I think I'm bisexual, but not sure. Please help.
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My sister went through a similar identity crisis a couple years back. She said that she got "turned on" by women (as well as men) but never wanted a real relationship with a girl. The thought of actually getting intimate with another girl was really weird to her actually. She always fantasized about men. I think she just felt out of place...???...anyways, she went to a therapist and was told that a lot of women get "aroused" by watching *coughcough* lesbian porn *coughcough* even though they are straight. something about the more sensual nature of girl on girl porn?? It really depends on what you feel best with though. If you feel like you'd be comfortable with an emotional as well as physical relationship with a guy or a girl, go for it. If you're truly confused, the only way to really know is to try both.
i guess what I'm trying to say is that you may be sexually attracted to women without being bisexual. There's an emotional piece that has to be there too.0 -
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My sister went through a similar identity crisis a couple years back. She said that she got "turned on" by women (as well as men) but never wanted a real relationship with a girl. The thought of actually getting intimate with another girl was really weird to her actually. She always fantasized about men. I think she just felt out of place...???...anyways, she went to a therapist and was told that a lot of women get "aroused" by watching *coughcough* lesbian porn *coughcough* even though they are straight. something about the more sensual nature of girl on girl porn?? It really depends on what you feel best with though. If you feel like you'd be comfortable with an emotional as well as physical relationship with a guy or a girl, go for it. If you're truly confused, the only way to really know is to try both.
i guess what I'm trying to say is that you may be sexually attracted to women without being bisexual. There's an emotional piece that has to be there too.
wonder what that therapist would say about me? I fantasize about women more then men and have only been totally intimate with men but I have been dating the guy I am with for 9 years so I can't say really? I love the guy I am with and he is kinda effeminate in some ways and very manly in others but it's his personality and the way we work together is what has kept me around all this time and I have not cheated on him
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Completely off topic... but hell... I've been called a troll, a bigot, insecure, stupid, and a few other choice words in this thread simply for stating my OWN PERSONAL PREFERENCE... Which I choose to have and not one single one of you has any right to change...
Enough of that rant...
Has anyone here noticed the OP NEVER RESPONDED ONCE????
We aint calling your personal referrence any of that.
We are rerferring to your reasons for said personal reference.
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Why do my reasons matter to you? I don't hate on the gay or lesbian community. I advocate gay marriage. I think everyone should love and be with who they want to be with. It's just not my cup of tea to get involved in it. There's nothing wrong with my choice or my reasons for my choice. I am offended at being called a bigot because I am absolutely not a bigot.
You want to know why I think it's a bigoted opinion? Because you're basing your actions, thoughts and opinions/preferances on your (wrong) assumptions of an entire group of people based on their sexual preference. That does not mean I think you're a bigot. It means I think your ideas about this are bigoted.
Bigotry is not just based on hate for another group of people, It also refers to those who are intolerant of others based on things like race, ethnicty, creed, religion, socioeconomic status, and even sexual orientation. You have an intolerance of even thinking about being with someone that's bi because you think, and wrongly assume they're going to cheat on you simply because they can find both sexes attractive.
Did it ever occur to you that most of us, that are attracted to both sexes, we don't seek out one sex or another? It's not like I get a hankering for a woman over a man and I'll just drop my man in a heartbeat because he no longer satisfies me. It doesn't work like this. I choose people, or I did when I was dating , the same way you do. I see someone that's attractive to me and that I like to be in their company, and it goes from there.
The only difference is that it matters not what kind of piping they have in their pants.0 -
Its not about being gay, its just about getting bi...0
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Completely off topic... but hell... I've been called a troll, a bigot, insecure, stupid, and a few other choice words in this thread simply for stating my OWN PERSONAL PREFERENCE... Which I choose to have and not one single one of you has any right to change...
Enough of that rant...
Has anyone here noticed the OP NEVER RESPONDED ONCE????
We aint calling your personal referrence any of that.
We are rerferring to your reasons for said personal reference.)
Why do my reasons matter to you? I don't hate on the gay or lesbian community. I advocate gay marriage. I think everyone should love and be with who they want to be with. It's just not my cup of tea to get involved in it. There's nothing wrong with my choice or my reasons for my choice. I am offended at being called a bigot because I am absolutely not a bigot.
You want to know why I think it's a bigoted opinion? Because you're basing your actions, thoughts and opinions/preferances on your (wrong) assumptions of an entire group of people based on their sexual preference. That does not mean I think you're a bigot. It means I think your ideas about this are bigoted.
Bigotry is not just based on hate for another group of people, It also refers to those who are intolerant of others based on things like race, ethnicty, creed, religion, socioeconomic status, and even sexual orientation. You have an intolerance of even thinking about being with someone that's bi because you think, and wrongly assume they're going to cheat on you simply because they can find both sexes attractive.
Did it ever occur to you that most of us, that are attracted to both sexes, we don't seek out one sex or another? It's not like I get a hankering for a woman over a man and I'll just drop my man in a heartbeat because he no longer satisfies me. It doesn't work like this. I choose people, or I did when I was dating , the same way you do. I see someone that's attractive to me and that I like to be in their company, and it goes from there.
The only difference is that it matters not what kind of piping they have in their pants.
Couldnt have said it better myself.0 -
Interesting ..Bump0
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You were bored last night. Tonight you are wondering about your sexuality.
It is either about being promiscuous (not good) or being true to your self and your partner (good).
Think and act. Good luck and you have my best wishes for success.
What's wrong with being promiscuous? As long as all parties are aware and it's safe?0 -
I had dated several girls before I met my husband. For me, it's the person, not what parts they have.
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wowim very saddened by the cruel comments that ppl are saying. so sad. maybe this wasn't the appropriate place to ask but she was reaching out for help.
honey - i advise u to really explore how u feel about women. it is ok. ive been there. i am a lesbian woman and i am in a very committed relationship. it took me some times to come to terms with it but i am fine with who i am. i hope that u can come to terms with who u are and eventually be comfortable with being who u are regardless of your sexual preference. peace and blessings to u hun.
Thats just him being insecure.
If your gonna go into a relationship expecting them to cheat then why go into the relationship at all??
It should matter what sex somebody likes, You cant just assume everybody is going to cheat.
You cant expect a bisexual female to have NO male OR female friends and the same goes for bisexual men.
My comment was not cruel to anyone... and I also had an earlier post for the OP saying that only she could know the answer by finding out for herself.
It is absolutely MY RIGHT to not prefer to date someone who is "bi". That's my personal choice... just like it's anyone else's personal choice to date or not date whomever they choose!
To be called a bigot for it is ridiculous. I do not care if you are gay, straight, bi, trans, etc... it does not affect me in the least. I agree that people should be happy, and whatever that is... only they themselves know.
This is no different than saying that a straight guy who doesn't want to date a gay guy is a bigot. Completely twisted around and WRONG!
actually your comparison is completely irrelevent.
Of course a straight guy is not going to date a gay guy if he is not gay.
For a lesbian to not date a bisexual female.
Or a gay man not to date a bisexual man.
Thats what the earlier post was referring to.
Totally different comparison.
I am for one tired of hearing lesbians say they dont date "bisexual" females because they will cheat on them with guys.
Its bs. Lol.
So are you saying if you are with somebody who only likes one sex they will not go out and cheat on you with that person?
Its all the same difference.
Cheaters will cheat regardless of what sex they are attracted to.
I think everyone needs to look at his statement from a different perspective. Sounds to me like he is going to worry about being cheated on no matter what. The problem is that dating someone bisexual increases the number of people he'd have to worry about. Instead of only having to worry about the men his girlfriend talks to, he would also have to worry about the women.
OK, so this is just my opinion, not meaning to offend anyone. I'm not bisexual and haven't dated anyone bisexual so just throwing this out here
For those who want to be in a monogamous long time relationship (and yes, I realize that that is not for everyone), I think it would be difficult to date a bisexual person. Not because they are more likely to cheat, but knowing that despite however good the sex you have with them, it's not fulfilling all their desires and no matter what you did, you would feel that you weren't enough to keep them satisfied sexually.
Nope, this is not how that works. It's not like because I can enjoy both penis and vagina I need them both to be fulfilled. Being attracted to both sexes doesn't instantly make me into some sort of a enigma in which I'll only be happy with a vagina today but a penis tomorrow.
Not only that, this idea is extremely offensive, because it infers that I choose people based on what is in their pants, not what how we click together.
Why is it that straight relations are all about lovemaking but gay or lesbian or what ever else there is, those relations are about f***ing only?. WTH.0 -
If you meet a pretty lady that makes you happy and you find her sexually attractive and you feel love for her then you're bisexual.. its really simple... but its very dificult to accept it... atleast in some cases where people sorrounding you are just rude and ignorant bigots... hopefully thats not your case so if a girl is making you feel this way explore it.0
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I remember going through a period of time where I was absolutely terrified that I was lesbian or bi. I literally used to worry about it constantly. I am very open minded and not homophobic in the slightest, but the thought of being lesbian scared me.
But, deep down, I don't think I am. I want to experiment, because I think it'll be one of the best ****ing sexual experiences of my life, but I don't want to be in a relationship with a girl. And, *shrug* I like lesbian porn and admiring girl's bodies, but I don't want to live with a girl and fall in love with one.
Do you, OP. Experiment, and try to imagine yourself in a relationship with a girl. There's a difference between being sexually attracted and being actually attracted to the same sex.
Lol I am the opposite of you...I do think women are beautiful and I am attracted, but having had opportunities I find that my attraction stays above the waist.
BUT...I would love nothing more than to have a sweet, pretty wife. Someone to clean up and cook and be soft and warm and nurturing to me..what could be better?? Maybe I can get hypnotized into actual lesbianism?0 -
Completely off topic... but hell... I've been called a troll, a bigot, insecure, stupid, and a few other choice words in this thread simply for stating my OWN PERSONAL PREFERENCE... Which I choose to have and not one single one of you has any right to change...
Enough of that rant...
Has anyone here noticed the OP NEVER RESPONDED ONCE????
Good observation... Lol
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I already got two strikes by the Mfp police so I better skip this topic...........
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That makes me want to be friends with you! :laugh: ]0 -
SOOOO... What's the verdict... Has she figured out if she is bisexual or not?0
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SOOOO... What's the verdict... Has she figured out if she is bisexual or not?
I don't know that she responded, but I figured out that I'm a dirty tramp and the rest of the forum has now determined that they are likely bisexual.0 -
Me too!!BUT...I would love nothing more than to have a sweet, pretty wife. Someone to clean up and cook and be soft and warm and nurturing to me..what could be better??0 -
Tri-sexual is so much better, she's missing out!0
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Tri-sexual is so much better, she's missing out!
<---- Pansexual.
I get the best of ALL worlds
Hahahaha.
Totally agree... MIssing out....0 -
What The F... LOL0
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Any update here?-just sayin-Ty0
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SOOOO... What's the verdict... Has she figured out if she is bisexual or not?
I don't know that she responded, but I figured out that I'm a dirty tramp and the rest of the forum has now determined that they are likely bisexual.
Bha ha ha ha - SooOoOOoo ya, that sounds about right!0
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