Whats your least favorite thing someone has said to you abou

Elzecat

i was asked quietly if i was ill.

no.. just really healthy now.. geez.

I got this too...from someone I didn't know very well who apparently wasn't following my Facebook posts about my running and such...she sidled up and whispered it in my ear all concerned looking...I heard she thought I had cancer and that's why I was thin. Geez.

alyson820

'you're starting to look good! don't ruin it.'

'wow, you've lost a lot of weight... was it intentional?'

Takes2long

I was venting about the .6# loss over three weeks. I was told "Just get used to being fat." It was for shock value. Ok...I was shocked all right. And hurt. And pissed right the f*** off. How 'bout I shock you and smack you in the face???

Kalynx

From the lady next to to me at work:

(unsolicited) You know Kalyn, Luther Hospital has a great liquid diet you might could try.
(unsolicited) You know Kalyn, If those people on the Biggest loser can do it I bet you can too.
(unsolicited) You know Kalyn, Weight Watchers is starting a new class, if you're interested.

made my skin crawl every time. Thanks for the advice, you think I dont know I'm fat??? That I'm not reminded every day of my life?? eesh.

Elzecat

"people who count calories are stupid, just eat healthy" - the person knows full well that I count calories.

"counting calories doesn't work" :mad: :explode:

when I first started on MFP a year ago, I was talking about it (apparently too often) with a coworker who was also overweight. She commented a few times that I was too "obsessed" with counting calories and worrying about what I ate.

So...fast forward one year. I've lost 45 pounds, kept it off, love running and feel awesome and healthy. Right after New Year's this coworker decided to go on the Tim Ferris "4 hour diet" eating plan...she's dropped 15 pounds so far, which I have complimented her on...and when I asked if she counted calories on this plan (since I don't know much about it) she was like "oh no...I just eat all the healthy foods on the plan and do my cheat day once a week and I don't HAVE to count calories, it's way easier than what you do" Hmm. I'm happy for her since it's working for her, but she's still acting like my way of doing things is a problem...um...ok. Whatever.

Elzecat

From the lady next to to me at work:

(unsolicited) You know Kalyn, Luther Hospital has a great liquid diet you might could try.
(unsolicited) You know Kalyn, If those people on the Biggest loser can do it I bet you can too.
(unsolicited) You know Kalyn, Weight Watchers is starting a new class, if you're interested.

made my skin crawl every time. Thanks for the advice, you think I dont know I'm fat??? That I'm not reminded every day of my life?? eesh.

I'm sorry. I wanna punch this lady in the nose for ya. Not that I advocate violence, but overall I have really good support from friends, family and even a few coworkers...I hate hearing that people get those kinds of comments :frown:

BreeHerm

Mine is "when are you do?"

I'm not pregnant... thanks for your wonderful words of encouragement... (sarcastically)

Buddhasmiracle

"You look different...I think it's the new glasses."

(Note, the "new glasses" were several months old; the weight loss was new.)

I remember getting the "did you done something different with your hair?" a lot at the beginning.
Yeah i took about 20 pounds off of the thing underneath it.

Yup. New glasses, new hair style, new lip stick that "compliments" my complexion, but my favorite-- "the new SHOES look fantastic" :ohwell:

Trophyyf

So I heard you had the lab-band or gastric bypass

Not that I would ever knock anyone who has because believe me I tried but it just irritates me and it really irritates me when they say it super loud!!!!

VeganInTraining

'wow, you've lost a lot of weight... was it intentional?'

I have gotten this one, I generally chalk it up to them not wanting to compliment my weight loss if I've been sick or something. My grocer said that the other day then followed up with "ok, good, we like intentional weight loss....just wanted to make sure you didn't get sick or something." It's not exactly how I'd like the compliment delivered but I just trusted he meant it well

christenapanzone

Why are you trying? You look great just the way you are.

My response: I'm 50 lbs overweight according to my doctor. It's about health not beauty!

Takes2long

I've ALWAYS wanted to reply to the rude comments, but never have, with this little comback: "Every time I look in the mirror, I'm reminded how fat I am. Your stupidity only shows when you open your mouth. I will lose weight. You will always remain stupid."

stephc0711

There was this guy I liked, I gave him a rose on Valentines day (FIRST time I ever made a move) You know what he did the rest of that year? Laugh at me with the girls in our class, get his friend to tell me I'm fat, And tell every he doesn't like me BECAUSE I'm fat.

Also, whenever I talk about getting healthier or doing something like that, my "bestfriend" says "You won't do it, you never do, just get used to it.. you're fat!"

Yup THOSE are my reasons for getting healthy, skinny, fit. I want them to eat their words




Some best friend! I say dump her and find some one more supportive! You deserve better than her, and much better than some @hole who is going to treat you like that. I had a crush on a guy in HS but he wasn't interested in me bc I was overweight. Guess What? I might be overweight now, but he is too! AND he's 27 and flips burgers at Mickey D's! Poetic justice.

Reasie26

I just hate hearing people tell me what I can and cannot eat. I got this all the time before as a vegetarian but it is worse now that I've been using MFP. It isn't that I CAN'T eat the cookies you brought in to work or CAN'T eat a burger, its that I choose not to. Nit picky perhaps but it makes me crazy. "Well, if you can't have this and this and this, what CAN you have?" Ugh. What ever I F-ing fancy, that is what.

THIS!!!!!!

I'm vegan and get the "oh, sorry - you can't have that can you?" UGH!! Same with choosing healthier foods.

YES - "What ever I F-ing fancy, that is what!!!!!!" EXACTLY!!!!! Well said!!

kirstand

not weight/diet related but...

was waitressing and had a customer last night ask "what do you do for a job?"
i reply "why do you ask?"

huh!, he says that i "have large hands for a girl"!!!:huh:
first of all i'm 38y/o, so being called a girl softened the blow :ohwell:
he even compared my hands with his...we were about the same...:laugh:
i've only ever had one other person brave enough to comment on my hands, which was about 20years ago. I was entering a night club and shook the bouncers hand, with him saying "you've got man hands"...laughed then...laughed now, but.................

what does my job have to do with the size of my hands?

cant say i've ever liked my hands but not because of their size...because they are outdoor/working hands which are old looking...plus i bit my nails for years and never showed them if i could help it. (nails are long now)

Hey, could've been worse like "did you forget to shave this morining?" (NOT meaning my legs/underarms/bikini)
thats another story!!!!:devil:

jeyko

From my husband "don't take this the wrong way, but you're just not very attractive anymore ". He thought it would encourage me to lose weight. He was wrong.

mlosesweight

"my mooooom says people our age shouldn't diet because it's not healthy."
would you LIKE me to be fat, then?

AngelstrengthWECHANGED

haha oh yeah. I forgot I have another one.

"what did you eat last night"
"Oh a friend and I went out for pizza and beer"
"You can't eat that. I thought you were trying to lose weight"

AngelstrengthWECHANGED

haha oh yeah. I forgot I have another one.

"what did you eat last night"
"Oh a friend and I went out for pizza and beer"
"You can't eat that. I thought you were trying to lose weight"

Sorry I'm so dumb at posting still. Ok, these have jealous all over them!!!!! People are so dag gone jealous they can't help but be rude. Another thing I hate...."one-uppers." Someone who has done it first,better, etc. when really they just can't take it that you are getting attention!!!! Keep on doing what you're doing and rub it in their face more!!!

JBennis1013

You can't lose weight and still eat things you like...

or

at work a co-worker will pick up someones lunch and be like omg this weighs a ton I can't believe that you're going to eat that!!

porffor

Has to be a bloke (stranger) who shouted from one escalator to another in a london underground station to verbally abuse me.. he shouted 'oi you fat B**** ' everyone looked including me and my now husband.. and he said 'yes you know I'm talking to YOU.. go on a diet'!!

I was so shocked but not shocked enough not to retaliate with 'I looked, to see who the Wan**** on the other escalator is'.

Both escalators were packed with people there was twitterings of laughter at my response and I must say I wished the world would open me up and swallow me, but I braved it out and hubby to be helped by reminding me he loved me. Ironically I weighed about 2 stone less than I was at my heaviest. Maybe I should have listened to him but he was a d*** and I don't have a habit of listening to people like that.

muffintopminx

"You can't eat that. I thought you were trying to lose weight"

I got this exact same comment from a coworker while I was eating a freaking SUBWAY SANDWICH at my desk.
Uh... it's not chicken fried steak and a chocolate shake. I wanted to effing slap the freckles off her stupid face. :explode:

TOYGRRRL

#1. So many woman are pregnant now in our building! How far along are you?

#2. Oh Pam... look at you... you have a fat stomach... you are getting fat all over... stop eating so much food and keep moving like I do...

(This is my mother... constantly if I'm ever larger than a size 6 and even if it is water weight due to my RA medication and I can barely walk, let alone hold a hair brush because of debilitating pain from an RA flare.)

ArleneMobley

years ago, my husband and i went to his sister's house where lots of family were gathered.
we were newly married and i had put on a few extra pounds. I probably weighed 150 (at 5'7" and 19 yrs old).

my brother-in-law says to me... "have you lost weight?"
i say no, with a smile.
he says "didn't think so!"
i was crushed. the room went silent. my husband didnt even have a comeback in my defense.
BUT, it did make me count calories and exercise ~ lost 30 lbs.

kept it off. 2 yrs. later i got pregnant (very happy)
told my mother in law and her first remark was "and you just lost all that weight."
what?
i decided i was too sensitive. they always were teasing me about my weight.
I am glad they can't see me now @ 198 lbs. !!!

AngelstrengthWECHANGED

This is the one I hate and I know everyone who has lost a good amount has probably heard. I lost 30 lbs from a strict diet (during the fat free fad) and running every day in the summer. I was 27, no kids yet. I'm 5'6 and got down to 115 so that made me 145 at 5'6 before the loss. I was so excited because I had worked really hard. This is what I heard over and over......
"God.....how much weight did you lose?" or "OMG you've lost A TON of weight!!!!!" It's hard to explain this on a post because I cannot emphasize enough, how they made it seem like I was a monster before. I guess I hadn't realized how hideous I looked at 145! Well I gained 90 lbs while pregnant. I'm 39 and at 149 now, so I'm bracing myself for these idiots!

cufirst84

i always get ..."well your lucky cause your tall you can hide your weight" - trust me us "tall people" get fat too...& dont like it just like you "shorter people" lol

ericalynn104

Once my dad told me that if I wasn't more careful I was going to be like my mom.. My mom has always been overweight. And I still cant believe it was my dad who said that, because it's not like he is the thinnest or fittest person in the world! (Oh and thanks, dad for subtly calling me fat.)

That was almost 10 years ago and him saying that is still burned in my mind.

Oishii

Pre losing weight:
Head bell-ringer: Some of us have been wondering if you're pregnant again.
Me: No, I'm just fat.

At goal weight, having bought my first ever skinny jeans:
My mum: Well don't be too upset when they stop fitting again.
Thanks so much for your vote of confidence, mum!

mjane166

I agree - Nothing! Almost 3 months in, down 30-35 pounds... it's noticeable, people. Say something.

I love when people ask how I did it, and I answer "Counting calories and exercising" and their face falls. It's funny that once you start exercising daily and getting off your butt, it's not really THAT difficult to do. You just need the motivation to get the ball rolling!

I would love for people to say something about my weight loss....reading all of the posts here, I think I know why they won't. We all take these types of comments differently. Someone could say "Wow, you've lost a tonne of weight, you look great!" to me and I would gush and be so pleased whereas I've read here that another poster here felt that same comment was rude because it made it seem like she was a monster prior to the loss.

WifeNMama

I'm a high school librarian. We have a teacher who makes amazingly good cupcakes, and always shares them with staff. She sent one my way on Friday and my Student Assistant (I have one every class period) begged me to give her my cupcake. Knowing how good they are, and having had a very light breakfast, I wasn't about to give it up.

Her response?

"You're just gonna get fat again. If you eat that cupcake you're gonna blow everything and balloon right back up to where you were."

Wow. All that for a cupcake? Should have smushed it in her face.