Why can't men pick up after themselves.

Iamfit4life

Men are great. Getting to be with your SO is great.
If you really have an issue try dating women and see how much you like that.

CastleMadeOfSand

I don't suppose "why can't women understand that they have to make me a sammich" is too easy or been done?

Oh, real thought. Embrace the reason it is there, not just the fact that it irks you. Figure it out, then meet halfway. If he doesn't play, perhaps someone who won't meet you halfway on an issue that really bothers you isn't worth the effort. Or worth the mess...

MercenaryNoetic26

Interesting. I'm the messy one. My man likes to get on my case about leaving **** laying around. Talk about role reversals. He is very chauvinist. I sure fooled him! Hehehehe (maniacal laugh)! I play my part (you know, woman's job) just enough to make him hope...

Beastette

1) A-Shirts. Not "wife-beaters". Like a t-shirt.
2) If he is messy, it is because his parents didn't teach him not to be. So maybe the question is "Why can't mothers teach their kids to pick up after themselves"? That should go over well.
3) Bins and strikes sound like fun. But I'll bet if you told him you'd have more time to do it if you didn't have to pick up after him, you wouldn't need either.

Signed,

Totally the porn star he wanted

stcar

you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!

ninerbuff

Okay I am part time student so I spend most of my time at home with our son. Meaning I do the majority of the cooking and cleaning. Which I am fine with. I love it really and wouldn't have it any other way. I expect that my job is to keep a clean home, and cook healthy meals for my family and spend time playing and teaching our 2 year old. What my title does not consist of is picking up after my fiance. Like wth is wrong with him. I ask him every day to throw is snot rags away. But what do I find this morning. His socks on the back of the couch. His nail clippers on the freezer. His snot rag on the kitchen shelf of all places. A book on the mantle. His shorts on the floor along with his wife beater. And a bunch of ripped up flyers of things he wants on the table. I also find cheese shreddings on the counter probably from shredding cheese for his lunch this morning. I could go mad I really could. If he was home I would tear his head off right now. I am not his damn servant. He has a entire desk for himself where he can keep all his crap. We have a hamper for our dirty clothes. And a rag to clean up. Why why why are men like this?? I love him I really do and he is a wonderful man and father. But honestly this is driving me crazy every day its the same thing. I spend hours keeping this house clean and when he comes home a few hours later you wouldn't know it. Is this all men or just mine? How do I fix him?? lol

You don't. You find a new fiance. I'm telling you this now because a man DOESN'T want to change. I almost ended up the same way. I lived with a female for 3 years who was a total slob. It was argument after argument about cleaning up. I gave up after a year and it didn't change. If you stick around you'll be dealing with it daily. Getting married won't change anything. Oh and I left this female after the lease was up.

Oh and there are men who aren't slobs. I'm OCD about organization in my home so I do almost ALL the cleaning, laundry, waxing of floors and vacuuming. Same at work. When I have to watch the fitness area, I put the weights away where all racks are evened out with the same amount of 45's, 35's 25's 10's and 5's. We're out there, you just have to look harder.

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Classalete

Hey hey now...

I'll have you know that I maintain an immaculate household! My bathroom, for example, is so spotless the Virgin Mary herself would be proud to take a dump.

All of my clothes are either folded like you would find them on a display self, or cleanly pressed and hung according to occasion (dress,casual,business,party). My shoe displays are neat, tight, and tucked away in the closet where they're suppose to be.

I never leave dirty dishes around my apartment or in the sink, they're cleaned immediately I've used them...dried, and put away.

So don't blame all men! It's how they were raised dammit! >;/

CastleMadeOfSand

Okay I am part time student so I spend most of my time at home with our son. Meaning I do the majority of the cooking and cleaning. Which I am fine with. I love it really and wouldn't have it any other way. I expect that my job is to keep a clean home, and cook healthy meals for my family and spend time playing and teaching our 2 year old. What my title does not consist of is picking up after my fiance. Like wth is wrong with him. I ask him every day to throw is snot rags away. But what do I find this morning. His socks on the back of the couch. His nail clippers on the freezer. His snot rag on the kitchen shelf of all places. A book on the mantle. His shorts on the floor along with his wife beater. And a bunch of ripped up flyers of things he wants on the table. I also find cheese shreddings on the counter probably from shredding cheese for his lunch this morning. I could go mad I really could. If he was home I would tear his head off right now. I am not his damn servant. He has a entire desk for himself where he can keep all his crap. We have a hamper for our dirty clothes. And a rag to clean up. Why why why are men like this?? I love him I really do and he is a wonderful man and father. But honestly this is driving me crazy every day its the same thing. I spend hours keeping this house clean and when he comes home a few hours later you wouldn't know it. Is this all men or just mine? How do I fix him?? lol

You don't. You find a new fiance. I'm telling you this now because a man DOESN'T want to change. I almost ended up the same way. I lived with a female for 3 years who was a total slob. It was argument after argument about cleaning up. I gave up after a year and it didn't change. If you stick around you'll be dealing with it daily. Getting married won't change anything.

Oh and there are men who aren't slobs. I'm OCD about organization in my home so I do almost ALL the cleaning, laundry, waxing of floors and vacuuming. Same at work. When I have to watch the fitness area, I put the weights away where all racks are evened out with the same amount of 45's, 35's 25's 10's and 5's. We're out there, you just have to look harder.

A.C.E. Certified Personal Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

Not exactly. I am changing but am naturally a fairly bad slob. Changing for her though.

tross0924

The small stuff that you don't sweat turns out to be huge stuff 12 years later. Resolve everything one way or another before it becomes to much.

MFPAddict

you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!

Wow. You are Carrie Underwood pretty!

Back on topic. Pleasantly surprised that I came home and my wife's spot was pretty neat today. I criticized her earlier in the thread so it is only fair I post the praise as well.

And dinner was delicious too.

Sublimely_Self_Righteousreused

you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!

The seat is what I aim for.

fit4mom

you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!

The seat is what I aim for.

I knew it. And once again men have been outed by honesty. It took me accidentaly walking into the mens bathroom to find my husband had miss led me for 3 kids that they don't have changing tables in the mens bathrooms.

messyinthekitchen

The small stuff that you don't sweat turns out to be huge stuff 12 years later. Resolve everything one way or another before it becomes to much.

Thank you, why can't other people understand it. He said he'd make more of an effort so I'll see how that one goes.

stcar

you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!

Wow. You are Carrie Underwood pretty!

Back on topic. Pleasantly surprised that I came home and my wife's spot was pretty neat today. I criticized her earlier in the thread so it is only fair I post the praise as well.

And dinner was delicious too.

lol aww, thank you!

messyinthekitchen

Well he said he has been stressed out at work lately and just wanted to relax. And that he wasn't doing it to frustrate me he just hadn't thought about it. He said I never really mention it and if I had earlier he's sure he would have started picking up after himself. I feel better now!!! Thank you to the people with advice to the snotty and rude people you really can keep you BS to yourself I don't care what you have to say really. And I'm not one to tolerate something just because it's a minor problem. a problem is a problem and small problems become big ones. I don't want to be 40 and divorced because I let something slide until it drove me mad.

messyinthekitchen

you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!

Wow. You are Carrie Underwood pretty!

Back on topic. Pleasantly surprised that I came home and my wife's spot was pretty neat today. I criticized her earlier in the thread so it is only fair I post the praise as well.

And dinner was delicious too.

lol aww, thank you!

Ya you are gorgeous. And your 33. You certainly dont look it. Not that 33 is old. But you look like your in your early 20's/

Iamfit4life

You are engaged to a man who wears wife beaters. That should have been a neon sign right there :noway:

HEY!

stcar

you're all lucky, most of the men I've dated don't even lift the seat, they just pee and usually hit the seat at the same time!

Wow. You are Carrie Underwood pretty!

Back on topic. Pleasantly surprised that I came home and my wife's spot was pretty neat today. I criticized her earlier in the thread so it is only fair I post the praise as well.

And dinner was delicious too.

lol aww, thank you!

Ya you are gorgeous. And your 33. You certainly dont look it. Not that 33 is old. But you look like your in your early 20's/

thank you, and you're pretty gorgeous yourself! No, but I'm about to be 34, that's old lol

CoryIda

I'm the slob in my relationship. My hubby does the dishes, laundry, etc. He rocks.

Tiggerrick

I could tell you how to get him to stop that behavior, but then I'd be killed by the other men.