Would you cheat?

RenaPink11

I

salmanajmal

looks do not matter that much

DarthCeltic

ummm? is she hot? haha


depends is she coming on to me? or do i have to work for it? im kind of lazy.. so anything that falls in my lap.. you know..

SweetProgression

people cheat for many reasons... If a guy cheats on a girl solely because of size he's a jerk, BUT if he's tried to get her into dropping the pounds and she won't even try... It's still wrong but it is understandable. Weight impacts every part of a person and it's only so much one can do to motivate another. Would I cheat if the person wasnt trying to loose weight I doubt but it's tempting just like neglect, laziness, and all the other reasons to cheat... As for the whole leaving instead of cheating? After you invest years, finances, and your heart into someone it's not easy to just walk away.Cheating is the easiest thing but not the right thing. Whatever got the guy it's going to keep him.

Also you would be a tad odd to say you know for sure you wouldn't cheat. You haven't experienced every situation so you can't say what you'd do. I use to say what I would and wouldn't do when I was a teenager. Also cheating isn't just sex you cheat in many ways.

aippolito1

Nope. My man has gained weight (as have I) since we first met, and I still get butterflies when I see him, say, after being at work all day. I'm attracted to who he is as a person, who he is to me, how he treats me, etc. I can't imagine kissing or having sex with anyone else while I'm with him. I'm just not attracted to anyone else.

grinch031

OK, if you had asked me this question 2 years ago, I would have said "hell no, there is no way I would ever cheat on my wife". My wife is damn good looking and I am proud to have her by my side. However a year and a half ago I found myself falling in love with another woman who was twice as big as my wife, and nowhere near as attractive. I totally admit I was stupid and made a hugh mistake. Lucky for me, my wife stuck with me and currently our marriage is stronger than it ever has been.

Never say never because you do not know what is going to be around the corner.

Let's face it, most of the people who have doubts about their own marriage/partner are not responding. Only the ones currently in a happy relationship are responding. That is probably not even the majority of couples out there. Some of us have the capacity to see what could go wrong in our relationship even though its still in happy times. I just know that statistics don't lie. Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst.

amandahoppes

I'll be honest and say that I cheated on many a girlfriend in my younger years. Many times I had the perfect bodied girlfriend and still cheated with someone who may have been more "fluffy". Why? Because my attitude at that time was that if a girl broke it off with me, I could get another. I wasn't in it for love, I was in it for sex.
So I don't think it has anything to do with body type, looks, money etc. I think people cheat because whoever they are cheating with makes them feel important or desirable at the time.

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I like this because I think you are right. I don't think it has anything to do with looks. I have been on the receiving end of a cheating relationship before and after counseling with that S.O. I realized that it wasn't me causing him to stray, or that he wasn't getting what he wanted at home. Basically, he was approached by somebody and she started giving him words of affirmation and making him feel great about himself.....which of coarse can lead to a destructive path for everybody involved. Unfortunately, at times, it seems people can be so wrapped up in the moment, they forget what they have in life. In other words, maybe a beautiful wife/husband at home that works hard at her/his daily job, an awesome home...health, UNBELIEVABLE kids! That is a lot to lose over a piece of *kitten*. And the other person that is willing to cheat with a married person...........Well, that's just not a very good person at all, imo. I would never want to be with a married person. They have a whole little life built with somebody else that you are willing to destroy. Wrong.

RenaPink11

Dumb question, sorry, nobody can say what, when, or how, or if they'd do anything until they're in the situation, we'd all like to think we wouldn't but you never, ever know......just saying.......

Completely disagree... you know enough of your own morals to know if you would ever cheat or not. Never have and never will.. just sayin

Ash_76

finding other women attractive is human nature, but it stops at window shopping,,,, there aint a chance i would risk losing my wife and kids.
they are far to important to do something stupid

Hannova

nobody can say what, when, or how, or if they'd do anything until they're in the situation, we'd all like to think we wouldn't but you never, ever know......just saying.......

Exactly. Plus, no one is going to say "Of course I would." That would create a storm.

No... People are not just 'people', but individuals as well. I can say I know myself well enough to know where I'm hardwired, and cheating on an S.O. is one of them. Because of weight being the most shallow of reasons, but there are a million other more plausible reasons one might have, and it still would not happen.

There are a dozen other things for which I might not be able to predict my reaction, but this is not one of them. Lie to my mother? Cuss out a nun? Tailgate in traffic? All possible. But not that.

shyrina25

NO

Brandicaloriecountess

No, I adore my bf and want him to marry me one day. He is adorable and hot and good to me.
I'm not an idiot

SwannySez

Okay, so it's a dumb question. I guess the real question would be would your significant other's weight gain/loss affect your attraction to them?

I think this is a better question. More to the point and probably more likely to be answered honestly.

For me? No, it would not. I am attracted to a person for who they are. If I find them sexy, I find them sexy. I've been with women who weighed 89 lbs and women who weighed 289 lbs. And everywhere in between. They were each attractive to me for different reasons and their weight did not factor in that.

My Mrs. is beautiful now just as she was when I met her and just as she was when she had our gargantuan daughter in her belly and just as she always will be regardeless of what she weighs.

Sox90716

No.

Il_DaniD_lI

He is the father of my daughter and to risk her losing a happy family for my own selfishness would be very unfair. Plus, there is nobody in this world I am more attracted to than him.

Beastette

Looks, shmooks. I'm a germaphobe. I'm not even shaking hands with anyone else.

MMarvelous

If I was gonna cheat it would be for more than looks...MONEY preferably LMAO! I have to be on the come-up to take that risk.

NYCDutchess

I wouldn't cheat on anyone because of looks.

hapoo100

wow, to go on a site where most people are trying to lose weight and better their self image and ask if they would cheat with a skinnier person, that is glorious. We would probably be the ones cheated on and not the cheaters.

I know you were curious, but you had to expect these responses. Didnt you?

sincerely,
Captain Obvious

Improvised

Dumb question, sorry, nobody can say what, when, or how, or if they'd do anything until they're in the situation, we'd all like to think we wouldn't but you never, ever know......just saying.......

Completely disagree... you know enough of your own morals to know if you would ever cheat or not. Never have and never will.. just sayin

I agree.

DarthCeltic

I wouldn't cheat on anyone because of looks.

what would you cheat for? :: pulls out note pad::

Beastette

wow, to go on a site where most people are trying to lose weight and better their self image and ask if they would cheat with a skinnier person, that is glorious. We would probably be the ones cheated on and not the cheaters.

I know you were curious, but you had to expect these responses. Didnt you?

sincerely,
Captain Obvious

Aye-Aye! *salutes* Exactly what I was thinking.
Signed,

Lt. CoSign

NessasMommy081311

wow, to go on a site where most people are trying to lose weight and better their self image and ask if they would cheat with a skinnier person, that is glorious. We would probably be the ones cheated on and not the cheaters.

I know you were curious, but you had to expect these responses. Didnt you?

sincerely,
Captain Obvious

I already re-worded the question earlier on in the thread. It's a free country (supposed to be anyway) so I just asked a question. I don't really care if people are upset by it. Actually, I respect the people that are. It shows me that love does really mean more to people than physical attraction. So, Captain Obvious, thanks for your response.

kaetmarie

Absolutely not. The reason I'm so attracted to my husband is our connection...emotionally AND physically. Plus he knows what I like and gets it done I'm not about to give that up!

fbmandy55

No, I am attracted to my BF because his is big and strong and cuddly. If he were a string bean or a meathead/bodybuilder type I would probably not be as attracted.

NessasMommy081311

Absolutely not. The reason I'm so attracted to my husband is our connection...emotionally AND physically. Plus he knows what I like and gets it done I'm not about to give that up!

Perfect response. He is lucky to have you!

paigemarie93

It just puzzles me as to why any one would ever cheat, if you're not happy with the person, end it & move on.

967_1111

Before my wife, family, friends, and God, I vowed to be only with one woman until one of us dies. Nothing on this planet will ever make my cheat.

Nothing.

will010574

Cheating isnt just for looks, cheating shows a complete lack of respect for yourself and your SO. If it gets to the point (due to looks, weight, estranged or whatever) that you are no longer happy with your partner, do the adult thing and tell them. If need be break it off with them, and then go screw like rabbits with everyone willing to say yes. But cheating that is simply selfish and immature.

No I would not for any reason.

DavidOfOz

Never again.