Tell loved ones they are overweight this Christmas

castadiva

I hate being a thread killer. someone help me out here.

Out of compassion for the potential thread killer, I post.

In my experience, I most successfully receive and process the advice, wisdom and judgements of others about me and my flaws when I ask for it or when they have taken the time to approach me privately and compassionately. Most people I know would not take kindly "fly by" commentary and "concern" about weight in a holiday social setting especially from loved ones.

Beautifully said!

elcieloesazul

This is a hard topic. I think if someone is overweight enough to mention it over eggnog at Christmas, THEY ALREADY KNOW. I think telling them could shame them or embarrass them. I think it would take a special person to look you in the eye and say, "You're right. Thank you." That being said, outside factors are often great motivators to loose weight, in my experience. Instead of saying, "Hey, Joe, enough cookies!" maybe invite this person to do something active WITH you, or introduce them to a healthy recipe. SHOW them, don't TELL them how to change.

Kacy21

well i can say first hand that doing this over the christmas period is a terrible idea. Recently visited my family who very insensitively came out with "you have put weight on, do you not go to the gym anymore" which really upset me - i haven't actually put any weight on and i go to the gym 2/3 times a week. Another family mmber then joined in by saying that going to the gym was a really good idea then proceeded to post this article 'tell loved ones they are overweight this christmas' on facebook blatently aimed at me! so safe to say im feeling rubbish now and feel like i shouldn't be enjoying christmas and all the treats that go with it! To put things into perspective im a size 12(UK) and have not put weight on, however if i had i still wouldn't appeciate being told over christmas and especially in such an insenstive way.

rml_16

I tell my friends and family they're fat as hell all the time. Not like they don't know it. I'm fat, I know it. Not one of those things you can hide, so it's not shocking news. Honesty is what I expect from the people who claim to love me. I told my best friend she better do what I'm doing or she is gonna be a hater because I'm leaving her behind- fat by her damn self!!

So then your best friend must be dieting and exercising now? No? 'Cause if this worked, she would be.

BobbyClerici

I tell my friends and family they're fat as hell all the time. Not like they don't know it. I'm fat, I know it. Not one of those things you can hide, so it's not shocking news. Honesty is what I expect from the people who claim to love me. I told my best friend she better do what I'm doing or she is gonna be a hater because I'm leaving her behind- fat by her damn self!!

So then your best friend must be dieting and exercising now? No? 'Cause if this worked, she would be.

I just severed all my connections with fat friends - SNIP!

And when one asked why, I just said "my interests have changed. I no longer am much into an unhealthy lifestyle." And when I invited fattie to the gym for a workout or offered to write up a diet plan, he stopped calling.

Good!
I don't need losers in my life.

rml_16

I tell my friends and family they're fat as hell all the time. Not like they don't know it. I'm fat, I know it. Not one of those things you can hide, so it's not shocking news. Honesty is what I expect from the people who claim to love me. I told my best friend she better do what I'm doing or she is gonna be a hater because I'm leaving her behind- fat by her damn self!!

So then your best friend must be dieting and exercising now? No? 'Cause if this worked, she would be.

I just severed all my connections with fat friends - SNIP!

And when one asked why, I just said "my interests have changed. I no longer am much into an unhealthy lifestyle." And when I invited fattie to the gym for a workout or offered to write up a diet plan, he stopped calling.

Good!
I don't need losers in my life.

The more of your posts I read, the more I find you to be a lovely, wonderful, warm and beautiful human being. Really, the Catholic Church should consider more people like you for sainthood.

MuzikirM

I totally agree that overweight people dont need to be reminded during the holidays that they are overweight. Just encourage people to get healthy like suggest you two go walking 3 times a week together. I think I would be mortified if someone told me I was fat during at a holiday gathering......thanks for ruining my time of comfort and joy

Helenatrandom

I tell my friends and family they're fat as hell all the time. Not like they don't know it. I'm fat, I know it. Not one of those things you can hide, so it's not shocking news. Honesty is what I expect from the people who claim to love me. I told my best friend she better do what I'm doing or she is gonna be a hater because I'm leaving her behind- fat by her damn self!!

So then your best friend must be dieting and exercising now? No? 'Cause if this worked, she would be.

I just severed all my connections with fat friends - SNIP!

And when one asked why, I just said "my interests have changed. I no longer am much into an unhealthy lifestyle." And when I invited fattie to the gym for a workout or offered to write up a diet plan, he stopped calling.

Good!
I don't need losers in my life.

The more of your posts I read, the more I find you to be a lovely, wonderful, warm and beautiful human being. Really, the Catholic Church should consider more people like you for sainthood.

I'm not exactly a theologian, but as a Religious Education teacher, I feel the need to point out that the Catholic Church requires people to be dead first before the cause for someone's canonization can be begun. It also helps if the said dead person is Catholic. (My apologies to all dead non Catholics).

*Yes I do understand sarcasm. My own sense of humor is rather dry before 7 am...

rml_16

I tell my friends and family they're fat as hell all the time. Not like they don't know it. I'm fat, I know it. Not one of those things you can hide, so it's not shocking news. Honesty is what I expect from the people who claim to love me. I told my best friend she better do what I'm doing or she is gonna be a hater because I'm leaving her behind- fat by her damn self!!

So then your best friend must be dieting and exercising now? No? 'Cause if this worked, she would be.

I just severed all my connections with fat friends - SNIP!

And when one asked why, I just said "my interests have changed. I no longer am much into an unhealthy lifestyle." And when I invited fattie to the gym for a workout or offered to write up a diet plan, he stopped calling.

Good!
I don't need losers in my life.

The more of your posts I read, the more I find you to be a lovely, wonderful, warm and beautiful human being. Really, the Catholic Church should consider more people like you for sainthood.

I'm not exactly a theologian, but as a Religious Education teacher, I feel the need to point out that the Catholic Church requires people to be dead first before the cause for someone's canonization can be begun. It also helps if the said dead person is Catholic. (My apologies to all dead non Catholics).

*Yes I do understand sarcasm. My own sense of humor is rather dry before 7 am...

Well, in Bobby's case, I really think they should make an exception. I mean, the world would just be a much better place if more of us were like him. Clearly, that whole "peace, love, joy" thing isn't working. We need to worry far less about being nice and kind and far more about what we weigh.

Helenatrandom

I tell my friends and family they're fat as hell all the time. Not like they don't know it. I'm fat, I know it. Not one of those things you can hide, so it's not shocking news. Honesty is what I expect from the people who claim to love me. I told my best friend she better do what I'm doing or she is gonna be a hater because I'm leaving her behind- fat by her damn self!!

So then your best friend must be dieting and exercising now? No? 'Cause if this worked, she would be.

I just severed all my connections with fat friends - SNIP!

And when one asked why, I just said "my interests have changed. I no longer am much into an unhealthy lifestyle." And when I invited fattie to the gym for a workout or offered to write up a diet plan, he stopped calling.

Good!
I don't need losers in my life.

The more of your posts I read, the more I find you to be a lovely, wonderful, warm and beautiful human being. Really, the Catholic Church should consider more people like you for sainthood.

I'm not exactly a theologian, but as a Religious Education teacher, I feel the need to point out that the Catholic Church requires people to be dead first before the cause for someone's canonization can be begun. It also helps if the said dead person is Catholic. (My apologies to all dead non Catholics).

*Yes I do understand sarcasm. My own sense of humor is rather dry before 7 am...

Well, in Bobby's case, I really think they should make an exception. I mean, the world would just be a much better place if more of us were like him. Clearly, that whole "peace, love, joy" thing isn't working. We need to worry far less about being nice and kind and far more about what we weigh.

I love my Church, I truly do, but the RCC does NOT make exceptions.

rml_16

I tell my friends and family they're fat as hell all the time. Not like they don't know it. I'm fat, I know it. Not one of those things you can hide, so it's not shocking news. Honesty is what I expect from the people who claim to love me. I told my best friend she better do what I'm doing or she is gonna be a hater because I'm leaving her behind- fat by her damn self!!

So then your best friend must be dieting and exercising now? No? 'Cause if this worked, she would be.

I just severed all my connections with fat friends - SNIP!

And when one asked why, I just said "my interests have changed. I no longer am much into an unhealthy lifestyle." And when I invited fattie to the gym for a workout or offered to write up a diet plan, he stopped calling.

Good!
I don't need losers in my life.

The more of your posts I read, the more I find you to be a lovely, wonderful, warm and beautiful human being. Really, the Catholic Church should consider more people like you for sainthood.

I'm not exactly a theologian, but as a Religious Education teacher, I feel the need to point out that the Catholic Church requires people to be dead first before the cause for someone's canonization can be begun. It also helps if the said dead person is Catholic. (My apologies to all dead non Catholics).

*Yes I do understand sarcasm. My own sense of humor is rather dry before 7 am...

Well, in Bobby's case, I really think they should make an exception. I mean, the world would just be a much better place if more of us were like him. Clearly, that whole "peace, love, joy" thing isn't working. We need to worry far less about being nice and kind and far more about what we weigh.

I love my Church, I truly do, but the RCC does NOT make exceptions.

Seriously. It was sarcasm. Why are you bothering to argue over it? Do you honestly think I want this guy made a saint or think it's going to happen? That wasn't the point of my post.

Helenatrandom

I tell my friends and family they're fat as hell all the time. Not like they don't know it. I'm fat, I know it. Not one of those things you can hide, so it's not shocking news. Honesty is what I expect from the people who claim to love me. I told my best friend she better do what I'm doing or she is gonna be a hater because I'm leaving her behind- fat by her damn self!!

So then your best friend must be dieting and exercising now? No? 'Cause if this worked, she would be.

I just severed all my connections with fat friends - SNIP!

And when one asked why, I just said "my interests have changed. I no longer am much into an unhealthy lifestyle." And when I invited fattie to the gym for a workout or offered to write up a diet plan, he stopped calling.

Good!
I don't need losers in my life.

The more of your posts I read, the more I find you to be a lovely, wonderful, warm and beautiful human being. Really, the Catholic Church should consider more people like you for sainthood.

I'm not exactly a theologian, but as a Religious Education teacher, I feel the need to point out that the Catholic Church requires people to be dead first before the cause for someone's canonization can be begun. It also helps if the said dead person is Catholic. (My apologies to all dead non Catholics).

*Yes I do understand sarcasm. My own sense of humor is rather dry before 7 am...

Well, in Bobby's case, I really think they should make an exception. I mean, the world would just be a much better place if more of us were like him. Clearly, that whole "peace, love, joy" thing isn't working. We need to worry far less about being nice and kind and far more about what we weigh.

I love my Church, I truly do, but the RCC does NOT make exceptions.

Seriously. It was sarcasm. Why are you bothering to argue over it? Do you honestly think I want this guy made a saint or think it's going to happen? That wasn't the point of my post.

I know that. I didn't think we we arguing. I thought this was friendly banter. :ohwell: