Why do you "unfriend" people

galegetsthin

I'm the mad whacker.. I like to collect people and then randomly whack them with no warning. My goal is to eventually friend everybody on MFP and then eventually whack them. If you want to get whacked.. FR me!!!

The "mad whacker" huh???? be careful..... dont wanna be tooooooo mad, might need ointment.

BlueInkDot

I have unfriended two people because I felt that their attitudes were not conducive to the attitude I need to create in myself in order to successfully lose weight.

I hope that they know that it wasn't because I dislike them or because I thought badly of them, it was simply a matter of our attitudes not clicking together. *shrug*

Andrealeah32

I mostly delete the friends that are never on -- no point in having them as friends if they aren't logging in. Kinda pointless to me.

There is someone I have on my list that I've been considering removing b/c they seem to be so self absorbed and have too many friends that they are really not supportive -- more like annoying. I've been keeping this person around only for my own sheer enjoyment and seeing what bizzare post they are gonna put up next. This "friend" has never ONCE posted on my profile -- and come to think of it -- i haven't on theirs either even though I added her. HA! I figure it's pointless since it will likely be lost in all of the bizzareness on their profile. For the most part tho, I have great mfp friends and really haven't had to delete many.

My burning question tho is -- what if you want to delete someone you know personally, as in outside of MFP? What is the etticate? I have been debating deleting a personal friend only b/c they are generally very negative. My first thought is do what I normally do - ignore it and keep this person around. But then again, if I just deleted this person I could just say, you are so negative so I deleted you! I have no problem with that either. Thoughts?

mznisaelaine

If they don't log in or interact with me. The worst is when people add, me ask me to support them, please be friends, etc etc. I make a appoint to talk to them, support them, etc and they dont ever log in again. Making a trip to people's profile can be tiresome lol...So I "unfriend" when most of the time people dont log in.... oh and too much negativity. I have deleted one person because they were constantly feeling up my newsfeed with negativity.

Andrealeah32

I'm the mad whacker.. I like to collect people and then randomly whack them with no warning. My goal is to eventually friend everybody on MFP and then eventually whack them. If you want to get whacked.. FR me!!!

The "mad whacker" huh???? be careful..... dont wanna be tooooooo mad, might need ointment.

LOVE IT!!

Kityngirl

I delete people whose name I do not recognize while scanning my Friend's List.

If I have been "friends" with someone for a reasonable amount of time and have rarely, if ever, interacted with him/her, I think it's fair to cut the person loose.

^^this. I'm not overly active on statuses and the forum, but if I can't even remember who you are then I can't imagine you know who I am either.

SwannySez

I'm the mad whacker..

heh heh.

me too.

auroranflash

Because she made a post that literally made me want to pull my hair out about whether or not eating one protein bar a day would make you fat, and the mouse kinda ouija-board willed it to the delete button and I was helpless to stop it.

Is that really a bunny rabbit with a spear in a boat with a t-rex sea creature spitting out a rainbow? Rockon. I would never delete you.

Yes, I am the big one in the middle, although I have lost weight since then and gained some upper arm strength. I really try to work on the latter to defeat the stereotypes that T-Rexes can't do pushups (so tired of hearing this bigotry). If I recall, that whole battle with the rabbit started because of some caustic remark he made about my skinny arms and contrastingly large bottom. Oh well, haters gonna hate.

Also, when the whole thing was over, he was delicious.

UsedToBeHusky

I have only deleted people who are gone for a month or more. I try to encourage them to return before I click the button. I just want to have people who are motivated. Not to say that their reason for not being around has anything to do with motivation, but if they come back and re-request, I always take them back. I care about the people I interact with... and I allow them to have their own thoughts, feelings, and opinions. Now, I can't say I would never unfriend someone arbitrarily, but it hasn't happened yet.

arkansascountrygirl

I only unfriended one person and that was because they made me uncomfortable with how they talked. really creepy remarks. other than that I keep them

louisau

I delete someone if they havent logged in in over a month, if they say something to me that pisses me off, or if they refuse to eat at least 1200.

^this

parys1

I'm the mad whacker..

heh heh.

me too.

I you.

lucky2too

I had a medical emergency and was in a cardiac care unit for almost a week. I am so happy my mfp friend sent me a couple of "where the heck are you ???" messages. When someone disappears I send them a supportive is "everything okay/come on back" message, but after a couple of months...bye.

Beastette

I rarely add people, honestly. That means I rarely need to subtract them. I'm introverted like that.

I don't require much "support", just watching everyone kick donkey is motivation enough for me. I only cut the collectors or the inconsistent.

elishabeish

I deleted a guy for creepiness, and I've deleted a couple of people for complaining about no progress yet they were eating less than 1200. I tried to talk to them about it but no success. I deleted one because she had an IDGAF attitude toward the way MFP works,and I found it discouraging. I kinda feel bad about a couple of them but I feel it's too early for me to put up with toxic people =/

DannyMussels

Usually after they're gone for 2+ weeks.

Or if they're not creepy enough.

UsedToBeHusky

that have been part of your friends list? I mean, if they are posting stuff that is offensive, or never logging on and giving things a try, I can understand, but if you have had someone on your list, and have conversed with them practically every day for the last 4 months, and then just boom, they are gone? Just dont get it....kinda hurts ya know?

oh well, life goes on.

Some people will delete you if you get too much attention from all the other pals that you have in common and they feel you are takin the attention away from their self absorbed post. Mfp is real petty but so is the real world. Don't you watch the "House wives of Atlanta"?

I have never thought it about it that way, but you are probably right.

odusgolp

B*tch, two can play at this game!!

*grabs the nearest flogger and...*

Wait... Did I just see something shiny??

Oooh! And Odus loses her head to LL in the first round! Not pretty but we all saw it coming, easily distracted that one...

*sobbing* if only i could pay attention!!!!!

milf_n_cookies

Oh, and I delete people who tell me to eat more without understanding my story.

teagin2002

I recently couldn't handle all the people on my list, it just got to be too much and I got trigger happy and lost a bunch I didn't want to loose :frown: Most of them came back and that makes me happy, but I just don't remember all their names or how to spell them.

I delete when people don't log in for a long time, are easily offended or take me seriously, and if they are way too inappropriate (I am a married woman). If they treat my page as a public forum and start jumping on my friends for their attitudes or language. If they are way too demanding, I am sorry I still love you, I just can't take too demanding. If they post too much bull sit that I really don't care about, like I just went to the Jon and such, HTF!!!

I am sorry your feel hurt, I am sure it's not what they meant to make you feel, sometimes things just get to be too much. If you feel too strongly, just send a friendly email wishing them the best on their journey. This way they will have every opportunity to add you back in case they got trigger happy

Just_Dot

I delete friends who don't show me their boobs.

garita93

I unfriend people who are pro-ana or unsupportive. It irritates me when people send me a friend request and then don't even make the effort to talk to me.

This! I have gotten friend requests and then they never say a single word to me and hardly ever post anything that I could possibly comment on.

karendsmith

I haven't unfriended anybody yet, but I can see some of the good points for doing so.. I am like what one of the posts said, I keep my group small so I can keep up with everybodys day to day activities and progresses. I also agree that if someone hasnt logged in for a while, they will need a friend to come back to if they decide to come back...

maryduggins

lol am I the only person who actually *knows* all of her friends? (; I don't add people... I get it, it's not the same as say... Facebook... but still... I don't know you ;P I'm not going to just start talking with you (; that being said I'm fine with people who've messaged me with advice or asked questions even. If I can help out that's great, whether I know you or not. And if you can help me, then I'm more than happy to take your advice(: but we don't have to be *friends*.

karendsmith

I also don't bother with friending men, I am not on here for a relationship, I am married. I want to have and give support from other women close to my age so we can relate to our trials and tributes...

elysianashes

I pruned a bit this morning - people who hadn't been on for a week or more AND never really posted much to begin with... people who never did anything but log their food (never commented or posted on anything, never logged any exercise, etc.)... none of it was personal. I added a LOT of people when I first came on the site and I was finding that I wasn't interacting with most of them because it was too many to keep up with and I didn't want to spend 20 minutes posting "Good job!" "Way to go!" "Keep it up!" - it felt a little empty.

Meaganandcheese

I consider it if their grammar is really heinous.

zeikiya989

I delete people all the time. And I don't mind if I am deleted either, I don't want to collect and see how many friends I can have. I want real supporters, connections, real friendships and people who have time. So If we don't click or not on same path, or whatever and you are never going to support me as i do you, i feel please delete me, so your post aren't taking up my time. I am more likely to delete someone who has logged in 300 days in a row, but rarely supports me, then someone who we have a connection but they just haven't logged on in a week.

jen88ve

I take them off if they have been inactive for 7 days and/or don't comment. I like to keep my friends list manageable so I can comment and offer support daily.

What if someone is on vacation for 7 days? Thats kinda $#!TT^

I agree, I was sick with strep throat last week and the last thing I wanted to do track my crackers and soup and comment on posts... things happen.

MsTanya77

I unfriend ppl who are non supportive for an extensive period of time, esp if I am always supporting them. I also unfriend people who are blatantly offensive. Sometimes I delete people if we just don't click.