GUYS- - - Do you prefer a girl to have an appetite like your

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  • jenbunboo
    jenbunboo Posts: 90 Member
    Funny, I think about this a lot. I cook for my fiance and my father, and usually serve us about the same amount. Frequently, I clean my plate, as does my father, but my fiance does not. My fiance and I are both watching what we eat and tracking, but he eats more snacks than I do, eats bigger lunches, and drinks things with calories in them with dinner usually. I budget specifically for dinner, and often serve pretty big plates of food, just because we're vegan, and most everything on the plate is nutritionally dense but full of fiber and water.

    My father then proceeds to drink his calories for the rest of the evening, and somewhere a couple drinks in has 4 slices of toast, 30 olives, a half bag of chips, and an orange, but thats why my fiance and I are losing weight and he isn't!

    In the end, my fiance and I are both meeting with success, and I've gotten used to our different eating styles. He eats more earlier in the day, I eat more for dinner (still only about 400-500 calories most nights).
  • MelMena
    MelMena Posts: 152 Member
    Wait a sec. Went back and re-read the OP post and she said that SHE hated when a guy ate LESS than her. How come no one jumped on her because of that? LOL!
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    ....ok, thanks for stopping by......NEXT
  • Arthemise1
    Arthemise1 Posts: 365 Member
    Comparing my calorie goal to my husband's, they're almost the same, but then I'm taller than he is. I guess there's also the issue of whether a guy gets intimidated by a woman who's taller or more fit than he is. If it bothers him, he's probably not the right one anyway.
  • momof8munchkins
    momof8munchkins Posts: 1,167 Member
    The only time I've ever been able to out eat my husband or even come close to how much he eats is when I was pregnant with twins ha!
    He is bigger than me . naturally thin with a large appetite and high metabolism... he eats a lot! I would be so sick if I tried to keep up with him- why would I even want too?? ..what does it really matter though.. we are all different . just eat what your body needs.. heck most of our kids eat way more than I do and are much smaller than me.. they have their daddy's appetite and metabolism.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    When I met my husband I was over weight ate less than him. Now that I am much smaller and workout more, I eat more than him. He was commenting in the beginning and actually tried taking away my food once or twice saying he was a fraid I would gain the weight back, but it's been about 9 months since I started on working on maintaing weight and leaning out my body and since I have been successful he fully supports my eating. He will even ask me if I am still hungry or if I want something else too.

    I think the fear men have with women eating is if they gain weight and with some gaining the weight is ok, but then they have to worry about the woman feeling self consiouse and less beautiful because of the weight gain.
    Confidence is a big turn on and when the person you are with looses confidence in their looks it makes the relationship difficult.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    Not sure if this has been said as I've skimmed this thread. But I've always had a small appetite. I also have anxiety and used to get panic attacks eating in front of people. It made me feel disgusting/fat/gross,etc. (this was 7-8 years ago mind you)

    When I started dating my boyfriend a few years ago and we'd go out to dinner he'd get PISSED when I only ate 1/4-1/2 of my ordered food. I'm not sure if he thought I was being wasteful? Or he was mad about buying me a 60$ dinner where I didn't eat much? I'm not sure. Now he just deals with it :P and if for whatever reason I eat a portion close to his or more it's pretty much like a "awesome job!" pat on the back kinda thing.
  • cyclerjenn
    cyclerjenn Posts: 833 Member
    I eat a lot more than my boyfriend. But I burn alot of calories with my training and eat 6 times a day and he only has breakfast and dinner.
  • Spanaval
    Spanaval Posts: 1,200 Member
    I am curious now. Of the guys that said that it would bother them, are you equating appetite with fitness or health? For instance, would it bother you if a marathon runner could out-eat you? I hope no one gets bashed for their replies, whichever way that goes.

    I have a friend that is oh, about 4'10" and can out-eat any guy I know, including her husband who's twice as tall. She weighs about 90 pounds, and is constantly trying to go a little higher. In fact, she has to be really careful about eating because she tends to lose a lot of weight really quickly, and falls into the 'unhealthy' range.
  • Awkward30
    Awkward30 Posts: 1,927 Member
    Wow, guys, what's it like to have women actually care what you think of our APPETITES now?
    Think about how silly this question would sound if the genders were turned around.
    I can't even believe there are men who have an opinion on it too. Why would you even care, if you're already attracted to her in the first place?

    I judge the **** out of a guy that eats less than me. Either he isn't eating healthy or he isn't active enough if he is out eaten by a 142 lb girl in a calorie deficit. On the same token, I also notice when people habitually eat large portions of unhealthy food. There are a few guys at my work like that, and I could not date them even if I was interested because I think that it is so gross.
  • torizia
    torizia Posts: 140 Member
    I've dated a couple of guys who eat less than me, and it made me feel horrible and self-conscious. Now I'm with someone who eats soooo much (unhealthy) food and I love it! Although it does create temptation haha
  • SaketoKim
    SaketoKim Posts: 254 Member
    lol... my guys usually finish my food. :)
  • qtiekiki
    qtiekiki Posts: 1,490 Member
    lol... my guys usually finish my food. :)

    Sometimes I finish DH's food. =P
  • reneegee23
    reneegee23 Posts: 232 Member
    Do you prefer a girl to have an appetite like yours or would you rather her eat less than you? Or do you even care? I know that I hate when I'm out with a guy and he eats less than me (yes it happens lol). So I was wondering if guys feel the same way with girls.. or maybe I'm just a little overly cautious about it?

    Women should always eat less than men. We should also get paid less for doing the same job. And we shouldn't speak unless spoken to.
  • Kristy_Elizabeth
    Kristy_Elizabeth Posts: 435
    My gf and I are both logging here, but even before that I usually have a bgger portion as I am 6ft 4.

    Its not something as I guy I really notice tbh, unless she has left overs that I sometimes like to devour when she is done. Its a boyfriend perk!

    This made me smile. Me and my guy are both logging on here and he does the same thing. I'm pretty sure that is about as much as he cares about what I eat too, whether or not he is gonna get a bite when I'm done. =D It is really nice having someone help and support the cause of getting healthier and looking better!
  • Kristy_Elizabeth
    Kristy_Elizabeth Posts: 435
    Is your laptop in the kitchen or the laundry room? If not, you are so busted!! lol! =D

    This was for Reneegee23. I guess I forgot to click quote.
  • mfpcopine
    mfpcopine Posts: 3,093 Member
    Do you prefer a girl to have an appetite like yours or would you rather her eat less than you? Or do you even care? I know that I hate when I'm out with a guy and he eats less than me (yes it happens lol). So I was wondering if guys feel the same way with girls.. or maybe I'm just a little overly cautious about it?

    First World Problems, and a great way to create needless insecurities.
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    Seriously? Hahahahaha. I'd offend a few sensitive guys then.

    I guess these are the same guys who want to see crotch gap?? Hahahaha.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I don't think my husband gives a damn that I "eat like a man," but I'm sure it pisses off quite a few women. :happy:

    He outweighs me by a good 100 lbs, so he normally eats a little bit more than I do, but not as much more as you'd think.
  • WittneeT29
    WittneeT29 Posts: 47 Member
    I am actually relieved to hear some guys say they like a woman who eats less. Any article in pop magazines these days says that guys hate when a girl orders a salad on a date or whatever. Apparently the guys in those articles think it mean the girl is high maintenance, insecure, etc.

    I ALWAYS watch what I eat and order salads at restaurants. I don't date anymore (my husband doesn't like it when I do), but it used to make me feel self conscious when I did date. I hate going to new restaurants where I don't know what is in the food, calorie content, etc. I always figured that turned off guys more than out eating them.

    Luckily I married a man who can eat at the same restaurants all the time and never get bored (like me).
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    Mankind, you fail. So insulted *cry* *eat large portion of chocolate*
    Wow, guys, what's it like to have women actually care what you think of our APPETITES now?
    Think about how silly this question would sound if the genders were turned around.
    I can't even believe there are men who have an opinion on it too. Why would you even care, if you're already attracted to her in the first place?
    ^this. I just wanna say I use to have eating competitions with guys around my block in highschool and I use to win...I weighed 90 pounds at the time. If I ate less then what I was eating I'd be 5'7 and less then 90 pounds...Looking at these comments, No wonder some of my other friends were anorexic? I knew one who bought popcorn at the movies once and stopped eating because a guy sat next to her. I ate mine and her popcorn. I asked her what was up and she said it's because you shouldn't eat in front of guys. Turns out she has appropriate reason according to this thread. So it's kinda insulting that some guys here assume women will turn into a 'house' if they eat more then a 'cute' portion. I'm far from large and I've seen that I eat more then some of the taller men on this site. Soo....I should try not eating now? It seems popular. You better F*ing catch me at the gym when I pass out and feed me a small portion of food.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    As a reminder to any men who didn't read through the thread

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    DO NOT POST HERE! Apparently we're to blame for anorexia now...
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
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    Scarlett: “Fiddle-dee-dee! Ashley Wilkes told me he likes to see a girl with a healthy appetite!”

    Mammy: “What gentlemen says and what they thinks is two different things, and I ain’t noticed Mr. Ashley askin’ for to marry you.”

    http://www.metacafe.com/watch/an-BwpfY4n2hnn4/gone_with_the_wind_1939_a_healthy_appetite/
  • MrLeeParker
    MrLeeParker Posts: 49
    "She used to be super hot, until her caloric intake exceeded mine."

    ^^Said no sensible man EVER!
  • tashaa1992
    tashaa1992 Posts: 658 Member
    Hm I didn't really think it would matter. I've always been a big eater, I love food and the only person who has ever commented on this is my step dad and my last ex. Their comments were are you sure you want to eat all that or wow look at your big plate, but it was always all plain veg which really annoyed me.
    If a guy can't accept the fact that I like to eat, then he can just go home. I'm eating because I'm hungry not because I'm trying to compete with you lol.
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    "She used to be super hot, until her caloric intake exceeded mine."

    ^^Said no sensible man EVER!

    Hahahaha! Right on.
  • huiyingx
    huiyingx Posts: 2 Member
    I actually seem to have the opposite problem most here have. I used to eat fairly small portions since I'm only 5'2" and that's all that I needed to feel full. When I started dating my bf my portions increased A LOT because he always wanted our food to be fair and split it half-half. Too bad he's got a great metabolism and eats whatever he wants without gaining weight while I ballooned up haha. Over the course of these last 5 years we've I've gained ~30lbs and this is really the reason I started using MFP, trying to bring my portion size back down.
  • brittany103
    brittany103 Posts: 96 Member
    My gf and I are both logging here, but even before that I usually have a bgger portion as I am 6ft 4.

    Its not something as I guy I really notice tbh, unless she has left overs that I sometimes like to devour when she is done. Its a boyfriend perk!

    Is it bad that your boyfriend perk is my girlfriend perk? I am always picking fries off my boyfriends plate.
  • pdworkman
    pdworkman Posts: 1,342 Member
    I eat way more (volume) than my hubby does at meals. But he consumes more calories in the day than I do because he:

    - has fries/chips, chocolate milk, candy, and/or pop during the day
    - his salad is a little spoonful of greens and a big spoonful of dressing. Mine is usually 2 cups of greens and no dressing.
    - he eats more of the calorie-dense foods, and I eat more of the fruits, vegetables, soups, and other lower-calorie foods
  • greasygriddle_wechnage
    greasygriddle_wechnage Posts: 246 Member
    JENNIE! it's THIGH GAP! hahahah :laugh:

    and any man come between me and my grub, may have to pull back a bloody nub! :drinker:
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