cursing + having little kids ==

AlsDonkBoxSquat

I curse, I keep it to a minimum infront of my 2.5 year old. My son mimicks me. I'm not a do as I say, not as I do kind of person. I had to change a couple of things about who I am when I became a mom, to me it was a part of basic responsibility. I don't get drunk on any given Wednesday, I don't watch adult primarily programming whenever I want, I don't drive like an *kitten* hole anymore, and I'm aware of where I store things.

I think when I drink because I don't want to handle my son drunk, if the TV's on when he's awake it's educational (and not sex ed), I drive like I'm behind the wheel of a 2,000 pound death trap and go the speed limit, I lock up the windex because it looks like blue gateorade, the medicines have their own place, knives and scissors no long live where ever I last used them, and I keep my words in check. There are much better ways to articulate your thoughts and feelings than swearing, I just didn't realize how blurting out a word was holding me back. I think that by keeping it in check I'm not making them special words but instead teach him that there are better ways to express yourself.
He's 2.5, he doesn't need to live in the land of adults where negativity, frustrations, and worry over money presides . . . I'm giving him the grace of child hood with as much innocence as I know how. Mine was stolen from me, he's going to keep his as long as possible.

Im_NotPerfect

My husband and I curse around our kids (5 and 3). We try to curb WHICH curse words our kids hear, but there's no way either of us could curb it 100%. I try to save it for our bowling night out when they aren't around, but it's just not possible. Our kids know which words are mommy and daddy words and actually ask us if something is a bad word or not.

fj211

I have cursed in front of my kid .He now curses ....and I hate it. He's really bright and has a fantastic vocabulary for a 10 year old. We've both started doing this thing where if one curses, the other will ask "isn't there a more educated and appropriate way to express your feelings right now?"
Then we laugh and we do indeed find many acceptable and funny ways to voice what's bothering us--without profanity.

chrissyw63

I was putting my son to bed early the other night for being a brat all day and disrespecting his mother.(he was tired) Anyway, on the way up the stairs he called me a "Vagina". It was hard not to laugh. Vagina- ha ha ha!

This just made my day.

Pocket_Pixi

Definitely a Nay. Good parents at least "try" to shield their children from it. Thats just my opinion and how I was raised and I turned out awesome! *oh yeah and since I did not go with the cursing crowd on this thread, all I can say is, "let the bashing begin"

Not gonna bash, I am actually curious... would you call someone who believe in NOT sheltering their children from things bad parents?

I grew up in a home where we were able to decide what music we listened to, what movies we watched, if we wanted to go to church or not, what to dress, how to do our hair and dress etc. (within reason of course)- I have never once swore at my mother, I have swore in her presence but never directly at her.

I turned out to be a pretty well adjusted adult. I swear, I have a degree and a half (had to drop out of school before I could get my 2nd degree because of work), I hold a full time job, and I curse worse then a sailor. I do however; always say please and thank you, I respect people of authourity, I dress appropriatly for where I am going (work, out with friends etc.) My hair has been every colour of the rainbow - and pretty much any style you can think. I am far from naiive - and as my mother puts it when asked why she allowed us to do what we wanted within reason "they have to learn sometime"

am not knocking you for NOT swearing or anything but I do think that saying "Good parents at least "try" to shield their children from it." is pretty harsh, my mother was/is a fantastic mother, just because she didn't stop me from swearing does not mean she was a bad mother. To me a bad parent is someone who neglects/beats their children... swearing infront of them does not equate to bad parenting.

cal1973

Definitely a Nay. Good parents at least "try" to shield their children from it.

*hangs head in shame for obviously not being a good parent............................

WhittRak

Try not to cuss in front of your kids. Just sayin.

Firefighter_Jay

Swearing is swearing. It's part of our language. But they need to understand that there is a time and a place for it, and that time is when they aren't children anymore. Sheltering them from it? Nope, as long as its not used to hurt someone anyway..

I also believe firmly believe that not teaching children the proper names for body parts breeds being ashamed of said parts of their bodies. I won't go into details, because I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about.

Pocket_Pixi

Swearing is swearing. It's part of our language. But they need to understand that there is a time and a place for it, and that time is when they aren't children anymore. Sheltering them from it? Nope, as long as its not used to hurt someone anyway..

I also believe firmly believe that not teaching children the proper names for body parts breeds being ashamed of said parts of their bodies. I won't go into details, because I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about.

I firmly agree with your last statement... I have always known the proper names for body parts - I don't think there was ever a time that I didn't use the proper name for a body part. I see nothing wrong with a child knowing that boys have penis' and girls have vaginas..

swalters1973

I have got to admit since having the kids I swear nowhere near as much as I used to.

My daughter came out with the odd swear words when she was little. We told her they were naughty words, to which she replied "but you say them" We told her if she hears us saying them she can tell us off. Which she thought was great.

wasro

My little girl (aged 6, never swears and I don't think even knows any swear words) said to me as I returned home from work "Daddy, did you bring me home Some Fu**ers". I asked her to repeat herself and realised it was a simple case of spoonerism. She meant to say "Thumb Suckers" - a type of lollipop that sits on your thumb. Relief

Fat2FitChick

I personally do not curse and do not curse at my or around them either. I am teaching my kids to use their brains to come up with other words to express themselves without having to use profanity. I just feel it is that is unnecessary but that is just how we roll.

Scott613

To each their own. I was cursing in English and Spanish by age 3. That's ahead of the curve!

callmeBAM

It's obvious here, anyone who does thinks they are right, anyone who doesn't thinks they are right. Pointless thread unless some facts or studies are introduced. Also, you each side probably looks down on the other side.

I cuss, but not in front of my parents, my kids, my wife, and certain other people (work, certain friends) out of respect. I would venture to say if you cuss around everyone with no concern for anyone else's ears, you are lacking respect for others and placing yourself above others.

Kids are very impressionable. I think I would err on the safe side and not use profanity in front of them if at all possible.

_Christine_

It's obvious here, anyone who does thinks they are right, anyone who doesn't thinks they are right. Pointless thread unless some facts or studies are introduced. Also, you each side probably looks down on the other side.

I cuss, but not in front of my parents, my kids, my wife, and certain other people (work, certain friends) out of respect. I would venture to say if you cuss around everyone with no concern for anyone else's ears, you are lacking respect for others and placing yourself above others.

Kids are very impressionable. I think I would err on the safe side and not use profanity in front of them if at all possible.

But it's so satisfying to cuss when you stub your toe or find the last DP is gone. <hangs head in shame>

JustineDianaD

It's obvious here, anyone who does thinks they are right, anyone who doesn't thinks they are right. Pointless thread unless some facts or studies are introduced. Also, you each side probably looks down on the other side.

I cuss, but not in front of my parents, my kids, my wife, and certain other people (work, certain friends) out of respect. I would venture to say if you cuss around everyone with no concern for anyone else's ears, you are lacking respect for others and placing yourself above others.

Kids are very impressionable. I think I would err on the safe side and not use profanity in front of them if at all possible.

* THIS EXACTLY! - only I almost never cuss, I was just brought up to believe it was not proper and there was no need for it!
But truly don't care if other people do it, just would prefer you didn't cuss at my children or me!

Firefighter_Jay

It's obvious here, anyone who does thinks they are right, anyone who doesn't thinks they are right. Pointless thread unless some facts or studies are introduced. Also, you each side probably looks down on the other side.

I cuss, but not in front of my parents, my kids, my wife, and certain other people (work, certain friends) out of respect. I would venture to say if you cuss around everyone with no concern for anyone else's ears, you are lacking respect for others and placing yourself above others.

Kids are very impressionable. I think I would err on the safe side and not use profanity in front of them if at all possible.

But it's so satisfying to cuss when you stub your toe or find the last DP is gone. <hangs head in shame>

For Christine:
http://newsfeed.time.com/2011/04/18/wtf-study-shows-swearing-reduces-pain/

Firefighter_Jay

* THIS EXACTLY! - only I almost never cuss, I was just brought up to believe it was not proper and there was no need for it!
But truly don't care if other people do it, just would prefer you didn't cuss at my children or me!

No excuse to cuss at children ever.

MissTattoo

I swear but I don't do it on purpose in front of my child. I sometimes slip up, but I don't think it's cute when kids curse. I had an eight year old tell me to *kitten* off one time and his mom thought it was cute. This is the same mom who ended up crying an entire afternoon when he was expelled from school for continuing to cuss at students and teachers after many many warnings.

I don't want to use the excuse that they will be exposed to it anyway so why not do it now. I mean, they are going to be exposed to cursing, porn, drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, sex, etc...so why make them wait to experience it?

_Christine_

But it's so satisfying to cuss when you stub your toe or find the last DP is gone. <hangs head in shame>

For Christine:
http://newsfeed.time.com/2011/04/18/wtf-study-shows-swearing-reduces-pain/

AWESOME!!

But does that mean I shouldn't cuss just because we're out of cold drinks?

robot_potato

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

You have GOT to be kidding me.

That's a laugh and a half. Way to ASSume things about other people.

_SusieQ_

Swearing is swearing. It's part of our language. But they need to understand that there is a time and a place for it, and that time is when they aren't children anymore. Sheltering them from it? Nope, as long as its not used to hurt someone anyway..

I also believe firmly believe that not teaching children the proper names for body parts breeds being ashamed of said parts of their bodies. I won't go into details, because I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about.

I firmly agree with your last statement... I have always known the proper names for body parts - I don't think there was ever a time that I didn't use the proper name for a body part. I see nothing wrong with a child knowing that boys have penis' and girls have vaginas..

I agree in theory Pixi, but in actuality I hate the term vagina. It's just such an harsh sounding word. :laugh:

Brandongood

I curse, I keep it to a minimum infront of my 2.5 year old. My son mimicks me. I'm not a do as I say, not as I do kind of person. I had to change a couple of things about who I am when I became a mom, to me it was a part of basic responsibility. I don't get drunk on any given Wednesday, I don't watch adult primarily programming whenever I want, I don't drive like an *kitten* hole anymore, and I'm aware of where I store things.

I think when I drink because I don't want to handle my son drunk, if the TV's on when he's awake it's educational (and not sex ed), I drive like I'm behind the wheel of a 2,000 pound death trap and go the speed limit, I lock up the windex because it looks like blue gateorade, the medicines have their own place, knives and scissors no long live where ever I last used them, and I keep my words in check. There are much better ways to articulate your thoughts and feelings than swearing, I just didn't realize how blurting out a word was holding me back. I think that by keeping it in check I'm not making them special words but instead teach him that there are better ways to express yourself.
He's 2.5, he doesn't need to live in the land of adults where negativity, frustrations, and worry over money presides . . . I'm giving him the grace of child hood with as much innocence as I know how. Mine was stolen from me, he's going to keep his as long as possible.

100% agree

Pocket_Pixi

Swearing is swearing. It's part of our language. But they need to understand that there is a time and a place for it, and that time is when they aren't children anymore. Sheltering them from it? Nope, as long as its not used to hurt someone anyway..

I also believe firmly believe that not teaching children the proper names for body parts breeds being ashamed of said parts of their bodies. I won't go into details, because I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about.

I firmly agree with your last statement... I have always known the proper names for body parts - I don't think there was ever a time that I didn't use the proper name for a body part. I see nothing wrong with a child knowing that boys have penis' and girls have vaginas..

I agree in theory Pixi, but in actuality I hate the term vagina. It's just such an harsh sounding word. :laugh:

I hate the word to and seldom use it because it just sounds wrong :laugh:

Firefighter_Jay

But it's so satisfying to cuss when you stub your toe or find the last DP is gone. <hangs head in shame>

For Christine:
http://newsfeed.time.com/2011/04/18/wtf-study-shows-swearing-reduces-pain/

AWESOME!!

But does that mean I shouldn't cuss just because we're out of cold drinks?

It's just my wife and I, but I learned very quickly never, and not to even think about drinking the last coke unless we have a case that can go back in the fridge as soon as I take the empty one out. I'm afraid of the last coke. Lol

Brandongood

I swear but I don't do it on purpose in front of my child. I sometimes slip up, but I don't think it's cute when kids curse. I had an eight year old tell me to *kitten* off one time and his mom thought it was cute. This is the same mom who ended up crying an entire afternoon when he was expelled from school for continuing to cuss at students and teachers after many many warnings.

I don't want to use the excuse that they will be exposed to it anyway so why not do it now. I mean, they are going to be exposed to cursing, porn, drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, sex, etc...so why make them wait to experience it?

exactly. let kids be KIDS.

lour441

<snip>
*kitten* YOU!
<snip>

Did you type that in front of little kids??!

ChristineW82

I think kids who are too sheltered tend to act up more because it's something they "can't" do. I'm not saying I allow my kids to run wild, far from that. I believe they have more of insight on right and wrong.

I never wanted to tell my kids the crap load of Santa ... think it's just a big lie were trained to tell our kids.

spazwgeo

I love how just because some of us don't swear in front of our kids they are automatically "sheltered" children. whatever.

Firefighter_Jay

I think kids who are too sheltered tend to act up more because it's something they "can't" do. I'm not saying I allow my kids to run wild, far from that. I believe they have more of insight on right and wrong.

I never wanted to tell my kids the crap load of Santa ... think it's just a big lie were trained to tell our kids.

I don't have kids, so I don't know what I would do. But I've got a friend who didn't tell their children about santa, saying that if he lies to them, how can he give them trouble for lying to him.