Men Are Husbands, Not "Hubbys"

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lumberjacks94
lumberjacks94 Posts: 135 Member
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When I was in a college fraternity, the old joke was it was a "fraternity" not a "frat" because you would never shorten the word "country." (Maybe I have the joke wrong...that's what college partying will do!)

Anyway, as a man, I do not like it when women refer to their spouse as their "hubby." I'm sure in most cases it's meant well, but in many it's not. I'm talking about the women who don't particular like their husbands (and I've talked to some of you so I know you're out there!)

But either way, I find "hubby" to be a touch condescending as a man. I have a feeling most women would feel the same way if all of them were referred to as "wifey" in each instance.

I realize most of you mean it as a term of endearment and it's shorter, but that doesn't mean it can't be nails on a chalkboard to me. Could I be the ONLY person that feels this way?

(Let the flaming begin.....)
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  • sarahlucydaynes26
    sarahlucydaynes26 Posts: 263
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    I am not married but my husband would simply be my husband.
  • Duelltolose
    Duelltolose Posts: 119 Member
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    If anything, I would probably say Hubby maybe once a year.. Just joking around. But other than that, he would be my husband :)
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
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    In case you haven't noticed this is an estrogen soaked website so you pretty much have to get used to the local dialects(TOM, etc..).
    Since its a fitness site, any day you aren't a 'Chubby Hubby" is a victory.
  • GemmieNoWobbles
    GemmieNoWobbles Posts: 398 Member
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    I'm with you! Its annoying! I llike wiffle though for wife!! It makes me chuckle!! Whats more annoying than Hubby is Hubs!!
  • charlesalvear
    charlesalvear Posts: 78 Member
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    I only ever viewed it (and heard it) as a term of endearment when i was married or when I've heard my female friends refer to their spouse. It's just a word. There are worse things that a person can be called. I don't see the big deal.
  • peacheywoo
    peacheywoo Posts: 52 Member
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    I use hubby all the time - just as he uses wifey. We both see it as a term of endearment - after 17 years we have several!

    That said if I'm talking to people I don't know well then its husband but within our close circle he's hubby and I'm wifey.
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,627 Member
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    Never thought of it that way, never meant it that way, but do understand! I dislike "sissy" for sister. I will pay closer attention to my use of husband! Thank you!
  • Scoobies87
    Scoobies87 Posts: 379
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    I don't see why it is such a big deal. It is just an abbreviation. As a woman, being called 'the ball and chain', my 'bird' and my 'missus' is however offensive (not saying that you do this)
  • Shausil82
    Shausil82 Posts: 218 Member
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    I have friends who say "hubby" in a jokingly way, but, it's only been a few times I've heard that term. I don't exactly have a personal opinion because I don't believe in marriage and don't plan on settling down and marrying.
    Personally, I just think we should be calling people by their REAL name instead of labels, like "hubby" and "wifey."
  • chef970
    chef970 Posts: 196 Member
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    I have no problem when my wife either calls me hubby or hubs or any other pet/shorter names because thats how we love each other. Does it really matter that much??????
  • glittermouse
    glittermouse Posts: 590 Member
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    I hate when women refer to them only as husband or boyfriend. They are not objects! When did they lose their names!! Are you so proud of having a man that you need to force it into every possible instance?! (And I feel the same way about 'wife' and 'girlfriend')

    FYI: I am a woman. I have a boyfriend. I call him by his name. Not "Let me ask the boyfriend". It's "Let me ask {name}"

    But, back to your original question. Yes, it annoys me when I hear people use 'hubby' all the time.
  • drblythe
    drblythe Posts: 163 Member
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    I'm not a fan of the word "Hubby" either, but I don't think it bugs me as much as it annoys you.

    I really don't like it when people refer to their husband/wife/boyfriend etc as "their other half" ....you're still a whole person even if you have a husband.

    I think that annoys me more than "hubby"
  • CarrieQuiteContrary
    CarrieQuiteContrary Posts: 98 Member
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    I am not a fan of hubby, but I am an even bigger non-fan of HUBBINS. Worst. Petname. Ever. -gag-
  • glittermouse
    glittermouse Posts: 590 Member
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    Personally, I just think we should be calling people by their REAL name instead of labels, like "hubby" and "wifey."

    ^^THIS
  • kirstiey
    kirstiey Posts: 243
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    Yuck. It a real sighn of the smug marrieds "Hubby" look at me, I have snared one! I am not bitter at all.....
  • GemmieNoWobbles
    GemmieNoWobbles Posts: 398 Member
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    Yuck. It a real sighn of the smug marrieds "Hubby" look at me, I have snared one! I am not bitter at all.....

    hahaha... smug all the way!!
  • marthafox1
    marthafox1 Posts: 191 Member
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    I live in the UK - specifically Wales. In Wales, they shorten every name. So, if your name is Caroline - you get called Ca, David is Dai, Andrew is And, Julia is Ju etc.,

    As a wife I am known as; The other Half (OH), The Wife, Wifey, Her Indoors, The Mrs and rather affectionately Woman. In conversation my husband calls me by my name - he's tried calling me by other women's names but really, that just doesn't work for me!

    As a husband, I call him; By his name or refer about him in conversation as my husband. However, on forums he may get called hubster, hubby or OH.

    All done with the affection and understanding and the formation of idiosyncratic ways of being together for 30 years.
  • RAFValentina
    RAFValentina Posts: 1,231 Member
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    Surely it would be "Hubbies" plural?

    ;)

    Anyhow, I'm not so sure it's ever meant to be demeaning or derogatory, purely an emphasis of affection for your other half showing genuine affection and light heartedness. It chit chat, hubby IN MY OPINION is fine. In a more formal sesnse, talking to the bank etc, I'd refer to him as husband.

    Wifey is fun too! Makes you seem like less of the "Old ball and chain..." (can of worms...)
  • udallmom101
    udallmom101 Posts: 564 Member
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    I use hubby all the time - just as he uses wifey. We both see it as a term of endearment - after 17 years we have several!

    That said if I'm talking to people I don't know well then its husband but within our close circle he's hubby and I'm wifey.
    I have to agree with this post. That is exactly how my Husband and I talk to one another. It is just what comes out most of the time. We love one another dearly, but it is what it is. I grew up with my parents calling one another wifey and hubby. They love each other dearly, been married almost 40 years. It's just what we do.
  • Missjulesdid
    Missjulesdid Posts: 1,444 Member
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    Does not bother me. When I am speaking directly to my husband I call him many terms of endearment and rarely use his name. When I speak about him to someone I use "husband" about half the time and his name the other half, just like when I talk about my sister I often say "my sister" instead of her name, or when I talk about my Aunt, I'll say "My Auntie"

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