If you are an only child please open-quick question

Pocket_Pixi

I am not an only child, but I do have several friends who are. They all say the same thing "I wouldn't change anything about my life but sometimes it would be nice to have a sibling to confide in once and a while."


I am the oldest of 5 (3 biological and one step sister) we range in age from 29 - 18 the 2 youngest being 18 and 19 but they are not close at all as the 19 year old lived with her mother and never had much to do with us. I asked my youngest brother e once if he wished there was someone his age that he could talk to and have tons of "remember when we were kids memories" and you know what he told me? Nope, he has tons of stories most of which are way better because I was driving by the the time he was able to do things with us and he has "remember when I was younger and we went here?? or did this??" He just turned 18 in March and to be honest... I am closer to him than I am my brother that is about 18 months younger than me... and him and the brother that have an 8 year gap are really super close ... so don't worry about any age gaps if you do decide to have any more kids.

Sweet_Pandora

I have one sister that is 16 years older than I and moved out when she was 20 so I grew up as an only child and hated it. I was always envious of my friends with siblings. When my sister would visit it was like having an Aunt. .

As an adult with an older sister, I now wish I was an only child.

My daughter is an only child and when she was younger she used to beg for a little brother or sister. Now that she is a teenager she loves it. She says she couldn't imagine having to share her Mom or her bathroom!

Best wishes with your decision.

Karen

yhernandezphx

im an only child. it was nice, but i have 3 kids and i love seeing them interact/play/and love each other

kennie2

i was an only child till 10 and hated it
then i got my step brothes and step sisters
and boy was it sweet being an only child lol

ActiveGuy81

I was an only child and yes I wish I had a brother or sister that we could have done things together. But I had cousins around my age and was never a loner or anything. I think being an only child made me more independent.

thejackswild79

I enjoyed being an only child but then again, my parents constantly had me involved in activities where I was with lots of other kids. This went beyond the normal sports and after school programs. For a few years there I felt absolutely inundated by other kids. LOL! I was thrilled for the quiet solitude of having no siblings. As an adult, being an only child has been wonderful. There is never any debate over who will be responsible for my parents and there is absolutely no sibling drama (which I see a lot of in my in-laws and friends).

Hernandeak11

I always thought I would have two children, because that's the kind of household I grew up in. I also wanted a 'baby sibling' when I was that age, but now that I'm older, I don't really care one way or another.

My boyfriend was an only child, and he really enjoyed it. He liked the fact that his parents could put all their effort into supporting him and his accomplishments.

We both turned out very-well, so really, it's up to you if you want to have another child. I bet your daughter will be fantastic either way.

*Note, his parents divorced when he was 13, mine are still married.

shannypoo21

I'm my mother's only child but I do have siblings that I weren't raised with. In all honesty I really wished my mom would have had a least one more kid. Nothing like a sibling bond and growing up with them. God bless you and your family in whatever decision yall make.

LeenaRuns

I loved being an only child! I mean, sure, sometimes I wanted a sibling, but I think overall it was awesome. I have an almost 2-year-old, and he's going to be it for me!

oddyogi

I always wanted a brother or sister but if I had kids nowadays I would only have one.

Now that I look back on it, I liked being an only child. The only thing that I would have liked a sibling for is to help with remembering my childhood.

I agree with the above poster, I think it made me more independent.

DaBossLady24

This is just my personal experience, but I loved/still love being an only child. My parents were worried about the whole "she's going to be spoiled and have no friends, blah blah blah" thing BUT I have a ton of cousins and actually have been super outgoing for my entire life so the whole friend issue was never a problem. That happens when you're involved in a bunch of activities, sports, and such! Plus, it's always great to have some "me time" every once in a while.

Not gonna lie though, I wanted brothers and sisters SO badly as a kid but I'm so glad that didn't happen... Being spoiled isn't always a bad thing. I quickly realized that they're not technically spoiling me... they just have only one perfect child to spend their money on :laugh:

susannahcooks

I think as an only child I matured faster than other kids - was around my parents alot more without a built-in playmate. I had lots of kids on my street so didn't - at the time- feel like i was missing much. Now, as an adult with maturing parents, it would be nice if I had a sibling to talk to about long-term plans around taking care of my parents - and helping them take care of my grandparents. I have a very close cousin though, and so its not totally lost. I think whatever decision you make needs to be based on what you want though. Ultimately if your child/ren are loved and cared for, it won't matter how many of them, they'll be fine and well-adjusted.

Sepheara

my mom spaced us out by 8 years. when I was 6 or 7 I wanted a brother really really bad, but when I was 8 and my brother was born I was just like "meh". when I was 16 and my youngest brother was born the middle brother didn't care, and I was super excited cuz I had a job and I wanted to buy lots of stuff for him. I would say we all love each other, but because of the age difference we never really bonded very well, I mean I only see my brothers on major holidays, and they fight like cats and dogs, but maybe that's just a boy thing.

BerryH

I've never experienced any disadvantages from being an only child and can't remember ever wanting a sibling. I do have a bit of a fascination for other people's siblings, though, and always like to try and work out hereditary appearance and personality traits!

JennW130

i was an only child growing up, and i was perfectly happy. I have 2 kids, and thats all i plan on having.

LindaCWy

get her a puppy instead?

MadeOfMagic

I was sort of an "only child". My brother is 10 years older than me, so even now we don't really talk. I worry the age gap is already too big (this is just my opinion though) but they would end up being nearly 7 years apart. So if they are anything like me and my brother, they wont really feel like "siblings". I love the guy, but he moved out by the time we were able to actually have conversations and now we just see each other on holiday. So, if you are going to have another child, just remember that. The age gap may be too big. This doesn't go for everyone though!

I actually have to agree with this,I was the only child until I got adopted at 11, my parent already had a daughter and adopted a boy too. My sister is 13 yrs older and my brother is 4 years older, both moved out of the house before I really got to bond with them on that level. I only see them on holidays as well, and though I would love to have a close relationship with both but the age difference sorta ruins it, because we couldn't enjoy the same things cause of the age difference. Don't get me wrong I love them to death but I didn't really get to bond with them.

If you're open to adoption you should do that so she can a sister close to her age to play with, I wish my sister was closer to my age because we would have had so much fun together but I guess I have friends to do that with now :P

I would have loved being the only child too though, because my siblings always got everything they wanted, my brother would get away with DUIs/Drugs/Totalling 3 cars and not get punished but I would get punished if I didn't clean my room, it was complete utter bull sh**, because I was the youngest I got treated the ****iest, my parents literally ended up ruining my life so I haven't talked/seen my parents in over 3 years,I only talk with my sister and brother. I hated being the youngest, they say you get spoiled as the "baby" of the family but you don't. If my brother and my sister were closer to my age, than my parents wouldn't treat us all so differently.

SKP1986

I was an only child and have no regrets. I never wanted a sibling because I was always kind of a loner anyway. I entertained myself and had plenty of friends that I could play with if I wanted someone else to be in on my games. I recognize that if there had been a sibling in the pictures, funds would have been tighter and my family wouldn't have gotten to do a lot of things that we did get to do.

I'm definitely more independent - dunno if that's a good thing or a bad thing, though as I don't really like being forced to work with other people on projects/research/whatever. It has made me more efficient when i know I have to do something alone, though, and I like being the one in control of stuff like that.

If I could go back there is no way I would change it. Being an only afforded me opportunities I never would have seen had I had siblings.

dancngdolfn

I'm not an only child either but my husband is, and i agree with you totally. I think there should be more than 1 child. Not trying to offend anyone just my opinion.

Diary_Queen

As an only child, I didn't want any siblings and was very glad growing up that I didn't have any. Now, I kinda wish I did.... my parents are getting older and I can see where it's difficult for me to take care of them, my kids and myself without help. Sometimes, I would like to have a sibling - I'm in my 30s though... it wasn't for me when I was 6!