Kissing issue

Chari_Jan

Ok....my boyfriend is not big on kissing. He will if I ask but it always seems like a chore for him. We have talked about it a little and he says it's just not something he really likes and it's no big deal for him. I just don't get it!! How can you not like kissing??!!

Does anyone else have a BF/GF or spouse that is this way? And if so, how do you deal with it.

SoDamnHungry

I'm not that wild about kissing. But I kiss my boyfriend because he likes it a lot. So... I guess you need to see if you can get your boyfriend to be a little more giving?

Chari_Jan

bump

chrissyw63

my husband isn't really an affectionate person AT ALL ... so hugs, kisses ... don't get much of them! when I complain about it he's like "you know I'm not an affectionate person!" ... drives me up a wall. I don't really know how I deal. I don't think I do! Haha I complain about it a lot. I guess its good there's other qualities about him that are awesome, so it's obviously not a deal breaker for me, just a bummer ... I wish I knew what to tell ya! Just know that you're def not alone on this one. some dudes just aren't into it, I guess.

ItsCasey

I tend to think it's a red flag. I can't imagine not wanting to kiss someone you're attracted to and in love with. I can see not wanting to make out all the time, just for the sake of making out, but feeling like kissing your girlfriend is a chore? Doesn't sound good to me, especially if he knows it's important to you. Is he at least affectionate in other ways? Does he like hugging, cuddling, general physical contact?

TexasGirl_Amie

Single girl here, but my ex was like that. It was frustrating. No answers here, but I've been there.

ket_the_jet

I'm not a particularly affectionate person and I tend not to be amenable to public displays of affection. But this was the perfect spot to quote comedian Jim Jefferies on kissing:

"Guys used to like kissing, then someone sucked our ****s. Why would I want to go to the playground when I've been to Disney World?!"

Cheers.
-wtk

TheRoadDog

I love to kiss. Luckily, so does my wife.

Chari_Jan

I tend to think it's a red flag. I can't imagine not wanting to kiss someone you're attracted to and in love with. I can see not wanting to make out all the time, just for the sake of making out, but feeling like kissing your girlfriend is a chore? Doesn't sound good to me, especially if he knows it's important to you. Is he at least affectionate in other ways? Does he like hugging, cuddling, general physical contact?

He does good in general as far as affection goes. It's just the kissing issue. I feel the same way you do about making out just to make out. I love that!!!

Chari_Jan

I'm not a particularly affectionate person and I tend not to be amenable to public displays of affection. But this was the perfect spot to quote comedian Jim Jefferies on kissing:

"Guys used to like kissing, then someone sucked our ****s. Why would I want to go to the playground when I've been to Disney World?!"

Cheers.
-wtk

Now that's funny stuff!!! LOL He does love Disney World.

spade117

I love me some kissing. I have always enjoyed it.

Chairless

kissing is nice but when a lady wants to "make out" or whatever for hours like a horny teenager it does genuinely grate on me.

scapez

I love me some kissing. I have always enjoyed it.

^ This and I could never be with someone that didn't love kissing me as much as I loved kissing them.

HMD7703

I am so into kissing. I could never imagine spending my life not kissing. Yet oddly, I end up with non-kissers.

I don't think it is a big deal, but you do have to adjust. Even for someone that loves to kiss passionately, if you haven't had it in a while, you just forget about it. Sigh.

karmaticgeek

In my case, the low frequency of kissing was merely a symptom of the major problems our relationship had. We split up.

felice03

i love to kiss...my ex did not. I have decided I will never be with someone who doesn't like to kiss again.

legmotor

I used to have this issue and how I dealt with it is I got a new girlfriend.

Seriously, kissing is important for so many reasons. Life is too short to be with a bad kisser or someone you have to beg to kiss.

klhbekool

Some people are just that way. You just have to wait and kiss them when they are willing--- long and slow make it last because you never know when you get the next one.

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

my husband isn't big on it, unless there is some whoopy going on... He's not not affectionate, he just doesn't like full on mouths open tongues hockey playing much, which makes me sad. So, no help here, either.

curiousmissclay

I like a good kiss but I'm not big on the tongue sort of kissing ( i feel gross just saying that haha)

ZombieChaser

my husband isn't really an affectionate person AT ALL ... so hugs, kisses ... don't get much of them! when I complain about it he's like "you know I'm not an affectionate person!" ... drives me up a wall. I don't really know how I deal. I don't think I do! Haha I complain about it a lot. I guess its good there's other qualities about him that are awesome, so it's obviously not a deal breaker for me, just a bummer ... I wish I knew what to tell ya! Just know that you're def not alone on this one. some dudes just aren't into it, I guess.

This is my situation too... and I'm a very affectionate person so it's difficult to show some restraint sometimes. I have spoken to BF about it, and like you, he said it just seemed so routine and it's loosing it's meaning...OUCH! So, I get my kisses in when I can, and try to gently remind him that he needs to show me more affection (not over the top, but *some*!).

...He's still in training...

mick_02

I am a very affectionate person so that would drive me nuts! My SO has to be affectionate too or it wouldn't work for me.

OLFATUG

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Chari_Jan

I am so into kissing. I could never imagine spending my life not kissing. Yet oddly, I end up with non-kissers.

I don't think it is a big deal, but you do have to adjust. Even for someone that loves to kiss passionately, if you haven't had it in a while, you just forget about it. Sigh.

Yeah...that's so sad.

We have been together for 8 months. I deal with it pretty good most of the time but sometimes it builds up and I get all *****y about it. I try not to make him feel less-than or that he isn't enough because he is so amazing in many ways. He is the closest thing to prefect that I have ever found and I love him deeply.

rextcat

im not a big kisser but my hubbie is:smooched:

laineyluma

I have never been big on "making out" but I will kiss my fiance. I also am not a fan of PDA, I am not a fan of holding hands at the mall or kissing in public. I feel like those are things that shouldn't be on display..

bigdawg025

I NEED kissing... I love it... so I can't truly understand how anyone doesn't like it. :noway:

jackpotclown

I'm not familiar with kissing.......what's that? :huh:

Helenatrandom

I'm not a particularly affectionate person and I tend not to be amenable to public displays of affection. But this was the perfect spot to quote comedian Jim Jefferies on kissing:

"Guys used to like kissing, then someone sucked our ****s. Why would I want to go to the playground when I've been to Disney World?!"

Cheers.
-wtk

Now that's funny stuff!!! LOL He does love Disney World.

Well, then I would suggest that since he doesn't want to take you to the playground which you enjoy, you don't take him to Disney World. Maybe that will teach him the meaning of give and take.

cassieko

In my case, the low frequency of kissing was merely a symptom of the major problems our relationship had. We split up.

^^ This, for me too.

So glad I have a man now who loves to kiss me :x

CoryIda

That would suck.

Kissing was the only good part of my relationship with my soon-to-be-ex.