Is it ok to flirt

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  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    A woman who feels otherwise obviously has some insecurity issues.
    Wait....what?? I believe that I should conduct myself the same on line as I do in person, and I would expect the same from my husband. Zero insecurities here. It's about respect for us. I realize other relationships have different expectations, but don't assume that women who "feel otherwise obviously have some insecurity issues". You can give people compliments without flirting. There's a difference.

    Don't let her fool you. Patti flirts with me CONSTANTLY!

    *runs*

    I always figured Patti for a big ol' th_thhoochie.gif

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  • kk1964
    kk1964 Posts: 46
    Of course, why not... :)
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    For me its a no no. Especially since this is a site for weight loss and encouraging getting healthy not a dating site.

    Shh...don't tell my special someone that I met right here on MFP this!! :drinker:
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    I don't confuse flirting with cheating. If a person is going to cheat, they will do it regardless. Flirting is a totally different ball game.

    I agree

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  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    maybe I am confusing flirting with complementing.... Say hey beautiful or handsome and then following it by How you doing? ;) that is considered flirting rite??

    or is flirting saying things that are more graphic?? Please keep in mind I was raised over seas and English is my second language :flowerforyou:

    also I joke a lot and these are things I would say to people I know in person and it would be taken as a complement and a sweet funny too :flowerforyou:
  • breezymom81
    breezymom81 Posts: 499 Member
    Depends, do you flirt with jsut one person or with lots of people? If it's jsut one person that is more then just flirting-and a problem, if you are a flirt in general then no it's not such a problem ( at least for me)
  • regina2063
    regina2063 Posts: 203 Member
    Can't we support each other without trying to get into someones Pants....I come here for Motivation not for a Man...I have one..
  • xHelloQuincyx
    xHelloQuincyx Posts: 884 Member
    mm my idea of flirting would be "you look so great" nothing further then that. i love my boyfriend, i dont feel the need to flirt online.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    There's a HUGE difference between harmless flirting (something you would do in front of your SO that would leave no one with hurt feelings) and flirting that would cause a fight if it were "found out."

    I have no SO, so I'll eye f*** any ginger I please... FYI.
  • briteyes1002
    briteyes1002 Posts: 313 Member
    Flirting makes my day :) So I am completely okay with it... :wink:
  • Vince_1964
    Vince_1964 Posts: 359 Member
    It is absolutely ok. There's no harm in it whatsoever. Not a thing to worry about.

    How YOU doin'???

    LOL
  • mnwalkingqueen
    mnwalkingqueen Posts: 1,299 Member
    sure, if you aren't attached.
    Flirting online is dangerous if you are married, however. I know lots of peeps whose marriage ended over "harmless" flirtations online.

    I agree with you.
  • Kerri_is_so_very
    Kerri_is_so_very Posts: 999 Member
    It depends on the degree of flirtation.

    "Nice *kitten*." is okay. "Nice *kitten*. Wanna fluck?" is not okay.

    :laugh:
  • Dimplybutt
    Dimplybutt Posts: 123 Member
    Ladies, guys - Is it ok to flirt with people on internet sites like this one? I have varied opinions - let's hear yours.....

    You should probably ask your partner and not random strangers....

    ^ ^ This
  • LButterfly201
    LButterfly201 Posts: 164
    If it makes you feel guilty, then i think it's fair to assume that it's not 'harmless'.

    Most relationships have their own boundaries; a relationship with one person may have different boundaries of what is acceptable to another.
  • niftyafterfifty
    niftyafterfifty Posts: 338 Member
    If you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse, it's cheating.
  • ejortten
    ejortten Posts: 6 Member
    Under three conditions:

    1. You aren't leading the other party on--If you have no intention of starting a full-blown relationship (whether an in-life fling/affair or a long-term relationship) with the person you're flirting with, then make sure they are very aware of this. If they don't seem to understand this, then DON'T give them false hope or tease them.

    2. You aren't in a relationship or your partner is okay with your harmless flirting--If you're in a relationship, it's not okay to ASSUME your partner wouldn't care or to simply keep it from them. Be open about it, don't hide anything. If you find yourself flirting with someone without your partner knowing about it, then LET them know. If you have any inclination that what you're doing might hurt your partner, don't do it.

    3. The person you're flirting with is single (or their partner is clearly okay with it) and your flirtations are clearly welcome--Don't be a creep. If the other person doesn't seem receptive to your flirtations, don't push it further. If you know they're in a relationship, don't start anything. If you know they're in a relationship but they initiate the flirtations, then okay, go with it. There's no real way to know if that person is lying about their relationship, but at least go with what you do know.

    I say follow the same rules you follow in real life. Online flirting isn't any less harmful (or painful) than real-life flirtation. It's healthy, it's fun, and it makes you feel good. But ALWAYS consider how it might hurt the person you're flirting with, or the person you're in a relationship with.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    yeah, seriously, if you are married, you shouldn't be flirting online. Its no different than calling up one of your wifes hot friends and trying to rail her while your wife is at work.

    Now that's out too?!?!
  • sjmgde
    sjmgde Posts: 381 Member
    I say no to flirting. I use to flirt and than it got me in trouble and i am married so i now say no. Really do not care if my Hubby does as long as it is not in front of me. Outta sight outta of mind
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    If you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse, it's cheating.

    Cheating?? I call that a far stretch in the definition of cheating... But that's just me.
  • JetzGurl
    JetzGurl Posts: 213 Member
    I do a lot more than flirt with some of my female friends...

    Is it Friday yet?!
  • MissFit0101
    MissFit0101 Posts: 2,382
    It depends on the relationship you're in and what kind of flirting is going on... there is harmless flirting, but not all flirting is harmless.. many people take it too far.
  • BobbieLee1959
    BobbieLee1959 Posts: 605 Member
    Guess flirting is okay, but be careful, bud, some girls on this site may have more muscle than you do, and if you take it too far~~well, I will leave the consequence to YOUR imagination!! ROFLMBO
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    I am re-posting my question because it seems valid here :)

    maybe I am confusing flirting with complementing.... Say hey beautiful or handsome and then following it by How you doing? ;) that is considered flirting rite??

    or is flirting saying things that are more graphic?? Please keep in mind I was raised over seas and English is my second language

    also I joke a lot and these are things I would say to people I know in person and it would be taken as a complement and a sweet funny too
  • twinsanity
    twinsanity Posts: 1,757 Member
    It is absolutely ok. There's no harm in it whatsoever. Not a thing to worry about.






    Until your partner joins the site. Then delete, delete, delete!!

    :tongue: :laugh:
    LMAO!
  • DeviantDarkwolf2
    DeviantDarkwolf2 Posts: 363 Member
    A woman who feels otherwise obviously has some insecurity issues.
    Wait....what?? I believe that I should conduct myself the same on line as I do in person, and I would expect the same from my husband. Zero insecurities here. It's about respect for us. I realize other relationships have different expectations, but don't assume that women who "feel otherwise obviously have some insecurity issues". You can give people compliments without flirting. There's a difference.


    THIS^^^

    I think if you are in relationship then certain things should remain for your partner, just my opinion though.
  • SinIsIn
    SinIsIn Posts: 1,865 Member
    It's ok only if they have the same body parts as you.... :tongue:


    right.. that's the rule?? or am I wrong?? :drinker:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    It's ok only if they have the same body parts as you.... :tongue:


    right.. that's the rule?? or am I wrong?? :drinker:

    I like this


    *lick lick*
  • TheWinman
    TheWinman Posts: 684 Member
    Flirting online is way different then in person. People are way more brave behind a keyboard and flirting can quickly get more intense. :)
  • tinamina78
    tinamina78 Posts: 241 Member
    Complimenting is one thing.
    But flirting, is a BIG no for me!! its kind of in a way of cheating.
    Thats just my personal opinion.

    I agree with this. I think of it this way: If I left my MFP account open (or email, facebook, etc.) and hubby saw it, would he get upset about an interaction I had with someone? OR, in turn, if hubby left his account open and I saw it, what would upset me? I try to speak kindly and give compliments while making sure it's respectful and not flirty at all. I think it's something you have to decide with your partner.

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