cursing + having little kids ==

ninerbuff

okay, so anyone who knows me, knows i curse. a lot. all the time. sure, it's not ladylike, but i don't really give a fu@k.

anywho ... i have 3 little ones (3, 6 & 7) and i never did that "oh, i'm not going to curse in front of them" thing. I figured I'm not going to keep them sheltered from something as inane as bad words. Yeah, they all dropped the f bomb before the age of 3, but that was it - they never cursed again. They know they are bad words, they know they can't say them, they are sensitized to that they are not "special" words at all.

am i ahead of the curve or have i ruined my children for life? Only time will tell. (maybe they'll end up rebelling and they'll stick their noses up to punk rock and listen to xtian music and go to church. who knows.)

What do you do about cursing? yay or ney?

To help make it easier for my daughter and myself, I permitted her to let me know if I've said a bad work and I'd give her a quarter. I was up to $9.00 in a month, but this month it's really calmed down.
I think it's good to at least show your kids that you can be polite enough not to curse while around them and it will carry over when they socialize too.

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kb455

I'm the same way. I swear like a trucker. I never stopped when I had kids and my 2 oldest have said some choice words on several occasions. They know they are 'bad words' and that they shouldn't say them until they are an adult. In fact, when my oldest was in Kindergarten, his teacher asked what he wants to do when he grows up and he said, "say bad words".

GTOgirl1969

I curse with gusto and frequency, especially any time I have a wrench in my hand.

Glad I'm not the only one. :laugh:

GTOgirl1969

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

That's the most shortsighted, snobbish, and elitist thing I've read in a while.

cal1973

"Bloody bullsh*t"! I love it!! Why is it that when the British curse it sounds so classy?? I make one of my English friends say swear words for me just so I can hear them. lol

Doesn't sound too classy when someone is up in your face telling you to f@#k off - believe me........

ItsCasey

When my sister and I were growing up, if my dad heard another male, regardless of age, curse in front of us, he would politely pull them aside and ask them to refrain from speaking that way in front of his daughters. It mortified me back then, but as I got older, I came to realize that he was teaching ME a lesson about standing up for myself and demanding to be treated with respect.

I was simply raised to believe that cursing is rude, and I still think that. But I'm also aware that most people were not and are not raised that way, so if I want to be a functional member of society, I'm going to have to deal with it in some situations. The world is what it is. When it comes to personal relationships, however, I can choose not to deal with it. To me, it's no different than smoking or drinking or anything else that some people find so annoying or offensive than they don't want to be around people engaging in those activities.

LuckyLeprechaun

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That is all.

EmCarroll1990

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

That's the most shortsighted, snobbish, and elitist thing I've read in a while.

This. Judgemental much? Go outside of the world, and leave your little pretentious bubble, and learn that your false assumption is so wrong.

ItsCasey

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

That's the most shortsighted, snobbish, and elitist thing I've read in a while.

Eh, I think it's true to a certain degree. I would definitely describe my family as kind, but not "wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled," and I was still raised with the belief that profanity isn't proper. Where I think socioeconomics truly come into play on this issue is that people from upper class families tend to have a better grasp of the "time and place" aspect. From my experience, they tend to be more aware that there are certain circumstances where foul language is not only inappropriate but inexcusable and highly offensive.

yoovie

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

That's the most shortsighted, snobbish, and elitist thing I've read in a while.

o... did someone just say this snobbiness sincerely? I cant even... i ... its like... all they left out was Christian.... America saddens me so much right now. I had no idea that the amount of money my dad made at work before coming home and helping me with my homework and playing outside with my brother and I... had so much to do with whether or not I came from a good family.

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DizzieLittleLifter

eh, not a big deal. they're going to be around it ALL the time when they get older.
My parents cursed all the time too. & i also turned out ok :P

I honestly think its cute/funny to hear a little kid curse, especially when they mispronounce it...OMG adorable xD

Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!

I sincerely hope that this is a joke.

Lizzy_Sunflower

eh, not a big deal. they're going to be around it ALL the time when they get older.
My parents cursed all the time too. & i also turned out ok :P

I honestly think its cute/funny to hear a little kid curse, especially when they mispronounce it...OMG adorable xD

Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!

Your kid is totally gonna work for my kid one day

p0pr0cksnc0ke

eh, not a big deal. they're going to be around it ALL the time when they get older.
My parents cursed all the time too. & i also turned out ok :P

I honestly think its cute/funny to hear a little kid curse, especially when they mispronounce it...OMG adorable xD

Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!

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oh yea and

AnneH1977

"Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!"

And we wonder why we're slipping down the list of intelligent countries.

You know, there are girls who do all of the above...just saying...

p0pr0cksnc0ke

"Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!"

And we wonder why we're slipping down the list of intelligent countries.

Ya know, there are girls who do all of the above...just saying.

<~ example.

beccarockslife

LOL at the trolling.

My parents took the "if you know the words know when to use them" approach with me, I'm taking the same with my son. He's asked what the words mean. I've told him they are just for grown ups.

lunaephiliac

BEST. RESPONSE. EVER.

mommymeg2

I don't curse. My husband doesn't either. I can't imagine doing it in front of my children. That's what works for us.

ahealthy4u

If they don't hear it at home they are going to hear it some where sooner or later. As long as they know it is wrong then that is what matters. I told my two boy's that once they reached the age of 13-14 if the swore I didn't want to hear it in my presence. Then I told them once they were 16 and older if I heard it I would say something. Now they either swear or don't I myself have learned to control the swearing as well I have been told in the past I swear worse then a sailor.

I think as long as they know it isn't right that is what counts. My two kids have never been sent home from school or day care for swearing.

AnneH1977

"Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!"

And we wonder why we're slipping down the list of intelligent countries.

Ya know, there are girls who do all of the above...just saying.

<~ example.

My children haven't heard it from me once. And music choices do not decide intelligence level.
I love it.

CoachMelissaDi

Definitely a Nay. Good parents at least "try" to shield their children from it. Thats just my opinion and how I was raised and I turned out awesome! *oh yeah and since I did not go with the cursing crowd on this thread, all I can say is, "let the bashing begin"

Meggs209

My daddy always used to say:

Swearng is the attempt of a feeble mind to express itself

gwensmamma1234

Yay, but I don't do try to censor a little. I don't worry too much about it though since my daughter is a well behaved, polite, and respectable little girl. I raise her right, and I happen to curse along the way lol

kansaslifter

I don't swear at my kids. I never swore at their mother. My son once mouthed the f-bomb to his mother and I collared him, nose to nose, and told him not in my house and NEVER to his mother. (We are divorced.)

It's about respect. My parents taught me the English language and I can communicate very effectively without swearing. I had a boss that swore whenever he didn't get his way. He is the company CEO. I have hung up on him a few times for swearing at me. There's no cause for it. I do swear, but it's rare.

My guess is that any profession that the kids choose will probably frown on swearing in the work place. And freedom of speech does not always apply there.

Diary_Queen

I've cursed since I grew up and left my parents home. That was our family rule. As a child in their home, cursing was not allowed. If I did it in my circle of friends to look like a badass, well, that was just at my own risk. I'm the same with my children. They know what all of the adult words are. They know that they are children in my house and are subject to the rules of my house or of any grown-ups house. If they are unsure of a rule, they are welcome to ask but are required to follow them respectfully. Of course, this only happens about 80% of the time because they're little kids.... they forget to put their shoes away and I trip over them. They leave a wild Lego on the floor from time to time, etc. They do not curse. The worst I've ever heard one of them say was 'damn' and that was quickly stopped in its tracks. My Mason was about 3 and couldn't find his 'damn sock'. That was the end of that mess. I don't think I've scarred them for life. I think I've given them the knowledge they need to follow the rules that I want followed. I'm an adult and I don't walk on eggshells around my own home. That goes for a lot more than cursing as well. If I choose to watch TV when they go to bed, that doesn't mean they can stay up and sneak back into the living room to watch TV. I make sure they know that they have different rules to follow because they are children. I also do my best not to negotiate with them. Sometimes I give in when they want an extra snack or want to finish a movie that ends at 8:15 on a non-school night (bedtime is 8:00 p.m. sharp). I do not negotiate about the rules though. A time out is a time out whether they apologize or not. No means no and will not be discussed. I love them more than my own life, but I don't raise my children as my friends. I'm a parent first and foremost.

Mama_CAEI

I swear, hubby swears, we just don't swear in front of the kids (8, 6 and 16 months). Actually, that's not true...the baby has heard me swear, but she's not going to rat me out. That being said, they hear stuff at school. They test it out at home. My 6 year old daughter LOVES announcing that someone in her class dropped the F-bomb, because she gets to say it many times. "Do you know what (name) said? He said F%^&. He said F%^& in front of the teacher. We're not supposed to say F%^&." Okay, sweetie, point taken. :laugh:
I tell my kids they are ugly words that grown-ups use when they're mad and that little kids shouldn't say them. Simple and straightforward.

_Christine_

I didn't swear till I had kids.

alucard75

I swear a lot...kids hear me, they not what bads words are and that they cannot say them. Sometimes it is a stress reliever to release a few colorfull words.

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paigemarie93

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

You have GOT to be kidding me.