Negative Reinforcement (Don't Read If You Cant Take It)

Cold_Steel

So in my experience on the forums and with friends lists there seems to be a general idea that us fat people tend to get offended when we are called fat.

I learned something a while ago.

I use to get offended when people called me fat, you know it hurt deeply *right here* points to heart -. Then I came to a realization; I was and still am fat.

Guess what ? I am not big boned, I am not husky, fluffy, overweight, obese, metabolically challenged, horizontally challenged, chubby, chunky, corpulent, generously proportioned, hefty, gravitationally challenged, oversized, stout, stocky or Plus Sized... I am FAT ... Capital F, A ,T - FAT

While some of the above are more or less entertainment but many of the above are used to disguise, to desensitize and to avoid the big F word.

When I accepted that word, I did something about it. No I am not done, I am still fat, but at least now I don't have some misguided sense of delusion that the world made me obese, no I made me FAT.

So, what are you going to do about it ? Are you fat ?

ShrinkRapt451

Yup. I'm fat. Of course, I truly use the word "obese" to mean the same thing. Because all it means is "way too much body fat to be healthy." and "morbidly obese" is shorthand for "medical problems because of too much body fat for too many years."

It's not a euphemism. It's a medical term.

Me? I'm obese. Or fat. Same deal.

JackKsavestheday

Amen brother!! I'm F***ing FAT and I'm working on it everyday!

ComeAroundSundown

Preach It! :bigsmile: lol. Accepting that I was fat is what got me to finally lose weight. I've never done anything better for myself

Jferg69

Ok. I disagree (there has to be one, lol)

(Here comes the geek) We are not fat. Fat is the substance that causes us to be Overweight or Obese,

I have never heard any medical expert call me fat,,,, obese yes, fat never,

Fat is the substance that we are trying to get rid of to not be overweight,

takehimaway

I'm fat, but I'm trying to change it.

muzmacol

I'm i rite fat ****er me, clear in my mind. Nice peice by the way.

englangrover

Yup, I'm fat too and sick of it and I'm doing something about it....:bigsmile:

runtrx

Ok. I disagree (there has to be one, lol)

(Here comes the geek) We are not fat. Fat is the substance that causes us to be Overweight or Obese,

I have never heard any medical expert call me fat,,,, obese yes, fat never,

Fat is the substance that we are trying to get rid of to not be overweight,

Adipose tissue is more of a "geeked" term. And technically you dont get "rid" of it, you use the solidified energy stored in those cells and shrink them.

Jeannemum

I am fat! I look at myself and see it. I am also obese, and I find that word the same as fat. I have to do something, and I am doing something right now!

snaggly

Heh, heh... I like this! Say it as you see it - I could not believe the photo of myself which I took last month. Not good!

Jferg69

Ok. I disagree (there has to be one, lol)

(Here comes the geek) We are not fat. Fat is the substance that causes us to be Overweight or Obese,

I have never heard any medical expert call me fat,,,, obese yes, fat never,

Fat is the substance that we are trying to get rid of to not be overweight,

Adipose tissue is more of a "geeked" term. And technically you dont get "rid" of it, you use the solidified energy stored in those cells and shrink them.

Ok, I bow to your knowledge, lol

cecilia0909

I am still fat, but at least now I don't have some misguided sense of delusion that the world made me obese, no I made me FAT.

By far one of the most awesome sentences I have ever read

Cold_Steel

Oh good I am glad too see people understood where I was going with this. I was waiting for the hate posts. I love motivation like this call me a masochist or don't but the sooner I realized that I was indeed fat, it motivated me to change it.

slimgal613

When I accepted that word, I did something about it. No I am not done, I am still fat, but at least now I don't have some misguided sense of delusion that the world made me obese, no I made me FAT.

Love this! I am responsible...no one else is!! Sorry...dont' know how to do the quote thing yet. haha

Rays_Wife

Yup - I'm fat. It wasn't until I stopped sugarcoating things and making excuses that I started to lose weight for real. I've been lying to myself for a looong time now about my sad situation. Finally I just woke up one day and said "God I'm fat! Time to do something about it". Now when people use the word "fat" around me I don't cringe anymore. I just view it as a fact and move on. Thanks for saying what I've been thinking!

dls06

I have seen on TV that there is going to be commercials addressing childhood obesity. People are outraged because they are using overweight children to get the message in your face. There were people saying how it was not right and it was a form of bullying. The families and children had no problem with it. Of cource the people who were all opposing it were all thin.

EuroDriver12

good stuff man! "negative reinforcement" and tought love are the way to go to success! if you keep throwing pitty partys n whining ur going to get nowhere!!! life is tought and anything thats easy is not worth having!! so suck it up, quit whining and do what you got to do!!!

keep up the good work brother!

dobenjam

So in my experience on the forums and with friends lists there seems to be a general idea that us fat people tend to get offended when we are called fat.

I learned something a while ago.

I use to get offended when people called me fat, you know it hurt deeply *right here* points to heart -. Then I came to a realization; I was and still am fat.

Guess what ? I am not big boned, I am not husky, fluffy, overweight, obese, metabolically challenged, horizontally challenged, chubby, chunky, corpulent, generously proportioned, hefty, gravitationally challenged, oversized, stout, stocky or Plus Sized... I am FAT ... Capital F, A ,T - FAT

While some of the above are more or less entertainment but many of the above are used to disguise, to desensitize and to avoid the big F word.

When I accepted that word, I did something about it. No I am not done, I am still fat, but at least now I don't have some misguided sense of delusion that the world made me obese, no I made me FAT.

So, what are you going to do about it ? Are you fat ?

Love this. I was reading a post yesterday about how women hated to be called voluptuous because it made them feel like someone was calling them fat. My first response is "well, are you" and my second is "if it bothers you change it" . It may not be the nicest description in the world but if you're Fat then you're Fat, if you are thin, then you are thin. It wouldn't bother you if someone described you as thin if you were would it?

Anyway, I agree whole heartedly. I use to avoid talking about how big I've gotten but that doesn't change it. Accept it and either embrace it or change it. It is what it is and if you don't like it then do something about it. And I'm doing something!

MrsKunz

F-ING FAT here too so what at least im still hot and i get laid me than most "skinny people" go me even at my smallest im still fat oh well life goes on at least im healthy and becoming more and more happy!

PersnicketyFits

I'm fat. I know I'm fat because I wasn't always fat. I'm also a chick... So when I called myself fat in front of my girl friends, it was like I insulted my own mother unforgivably. lol There are people who are a lot fatter than myself, but that doesn't make me LESS fat. Just not AS fat. It might have a slimming appearance if I took a picture with a bunch of people bigger than me... I guess I always have that to fall back on if I'm not at my ideal size when I get married.

Browny43

Amen to that, I'm glad I'm working on it

paigemarie93

I used to get told I was "Big boned" "built that way" or that I had "puppy fat" that always overshadowed the fact that I was fat.
Finally I've come out from the cotton wool barrier of "it's puppy fat, it will go away when you're older" & realised, uh I'm 18 & it still hasn't gone, I have to get rid of it myself.

mrsrice86

I am fat. Fatty McFatso. That's why i'm here. To change that!

PersnicketyFits

F-ING FAT here too so what at least im still hot and i get laid me than most "skinny people" go me even at my smallest im still fat oh well life goes on at least im healthy and becoming more and more happy!

You know what? I also found this to be true in college. I chucked it up to that "more cushion for the pushin' " saying. lol But, yeah, just because we're fat doesn't mean we aren't pretty. Besides, getting laid is more of a confidence game than anything.

Fabnover40Kat

Hi my name is Kathryn and Im FAT.

AJ1966

I am a fat woman. I too need to be able to realize this. I am not fluffy, big boned or full of love... I am FAT!! And I am going to do something about this!

iceqieen

fat.

and it annoys me when people seem offended or hurt when I call myself fat.. as if they should feel offended on my behalf.

thank you for this post. now I shall get my fat *kitten* to the gym.

MrsKunz

F-ING FAT here too so what at least im still hot and i get laid me than most "skinny people" go me even at my smallest im still fat oh well life goes on at least im healthy and becoming more and more happy!

You know what? I also found this to be true in college. I chucked it up to that "more cushion for the pushin' " saying. lol But, yeah, just because we're fat doesn't mean we aren't pretty. Besides, getting laid is more of a confidence game than anything.

Well i got that i am probably one of the most outspoken persons i have ever met lol

stephanielindley422

Oh good I am glad too see people understood where I was going with this. I was waiting for the hate posts. I love motivation like this call me a masochist or don't but the sooner I realized that I was indeed fat, it motivated me to change it.

This is my kind of motivation too. When people say you are overweight, you don't feel as inclined to change. "Oh, I'm just a little overweight, no big deal". But let someone drop the F bomb on you. That'll hit you in the gut. By all means, call me fat. I need to hear it.

BrettPGH

I'm not as fat as I was, but I still have more to lose until I can comfortably say I'm not fat anymore.

I hate the idea of sugarcoating words to describe people. Whatever word you use someone's going to have a problem with it. And their real problem? The fact that they're fat. It's so tough to hear we desperately want someone to say something else. So we get curvy, thick, voluptuous, husky, stout etc. etc. and they're all words trying to say the same thing. "This person carries around extra pounds."

Forget the word. If you really hate being called fat you better make sure you're doing the work to not be fat. There's no point in getting angry at the rest of the world for being accurate.