Boyfriend Motivation???
ineed2bskinny
Posts: 62
My boyfriend is DESPERATE for me to lose weight. He makes comments constantly about my weight gain in a joking/funny way but I know he is being deadly serious. He asks me everyday what I have ate and if I have been to gym and won't allow me to snack in front of him, and if I do he puts me down.
I do moan to him about my looks and if I feel fat, i winge!
He has the perfect body and goes to the gym every morning without fail. I wish I had his motivation, but the more he puts me down the more I want to eat to act like I'm not bothered what he says.
Does anyone else have this problem?
I do moan to him about my looks and if I feel fat, i winge!
He has the perfect body and goes to the gym every morning without fail. I wish I had his motivation, but the more he puts me down the more I want to eat to act like I'm not bothered what he says.
Does anyone else have this problem?
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The problem isn't your lack of motivation. It's your choice of boyfriends.
Dump that loser and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and not make you feel guilty for not being someone you're not.
Best of luck to you.0 -
Eww no... If I had this problem I'd leave his *kitten* and find someone worth my time. You can do better than a control freak loser.
Just sayin'0 -
The problem isn't your lack of motivation. It's your choice of boyfriends.0
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The problem isn't your lack of motivation. It's your choice of boyfriends.
Dump that loser and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and not make you feel guilty for not being someone you're not.
Best of luck to you.
This.0 -
no. I'd rather live alone. I'd get rid of him so fast, he'd get the bends. WHY are you doing that to yourself? You deserve A LOT better. kick his *kitten* to the curb and the commentary will stop. =P0
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Sounds like you need to loose the boyfriend. Not the way to motivate someone and very unkind, just saying !0
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No.
He sounds like a right **** if you ask me :indifferent:
Even if he is fed up of you whinging he shouldn't put your down. A relationship goes both ways and he is mean't to support you not make you feel like crap.0 -
Your struggling to get into routine, if you can manage to go for 3 weeks straight then it becomes a lot easier. It is always the first hurdle that is the hardest to overcome.0
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My best advice is to happy in your own skin. Eat healthy and exersise because it is good for you not for your boyfriend. It's your body and your health, be happy!0
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Agree with above...ditch the boyfriend and you will be fine!0
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I agree with Goldenwoof, you need to mae a serious decision whether this guy is actually worth your time. If you want to lose weight, fine, but do it for you not for him. If you do it for him, you're only going to resent him in the end and not be motivated. Fair enough, your bf might want you to lose weight, and it's hard to hear but not a deal-breaker, but he needs to supportive or GTFO.
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No, I don't have that problem. Never have. When I was single, I refused to be with someone who was unsupportive or mentally abusive. Anyone who puts you down is no one you should want to be with. You can't change him, so you may want to look inside yourself to try to figure out why you think it's o.k. to stay with someone who puts you down. Just sayin.0
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I'm wondering if that is a current photo. If it is, there's no way in hell you can afford to lose the weight you're trying to lose.0
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My boyfriend is DESPERATE for me to lose weight. He makes comments constantly about my weight gain in a joking/funny way but I know he is being deadly serious. He asks me everyday what I have ate and if I have been to gym and won't allow me to snack in front of him, and if I do he puts me down.
I do moan to him about my looks and if I feel fat, i winge!
He has the perfect body and goes to the gym every morning without fail. I wish I had his motivation, but the more he puts me down the more I want to eat to act like I'm not bothered what he says.
Does anyone else have this problem?
Break up with that jerk! Any boyfriend/husband/fiance etc. should be supportive....and not bring you down! What a jerkface!!0 -
It sounds like your boyfriend has a boatload of insecurities and is projecting his insecurities onto you. If you want to be healthy you should be healthy for YOU, because that's the only way you're going to find true success.0
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Sounds to me like you need to re-think your choices here. That boyfriend of yours isn't exactly boyfriend material if he acts like that. There is no reason and no excuse for him putting you down. That's unacceptable and you need to have a talk with him asap.
As far as your other issue, the only one that can achieve change in you is YOU. You have to be the one wanting to get up and do something. And if you can't make it to a gym, start by making little changes. They'll add up. They say it takes 3 weeks to form a new habit, so try making yourself work out for 3 weeks. After that, it becomes routine and you'll miss it if you don't do it.
Good luck!0 -
I used to. I now refer to this guy as my ex-boyfriend.0
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UH. No. Never have and never will.
The first time a significant other makes a derragatory remark about my weight and grills me about what I ate will be out the door. But not a minute before I put my foot up his backside!0 -
My boyfriend is DESPERATE for me to lose weight. He makes comments constantly about my weight gain in a joking/funny way but I know he is being deadly serious. He asks me everyday what I have ate and if I have been to gym and won't allow me to snack in front of him, and if I do he puts me down.
I do moan to him about my looks and if I feel fat, i winge!
He has the perfect body and goes to the gym every morning without fail. I wish I had his motivation, but the more he puts me down the more I want to eat to act like I'm not bothered what he says.
Does anyone else have this problem?
wow, what a ****ty boyfriend.0 -
He really needs to cut you some slack, you are trying and thats what counts, he cant expect you to just drop the weight in a week...keep at it and enjoy it. If it gets overbearing, tell him to stick it where the sun doesn't shine.0
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No, My fiancé proposed while I was at my heaviest and never made hurtful or rude comments to me. Now that I've made the choice to lose weight he has been nothing but supportive and complements me every day.0
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I would not call the guy a loser...
I think he seems do be doing pretty well exercise wise/weight loss wise if I understand properly.
That being said, if he is a "sport nuts", he might want/expect his gf to be a "sport nuts" too. Which might not be your cup of tea!
Now you can jump on the bandwagon and "use" him for support/as a resource to lose some weight if you are happy about doing that for yourself. Why not after all? We need all the help we can get!
If he is forcing you to do it (or rather you DO NOT WANT to do it!) then I would call it a mismatch, have a conversation about it, and split.0 -
You should not be with someone who puts you down constantly. Your significant other should love you for who you are and encourage you along your journey but do not lose weight for him. You need to do it for yourself and nobody else.
I couldn't even imagine if my husband was like that instead he is supportive and is in this journey with me and tells me everyday I'm beautiful and sexy Tells me I'm looking "skinny" which I am FAR from.
But he knows it's harder for me then him and is being "helpful"
I say dump the loser.
But good luck with whatever you choose to do!0 -
You must feel like absolute crap around him........ I agree with the above ladies, you deserve to be treated 100% than that, you need to lose weight for YOU and he should be supporting you in an appropriate, non-jerk-like way...... chin up hun0
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The problem isn't your lack of motivation. It's your choice of boyfriends.
Dump that loser and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and not make you feel guilty for not being someone you're not.
Best of luck to you.
Ummm Hey this^^^^^^and also take a look in the mirror, if that is you in the picture you look great! Get rid of him! Many more out there that are not all a**holes!0 -
I would not call the guy a loser...
I think he seems do be doing pretty well exercise wise/weight loss wise if I understand properly.
That being said, if he is a "sport nuts", he might want/expect his gf to be a "sport nuts" too. Which might not be your cup of tea!
Now you can jump on the bandwagon and "use" him for support/as a resource to lose some weight if you are happy about doing that for yourself. Why not after all? We need all the help we can get!
If he is forcing you to do it (or rather you DO NOT WANT to do it!) then I would call it a mismatch, have a conversation about it, and split.
Anyone who is emotionally abusive is a loser.0 -
It isn't you - it is him. He is being a @$$. It is a form of abuse (emotional and verbally). I put up with it for almost 5 years from my soon to be ex husband. I finally had enough in June and left him - working on the divorce now. I was never small (he married me big), but having 2 babies put more strain on my body. He wasn't that good looking either - he just like to put me down to feel better about himself. I have since lost 56 lbs, and he is jealous of what I have become and not his anymore. I am dating another guy who worships me and is always complimenting me. I now have low self-esteem because his my ex's abuse - don't allow him to treat you this way. Find someone who will worship you - you are worth so much more than anyone's abuse.0
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The problem isn't your lack of motivation. It's your choice of boyfriends.
Dump that loser and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and not make you feel guilty for not being someone you're not.
Best of luck to you.
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Overweight or not, he shouldn't talk negatively to you. If he wants to comment it should be supportive. Tell a man about a problem and they want to "help" find a solution. Take control of the weight, by first taking control of your thoughts. Start thinking positively, make a plan to eat better and exercise more. Little changes will last longer than drastic changes.0
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Dump the BF, that's absolutely wrong, no one should be treated that way. Take your time in your diet and exercise. This is for yourself and not anyone else.0
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