cursing + having little kids ==

cindy4mica

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

Soooo, those of us who swear are simply bad, unintelligent, poor trash?? One of the most ignorant statements made EVER.

SmartAlec03211988

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

Soooo, those of us who swear are simply bad, unintelligent, poor trash?? One of the most ignorant statements made EVER.

Agreed.

spazwgeo

You know why is it that if we don't agree with swearing around our kids we get attacked?!? If you wanna swear in your home then swear to your hearts content!! We are just letting you know what we think about the matter. If you feel like you're being judged.....you are..to a point. People are never going to completely agree with what we do as parents...ever! All I know is that my kids will have enough stuff to worry about as they get older and if swearing will make them 'appear' to be trashy or uneducated then I'm not gonna show them that it's ok to swear when they get older. Yes you can say "those are big people words". But I don't think that 'big people' should use them either!

carolann_22

DH and I don't swear, we don't listen to uncensored music, and I'd really prefer that people NOT swear in front of our kids. We actually stopped playing softball with our team because we couldn't take the kids because of the language and we couldn't get a sitter every Thursday night. Of course I don't believe that they are never going to hear it, I know they live in the real world, but I'd prefer them not to hear it constantly when they are young. Once they get to school they will hear it enough....

anawhatsme

i swear, but not a lot. when my 13 year old was younger i would never swear around him. i would be ok with using light swear words around him now. i know he swears with his peers.
i also have a 2 year old and i won't swear around him. i think it's disrespectful to swear in front of kids.

i_love_vinegar

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

Soooo, those of us who swear are simply bad, unintelligent, poor trash?? One of the most ignorant statements made EVER.

Please read my entire statement. I clearly stated this wasn't a set thing. In fact, I wasn't even making a broad statement at all -- simply pointing out my personal experience.

While one thing does not necessarily equal another, I have noticed a correlation and am quite certain others have as well -- Just look at the variety of responses to this question.

Lyndahoots

I swear a lot around my kids (7 & 9). I've never hid it. It's just something I knew I would not be able to control. I've also told them that I don't want to hear those words coming from them. And I never have. They've never gone through that stage of repeating everything they hear. They get mad at each other but swearing never comes into play. Ever since they were young I would recite a list of words they should never say - hate, stupid, Jesus (In a bad way), etc, and then swearing (not actually saying the words but they knew what I was talking about). As they got older I would ask them what words should they never say and they would recite the list (it was the only time the words were okay to say). My daughter was doing a program at our library reading to therapy dogs and the handlers would be there with the dogs. My daughter was reading the story and came to the word "hate". She stopped and the woman told her the word since she though she might be struggling with it. My daughter just told her I know the word but I'm not allowed to say it. Made my day.

i_love_vinegar

You know why is it that if we don't agree with swearing around our kids we get attacked?!? If you wanna swear in your home then swear to your hearts content!! We are just letting you know what we think about the matter. If you feel like you're being judged.....you are..to a point. People are never going to completely agree with what we do as parents...ever! All I know is that my kids will have enough stuff to worry about as they get older and if swearing will make them 'appear' to be trashy or uneducated then I'm not gonna show them that it's ok to swear when they get older. Yes you can say "those are big people words". But I don't think that 'big people' should use them either!

I agree -- Very well said. We all have the right to share our opinions.

CoachMaritova

I only curse in German. That makes it okay, right?!

tabulator32

I usually don't swear, however, when I do, I make it worth my while.

I do find it peculiar that society, in general, defines "curse words" as the terms listed by the FCC as unsuitable for public broadcast communications.

That FCC list of words has somehow become a legal precedent for what local, state and federal government...as well as private and corporate businesses...consider to be unsuitable for use in our general conversation.

Funny how that developed, isn't it?

boomboom011

I only curse in German. That makes it okay, right?!

i cuss in spanish!!!!

and on that note the "child" that said she doesnt want her kid's nose in a book, aye pendeja!

Darkskinned88

Aside from the fact that children cursing will forever be hilarious (in addition to old people, people with thick accents) I try not to. In fact as i'm starting my career i'm trying not to curse myself or at least break the habit of saying f___ing when i cant come up with another adjective

rbear713

I was putting my son to bed early the other night for being a brat all day and disrespecting his mother.(he was tired) Anyway, on the way up the stairs he called me a "Vagina". It was hard not to laugh. Vagina- ha ha ha!

Id have lost it....vagina? I would have had to choke off the laughter and get myself back under control so I could call the little rat a butt munch or something...

Agree with most that its no big deal. I recently declared to my kids (7 and 4) that *kitten* is no longer a curse word for mommy and daddy - its too hard to not curse at all, and the s bomb is not so terrible - its just a thing, right?

My kids also understand that they will hear bad words and know them all - they know they are not allowed to say them. period.

So don't worry - knowledge and understanding are invaluable tools to give your children. By cursing around them - they gain knowledge. By explaining to them WHY they are not to repeat or utter these adult words, you give them understanding.

I'm bettin they end up better off for it....

_snw_

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

holy fu@king wow. <---- I'm going to call my parents right now and tell them after all the evidence points otherwise, we are actually a "bad" family!!!!

and ~then~ I'm going to update my internal dictionary to re-define what a "good" family and a "bad" family means.

Hrm.

Good family = wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled
Bad family = poor, non-educated and not wealthy enough to travel.

Let's see, I have 2 bachelor degrees, 1 master's degree and 1/2 to another BS... educated? check.
My parents both had very well paying careers and I'm a software engineer, so um, yeah. check.
Not a world traveler, but I've seen most of my continent. half check?
I swear == overrides everything. Bam. I'm from a "bad" family!!! yes!!!

dawnagetsfit

I've always sworn in front of my children; the F and S words are common, every day words in this house. I've taught my children what I believe which is that these are just strong, expressive words - *words*. I've taught them the "flow chart" and they know that they aren't allowed to start using those words until they are much older and can rationalize and control when and when not to use them.

Not a big deal IMO.

i_love_vinegar

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

holy fu@king wow. <---- I'm going to call my parents right now and tell them after all the evidence points otherwise, we are actually a "bad" family!!!!

and ~then~ I'm going to update my internal dictionary to re-define what a "good" family and a "bad" family means.

Hrm.

Good family = wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled
Bad family = poor, non-educated and not wealthy enough to travel.

Let's see, I have 2 bachelor degrees, 1 master's degree and 1/2 to another BS... educated? check.
My parents both had very well paying careers and I'm a software engineer, so um, yeah. check.
Not a world traveler, but I've seen most of my continent. half check?
I swear == overrides everything. Bam. I'm from a "bad" family!!! yes!!!

From the last page of this topic:

In my experience, people who come from "good" (kind, wealthy, well-educated and well-traveled) families do NOT swear nearly as much as those who come from "bad" families.

Soooo, those of us who swear are simply bad, unintelligent, poor trash?? One of the most ignorant statements made EVER.

Please read my entire statement. I clearly stated this wasn't a set thing. In fact, I wasn't even making a broad statement at all -- simply pointing out my personal experience.

While one thing does not necessarily equal another, I have noticed a correlation and am quite certain others have as well -- Just look at the variety of responses to this question.

Why ask this question if all you want are people who agree with you?

mixedfeelings

I always try to watch myself around my cousins, mainly because some of the stuff that comes out of my mouth can be quite vile.

Saying that they've picked up plenty of cursing from our 83 year old Grandma, English is her second language and most of the words she has learnt from her time in the UK appear to be expletives.

Alicia_Monique

My parents hardly EVER cursed in front of me, and my mother still does not. My dad says **** and *kitten* sometimes, but not on a regular basis. The first time I heard him say **** I burst into tears because he was REALLY angry.

I was not allowed to cuss, I couldn't say pee, suck, crap, frick, anything at all. If I did I would be reprimanded. I think cussing in front of my parents or anybody older than me who I'm not friends with is SO disrespectful! I have a terrible mouth, but I couldn't imagine cussing in front of a little kid. I think it's obnoxious.

I don't think it's funny or cute when little 12 year olds tell somebody (like their parents or teachers?) to **** off. It's rude. It's disrespectful.

running_mom

My exhusband works in a factory and would come home and talk to me like he was with the boys. I don't care... its not like I don't swear either. My son uses swear words in the correct way too! Its funny but kinda embarassing when they say it in public. But, they hear it in public. I try and make an effort not to swear in front of them but it happens.

Thats when parenting comes in and the mom and dad sit the child down and talk to them about being appropriate and the difference between what adults can do and what children can do.

SkinnieFinnie

Obviously I cuss around my kids. No, I am not "poor, uneducated or come from a bad family".. My 3yr old son told my 7yr old daughter "I'm gonna bust your *kitten*!" - Oh and I spank my kids too.

catherine4211

If you asked both of my kids this very second what my favorite word is they would both say f**k. But they would say the "F" word. They are 16 and 13 and I have NEVER heard either one of them say it. They might in front of their friends but that's normal to me.

DieVixen

eh, not a big deal. they're going to be around it ALL the time when they get older.
My parents cursed all the time too. & i also turned out ok :P

I honestly think its cute/funny to hear a little kid curse, especially when they mispronounce it...OMG adorable xD

Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!

Ha! whats wrong with books? Do people who curse not read? Did I miss the memo?

what kid/teen wants to read? I dont know anyone who reads for fun...
Im saying id rather her not read, but, if she ever wants to, then ok.

My 16 year old reads all the time and has tons of friends,books are important

DieVixen

Women and profanity is neither attractive nor classy. Regardless of your educational background and career, if your vocabulary is not extensive enough to where you must use vulgar language in order to make a point, you will appear as uneducated.

My vocabulary is VERY extensive,I also could not give a *kitten* if people think I appear uneducated.Why should I care what random people think of me?

_snw_

Why ask this question if all you want are people who agree with you?

What? As far as i noticed, i haven't disagreed nor argued with anyone who says they don't curse in front of their children. The only thing I have replied on is when people say outrageous generalities like that. "bad" families and "good" families. Holy hell. Really? And if you can read through the veiled sarcasm (not that hard to catch, i promise) you'll see it wasn't even a commentary on the cursing correlation you geniusly came up with, it was actually about your definitions of "good" and "bad" families. Way to stereotype... good job!

i_love_vinegar

Why ask this question if all you want are people who agree with you?

What? As far as i noticed, i haven't disagreed nor argued with anyone who says they don't curse in front of their children. The only thing I have replied on is when people say outrageous generalities like that. "bad" families and "good" families. Holy hell. Really? And if you can read through the veiled sarcasm (not that hard to catch, i promise) you'll see it wasn't even a commentary on the cursing correlation you geniusly came up with, it was actually about your definitions of "good" and "bad" families. Way to stereotype... good job!

That's why I placed "good" and "bad" in quotes, as demonstrated in this sentence as well as in my original post.

I realize I have offended a few people and I should have been clearer in explaining my answer. I'm sorry. My intention was not to offend anyone. I hope you guys can forgive me for my poor choice in wording. :flowerforyou:

Pocket_Pixi

I didn't really read all the replies, I got to the one with the "i would rather my child NOT read because they would have no friends" and had to stop.

I read, I have read A LOT since I was a child. I went out, I had friends, I was a normal every day kid . Now I am an adult, I read - all the damn time, I still have lots of friends. I listen to music, I drink, I talk like a sailor. Reading does not affect how a child lives - you are stupid.

To Nancy, personally I see nothing wrong with swearing in front of kids. I lived with my niece for a while and I never changed the way I talked around her. She has yet to drop the eff bomb, but she has said swear words before and quickly goes "oops not supposed to say that." and giggles - she is now 7.

I think people put too much stock into swearing, honestly its a word, it is not the end of the world. I am well educated, I am pretty well adjusted, I also use swear words more than some would like but you know what??? it makes me no less educated. I say be yourself.

Pocket_Pixi

You know why is it that if we don't agree with swearing around our kids we get attacked?!? If you wanna swear in your home then swear to your hearts content!! We are just letting you know what we think about the matter. If you feel like you're being judged.....you are..to a point. People are never going to completely agree with what we do as parents...ever! All I know is that my kids will have enough stuff to worry about as they get older and if swearing will make them 'appear' to be trashy or uneducated then I'm not gonna show them that it's ok to swear when they get older. Yes you can say "those are big people words". But I don't think that 'big people' should use them either!

I agree -- Very well said. We all have the right to share our opinions.

So you are a Gosh darn and a poopy head person? Seriously?? I am not attacking anyone who doesn't swear/ doesn't want their children to swear its your prerogative, but honestly sometimes gosh darn and shucks do not do the trick. Do I appear trashy?? oh to some people probably. I grew up in a home where swearing was not preferred but now you know what? Talk to anyone of my siblings and they will tell you straight up that fvck is just a normal word..

I have yet to meet an adult who says gosh darn when they are mad - and I know a LOT of adults from MANY different back grounds including Christians who swear.

I think you all need to get a grip - especially the person who made the statement about good families and bad families because in my personal experience its the "good" families that have trouble with children who drink and do drugs in excess because they were the ones who were sheltered from it, same goes with the swearing - those that were sheltered from it use it a whole lot more then those of us who were not...so your broad assessment of your personal experience is a bunch of bloody bullsh!t.

i_love_vinegar

You know why is it that if we don't agree with swearing around our kids we get attacked?!? If you wanna swear in your home then swear to your hearts content!! We are just letting you know what we think about the matter. If you feel like you're being judged.....you are..to a point. People are never going to completely agree with what we do as parents...ever! All I know is that my kids will have enough stuff to worry about as they get older and if swearing will make them 'appear' to be trashy or uneducated then I'm not gonna show them that it's ok to swear when they get older. Yes you can say "those are big people words". But I don't think that 'big people' should use them either!

I agree -- Very well said. We all have the right to share our opinions.

So you are a Gosh darn and a poopy head person? Seriously?? I am not attacking anyone who doesn't swear/ doesn't want their children to swear its your prerogative, but honestly sometimes gosh darn and shucks do not do the trick.

And we weren't attacking anyone who does swear. ALTHOUGH it does seem from your wording that you were making fun of us with the beginning statement, "So you are a Gosh darn and a poopy head person?"

I agree with the statement "If you wanna swear in your home then swear to your hearts content!! We are just letting you know what we think about the matter."

I could care less if other people swear around their children.

You can call my PERSONAL experience "a bunch of bloody bull****," but in the end it is still my own personal experience. Just because it is not the same as YOURS does not mean it is okay to discredit MINE.

I stated that I should have been clearer in my wording. I apologized for it.

PS: I am an adult woman and most people I know do not swear except on very rare occasion. Obviously we simply have different experiences. I don't think that makes either one of us right or wrong.

hanahlai

I swear a lot more than I care to admit to most people. I am a teacher, and I definitely do not swear at school or out in public. I guess I have an internal off switch. If I am at home though (even with my kids around) I will curse. When I am around my other family, I don't. If I am around friends who curse I will occasionally curse. I guess it depends on who I am around. My daughter who is 6 knows that these are grown up words. The word sexy is a curse word to her too. LOL Whenever that "I'm sexy, and I know it" song comes on she tells me he's saying a bad word! lol She doesn't know what it means of course, but I just told her it was a grown up word and she associates it with curse words for now. lol

geezer99

Our rule was that you cannot use "hurting words." Stupid, hate you, you stink … Everything else was fair game including f**@. Our son discovered that his friends didn't approve of his vocabulary and that cleaned up his act.