Lighten the **** up!
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Totally disagree with you but that is ok. let us do it our way and you do it yours.
When you feel guilty don't take it out on those of us that are trying to take control over our bodies.
I'm pretty sure the OP's point was that there is no reason to feel guilty, and that the idea we should feel guilty for enjoying a treat (whatever that may be) is detrimental to the overall goal of living a fit life. Your post implies that the person who "binges" isn't trying to take control over his or her body. I save a few calories during the week so I can have a treat on the weekend. Does that mean I'm not trying to take control over my body? I see that as finding a way to work with my body to stay happy and fit at the same time. I stay within my weekly calorie goal, I lose weight, and I get to enjoy certain foods that I love. Will this work for everyone? Of course not. But it works for me, and for others in a similar situation they should not feel guilty or as if they have lost control. I took that as the point of the original post, and I wholeheartedly agree.0 -
"Obsessed is just a word the lazy use to describe dedicated."
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Totally disagree with you but that is ok. let us do it our way and you do it yours.
When you feel guilty don't take it out on those of us that are trying to take control over our bodies.
I'm pretty sure the OP's point was that there is no reason to feel guilty, and that the idea we should feel guilty for enjoying a treat (whatever that may be) is detrimental to the overall goal of living a fit life. Your post implies that the person who "binges" isn't trying to take control over his or her body. I save a few calories during the week so I can have a treat on the weekend. Does that mean I'm not trying to take control over my body? I see that as finding a way to work with my body to stay happy and fit at the same time. I stay within my weekly calorie goal, I lose weight, and I get to enjoy certain foods that I love. Will this work for everyone? Of course not. But it works for me, and for others in a similar situation they should not feel guilty or as if they have lost control. I took that as the point of the original post, and I wholeheartedly agree.
The OP did say. - some of you eat fruit and veg and protein all the time - what the ...
this is implying something wrong with you if you don't enjoy a treat.
I agree with his main point of have a treat and don't feel guilty as you shouldn't. If treats part of your diet and you are losing that's great. Everyone has to do what works. I have some treats as it keeps me sane.
Oh, absolutely - I agree - I don't think anyone should be criticizing others for not doing it a certain way. It was just the judgment in the responses that I was reacting to. I can see how some people might have taken offense, but I saw several instances where those folks then turned around and did the same thing they were accusing the OP of doing.
I don't post a lot, but I spend a lot of time reading these forums, and I see so much hostility between people who take different approaches to the same goal, as if we were all in a competition to locate the "right" way to become a healthy person. I appreciate reading about how others have achieved success because it gives me ideas to try for myself, but ultimately I'll do what works for me. I expect others to do the same. I personally appreciated this because it was a good reminder for someone like me who in the past has had a tendency to think that if I eat a snickers bar, it's all over and I might as well give up on ever eating healthy ever again.0 -
HTotally disagree with you but that is ok. let us do it our way and you do it yours.
When you feel guilty don't take it out on those of us that are trying to take control over our bodies.
I'm pretty sure the OP's point was that there is no reason to feel guilty, and that the idea we should feel guilty for enjoying a treat (whatever that may be) is detrimental to the overall goal of living a fit life. Your post implies that the person who "binges" isn't trying to take control over his or her body. I save a few calories during the week so I can have a treat on the weekend. Does that mean I'm not trying to take control over my body? I see that as finding a way to work with my body to stay happy and fit at the same time. I stay within my weekly calorie goal, I lose weight, and I get to enjoy certain foods that I love. Will this work for everyone? Of course not. But it works for me, and for others in a similar situation they should not feel guilty or as if they have lost control. I took that as the point of the original post, and I wholeheartedly agree.
The OP did say. - some of you eat fruit and veg and protein all the time - what the ...
this is implying something wrong with you if you don't enjoy a treat.
I agree with his main point of have a treat and don't feel guilty as you shouldn't. If treats part of your diet and you are losing that's great. Everyone has to do what works. I have some treats as it keeps me sane.
Oh, absolutely - I agree - I don't think anyone should be criticizing others for not doing it a certain way. It was just the judgment in the responses that I was reacting to. I can see how some people might have taken offense, but I saw several instances where those folks then turned around and did the same thing they were accusing the OP of doing.
I don't post a lot, but I spend a lot of time reading these forums, and I see so much hostility between people who take different approaches to the same goal, as if we were all in a competition to locate the "right" way to become a healthy person. I appreciate reading about how others have achieved success because it gives me ideas to try for myself, but ultimately I'll do what works for me. I expect others to do the same. I personally appreciated this because it was a good reminder for someone like me who in the past has had a tendency to think that if I eat a snickers bar, it's all over and I might as well give up on ever eating healthy ever again.
I agree with you. I have a tendency to eat something and think its the end of the world. So trying to change that ans stop yo-yo dieting.0 -
I was laying in bed feeling so guilty about the 3 mini (mini!) chocolate bars I had..then read this and felt better, so thanks :-)0
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gonna go eat some chicken crackers now cause i want to!!
yes you are right, im never not going to eat things that i enjoy!!0 -
What's a Kit Kat Chunky? I've had green tea Kit Kat, but never heard of a chunky version...
Although it's probably because, when I get to the candy aisle, I head straight for the coconut Twix and/or Butterfinger :bigsmile:
COCONUT TWIX?!?!?! GIMME GIMME GIMME!! :sad:0 -
AMEN.0
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I had a Guylian chocolate yesterday (YUM)... ALMOST no regret... :P0
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I had a jamocha shake at arbys (hubby went there for dinner.. Didnt like what i cooked) was the baby shake.. So yum0
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This is honestly my take on it. Someone commented on my diary the other day saying I was eating too many carbs, even though I always stay well under what mfp suggests, and under my calorie limit. You know what? No. I'd rather have that sliver of cake and lose the weight a little more slowly while enjoying my life, thanks.0
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Right? Everything in moderation. There was this INSANE butterfingers cake recipe thread that was RI-DIC-U-LOUS. People were being so mean about her posting it.
HOW DARE YOU POST SOMETHING THAT'S DELICIOUS WITH SUGAR IN IT THAT'S NOT A SMOOTHIE ON THIS WEBSITE!!!! ARG! I'M STARVING AND YOU MADE ME MORE HUNGRY!
*shakin' my head*0 -
Oh. I can't reply to all of you.
Thank you to the supporters. YOU understand what I meant. I love you guys x
To the haters.
This post wasn't directed at you if:
- You are sticking to a regimented diet because you have to
- You are training for some major sporting event.
- You can't have even a little of your chosen treat becasue you'll binge
BUT this post WAS directed at those:
- who are making a lifestyle change they are not going to be able to sustain because they will not allow themselves ANY treats whatsoever..
- who are being unnecessarily harsh on themselves.
- who needed to hear this.
If you don't like it then it probably doesn't apply to you. I'm not telling you to overeat or stuff your face with that chosen treat (and some of you are being so pedantic that I mentioned chocolate - it was an example!). I'm telling you that >>> you don't have to <<< beat yourself up over a little treat. You can if you like. Really. I don't care. But some people are doing so unnecessarily and I think they needed to hear this.
I was only trying to help. Not create a storm.
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Bravo! Thanks for this post.0
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Don't call those that disagree with you haters. it's just silly.0
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I completely agree
I went out for a curry on friday night with my boyfriend and i started feeking guilty about it, but I told myself that we hardly ever go out and just enjoyed myself, and it was one of the best currys I have ever eaten 0 -
Don't call those that disagree with you haters. it's just silly.
I agree, This post was pretty petty and immature. SMH....
Just because a person is dedicated to making my health the best it can be and that does not make me or anyone else a hater.
Does the OP even know what being a "hater" is??? Someone that is jealous or envious, which if we are not eating crappy sugar filled candy bars and stuff it is because WE DON'T WANT TO and that does not make any of us jealous or envious.
In fact, I am repulsed by just the smell of junk food. The sickening sweet smell is enough to make me vomit. You can have it, I don't want it.
Fruit is natures candy and that is what I prefer.
I stand by the quote I posted earlier.
Obessed is what the LAZY use to describe the dedicated.0 -
Fruit is natures candy and that is what I prefer.
I'll agree with you there. But I've also seen a number of posts from people who felt GUILT over eating fruit because it's high in sugar or calories. Those people might need to read this post. Might need to see posts from people who are achieving or have achieved their goals without depriving themselves. Might need to realize that their calorie goal should leave them with enough wiggle room to include some fun food every now and then, whether that fun food is a Kit Kat or a bowl of strawberries, and if they don't have room, they should probably revisit their goals. Or, as the OP put it... Might need to lighten the **** up.0 -
:happy: Amen to that!!!0
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I TOTALLY agree, BUT for me it can serve as a trigger for wanting more, More, MORE!!! And that is where the self-control has to step up. Ice cream is a huge trigger for me. I love it and don't want to stop with 1 bowl.0
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I agree! I'm human. I like my treats. I eat whatever the hell I want in moderation, but if I go ahead and eat (gasp) an entire candy bar, I'm not going to flagellate myself or force myself to run on a treadmill for an hour to try to burn it off. Life's too short.0
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I love me some good chocolate and wine!
People need to remember, it's not about cutting stuff out, but portion control. You can eat what you want, just don't be doing it 50000000 times a day!0 -
Agreed, but then I've always known portion control, so its never been a problem for me, so I can easily say "Oh sure, no problem to enjoy a treat now and again...."0
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What the heck does it matter what I do? I don't need to eat candy bars to live life to the fullest... I'm glad you're happy to do so, if that's what you want, but different people have different priorities, you know?0
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Applause!!!
Yes. What she said.
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Well said! This is an important reminder. It's not likely in 5,7 or 10 years from now we'll all be counting our calories everyday - at least I hope not as you said life is already short. It's a great approach to learning, about how and what you eat along with really understanding portion control but at some point it must become lifestyle.
I had a wonderful piece of Super Crunch Cake last Friday and I don't even have a sweet tooth but after losing 20 pounds that was my commitment to myself in learning moderation. If my friend has a birthday, my family have celebrations, of course I'm going to have some chips an dip along with load of veggies.
I got into this overweight issue by being out of balance, I refuse to simply swing the other way.
Good post OP and a nice reminder as we all head into another week.0 -
I think some people have an all or nothing attitude that is hard to get over.
If they eat a sweet, they'll keep eating them; they can't treat themselves to just one.
Or I am sure certain people don't think "bad" foods taste good enough, or are worth it to possibly inflict on their day.
To each their own.0 -
Do what is right for you and don't worry about other people.
The best advice anyone can give or get.0 -
I just had a Kit Kat Chunky.
No regrets.
Some of you take calorie counting and weight loss far too seriously.
Remember, you are human and you only have one life to live. Do something with it!
Don't spend all your time obsessing over carbs and macros and calories. I hear some of you saying 'oh, it's my friends brithday and I can't have any cake' or 'my partner just ordered takeaway and I'm not allowed to share it with him!'
Wrong.
You cannot - SHOULD NOT - let calorie counting rule your every waking moment. You can't do this to yourself! You're human and deserve to let yourself enjoy things in life. Stop depriving yourself of enjoyment and experience because 'there's too many calories' in it.
Some of you just eat fruit and vegetables and protein all the time.
WHAT THE ****?!
Christ, treat yourself to a chocolate bar now and again. You deserve it! You shouldn't feel like you have to deprive yourself of anything!
One Kit Kat Chunky will not make you gain 10lbs instantly. It can be good for you - boosting your metabolism, and make you feel better for earning it.
If you're losing weight properly (1 or 2lbs a week, not crash dieting) then a little treat will not make you gain weight!
Please, you're human. Enjoy being human.
DISCLAIMER: Obviously, I'm not saying eat junk all the time. But you should allow yourself a treat. Deprivation never works. Trust me.
This turned into more of a rant than I expected.
Ta for reading
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This times 10!!! Thank you for letting it out!0 -
i agree completely!! i had a large kfc last week and still managed to lose weight! its all about being able to keep it as a treat!!0
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