Men Are Husbands, Not "Hubbys"

ElizaRoche

there are a lot of women posting here, when they should be making sammiches

i hate the word ´hubby´ as much as i hate the word ´sammich´ .. ITS SANDWICH, and no i wont make you one.. you are welcome

WifeNMama

On here I call him "the Mr."

finskihillfarm

My husband is my hubby, my best friend, my soul mate and the only person in the whole wide world I want to spend time with and be around 24/7. That being said we have really good screaming matches and drive each other crazy. I wouldn't want anything else.

gogojodee

When I was in a college fraternity, the old joke was it was a "fraternity" not a "frat" because you would never shorten the word "country." (Maybe I have the joke wrong...that's what college partying will do!)

Anyway, as a man, I do not like it when women refer to their spouse as their "hubby." I'm sure in most cases it's meant well, but in many it's not. I'm talking about the women who don't particular like their husbands (and I've talked to some of you so I know you're out there!)

But either way, I find "hubby" to be a touch condescending as a man. I have a feeling most women would feel the same way if all of them were referred to as "wifey" in each instance.

I realize most of you mean it as a term of endearment and it's shorter, but that doesn't mean it can't be nails on a chalkboard to me. Could I be the ONLY person that feels this way?

(Let the flaming begin.....)

I totally agree. Especially about the condescending part. Ha.

WTF is a "hubby" anyway.

gogojodee

Hubby also to me "sounds" fat. Haha. I'm not sure why, maybe it's because of the "bby" hahaha. It sounds so foreign sounding without the foreign-ness.

tdavies1980

My Husband is my Husband, Hubby is Childish and Silly. I would not like to be Wifey

Neurokitti

I'm not married (yet - we're working on a date) but my OH will always be "Ben". Hah.

Another nitpick brought to the forefront by one of my patients: she hates it when people call her children her "kids". She's not a nanny goat. She doesn't have kids.

azziria

When I talk about my husband I refer to him as my 'partner', because that's what we are - equal partners.

gogojodee

I'm not married (yet - we're working on a date) but my OH will always be "Ben". Hah.

Another nitpick brought to the forefront by one of my patients: she hates it when people call her children her "kids". She's not a nanny goat. She doesn't have kids.

:laugh: love that, "kids" *snickers*

Jebbster007

After 11 years of amazing marriage, I still introduce my wife as my bride. "This my bride, Karen". She respectfully refers to me as her "honey-bear".....lol. Let the flames......flame....away, whatever..........

TheFunBun

Weird. I'll call my husband whatever I want. Mostly it's just Matt. I'm not going to talk about my damn husband to random strangers who don't know who I'm married to.

Anyways, people who don't like their spouses can make the word husband sound pretty foolish, too. Huzzzzzbind.

TheFunBun

After 11 years of amazing marriage, I still introduce my wife as my bride. "This my bride, Karen". She respectfully refers to me as her "honey-bear".....lol. Let the flames......flame....away, whatever..........

That's so nice. I love being, "The Bun", but being introduced as a bride would be lovely.

AshinAms

Now if you are older and NOT married then what do you call your significant other? Boyfriend sounds like we are both 12, partner sounds like we have a same sex union and anything else (lover, manfriend whatever) sounds sleazy. I get annoyed when my boyfriend calls me his wife, as I'm not. At least hubby is straightforward

I'm with whoever posted on the babe thing ...

leopard_barbie

I don't like "hubby" but I do like "wifey"!

thelovelyLIZ

While I personally find the term hubby to sound a little silly, most of the ladies I know who use it have genuinely good relationships. If you don't want to be called hubby, fine, but it's not like it's advertely derogatory or offensive term. I mean, I don't like being called baby because it makes me feel like I'm in a bad rap video, but I don't really care if other men called their partners that. I don't really understand why it makes a difference to you.

DaughterOfTheMostHighKing

I never referred to my husband as "hubby". it sounded too dumpy and stupid. and I never called him 'honey" either because one of my friends did and she sounded like she was whining. :P I called him by his full name. Mathias, because no one else did.

he's now in Heaven. I am waiting for my new husband to step up to the plate and be loved and adored.

denisebme

I call my husband "hubby", he calls me his "bride", it makes us both smile. It works for us, and shouldn't offend anyone else, after all, its sort of none of anyone's business what I call him.. except maybe our children and his mom..

Impy84

Personal pref i suppose I refer to my bf as my hubby or hubs and he's introduced me as the wifey, babe and so forth. I see no harm in it. It's all love. Im sure you could call him something much worse w/o even trying. :-)

Rhea30

I'm not a male but it has always bothered me when women talk about their husbands as if their husband is another child or directly even call him one and think its all cute. That's just out right degrading a person.

Edit: changed word from downground to degrading. Its to late at night for me.

Xefyria

Aw, I always found the word 'hubby' endearing...

LinaBo

Ehn, I'm indifferent about the particular term, but I get where you're coming from. I don't like certain terms and phrases, just because I've heard them too much and they grate on me. A particular one of mine is when people, especially guys (because I've known a few who use it way too much, and I've associated it with a stock answer), is the response "fair enough", in conversation. Other, more widespread, cutesy terms that I despise (and I'm sure I am not the only one) are "preggo", "preggers", and "baby bump", in reference to pregnant women.

I'm not married, but if/when I am, I probably would use the proper word "husband", at least most of the time, and it would certainly be no skin off my back to completely avoid the short form, if said husband is bothered by it.

m6day

Oh pleeeease!! Im so sure you've been called worst things in life then 'hubby'....get a life.

Pacileo4Evers

I love my Hubby!

4thehardman

My Husband is whatever I want to call him. If I have to clean his underpants, cook his meals and suck his... then if I want to call him hubby I will.

I will also on occasion call him Lord Long Shlong de Ding Dong but only on Saturdays when he wears his special costume.

Jain

I use Hubby or DH or OH on the internet because we dont want to use our real names there. In real life I use his given name.

witchywillow

i use the word hubby on the internet but dont call him hubby anywhere else although i have always been to him little wifey, i dont find it condescending at all and to be honest hes been called much worse in our 25 years together lol

witchywillow

My Husband is whatever I want to call him. If I have to clean his underpants, cook his meals and suck his... then if I want to call him hubby I will.

I will also on occasion call him Lord Long Shlong de Ding Dong but only on Saturdays when he wears his special costume.

omg that made me laugh so much ha ha ha ha ha ha

lumberjacks94

Nice! I started this post more than 6 months ago and it's back in full force. Interesting to see it's about 50-50 too!!

Swissmiss

Nice! I started this post more than 6 months ago and it's back in full force. Interesting to see it's about 50-50 too!!

Good morning lumberjacks94....I will help continue this.

I HATE the term "Hubby". Always have. My sister would refer to my husband with that name. I feel that it is demeaning to men.

raindance_maggie

my husband is daddy.....why the *kitten* do you care what i call him?