Why do you "unfriend" people

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  • luvnthenewme
    luvnthenewme Posts: 121 Member
    I have only unfriended one person. Honestly, I got tired of her posting EVERY day that "Today is a cheat day" or "I did *some normal activity* so I am going to splurge". Maybe I am not a nice, supportive person, but my other friends are out there working their tails off and truly changing their life habits to achieve their goals. That is what I want to be surrounded by.
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    If they don't log in for a while or the need more support than I can provide or they do stupid things like HCG or I just don't feel connected to them.

    Or if they make any of my favorites uncomfortable. Yes, I do play favorites.
  • fitniknik
    fitniknik Posts: 713 Member
    I unfriended people due to we are at different places.
    They are trying hard to loose and I'm trying to maintiane
    I've lost all I need to and it just did not feel right.
    I do support them in going for it, it very much worth the
    work.

    How do you think you got to maintenance? By losing, with the help of people who have lost! Sad that you arent willing to share your wisdom!
  • DJJW
    DJJW Posts: 519 Member
    I have defriended people who haven't shown up in FOREVER and who hasn't been part of my weight loss, but on the other hand, I still have people who haven't logged on in a year, but who I had a bond with and if/when they log back on they will still see me here. But I would never delete you, you rock.
  • MrsSWW
    MrsSWW Posts: 1,585 Member
    Show me your friends and I'll show you your future - that's my mantra baby!

    ^^ Ooooh I like this!!!

    I posted yesterday that I have 41 friends and every single one of them had logged in. In the past I have unfriended people who are consistenlty under 1k cals, but I've softened in my old age, and hope to lead by example i.e. eat healthy food 90% of the time (and a lot of it), exercise, and achieve a steady, sensible weight loss. :smile:

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  • SheilaSisco
    SheilaSisco Posts: 722 Member
    I unfriend people who are pro-ana or unsupportive. It irritates me when people send me a friend request and then don't even make the effort to talk to me.

    ^^^This!^^^

    Yes, I can totally agree with this!
  • LovelyLifter
    LovelyLifter Posts: 560 Member
    cos im a b*tch
  • cramernh
    cramernh Posts: 3,335 Member
    I wont judge anyone who doesnt post something, nor if they hadnt been on MFP in a while... Too many factors can cause a person to not respond, or come around, etc. If I see they have been gone for like, two months, yeah, Ill remove them. If they come back and ask for a re-invite.. sure!

    There was one MFP member that life just got in the way for her. I sent a private message letting her know that where she confided in me on a few things that were going on, I understood. I had removed her, but I told her that when she was ready to come back, if she would like to keep in touch, I wanted her to know that I recognize life gets the best of us and Ill gladly grab her back. But, we dont monitor our MFP's together. I stay out of her business (per her request), and she stays out of mine (per my request)... My MFP experience is really no one's right to tell me what to do, nor mine to tell them... but I wont put up with someone's rediculous drama that they just seem to thrive on... ***rolling eyes here

    Some people have made it known that they plan on taking a period of time off and werent sure when they were coming back. They dont even have to say that to anyone.. its nice, but not necessary.

    I will though avoid folks with eating disorders though. Thats an area that I am plain-out not comfortable with at all. Nothing against them personally.

    People just need to focus on theirselves I think. Im here on MFP for myself because I have to focus on myself under the guidance of specialists who are helping me with my medical conditions and such by monitoring my intakes.
  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,162 Member
    people that add me and i never hear from and yea people with ED's that don't wanna listen
  • muwchck
    muwchck Posts: 261 Member
    I've deleted people who have continuously eaten very low calorie amounts and think that it's ok. It happens to everyone every once in a while, and I understand that. But if you make it a daily point to eat 900 calories and burn 400 or more, you're not about doing this the right way, and I don't need you bringing me down.
  • Jules2Be
    Jules2Be Posts: 2,238 Member
    I havent unfriended anyone yet... but one unfriended me...maybe they didnt like Boobie Friday?
  • cramernh
    cramernh Posts: 3,335 Member
    I havent unfriended anyone yet... but one unfriended me...maybe they didnt like Boobie Friday?

    'Tits' ok....Thank you for keeping us 'abreast' of your Friday rituals though

    LOL!!!
  • Oneday150
    Oneday150 Posts: 240 Member
    I don't unfriend people, but on 2 different occasions my 3yr old son was playing with my phone and deleted a couple of ppl from my list... :grumble:
  • beckylawrence70
    beckylawrence70 Posts: 752 Member
    People who are never on or don't log food or don't workout, I mean that's what this site is all about right? Oh and people, woman, who are overtly sexual and think this is a dating site.
  • jamielynas
    jamielynas Posts: 366 Member
    When people are netting about 17 calories a day, I just find it irritating.
  • ElleOQuent
    ElleOQuent Posts: 429 Member
    I delete people whose name I do not recognize while scanning my Friend's List.

    If I have been "friends" with someone for a reasonable amount of time and have rarely, if ever, interacted with him/her, I think it's fair to cut the person loose.

    I also find myself deleting whiners, people who are chronically negative, and those who are easily-offended by things that strangers on the internet say.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    I just don't add anyone so I never have to delete them.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    Many reasons:

    1. You're not active
    2. You don't like my foul mouth
    3. We fundamentally disagree on something I value to the point it's a deal-breaker
    4. You're annoying
    5. You're too needy
    6. I got trigger happy...

    It happens.
    I have deleted for any of the above reasons...#3 particularly
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Many reasons:

    1. You're not active
    2. You don't like my foul mouth
    3. We fundamentally disagree on something I value to the point it's a deal-breaker
    4. You're annoying
    5. You're too needy
    6. I got trigger happy...

    It happens.

    Yup.
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    i defined people who never comment back after I am supportive to them,but observe that they comment on other people. I give them about 6 weeks then delete them. I make a very conscious effort to comment on ALL my friends who post their workouts,exercises and funny remarks wherever possible, and not just with cheap 'wtg's, ', either.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
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    here ya go, hope this helps
  • still_crafty
    still_crafty Posts: 682 Member
    I've unfriended a couple of people who pretty much did nothing but whine about what wasn't working for them but kept doing the exact same things. I also got rid of someone who was posting way too much and using MFP kind of like it was Facebook or Twitter.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    I pick two people at random and make them fight for my affection. Winner stays, loser gets the axe.
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    I deleted everybody. Why have a list of people you know are going to atta girl/boy you and you back at them. Pointless. I like being accountable to myself because I know I am more critical and demanding of myself than anyone else. Hey, if I goof up, I fricken know it and correct it. I don't need anyone telling me "it's okay, don't give up". It's not.
  • getsveltEagain
    getsveltEagain Posts: 1,063 Member
    I will delete for a couple reasons but they are all listed on my profile.

    1) eating a total calories below 1200. We all have a bad day or something happens and we might fall below, but if it is all the time I cannot support that. I am a BIG believer in eating more to lose... EAT YOUR BMR!
    2) you haven't logged on in a month... now people have said that they are going through crap in life and I will stick with them. But if you haven't said anything and then you are gone forever= hmmmm. I will post a comment on their wall to see if they are coming back, if nothing after another week: bye
    3) The whining that someone does about not losing weight. Specially if they won't take advice from friends that have had sucess or stick with something long enough to see if it works.

    I want people that are dedicated and healthy... this is a lifestyle change for me and I want support for that. I need people that understand that and will support me. I give plenty of support and encouragement to my friends. If that is not returned then I don't feel the need to support you either. I am not a "friend collector".
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    *lick lick* Hi Brett.
  • Kayley
    Kayley Posts: 327 Member
    I pick two people at random and make them fight for my affection. Winner stays, loser gets the axe.
    Bahahaha!
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member
    cos im a b*tch

    This... 100% this... I do not feel I need to explain why I delete people.
  • LovelyLifter
    LovelyLifter Posts: 560 Member
    *lick lick* Hi Brett.

    **shoves**

    Hiya Brett *nibble nibble**
  • Jorra
    Jorra Posts: 3,338 Member
    In honor of this thread, I just deleted 5 people.