United Airlines - Overweight passengers

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  • aerome
    aerome Posts: 171 Member
    For those of you suggesting adding an extra few rows of larger seats for larger passengers:

    They already do-it's called first class.

    In response to those that think it's unfair that someone should have to pay for two seats:

    How fair is it that I have to pay for my whole seat if someone else is going to take up half of it? Why can't I just pay for half of my seat?

    When you pay for a plane ticket, you're buying SPACE, this is why you have to pay extra for extra baggage. If you take up more space, you pay more.

    I think the mere fact that this is being discussed should be a really big wake up call to America: we're a fat country and we need to DO something about it! Simply making more room for fat people to be fat isn't going to solve the real underlying problem.
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    I think it is fair but I am concerned that it may add to an already uncomfortable situation for the person requiring more than one seat. I've never needed more than one seat but I imagine it would make me uncomfortable flying if I did need more than one seat.

    I wonder if the airline has considered adding a special seat or row of seats on the plane to accomodate passengers who require more than one seat. That way, if I needed more than one seat, I would be comfortable. I mean really even when you raise the armrest there is a tiny space between the two seats. If you decide to sit in the middle of your two seats, you can't use the headrest.

    why should the airlines have to accommodate those who have DECIDED to become morbidly obese? They don't have a special smoking section for those who CHOOSE to smoke. they don't have a special hangover section for those who CHOOSE to drink too much. Why should they limit their available sellable space because of the needs of this special interests group? Because someone might be offended in the face of facts? If you cannot fit with the armrests down, if you need more than one extender, you are using more than you paid for. THAT'S not fair.

    As much as I don't like your harsh tones, I agree with your logic.
    I don't know I woudl say people DECIDE to become morbidly obese... I think the phrasing is a little off there. It's not a "decision to become" as much as passive allowance of morbid weight gain, but the end result is the same.

    On my flight last month, a huge man boarded, both tall and round. He took up half the seat of the man next to him... for almost 4 hours. I felt badly for the man who was missing half his seat, but I also felt badly for the obese man. You know he was uncomfortable and hated it too.

    It's a tough situation but airlines should not lose revenue due to obese customers.

    And there ARE larger seats. It's called First Class.

    Should they put larger seats in coach? Nope. Why does an obese person deserve one more than a person with back problems who needs to stretch or any other person who desires room to make the flight more comfortable.

    I hate to sound insensitive to obese people who fly. Many times they have no choice, be it for work or personal reasons. However, they must understand that the equipment (plane seats) are not made to accomodate them, no more than a Miata Convertible would.

    PS-- Our laws do not protect obese from discrimination. It is not discriminatory to make an obese person pay for the two seats if they are occupying both or parts of both.
  • paddlemom
    paddlemom Posts: 682 Member
    from what I understand from the news, if you get on board, and they discover you are not gonna fit, you get back off, go pay for a second ticket, then reboard. just another way airlines are gonna get delayed.


    well that seems awefully humiliating!!!! "EXcuse me MAM you need to get off the plane and go buy another ticket before we can take off... dont worry we will all wait patiently here for you till you get back...."
    :noway:

    I don't feel bad about them being humiliated. perhaps that will give them the motivation they need to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

    .... "but some people are overweight because of their glands"..... "it's not their fault"......"we should treat everyone with respect (regardless of their decision not to respect themselves)"....these are excuses that fat people tell themselves to deal with the continued decision to stay fat. I used to tell myself this kind of crap all the time. even had a doctor test my thyroid to see if it was "not my fault". Know what? It WAS my fault. every food decision I made contributed to the state I was in. It was something I CHOSE. and I had to suffer the consequences of my actions to decide to do something about it.

    Ok, but I'm here...I'm motivated...and I'm doing something about it, so I don't need the humiliation. We know that the weight doesn't disappear overnight, so I get grumpy with the folks that think just cause I'm fat, I'm not doing anything about it....
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    from what I understand from the news, if you get on board, and they discover you are not gonna fit, you get back off, go pay for a second ticket, then reboard. just another way airlines are gonna get delayed.


    well that seems awefully humiliating!!!! "EXcuse me MAM you need to get off the plane and go buy another ticket before we can take off... dont worry we will all wait patiently here for you till you get back...."
    :noway:


    I agree it is humiliating.
    However, this should only ever occur the first time you fly (at that weight). After that, you'd know better and be able to speak to the flight attendent/ gate attendants before the flight.
  • FluffnStuff
    FluffnStuff Posts: 387
    Anyone see Wall-E... I am having flashes about that movie while reading this whole thing....
  • aerome
    aerome Posts: 171 Member
    Anyone see Wall-E... I am having flashes about that movie while reading this whole thing....

    HAHA me too, I almost said something about that in my first post, but I got so into what I was saying that I forgot.
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    from what I understand from the news, if you get on board, and they discover you are not gonna fit, you get back off, go pay for a second ticket, then reboard. just another way airlines are gonna get delayed.


    well that seems awefully humiliating!!!! "EXcuse me MAM you need to get off the plane and go buy another ticket before we can take off... dont worry we will all wait patiently here for you till you get back...."
    :noway:

    I don't feel bad about them being humiliated. perhaps that will give them the motivation they need to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

    .... "but some people are overweight because of their glands"..... "it's not their fault"......"we should treat everyone with respect (regardless of their decision not to respect themselves)"....these are excuses that fat people tell themselves to deal with the continued decision to stay fat. I used to tell myself this kind of crap all the time. even had a doctor test my thyroid to see if it was "not my fault". Know what? It WAS my fault. every food decision I made contributed to the state I was in. It was something I CHOSE. and I had to suffer the consequences of my actions to decide to do something about it.


    While I appreciate the accountability you are trying to impress upon society, there ARE some valid medical reasons for weight gain. Many chronically ill struggle, and many obese people develop terrible ailments and diseases of bodily organs that prevent them from losing weight in an average fashion.

    While your comment applies to 90-some % of the population, please bear in mind it doesn't apply to all. :flowerforyou:
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    For those of you suggesting adding an extra few rows of larger seats for larger passengers:

    They already do-it's called first class.

    In response to those that think it's unfair that someone should have to pay for two seats:

    How fair is it that I have to pay for my whole seat if someone else is going to take up half of it? Why can't I just pay for half of my seat?

    When you pay for a plane ticket, you're buying SPACE, this is why you have to pay extra for extra baggage. If you take up more space, you pay more.

    I think the mere fact that this is being discussed should be a really big wake up call to America: we're a fat country and we need to DO something about it! Simply making more room for fat people to be fat isn't going to solve the real underlying problem.

    WELL STATED!!! :drinker:
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member


    why should the airlines have to accommodate those who have DECIDED to become morbidly obese? They don't have a special smoking section for those who CHOOSE to smoke. they don't have a special hangover section for those who CHOOSE to drink too much. Why should they limit their available sellable space because of the needs of this special interests group? Because someone might be offended in the face of facts? If you cannot fit with the armrests down, if you need more than one extender, you are using more than you paid for. THAT'S not fair.
    As much as I don't like your harsh tones, I agree with your logic.
    I don't know I woudl say people DECIDE to become morbidly obese... I think the phrasing is a little off there. It's not a "decision to become" as much as passive allowance of morbid weight gain, but the end result is the same.

    I see it as a decision. A long series of repeated decisions. Every time I stopped at Burger King for a double bacon cheeseburger, french fries, and a big old high-octane soda, I KNEW I was choosing something that would harm me. And I made that kind of decision ALL THE TIME. That loooooooong string of decisions led me to the end result of being obese. It isn't anything other than a decision, from the way I see it.
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member


    why should the airlines have to accommodate those who have DECIDED to become morbidly obese? They don't have a special smoking section for those who CHOOSE to smoke. they don't have a special hangover section for those who CHOOSE to drink too much. Why should they limit their available sellable space because of the needs of this special interests group? Because someone might be offended in the face of facts? If you cannot fit with the armrests down, if you need more than one extender, you are using more than you paid for. THAT'S not fair.
    As much as I don't like your harsh tones, I agree with your logic.
    I don't know I woudl say people DECIDE to become morbidly obese... I think the phrasing is a little off there. It's not a "decision to become" as much as passive allowance of morbid weight gain, but the end result is the same.

    I see it as a decision. A long series of repeated decisions. Every time I stopped at Burger King for a double bacon cheeseburger, french fries, and a big old high-octane soda, I KNEW I was choosing something that would harm me. And I made that kind of decision ALL THE TIME. That loooooooong string of decisions led me to the end result of being obese. It isn't anything other than a decision, from the way I see it.

    I didn't know until I was 26 years old that diet sodas had 0 calories and regular soda had 100+ per serving. I didn't know until I was 26 how many calories I was eating a day, or how many I needed to have, or what impact all those foods had on my body.

    I think ignorance is the root problem. The ignorance may be caused by information not available to that person, or it may be laziness -- some people don't care.

    In my case, my weight loss was only caused when I started researching how to lose weight correctly -- calorie restriction and exercise. Only then did I start learning and becoming aware of the weight of my decisions. (Oh hell, no pun intended there, seriously.)
  • Rachael
    Rachael Posts: 168 Member
    Did anyone happen to see FNC's brief coverage of this story last night? I may not be citing it correctly, but I think that Megyn Kelly said that one airline (JetStar? JetAir?) forced a passenger to purchase a second seat, but the two seats weren't together!! Really? Is that helpful? Overall, I think this is a valid discussion and I can definitely see both sides, but in my opinion (and in fairness, I haven't read anything more about that particular airline's story so I don't know anymore than what I heard last night) that just sounds like an exercise in humiliating someone...
  • Wolfena
    Wolfena Posts: 1,570 Member
    I think maybe they should supply a row or two of oversized seats on their planes - and make it a purchasing option that cost just a little extra. (if there's normally 6 seats in a row, make it 4 - normally 8, make 6)

    Of course, if oversized people chose to use those seats and go traveling with a "regular" sized person, either the "regular" size person would have to pay more to sit next to them or they'd have to sit apart during their flight.
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    Did anyone happen to see FNC's brief coverage of this story last night? I may not be citing it correctly, but I think that Megyn Kelly said that one airline (JetStar? JetAir?) forced a passenger to purchase a second seat, but the two seats weren't together!! Really? Is that helpful? Overall, I think this is a valid discussion and I can definitely see both sides, but in my opinion (and in fairness, I haven't read anything more about that particular airline's story so I don't know anymore than what I heard last night) that just sounds like an exercise in humiliating someone...

    that doesn't make sense. even if the seat the person purchased second wasn't assigned to be right next to the first one they purchased, airlines move folks from their seats all the time. see Dave's story above. if they computer assigned a seat number to the new purchase, then that's where the person would be moved to who used to be sitting next to the obese person.
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    I think maybe they should supply a row or two of oversized seats on their planes - and make it a purchasing option that cost just a little extra. (if there's normally 6 seats in a row, make it 4 - normally 8, make 6)

    Of course, if oversized people chose to use those seats and go traveling with a "regular" sized person, either the "regular" size person would have to pay more to sit next to them or they'd have to sit apart during their flight.

    that is called first class. those who want it (or need it) already pay more to get extra room.
  • Rachael
    Rachael Posts: 168 Member
    Did anyone happen to see FNC's brief coverage of this story last night? I may not be citing it correctly, but I think that Megyn Kelly said that one airline (JetStar? JetAir?) forced a passenger to purchase a second seat, but the two seats weren't together!! Really? Is that helpful? Overall, I think this is a valid discussion and I can definitely see both sides, but in my opinion (and in fairness, I haven't read anything more about that particular airline's story so I don't know anymore than what I heard last night) that just sounds like an exercise in humiliating someone...

    that doesn't make sense. even if the seat the person purchased second wasn't assigned to be right next to the first one they purchased, airlines move folks from their seats all the time. see Dave's story above. if they computer assigned a seat number to the new purchase, then that's where the person would be moved to who used to be sitting next to the obese person.

    I didn't read anything more about the story so I'm not sure what the ulitmate outcome was. I'm sure the report was just to be sensational. I travel alot and agree the airlines move people around all the time. The report that I heard implied that the airline didn't (or that's what I read into it)...that the person had to purchase two seats and was not able to use both of them so two people were still inconvenienced and/or humiliated... (maybe the second seat purchased was a middle seat in the back of the plane and the other passenger wanted to stay in his/her aisle seat... I don't know :-)

    Anyhow, I agree with alot of what you say, Lucky. And this is definitely a divisive topic. I just thought that was an interesting story. I'm to the point where I hate flying...it's so uncomfortable and inconvenient regardless of weight...
  • kechiemc
    kechiemc Posts: 1,355 Member
    I think it is fair but I am concerned that it may add to an already uncomfortable situation for the person requiring more than one seat. I've never needed more than one seat but I imagine it would make me uncomfortable flying if I did need more than one seat.

    I wonder if the airline has considered adding a special seat or row of seats on the plane to accomodate passengers who require more than one seat. That way, if I needed more than one seat, I would be comfortable. I mean really even when you raise the armrest there is a tiny space between the two seats. If you decide to sit in the middle of your two seats, you can't use the headrest.

    why should the airlines have to accommodate those who have DECIDED to become morbidly obese? They don't have a special smoking section for those who CHOOSE to smoke. they don't have a special hangover section for those who CHOOSE to drink too much. Why should they limit their available sellable space because of the needs of this special interests group? Because someone might be offended in the face of facts? If you cannot fit with the armrests down, if you need more than one extender, you are using more than you paid for. THAT'S not fair.

    I was not suggesting that the airlines "have to accomodate". I just wondered if they had considered providing a more comfortable seating option for those forced to purchase 2 seats. As I stated earlier, I agree that it is not fair for someone who pays for an entire seat to have to share their seat with someone who cannot fit in the seat they purchased. I think it is sad that you are assuming that someone chose to become morbidly obese. I may be naive but I do not believe that people "choose" to be morbidly obese. Just like people who smoke and drink too much I think eating too much is an addiction.
  • jackeh
    jackeh Posts: 1,515 Member
    from what I understand from the news, if you get on board, and they discover you are not gonna fit, you get back off, go pay for a second ticket, then reboard. just another way airlines are gonna get delayed.


    well that seems awefully humiliating!!!! "EXcuse me MAM you need to get off the plane and go buy another ticket before we can take off... dont worry we will all wait patiently here for you till you get back...."
    :noway:

    I don't feel bad about them being humiliated. perhaps that will give them the motivation they need to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

    .... "but some people are overweight because of their glands"..... "it's not their fault"......"we should treat everyone with respect (regardless of their decision not to respect themselves)"....these are excuses that fat people tell themselves to deal with the continued decision to stay fat. I used to tell myself this kind of crap all the time. even had a doctor test my thyroid to see if it was "not my fault". Know what? It WAS my fault. every food decision I made contributed to the state I was in. It was something I CHOSE. and I had to suffer the consequences of my actions to decide to do something about it.


    i disagree with this ... humiliating them isnt gonna make them want to lose weight ... and i think its SOOOOOOO easy to judge others and stuff but once your their in that spacific situation... not so easy....
  • magichatter06
    magichatter06 Posts: 3,593 Member
    I do think it's fair...

    What about those people who go to the big theme parks and they cannot ride the rides because the bar doesn't click all the way. To me, that would be an incentive, "Hey, I need to do something about my weight so I can enjoy the things I enjoy doing" It's the facts of life, you can't make everyone happy.

    About the tall people, you do not choose to be tall, when's the last time you watched a surgery show that made people taller? Just because the person's behind yous knees are pushing into their back, don't you think that they are umcomfortable too?? Who wants to push their knees into a seat for the duration of a flight.


    I know that some people can't help with their weight, but for the majority of americans...they choose to turn to food when they are depressed or something isn't going their way. They choose to supersize their meal. Food is a comfort food.... so I think that you can help make the right decisions to help yourself from not becoming obese.
  • Sarandipity
    Sarandipity Posts: 1,560
    from what I understand from the news, if you get on board, and they discover you are not gonna fit, you get back off, go pay for a second ticket, then reboard. just another way airlines are gonna get delayed.


    well that seems awefully humiliating!!!! "EXcuse me MAM you need to get off the plane and go buy another ticket before we can take off... dont worry we will all wait patiently here for you till you get back...."
    :noway:

    I don't feel bad about them being humiliated. perhaps that will give them the motivation they need to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

    .... "but some people are overweight because of their glands"..... "it's not their fault"......"we should treat everyone with respect (regardless of their decision not to respect themselves)"....these are excuses that fat people tell themselves to deal with the continued decision to stay fat. I used to tell myself this kind of crap all the time. even had a doctor test my thyroid to see if it was "not my fault". Know what? It WAS my fault. every food decision I made contributed to the state I was in. It was something I CHOSE. and I had to suffer the consequences of my actions to decide to do something about it.


    While I do agree that for most of us it is inaction that has brought us to the size we are, there are underlying factors that make it more difficult for some to make any changes. I can't help taking your tone and way of stating that a little personally. Don't get me wrong, I respect your opinion and think it is great you hold yourself accountable for the path that brought you to where you are, but it still comes across harsh for me. I guess I am still a little sensitive regarding that. :ohwell:

    I myself have a thyroid that basically wasn't working at all and a rare autoimune disorder that causes painful swelling making it hard to move at times. While I don't use these as excuses for why I haven't lost until now, it does play into what does and what doesn't work for me. Until I went on thyroid medication it was painful to be awake, I was literally a walking zombie. I went for easy food because I barely had the energy to get through a day of work nevermind prepare a meal. I didn't eat any more than any other person, or any differently than my coworkers, but the way my body treated what went in was very different than them and that does take a while to get your head around and make the right changes.

    I have a very dear friend that suffers from depression and OCD. The medications she is on made her pack on the pounds even though she hadn't changed anything she was doing. She went from a very fit and active 125lbs to over 300 in a few years. Now with severe back pain she struggles to even shower in the morning. While in some ways everything can come down to choice, not everyone has a constant baseline to base those choices on or a consistant cause effect relationship that make the choices easier or the outcomes more predictable.

    Believe it or not after what I have said above, I do believe that those that are too big to fit into 1 seat on a plane should be charged for 2 or given the option to pay for first/business class (I am referring to size, not weight). It is for their comfort and for those that would have to share a seat with them otherwise. I just find it hard to get my head around the having to get off the plane to pay for the extra seat. If the flight is full then how are they going to get the second seat they paid for? It should definately be something that is checked before boarding in my opinion.
  • 1Corinthians13
    1Corinthians13 Posts: 5,296 Member
    Why not charge more for people who are too tall and whose knees push up against the seat ahead of them, infringing on that person's space (been there, hurts to have someone's knees pushed into your back an entire flight) or have to have their knees to the side in order to fit, which also infringes on that person's space?

    Or what about having to pay extra to put your seat back so that you're basically in the lap of the person behind you?

    Let's be fair about it, and then I"d have no problem with it.

    Tall people are aware of their problem, and they either sit on the aisle or pay extra for the Business Section or sit in an exit row. And charging extra for putting the seat back doesn't make sense because EVERYone has that option.
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    from what I understand from the news, if you get on board, and they discover you are not gonna fit, you get back off, go pay for a second ticket, then reboard. just another way airlines are gonna get delayed.


    well that seems awefully humiliating!!!! "EXcuse me MAM you need to get off the plane and go buy another ticket before we can take off... dont worry we will all wait patiently here for you till you get back...."
    :noway:

    I don't feel bad about them being humiliated. perhaps that will give them the motivation they need to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

    .... "but some people are overweight because of their glands"..... "it's not their fault"......"we should treat everyone with respect (regardless of their decision not to respect themselves)"....these are excuses that fat people tell themselves to deal with the continued decision to stay fat. I used to tell myself this kind of crap all the time. even had a doctor test my thyroid to see if it was "not my fault". Know what? It WAS my fault. every food decision I made contributed to the state I was in. It was something I CHOSE. and I had to suffer the consequences of my actions to decide to do something about it.


    i disagree with this ... humiliating them isnt gonna make them want to lose weight ... and i think its SOOOOOOO easy to judge others and stuff but once your their in that spacific situation... not so easy....

    I'm judging myself by the exact same standards. every post I have created references MY OWN decisions that led me to obesity. I'm not sitting in judgment of others, I'm identifying what I know to be true from my own situation. you don't get fat by accident, you don't just wake up one day and get shocked to see you are unexplainedly morbidly obese. while there are stories shared here of folks who became large through other means, those are the exceptions. the vast majority of the very large are that way by their own making. many,many poor decisions over time created the situation. and I don't believe in sacrificing the rights/safety/comfort of many to accommodate the desires of those who have done it to themselves.

    you need a big chair on an airplane? buy your ticket in first class. still not big enough? then you should pay for what you are getting, which is more than one space.

    some have said I am being harsh, but I see it as being factual. If I sugar coat the facts (most obesity is self inflicted) then how does that do any good? We know the truth, we just aren't proud of the truth. I am obese. I got that way because I continually made poor decisions. When I started making better decisions, my situation improved. This is available to every person who has become obese. Pretending that it's not their fault, and acting like we should tiptoe around it is NOT helping anyone.
  • stef_e_b
    stef_e_b Posts: 593
    Don't most people who take up two seats by two seats anyway? I've only been on two planes and I was thin then so I wasn't worried. I don't know what we are talking about here? Is it that there is no room between you? Which I don't think is a big deal. Or is it that there is no room for you to sit. lol I need a drawing.
  • FluffnStuff
    FluffnStuff Posts: 387
    Don't most people who take up two seats by two seats anyway? I've only been on two planes and I was thin then so I wasn't worried. I don't know what we are talking about here? Is it that there is no room between you? Which I don't think is a big deal. Or is it that there is no room for you to sit. lol I need a drawing.

    I believe the major conflict is "overlap":flowerforyou:
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    Lucky,

    I'm saying there ARE people who are in situations where they are medically obese and it is NOT their fault. Your blanket statement says 100% of the morbidly obese did it to themselves. This is not true. While it's true for 99%, it does not apply for all.

    My uncle has multiple sclerosis. Has had it for 30 years. Is a quadriplegic. He is a diabetic on a very strict diet. He cannot control his weight. Between the meds and being paralyzed, he has become obese. He is an exception to your rule.... a rare exception.
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    Don't most people who take up two seats by two seats anyway? I've only been on two planes and I was thin then so I wasn't worried. I don't know what we are talking about here? Is it that there is no room between you? Which I don't think is a big deal. Or is it that there is no room for you to sit. lol I need a drawing.

    I believe the major conflict is "overlap":flowerforyou:

    Well put.

    On my recent flight, the obese man's hips (et al) spread over into the aisle and the seat beside him.... where a skinny man was forced to scoot over towards his female companion in the window seat.
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    Don't most people who take up two seats by two seats anyway? I've only been on two planes and I was thin then so I wasn't worried. I don't know what we are talking about here? Is it that there is no room between you? Which I don't think is a big deal. Or is it that there is no room for you to sit. lol I need a drawing.

    A little extreme, but...

    fatassonaplane.jpg
  • jackeh
    jackeh Posts: 1,515 Member
    from what I understand from the news, if you get on board, and they discover you are not gonna fit, you get back off, go pay for a second ticket, then reboard. just another way airlines are gonna get delayed.


    well that seems awefully humiliating!!!! "EXcuse me MAM you need to get off the plane and go buy another ticket before we can take off... dont worry we will all wait patiently here for you till you get back...."
    :noway:

    I don't feel bad about them being humiliated. perhaps that will give them the motivation they need to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

    .... "but some people are overweight because of their glands"..... "it's not their fault"......"we should treat everyone with respect (regardless of their decision not to respect themselves)"....these are excuses that fat people tell themselves to deal with the continued decision to stay fat. I used to tell myself this kind of crap all the time. even had a doctor test my thyroid to see if it was "not my fault". Know what? It WAS my fault. every food decision I made contributed to the state I was in. It was something I CHOSE. and I had to suffer the consequences of my actions to decide to do something about it.


    i disagree with this ... humiliating them isnt gonna make them want to lose weight ... and i think its SOOOOOOO easy to judge others and stuff but once your their in that spacific situation... not so easy....

    I'm judging myself by the exact same standards. every post I have created references MY OWN decisions that led me to obesity. I'm not sitting in judgment of others, I'm identifying what I know to be true from my own situation. you don't get fat by accident, you don't just wake up one day and get shocked to see you are unexplainedly morbidly obese. while there are stories shared here of folks who became large through other means, those are the exceptions. the vast majority of the very large are that way by their own making. many,many poor decisions over time created the situation. and I don't believe in sacrificing the rights/safety/comfort of many to accommodate the desires of those who have done it to themselves.

    you need a big chair on an airplane? buy your ticket in first class. still not big enough? then you should pay for what you are getting, which is more than one space.

    some have said I am being harsh, but I see it as being factual. If I sugar coat the facts (most obesity is self inflicted) then how does that do any good? We know the truth, we just aren't proud of the truth. I am obese. I got that way because I continually made poor decisions. When I started making better decisions, my situation improved. This is available to every person who has become obese. Pretending that it's not their fault, and acting like we should tiptoe around it is NOT helping anyone.


    you can judge YOURSELF but you have no right to judge anyone else... wether its by the same standards or not...


    and BTW i did say in my first post that obese people should pay for the extra ticket... its not the overall answer to what should happen on airlines that i am having issues with ...
  • paddlemom
    paddlemom Posts: 682 Member
    Ok, so how about a compromise - if the flight is fully booked and you insist on getting on that flight, then buy 2 seats, since you are essentially taking a seat they would have been able to sell to someone else. If you are booking and you KNOW you will need two seats in advance - buy two to guarantee your place on that flight, or risk being bumped.

    If you choose to wait for a less booked flight, then no charge. Airlines comp upgrades to business or first class all the time on non fully booked flights - sometimes just because you smiled sweetly and asked nice at the boarding gate, so in this case no revenue is lost and no one is left without a seat.
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    Lucky,

    I'm saying there ARE people who are in situations where they are medically obese and it is NOT their fault. Your blanket statement says 100% of the morbidly obese did it to themselves. This is not true. While it's true for 99%, it does not apply for all.

    My uncle has multiple sclerosis. Has had it for 30 years. Is a quadriplegic. He is a diabetic on a very strict diet. He cannot control his weight. Between the meds and being paralyzed, he has become obese. He is an exception to your rule.... a rare exception.

    I'm sorry to hear of your uncle. I also know someone suffering from MS, and it is an awful disease.


    however...
    if you take a look back at my posts, I never said 100%. I said the same thing you are saying... most obesity is self inflicted.

    and whether it is self inflicted or not, the facts remain that a very large person takes up the space that someone else has paid for. that's not fair. pay for what you are getting. that has been my consistent point.
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    Ok, so how about a compromise - if the flight is fully booked and you insist on getting on that flight, then buy 2 seats, since you are essentially taking a seat they would have been able to sell to someone else. If you are booking and you KNOW you will need two seats in advance - buy two to guarantee your place on that flight, or risk being bumped.

    If you choose to wait for a less booked flight, then no charge. Airlines comp upgrades to business or first class all the time on non fully booked flights - sometimes just because you smiled sweetly and asked nice at the boarding gate, so in this case no revenue is lost and no one is left without a seat.

    Sounds like a good compromise! :flowerforyou:
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