Fit Men / Un-fit Women

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  • soccermoma11
    soccermoma11 Posts: 126
    I think you are right on the ball! it really does seem unfair that woman can expect a man to be fit and healthy yet they can just let themselves go. I feel that if I want a man who is healty and in shape and fit i too need to be in shape and fit and healthy. I take pride in my body and my health and fitness. It is sad that so many people have let themselves go, I have standards and ideals that I want in a man, but I also have those similar standards for me. This is how it should be.
  • LilRedRooster
    LilRedRooster Posts: 1,421 Member
    Odd, I thought this thread was locked.

    I did, too. Huh. Surprise, surprise.
  • abberbabber
    abberbabber Posts: 972 Member
    I don't know if anyone else has mentioned this, but I've seen this go the other way, too. Especially on dating sites. I prefer my men on the chunky side, but a good percentage of those same guys list "slender" or "athletic" as their preferred body type for a woman.
  • fluffysexyme
    fluffysexyme Posts: 104 Member
    My ex and I were total opposites. He was 6ft tall and thin but muscular, white, blue eyes and I am 5'8" and as the screen name says, fluffy :) you can see the rest lol
    I would laugh at the way people reacted to seeing us. They were shocked that this trim dude in an Army uniform was dating this out if shape, yet still beautiful cubby girl. I just referred to us as the perfect.10 LOL
    But, he asked me out, he pursued me and some people find that hard to believe. It came down to personality I think. He felt comfortable talking to me about being in Iraq and all the painful things in his past. I didn't push for the info either like so many did. He would just word vomit. I think that's how the attraction started. Then he asked me out an we hung out every chance we got. Then, I got pregnant and that really threw people because he was happy to show me and my huge belly off. He came into my job for the first time to bring me lunch and one of my coworkers came running up to me and said "who is that?!" I said that's my daughter's father and her mouth hit the floor. She said "he's really good looking." Umm... so because I'm not the "ideal body type" I can't date hotties?! GTFO!! I think once you grow up and realize that looks don't mean much, they will fade in time anyway, and it's the person that makes the difference, you don't care. I can alway lose weight, but a ***** is a *****.
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    I don't see where this site is predominantly a women's site. There are a lot of men on here as well. We all want the best in our prospective significant others. This is human nature -- men and women alike.
  • AlyssaWannabe
    AlyssaWannabe Posts: 13 Member
    I don't see how to NOT be offended by your post.

    You are being a bully.

    And honestly, I don't think it's any of your business who I want to date or why.

    Collective judgements are always wrong.
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    I don't see where this site is predominantly a women's site. There are a lot of men on here as well. We all want the best in our prospective significant others. This is human nature -- men and women alike.

    EXACTLY. Who doesn't want an eye candy, tell me? Since I lost the weight & became fit & toned, I'm getting more attention from men, fit or not.
  • Aleara2012
    Aleara2012 Posts: 225 Member
    Women are the gatekeepers. Nature states that only the fittest men get to procreate. This is true in our society as well. Women tend to have a very strict guideline on their own appearance and that carries over with what they consider acceptable for a mate moreso than men do. One only needs to take a walk at a public place to verify that.

    For the most part when you see two people together, their body types tend to be similar if not identical. Fit men with fit women. Normal men with normal women. Fat men with fat women.

    Sometimes you'll notice a fit person with a fat other. Nine times out of ten its a fit man with a fat woman. This could be because she had his babies and that happens when you have babies. However, it is very odd to see a fit woman with a fat man. In fact in my entire life i've seen it all of three times and all three times it turned a lot of heads.

    However regardless... these instances are rare as again you typically see fit people together. Its rare period to see a fit person with someone who is not fit out in public, at least in my own experience


    I think if this is your experience, you should probably travel and see more.... I have seen plenty of un-fit men with fit women. Just sayin'

    On the other hand I do agree that often when talking about middle aged and older couples, the differences in fittness have increased over time. A couple who has started as an equal fitness match could end up rather unequal. Life happens. And very often it happens differently for the woman and the man.
  • osualex
    osualex Posts: 409 Member
    It's rare that I've seen this...I've attracted some very fit guys, at my current weight (159) and my highest weight (200+) but they were always the ones that initiated with me, and like I said, it's rare...most overweight girls that I know don't experience this. I think maybe I'm lucky because my weight is distributed in a way that can be considered curvy - small waist, big boobs, and big hips. Anyway, I know I would get more fit guys if I was smaller. Most people are more attracted to someone at a healthy weight.

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