Match Vs eHarmony?
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Yeah, if your under a certain height online you're doomed.I've just come off POF (again) It destroyed what was left of my self esteem last time and this time proved that was no fluke. If you can succeed online, then more power to you! Under 6ft and ugly = no replies unless they are in their 50s and obese. (Check out my back photo, ugly apparently.)
I've googled how difficult it is for men on pof. Horrible, horrible site.
Yet in the real world my height has never been an issue. I'm in good shape and some of my former partners are pretty damned cute! The online arena has smashed my self belief and I now think that I'm a midget Rick Moranis
Out of sheer curiosity how tall are you?
A miniscule 5ft 8! Hey, with a back and *kitten* like mine, leg length ain't worth a dime, lady! :laugh:
Incidentally, did you know that only 14% of men in the US are over 6ft? That means 86% aren't worth dating, apparently...
Just sort your women query by DD and above. Those are the only ones worth dating anyway.0 -
Indeed it is. I doubt that anybody in the average bracket is complimented/propositioned/hit on 20-30 times a month, let alone a day. It creates a false economy.
Indeed it does.
But I do know some success stories from online dating, though I am not one of them. While it's not impossible to meet someone good, the odds are not in your favor and you need to have thick skin. You'll likely end up settling if you continue.
I'll show you the photo of who I'm supposed to settle for on pof. I'm not exactly good looking, but sheesh! You'd turn gay!0 -
Tell her not to waste her money on either and do POF (Plenty of Fish) because it's FREE and the EXACT same people are on that as Match.com0
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I say, go out0
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I've used PoF, OkCupid and Tinder...
POF and OkCupid are the same... Except people have more information about themselves on OkCupid.
Online dating is convenient, but I typically meet better quality women in person.0 -
I met my boyfriend on OKC! It's true. You have to weed through some crazies, but you have to do that everywhere. I don't think it's a matter of what site you use. It's how you use them.0
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This just seemed appropriate...carry on
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Plenty Of Fish. Where I met my husband. And it's FREE.0
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Dating is always a horror story! Just laugh and prepare for some crazy people to come along.
Here's my experience with online dating sites. I've joined and gone on dates with people from all of these:
eHarmony- This website is not inclusive of gay people and has Christian undertones. It's pricey but a good place to meet people who are serious and ready to get married. In my experience it's not a great place to meet young people, but as age increases so does membership to this site.
Match- A little less expensive than eHarmony, although not cheap/free. It's an inclusive site, but still not super plentiful when it comes to the younger crowd. If you're looking for 30+ though Match is a good place, and most people are serious about finding someone since they have to pay to join.
OkCupid- Best place to meet the 20s crowd because it's free. There's an app that makes it easy to keep up with, and it feels like just another social media outlet. The only problem is that there are a lot of people just looking for a one-night stand on this site because of the free factor. Also expect a huge influx of messages that will have to be sorted through at least in the beginning.
PlentyofPhish- Total cluster! Tons of creeps. Extremely difficult to meet anyone worthwhile and the interface is out of date and hard to navigate.
In the end I met my fiancé the old fashioned way. But I have had several boyfriends whom I met online along the way. Also several crazy dating stories to drag out over cocktails with girlfriends.
Happy hunting! May the odds be ever in your favor!0 -
True and it falsely inflates their egos. These guys are going for the easy lay by sticking to the 3's - 5's and then moving on to the next one.
Most women, regardless of site, have flooded inboxes. You'd be surprised, there are women who are easily 30 lbs overweight who have 5-10 guys at a time asking them out. Using simple supply & demand principles, women can be picky, and one of the top ways they can be picky is on height. 6'0" and above, no exceptions.
why the hell is a women who is consider a "3-5" on some made up scale of worthiness/attractiveness considered an *easy lay* ?0 -
True and it falsely inflates their egos. These guys are going for the easy lay by sticking to the 3's - 5's and then moving on to the next one.
Most women, regardless of site, have flooded inboxes. You'd be surprised, there are women who are easily 30 lbs overweight who have 5-10 guys at a time asking them out. Using simple supply & demand principles, women can be picky, and one of the top ways they can be picky is on height. 6'0" and above, no exceptions.
why the hell is a women who is consider a "3-5" on some made up scale of worthiness/attractiveness considered an *easy lay* ?
5's are average, meaning that they will have some options, but it is challenging for them to compete with the real attractive women. One potential course of action to make up for a lack of a competitive advantage is by putting out more easily. Supply and demand.
3-4's are below average, but will still have options, more so online than offline.0 -
Agree with the above statement, what POS says that because you are 30 pounds overweight you are just an easy lay and that is why men are talking to you. YOU are what is wrong with this world. Not EVERYONE wants a size 0 or 2, some men like curves, some men like big butts or boobs and some men like tiny stick figures, it's what makes this world great, BEAUTY COMES IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES you closed minded *kitten*.
Its sick how many MEN reply about the women being OBESE and they are the losers contacting them, as if what, you are GODS GIFT TO WOMEN. THAT is why you are single because you have nothing to offer but JUDGEMENT.0 -
I think what is being said is that a lot of men are acting as 'confidence tricksters' targeting those low on confidence and who therefore put up less 's*** tests' than others would, which would easily deter said predators from their quest for quick sexual gratification.
Simple solution, only contact women who you are genuinely attracted to and are interested in.
Something like that...0 -
3-5's are only easy lays if they insist on "banging up" and are desperate to do so. They know that there's a slim to none chance of a guy who's a 7+ dating them seriously. So in those cases, a 3-5 would be an easy lay.0
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I met my boyfriend on OKC! It's true. You have to weed through some crazies, but you have to do that everywhere. I don't think it's a matter of what site you use. It's how you use them.
I totally agree with this. You just have to be discerning. When I was on those sites in 1999-2000 and again in 2012 (after my first marriage ended amicably) I was choosy. If a guy was a casual drug user...delete. A parent...delete. Much older...delete. Said anything that made me uncomfortable...you got it. Delete and/or block.
BY NO MEANS am I saying any of those dealbreakers should be automatic outs for everyone. They shouldn't! But for me, they were.
As a result I had summarily good experiences! The 1-2 duds I met up with were lying about who they were and what they were all about and that was painfully obvious. The rest were cool if shy guys, including my now-husband who is freaking amazing, smart, ridiculously hot, and has all of his *kitten* together :-)0 -
3-5's are only easy lays if they insist on "banging up" and are desperate to do so. They know that there's a slim to none chance of a guy who's a 7+ dating them seriously. So in those cases, a 3-5 would be an easy lay.
That's a good assessment. "Banging up" is pretty common from any online site, especially the OKC/POF/Match subset, because of the multitude of options.0 -
Dying to know what DMZ and MM rate themselves as.0
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This is why I'm glad that I've given up!0
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Dying to know what DMZ and MM rate themselves as.
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Agree with the above statement, what POS says that because you are 30 pounds overweight you are just an easy lay and that is why men are talking to you. YOU are what is wrong with this world. Not EVERYONE wants a size 0 or 2, some men like curves, some men like big butts or boobs and some men like tiny stick figures, it's what makes this world great, BEAUTY COMES IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES you closed minded *kitten*.
Its sick how many MEN reply about the women being OBESE and they are the losers contacting them, as if what, you are GODS GIFT TO WOMEN. THAT is why you are single because you have nothing to offer but JUDGEMENT.
I have 25 pounds to loose still and I am no where near an easy lay :happy:
I agree so hard with everything you said0 -
Dying to know what DMZ and MM rate themselves as.
my guess is a 5 or up :laugh:0 -
I'm way late to this thread, but the correct answer here is to use all of them, but do so in a way that uses their own systems to your advantage. Join Match, fill out your profile, all of the happy stuff. Give it 90 days. If, after 90 days, you haven't found what you are looking for close that and move on to another one. The reason for this is that you always want to be the new kid in school. When you first join your profile is matched with every possible candidate. You truly are the center of attention. After 90 days you're in the pool. Being in the pool means that you and 5 kajillion other men / women are all waiting for someone new to join. Someone that you haven't already rejected. You don't want to be in the pool. Being in the pool means that you are competing with everyone else in the pool for a handful of new people. Get out of the pool. Close the account. Go somewhere else for 90 days. If you land in the pool there, you can always go back to the first place where you will be new again.0
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I'm way late to this thread, but the correct answer here is to use all of them, but do so in a way that uses their own systems to your advantage. Join Match, fill out your profile, all of the happy stuff. Give it 90 days. If, after 90 days, you haven't found what you are looking for close that and move on to another one. The reason for this is that you always want to be the new kid in school. When you first join your profile is matched with every possible candidate. You truly are the center of attention. After 90 days you're in the pool. Being in the pool means that you and 5 kajillion other men / women are all waiting for someone new to join. Someone that you haven't already rejected. You don't want to be in the pool. Being in the pool means that you are competing with everyone else in the pool for a handful of new people. Get out of the pool. Close the account. Go somewhere else for 90 days. If you land in the pool there, you can always go back to the first place where you will be new again.
And this is why the same people create new profiles every week on POF and OKCupid =/0 -
True and it falsely inflates their egos. These guys are going for the easy lay by sticking to the 3's - 5's and then moving on to the next one.
Most women, regardless of site, have flooded inboxes. You'd be surprised, there are women who are easily 30 lbs overweight who have 5-10 guys at a time asking them out. Using simple supply & demand principles, women can be picky, and one of the top ways they can be picky is on height. 6'0" and above, no exceptions.
why the hell is a women who is consider a "3-5" on some made up scale of worthiness/attractiveness considered an *easy lay* ?
While not totally rational. Guys often believe that the less physically attractive a woman is, the easier she will be to have 'relations' with.0 -
3-5's are only easy lays if they insist on "banging up" and are desperate to do so. They know that there's a slim to none chance of a guy who's a 7+ dating them seriously. So in those cases, a 3-5 would be an easy lay.
I'm a strong 4 on a good day and many men have failed at sleeping with me. d: I'm a tough lay since I'm so picky.0 -
True and it falsely inflates their egos. These guys are going for the easy lay by sticking to the 3's - 5's and then moving on to the next one.
Most women, regardless of site, have flooded inboxes. You'd be surprised, there are women who are easily 30 lbs overweight who have 5-10 guys at a time asking them out. Using simple supply & demand principles, women can be picky, and one of the top ways they can be picky is on height. 6'0" and above, no exceptions.
why the hell is a women who is consider a "3-5" on some made up scale of worthiness/attractiveness considered an *easy lay* ?
While not totally rational. Guys often believe that the less physically attractive a woman is, the easier she will be to have 'relations' with.
I "get it" but I also think it's pretty funny that the real issue is confidence and self-esteem. You can't tell that sometimes the girl who looks like "a 3" could have fabulous self-esteem and be 100% totally unwilling to settle for any guy - fling or relationship - who isn't awesome. Meanwhile there are model gorgeous "8" girls with wretched self-esteem...just saying...0 -
http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2013/02/12/hookinguprealities/the-most-attractive-women-have-the-least-casual-sex/
Overweight women report approximately 10% more partners than normal-weight women whereas obese women report approximately 10% fewer partners.0 -
I met my hubs on Match after an endless string of tiring first dates, nonetheless it helped me figure out who I DIDNT want to date lol... I've heard eHarmony is a pain in the *kitten*.0
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http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2013/02/12/hookinguprealities/the-most-attractive-women-have-the-least-casual-sex/
Overweight women report approximately 10% more partners than normal-weight women whereas obese women report approximately 10% fewer partners.
I am overweight & have only had one sexual partner this year ...dammit time to rethink my life :noway:0 -
I did both - Match was more like casual dating - met lots of nice guys! eHarmony is where I met my hubby! Cliche as it sounds, it was love at first date - it was like catching up with an old friend rather than a first date. it was totally a "THERE you are!" feeling. plenty of fish was THE WORST!!! lol0
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