips and CANDY CORN!! that were available, but I kinda give myself a pat on the back stopping when I did.

Yay! You do have a plan!

I know you can do this E! And you do deserve a pat on the back. Thank goodness for MFP.

I'm really sorry if I was a little rough around the edges on that comment but I would hope you would do the same for me.

MamaCat9

Yay to everyone! Up, down or the same... We are still here and for the long term!
:flowerforyou:
After 7 hrs I made it! Girl time now, pedicures. :bigsmile:
Black angus when son gets off work.
I'm one happy lady!
Hope you all have a fabulous weekend too!!!!!

ihavenowaist

ok, if there is anyone here, i need some advice. i was sitting at my computer eating popcorn and all of a sudden, the right side of my face began to swell, up from the back of my teeth to my ear. It is swollen enough that I look like I have had major dental work or something. it is also warm to the touch and hurts a bit. any suggestions?

grmpy1

I'm here, but I honestly am at a loss. Unless you have a kernel or something stuck in there. Or an allergic reaction to something I have no clue. I would definitely keep an eye on it to make sure it doesn't get any worse.

Sorry, I am no help Keep us posted please...and feel bettter fast!!!
Denise

Majunta

Maybe a gland got poked by the popcorn. We have some type of glands right behind the jaw. You know, the area when you eat something sour and it starts to tingle (for lack of better word).

A few years ago, I pushed on that area for some reason and the entire side of my face swelled for a few hours.

Try an ice pack or Ibuprofen to bring down the swelling/inflamation

ihavenowaist

I don think it was the popcorn, but who knows? Some of the swelling has subsided. I took a couple of aspirin so we shall see what happens next. I never have allergic reactions to anything, but I guess there is always a first time for everything. I did some cleaning today, and was amazed at the number of spiders I found. Everyone else has stink bugs, and I have spiders! Maybe one bit me, I really dont know. If the swelling isnt gone by morning, I will have to figure out what to do next. Thanks for the concern and advice!

Majunta

I don think it was the popcorn, but who knows? Some of the swelling has subsided. I took a couple of aspirin so we shall see what happens next. I never have allergic reactions to anything, but I guess there is always a first time for everything. I did some cleaning today, and was amazed at the number of spiders I found. Everyone else has stink bugs, and I have spiders! Maybe one bit me, I really dont know. If the swelling isnt gone by morning, I will have to figure out what to do next. Thanks for the concern and advice!

How is the swelling today?

ohhhhkkkk

AHHHHHH it's Saturday Good Morning Bella's!

Well this is the 2nd time to send this post. I was almost done and my computer decided it was time to run an update and shut down and did its thing. Thats what happens when you get up for a 2nd cup of coffee and get side tracked for a few minutes!

DENISE!!! Congratulation on your weight loss. I am doing the happy dance for you. I know it did not magically happen and you worked hard for that number and it shows. I am sure you are pleased and enjoy the fantastic feeling. Power on!! I am still smiling when I think about how good you must feel. Hope things work out for your daughter. ugh it is the power struggle period, I will pray she stays strong.

Red, I hope it is not raining at the campground today and that you are having a great weekend.

Dodie, Great loss this week. Hope you don't have to work this weekend and that you can enjoy the outdoors before it gets too cold.

Karen!! In the 180's look at you!! great work. Curves is paying off. I packed my suitcase yesterday so I am ready to go. Just let me know where I am supposed to meet everyone!! Hope things went well for you son yesterday with the interview and I still have my fingers crossed and said a prayer.

Lori, we are fighting some struggles with the scale. Yours is probabaly muscle, and mine is from working my mouth muscle. We've got this. I hope you are feeling better and your energy level gets back to normal. I eat alot of spinach around myTOM and the extra iron seems to help. Love the mediteranian spinach chick pea patties.

Marianne, I LOVE the new chart. My dislexic brain appreciates it too! You had another great week and you are getting so close to your next mini goal. Looks like the body is catching up with your good eating now. Hopefully you don't have any trips planned for a while. It is tough to get the food you need or want when you are away from home.

Elizabeth, How is your face swelling this morning, scarrrryyyyy. Did you figure out what was happening? Great job on your weight loss too. Good Luck with the jury duty. I was polled for a federal case about a year and a half ago and I thought long and hard before I answered any of the questions. I went on line to see what cases were on the docket over the next few months and there were only a couple of big ones, and I had a feeling I knew which one it was going to be and I was correct. It ended up being for a Federal corruption case for one of the towns in our county which has had the title many times of "Murder Capitol of the World" Gary Indiana. I got lucky and aparently my answers did not meet the criteria they were requiring. Trial went on for over 3 months. I have been on several other Jury trials which have been very interesting.

Ev, I know you have been busy and hope things are better for your daughter. Your Pedicure day sounds fantastic. I love to get peducures, especially with the sore feet I have. Hope your weather is still warm up that way for you and you have a great weekend. Yum sounds like a good dinner yesterday!

Since so many of us are introverts, how do you feel when you have to go to a meeting or gathering where there is going to be a room full of people that you don't know or maybe only know one or two people? I get all nervous for several days before and start grazing. This morning I realized this is what I did 2 weeks ago when I had a meeting in the middle of the week. The weekend before I was pacing around and my husband even commented about how stressed I seemed to be. I was aware of the mindless grazing an tried to keep it at bay. What do you do in a situation like this, and how do you keep your self under control? I was very familliar with the topic that was goig to be presented and knew it would be an easy day out of the office and was looking forward to that part. I think that it is my paranoia that people will judge me just because I am fat and come to a conclusion within 5 seconds that I am not worthy of being there or just have an overall attitude about fat people. Once I get to the meeting, I cant wait to get out of there and am fidgity or edgy the entire time I am there.

It is off to Lowes, the grocery store, post office and then time to pull a few more plants out of the garden. Hubby is working again today, and when he gets home we are going out for our anniversary. I don't think that we will have any more growing weather so before it frosts I will make a final harvest. I am trying to keep good spirits beacuse I hate winter. Every year when I empty out the garden I get so depressed because I know it won't be long that every bone in my body is going to hurt for the next 4 or 5 months. I can't wait until we retire and hopefully we will be able to relocate to my favorite place. . . . . VEGAS!!!! We were there in August and it was 110 .....LOVE IT. 110 there feels like about how we feel in the midwest when it is 90 and humid. I just wanted to lay my sore bones down on the hot cement because it just seemed like it would feel SO good. Hubby had never been there that time of the year and he also couldnt believe that 110 was like a normal hot day in Chicago.

I hope everyone has a fantastic weekend.

lori0287

I don think it was the popcorn, but who knows? Some of the swelling has subsided. I took a couple of aspirin so we shall see what happens next. Thanks for the concern and advice!

I think Marianne is on the right track. See if blocked salivary duct sounds like what you are experiencing. Keep an eye on it. Hope things are better this morning.... Lori

http://health.nytimes.com/health/guides/disease/salivary-duct-stones/overview.html

Majunta

Since so many of us are introverts, how do you feel when you have to go to a meeting or gathering where there is going to be a room full of people that you don't know or maybe only know one or two people? I get all nervous for several days before and start grazing.

Years ago I had a panic attack the day I had to leave for a 2 day meeting; actually thought I was having a heart attack. Dr. confirmed it was a panic attack. I've only had 2 panic attacks in my life. I believe it comes from the internal "work up". I knew I didn't want to be stuck with this particular group for two days but it was mandatory.

Today it's much different. Thank goodness. I'm not a fan of small talk (as you may be able to tell from my postings) and really do not participate in small talk. I pretty much stick to myself at large events, although, I do try to stretch myself at least once. While at the meeting, I find myself hanging out by the food a lot! I think it's because everyone is engaged in conversations and NOT by the food.

I think that it is my paranoia that people will judge me just because I am fat and come to a conclusion within 5 seconds that I am not worthy of being there or just have an overall attitude about fat people. Once I get to the meeting, I cant wait to get out of there and am fidgity or edgy the entire time I am there.

Hello...are you in my head??? I'm working through the paranoia but I think it is because I am losing weight and my self-confidence is much stronger.

I can't wait until we retire and hopefully we will be able to relocate to my favorite place. . . . . VEGAS!!!! We were there in August and it was 110 .....LOVE IT.

I think the desert is so beautiful. We have property 5 hours from Vegas in AZ. Unfortunately, my sinus can only take it for a week or so. Have a great day Kim!

We're off the buy a suit for stud muffin:laugh: I can feel the stress setting in already:noway: Steve does not like me helping him pick out clothes. BTW...he probably hasn't bought clothes other than t-shirts & jeans since 1970's! In fact, he brought up the 1 suit jacket he has last night and suggested he wear that for the wedding. I gently reminded him that he wore that jacket for Sara's father daughter dance....IN 1998!!!! And every other major "suit" event since the 1980's! I'm sure the jacket was bought in the late 80's; he had it when I met him in 93' Uff Da!

Off to Macy's!

lori0287

Since so many of us are introverts, how do you feel when you have to go to a meeting or gathering where there is going to be a room full of people that you don't know or maybe only know one or two people? I get all nervous for several days before and start grazing. This morning I realized this is what I did 2 weeks ago when I had a meeting in the middle of the week. The weekend before I was pacing around and my husband even commented about how stressed I seemed to be. I was aware of the mindless grazing an tried to keep it at bay. What do you do in a situation like this, and how do you keep your self under control? I was very familliar with the topic that was goig to be presented and knew it would be an easy day out of the office and was looking forward to that part. I think that it is my paranoia that people will judge me just because I am fat and come to a conclusion within 5 seconds that I am not worthy of being there or just have an overall attitude about fat people. Once I get to the meeting, I cant wait to get out of there and am fidgity or edgy the entire time I am there.

It is off to Lowes, the grocery store, post office and then time to pull a few more plants out of the garden. Hubby is working again today, and when he gets home we are going out for our anniversary.

I hate winter. Every year when I empty out the garden I get so depressed because I know it won't be long that every bone in my body is going to hurt for the next 4 or 5 months. I can't wait until we retire and hopefully we will be able to relocate to my favorite place. . . . . VEGAS!!!!

Kim,

1) Hope you have a great time celebrating your anniversary.

2) Can I please visit when you land in Vegas? I've only been there once, but absolutely loved it. Want to go again, but no traveling for us until we are done paying both girls through college. Katie is in her second year and Liz is finishing her degree online.

3) Let's tackle the big "how do you handle...." question. I'm just using the example you gave... not picking on you :noway:

It's not an introvert/extrovert thing. It's all perception. Every situation we face is a mirror. What we see in other people is a reflect of our actions or reactions to others or ourselves. Situations and the people in those situations have the potential to expose our vulnerabilities.

For me, the thought or label that I am fat is actually an easy diversion. Meaning, when I walk into a room it is obvious I am this size. Can't really hide it, can't make it go away overnight, and it is a criticism (of myself) that I have become comfortable in a reliable way. Yes, I am fat .... duh! Exposing the obvious is easier for my ego to handle than exposing my vulnerability. I would much rather a room deduce that I am a size 20 than see me as a possible failure, unintelligent, unprofessional, lacking good communication. There is this long list of qualities that I hold, to some extent, more valuable and if they were lacking I would be mortified. So my question is,.... does the thought "I am fat; therefore unworthy" a diversion from something below that thought that is causing you anxiety? So the questioning would look like this....

Statement: I am fat; therefore unworthy.

Question: Is that absolutely true, provable and 100% reliably true that you are fat and because of this you are unworthy?

Answer: No. And even in your own description your mind went through the rational points why you were equipped to be at the meeting. 1. You were invited or requested to attend. They left you in the door even though you thought you were fat. Part of you understood that you had a right to be there. 2. You knew the topic. Further affirmation that you not only had a right to be there, but a purpose. Size is irrelevant. There was space for you.

Question: Who would you be without the thought "I am fat; therefore unworthy. People will judge me unworthy because I am fat." ? How would your time leading up to the meeting have been different if the anxiety of that thought did not exist? At the meeting, would you have participated more, met more people, allowed yourself to enjoy something, carried yourself differently more confidently if the criteria of weight were removed from your mind?

We've all walked around with this thought that you expressed:
I think that it is my paranoia that people will judge me just because I am fat and come to a conclusion within 5 seconds that I am not worthy of being there or just have an overall attitude about fat people.

Question: How many people came to this event? How many fat people did you count? How many wore green? How many fat people did you meet that met the statistics of the attitude you fear? Specifically, how many fat people did you meet and within 5 seconds you deduced that they were fat, dumb and lazy etc.? Yes, you can laugh now.

That's what we fear, right? If we think we are the only fat person in the room that's what we see. We don't want to be categorized by the negative traits that are associated with fat people. But was our fear substantiated? Did we meet the very people we fear we will be labeled to be? Now, if I were on a mission to prove that green is the best or worst color in the world, I'd have a mental tabulation of every person in the world wearing green. But, my insecurities have no problem with the color green; it does have a problem with my visual size. So, I see every well dressed thin person. Then I add on to the story, the thin person carries herself differently and she is smiling. She must have the perfect life. I bet her husband... and her children...... her dog probably worships the ground she walks on, the skies impart above her and it only rains candy drops and sunshine hahahahahaha. In addition, I see every heavy person that seems far more put together than me, because I lack fashion sense. Other people are far more caught up in their own insecurities. They don't have time or the care to evaluate us. Within 5 seconds of talking with you, they realize you are not fat, dumb, lazy, stupid etc. Furthermore, we cannot read peoples' minds. Nor can we see the insecurities they are hiding. Those who are silly enough to categorize us without meeting us are doing so because their insecurities are paralyzing them. Comparison is their only hope to begin to exist.

Practically... what do I do? I had an insecurity "hit" when the Grand Opening was approaching. I felt like I wouldn't fit in, felt vulnerable that people would question whether I belonged (had a right) to teach at Body Rhythms. And to top it off, owners ordered t-shirts for staff without asking me my size. They ordered me a regular women's medium.

Question: I don't have a right to teach at Body Rhythms because in comparison to the other instructors I am larger. Is that true?

Yes, it is true my size is larger than the other instructors. Does that make me less qualified as an instructor? No, I actually have more training and years experience than any of them.

Question: Why do I feel unqualified? What is my comparison that I am using as a barometer to prove my lacking ability.
I can't perform balances like the other yoga instructor.

Question: Are balances required to teach? Are they required for the Grand Opening? Where do balances fit into the practice of yoga?

No not required to teach or appropriate for the Grand Opening. Balances are required when teaching a level 3 class or to advance your home practice. There aren't level 3 classes anywhere in this area.

See where this is going? Fat or not fitting in was the easy go to mental plague. It is the easy excuse for limitation, because it is blatantly obvious as an insignificant comparison. Weight doesn't keep me from doing yoga. Weight will not keep me from doing balances. Strength on the other hand will. I can strengthen with or without the weight. The questioning got rid of the irrational perspective, exposed the insecurity so I could reevaluate and focus on what my role was for that day.

I needed to refocus on why I teach yoga. People who can do balances are tremendously entertaining to watch. However, the general public cannot perform balances, so they just watch. The purpose of that day was to expose people to yoga, show them yoga is accessible to everyone, and encourage them to participate in yoga as part of a healthy exercise regimen. I can do that, in fact, that description is right up my alley.

The t-shirt thing was the owner's problem. She just wasn't thinking. So, I wore the same colors as the t-shirt and simply stated I can't fit into the t-shirt and gave it back. It really was a simple oversight. But, had I let my insecurity run with that thought it would have been filled with many self condemning things that weaved into a mental story that clouded the entire event.

As far as walking into a room where I don't know anyone... I look for 2-3 introverts and make a point to get to know them. This extrovert can't stand not knowing anyone in the room. We're all a piece of work :blushing: But, I love that we are working it out together. Greg & I went through a Biblical counseling training, which has helped me a lot. I have plowed through so many self help books trying to figure out how to deal with my Mom's mental illness, which in turn has helped me analyze my thinking. The specific set up for the "questioning" comes from Byron Katie. You can find her on youtube. She can be out there a bit, but I like her questioning exercise.

http://www.thework.com/downloads/onebelief.pdf

Here is her site and the questions & the turn around. http://thework.com/thework.php

Ok, I put off the treadmill long enough. Coffee mug is empty and I'm off to start my day.

Have a terrific weekend everyone,
Lori

grmpy1

Wow, I went to my grandson's flag football game this morning, came home grabbed a mug of hot chocolate and came in to catch up on the Sistas. You all have been very busy and my head is still spinning.

I sat here and wrote a whole thing about the Steer Roast I am going to tonight. How I don't feel like I fit in with this group because I am the "fat" one of the bunch. But I got to thinking that, I am looking forward to going for once. I want to see if the treatment I feel I get when I am with them is in my head or really there. I am tired of being the one that doesn't really fit in. Am I doing that to myself? Do I put out a "vibe" that I am the fat one in the room, stay away from me? I want to be part of something for once. Not be sitting in the chair in the corner by myself. I am going to try to be more open. I just hope I don't over do it...LOL

Thanks guys for the pep talk today, it couldn't have come at a better time! Wish me luck tonight. This introvert is going to put herself out there.

Denise