At a loss for words...my journey is put on hold.

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  • Quilterbunny
    Quilterbunny Posts: 19 Member
    Yes, as time goes on you will get more excited about this precious little one. The unexpected can be a shock (my first 2 were unplanned by us but planned by God). We have 2 girls and 2 boys - all grown up now and I just wish I had enjoyed them more while they were small - they keep you so busy it is hard to really enjoy them :) Keep healthy, love and enjoy your little ones and this new one will add more love and blessings to your family.
  • sjtreely
    sjtreely Posts: 1,014 Member
    An accident? uhh, no.
    Uhh yes, we used protection:)
    Last time I checked, no "protection" was 100%...

    Enough already.
  • kmhallett
    kmhallett Posts: 98 Member
    An accident? uhh, no.
    Uhh yes, we used protection:)
    Last time I checked, no "protection" was 100%...

    so wait...are you telling me unless she doesnt want another baby she should stop having sex with her husband??? wow...that's a lovely idea....:noway:

    I love this lol
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    An accident? uhh, no.
    Uhh yes, we used protection:)
    Last time I checked, no "protection" was 100%...
    so wait...are you telling me unless she doesnt want another baby she should stop having sex with her husband??? wow...that's a lovely idea....:noway:
    No...just don't refer to a baby as an accident.

    I know it's shocking, but not everyone here on the internetz thinks babies are a "blessing". I am Child Free by Choice, therefore I take great strides to ensure no "accidents" occur. I just believe that Q was stating that babies might not always be planned, but they aren't accidents.
  • Switty_Kitty
    Switty_Kitty Posts: 532 Member
    He is very supportive. I called him at work today to tell him. he told me this morning to get a preg test to put my mind at ease. He said there is a reason why we are having this child and we will work together to get through it. Hes great:) A bit in shock, but great:)

    Sounds like you have a good man there.
    The road might get bumpy, but we always manage to get through.
  • sjtreely
    sjtreely Posts: 1,014 Member
    An accident? uhh, no.
    Uhh yes, we used protection:)
    Last time I checked, no "protection" was 100%...
    so wait...are you telling me unless she doesnt want another baby she should stop having sex with her husband??? wow...that's a lovely idea....:noway:
    No...just don't refer to a baby as an accident.

    I know it's shocking, but not everyone here on the internetz thinks babies are a "blessing". I am Child Free by Choice, therefore I take great strides to ensure no "accidents" occur. I just believe that Q was stating that babies might not always be planned, but they aren't accidents.

    This is not a time for a semantics lesson.
  • kmhallett
    kmhallett Posts: 98 Member
    An accident? uhh, no.
    Uhh yes, we used protection:)
    Last time I checked, no "protection" was 100%...
    so wait...are you telling me unless she doesnt want another baby she should stop having sex with her husband??? wow...that's a lovely idea....:noway:
    No...just don't refer to a baby as an accident.

    Alright, enough drama over this....it is very unplanned. Our first was unplanned as well and i did not mean to have him, does not mean that I do not love him and that he is not my whole world. I am just surprised and would not mean accident as a demeaning thing.
  • 42hockeymom
    42hockeymom Posts: 521 Member
    Alllll righty... gonna stay out of that debate roaring overhead.......


    So then.....Congratulations! I've been there.

    A friend of mine just announced she's 15 weeks pregnant, she's 40 and she, too, is freaking out right now. And truthfully, I'm a little jealous. But I'm 43, I have a 21 year old, and a 14 year old. Having a baby probably would be pretty silly right now. Even though my 14 year old thinks it's the BEST.IDEA.EVER!!!

    Keep being healthy. The shock will subside to a dull roar. One thing though. I like surprise, accident just sort of brings up negativity in a way. But hey, it's YOUR story/experience! And I know you're not trying to be negative, just shocked.

    Once again, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
  • cwilliams215
    cwilliams215 Posts: 2
    Well when I read your situation, I can relate. I have 3 kids of my own....back to back all 3 one year apart! Can you imagine. First baby I was 189 lbs for a short 5'4 inch woman, that's a lot of baggage. It's not easy to lose weight/fat when you are pregnant all those years so close together! What I started doing was...When I had someone to help me babysit or watch my kids, I'd take time to ride my bike (if you have one). I eat any food! But, just eat to were you are just satisfied, not FULL. Drink plenty of water. No soda. Before I know it, I had lost about 45 lbs!

    Now 2012 I had to get myself back in shape because I have been a lil lazy and put on about 30 lbs because I have a serious "sweet tooth" Reason why I also need some motivattion right now. Believe me, if a 300 lbs woman can do it, WE CAN TOO! lol.
  • harley0269
    harley0269 Posts: 384 Member
    "CHANCE" would be a cute name for the baby. Because it was by Chance that this new little one came about :flowerforyou:
  • QueenJayJay
    QueenJayJay Posts: 1,079 Member
    "CHANCE" would be a cute name for the baby. Because it was by Chance that this new little one came about :flowerforyou:

    Loving this!
  • MummyOfSeven
    MummyOfSeven Posts: 314 Member
    I don't see the problem with saying that a pregnancy is an accident. It happens.
    Now saying that a child was a 'mistake', that would be different.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    I'm glad you're getting to a good place with this, and that your husband is supportive.

    Despite taking very careful precautions, I have mini panic attacks every month that I'll end up pregnant. I adore my two kids, but I'm done! It would be far from a "blessing" if I was accidentally to get pregnant now. It always shocks me that so many people think everyone should get excited about an accidental pregnancy. I can't think of anything that would screw up my life more than an unplanned pregnancy.
  • QueenJayJay
    QueenJayJay Posts: 1,079 Member
    I don't see the problem with saying that a pregnancy is an accident. It happens.
    Now saying that a child was a 'mistake', that would be different.

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  • TubbsMcGee
    TubbsMcGee Posts: 1,058 Member
    This^ It's your body, your life and your choice.
    I know it's "taboo", but if you really feel like you can't (or sincerely don't want to) raise and bring another child into this world, you certainly don't have to.If it would do more harm than good to your family, finances, resources, etc. it's worth considering alternative options.

    This.

    Agreed.
  • dadoffo
    dadoffo Posts: 379 Member
    He is very supportive. I called him at work today to tell him. he told me this morning to get a preg test to put my mind at ease. He said there is a reason why we are having this child and we will work together to get through it. Hes great:) A bit in shock, but great:)

    Hang in there. He's reaction is just like mine.
  • Meggles63
    Meggles63 Posts: 916 Member
    I went through the same thing. We were surprised when I got pregnant with our fourth. That baby is now 35 years old and I would not change a thing. It all went together just fine. We love him so much, we love them all so much.
    I love this!:heart:
  • ProjectSara
    ProjectSara Posts: 83 Member
    This^ It's your body, your life and your choice.
    I know it's "taboo", but if you really feel like you can't (or sincerely don't want to) raise and bring another child into this world, you certainly don't have to.If it would do more harm than good to your family, finances, resources, etc. it's worth considering alternative options.

    This.

    Agreed.

    Yep. Also, the world is over-populated enough.

    On another note... If accidents didn't happen, why would birth control even exist? Or hospitals, for that matter?
  • ProjectSara
    ProjectSara Posts: 83 Member
    Well everyone. I have been working hard and lost 20 lbs, which is great, I am happy. My husband and I found out we had a little accident and we are pregnant. I was just really working hard on trying to lose the weight from our last one. Of course I would always love any baby that comes into our family, but I'm not ready right now, we have 3 healthy children and I feel so lost and confused. I could use some inspiration if anyone has some.

    I would love to be 'oops" pregnant, or any kind of pregnant one day. You are so lucky to be able to bear children!

    :drinker:

    :drinker: Amen to that! Congratulations, OP!

    So... you people are demeaning her feelings because of your own problems? Very nice. You really think every woman in the world should be thrilled to be pregnant regardless of thier desires or circumstances because that would make you happy?

    WOW. Look up narcissism. And ignorance.
  • QueenJayJay
    QueenJayJay Posts: 1,079 Member
    So... you people are demeaning her feelings because of your own problems? Very nice. You really think every woman in the world should be thrilled to be pregnant regardless of thier desires or circumstances because that would make you happy?

    WOW. Look up narcissism. And ignorance.

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  • AureliaCotta
    AureliaCotta Posts: 99 Member
    OP: You can continue working out but like others have probably already suggested (I didn't read all the posts), talk to your doctor as well as your obstetrician about your fitness goals. Your diet and exercise plan will need to be modified as the pregnancy progresses. LIke it or not, you will gain some weight--the baby alone is about 8 lbs and its support system (increased blood volume, increase tissue size, amniotic fluid, placenta, etc.) can be another 15lb. But if you work with your docs you may be able to control what you gain (and possibly lose some, at least early on) while having a safe pregnancy. Plus, you will lose a chunk of that weight through the process of labor and delivery :)

    In addition, with a good diet and exercise, you'll be staying fit during your pregnancy which is good for you and the baby...and that will help you bounce back after delivery.

    Best of luck to your family.
  • Schraudt814
    Schraudt814 Posts: 496 Member
    "CHANCE" would be a cute name for the baby. Because it was by Chance that this new little one came about :flowerforyou:

    Cute!
  • kmhallett
    kmhallett Posts: 98 Member
    I don't see the problem with saying that a pregnancy is an accident. It happens.
    Now saying that a child was a 'mistake', that would be different.

    Thank you...Thats exactly what I thought accidents can be fantastic, now if I said mistake then throw rocks at me lol
  • sweetrice12
    sweetrice12 Posts: 101 Member
    Congratulations to you! I can only imagine the fear you are feeling! I am on a journey to lose weight and am also afraid that the same could happen to me. I have two boys, fifteen months apart. My youngest is about 18 months and I am not sure if my husband and I would be ready for a third just yet. But I just think that if it happens, it's meant to be. I work in a fertility clinic where women are trying to get pregnant all the time, so I suppose we should consider ourselves lucky.

    Good luck - and being pregnant doesn't necessarily mean you can't be healthy by eating right and exercising.
  • daffodilsoup
    daffodilsoup Posts: 1,972 Member
    I work in a fertility clinic where women are trying to get pregnant all the time, so I suppose we should consider ourselves lucky.

    I have to politely disagree - the inability to conceive would take a lot of pressure out of my life.

    If OP is happy, I am happy for her and offer my congratulations, but I guess it's just a stupid pet peeve of mine that I should feel "lucky" just because I can do something that someone else can't.
  • thecanface
    thecanface Posts: 1,180 Member
    I am appalled at the number of people telling the OP to basically get over it. There is a human being living inside of her that she didn't plan for. She's entitled to be a little shocked.

    Once you move past the shock, though... talk to your OB. Mine said you can continue any exercise you were already doing, just don't add anything new or more intense.


    Thank you for understanding. I am not on here to complain or whine or say life is not fair. it just was not in my plan. yes we used protection and we have been married for 7 years. I appreciate everyone with the great advice and making me smile with their stories. If you are going to be rude, just dont post. Their is no need for it.
    sowwy :( I've never been in your shoes, so was trying to make you smile not be rude.. i feel terrible now. :sad: I hope you can get passed the shock and onto the happy quickly. good luck. sorry again!

    foot + mouth = me.
  • ishallnotwant
    ishallnotwant Posts: 1,210 Member
    Well everyone. I have been working hard and lost 20 lbs, which is great, I am happy. My husband and I found out we had a little accident and we are pregnant. I was just really working hard on trying to lose the weight from our last one. Of course I would always love any baby that comes into our family, but I'm not ready right now, we have 3 healthy children and I feel so lost and confused. I could use some inspiration if anyone has some.

    I would love to be 'oops" pregnant, or any kind of pregnant one day. You are so lucky to be able to bear children!

    :drinker:

    :drinker: Amen to that! Congratulations, OP!

    So... you people are demeaning her feelings because of your own problems? Very nice. You really think every woman in the world should be thrilled to be pregnant regardless of thier desires or circumstances because that would make you happy?

    WOW. Look up narcissism. And ignorance.

    I actually posted something encouraging to her a little way down the page, but I bow to your self-righteousness. :bigsmile:
  • BrunetteRunner87
    BrunetteRunner87 Posts: 591 Member
    A new baby is a great "excuse" for fitness! Not only is it good for the baby to stay healthy and fit during pregnancy, but now you will have one more reason to continue your lifestyle. Even if you do gain weight it will be for a good reason, and remember, you don't HAVE TO gain a lot of weight during pregnancy!
  • peacefulninja
    peacefulninja Posts: 9 Member
    I had perfected my body with diet and exercise, and looked the best I ever had in my entire life, when I found out I was accidentally pregnant with my second child. I gained 75 pounds, which was 60% of my body weight. That was a couple of years ago. Through hard work and determination I lost 65 pounds but through sheer laziness another 20 has crept up. I am so happy to have my children, I would never even trade them for a Sports Illustrated body.

    Eat what your baby wants, and deal with it later. If you've lost weight, you can do it again!
  • ishallnotwant
    ishallnotwant Posts: 1,210 Member
    "CHANCE" would be a cute name for the baby. Because it was by Chance that this new little one came about :flowerforyou:

    Cute!

    I have a cousin named Chantz (his mom spelled his name differently than the traditional spelling.)
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