Today was the first time I've ever been called a fatty.

Stinkerbelle84

You can fix fat, but you can't fix ugly....and you can't fix stupid either, lol.

Don't let one person get to you! And like others said....enjoy the look on his face after you "fix fat."

I wish you the best! You are definately in the right place!

kmuree

Thank you, everyone .. it was just such a weird, surreal moment to actually have someone vocalize my weight out loud. I'm fortunate that I've gone this long without someone bullying or taunting my weight (I got through all of junior high and high school without, thank goodness) but it felt odd that the very month I begin actively and aggressively fighting my weight, this is said.

I appreciate all of your support so much. And all of the laughs. :laugh: You are all amazing people. I really shouldn't let it get to me as much as I have. He's not worth my time and I know it!

Stronger by Kelly Clarkson came on in the car as I left work. God's way of telling me something I guess, haha. What doesn't kill me makes me stronger. :bigsmile:

kmuree

:noway: i swear...people are so horrible!!

Next time you see him tell him that "you could get rid of your big *kitten* but he cant get rid of his dumb *kitten*"

That or " I wont always be, as you call it "a fatty", but you will always be prick!"

This, along with the laxative and other comebacks, totally turned my day around. :laugh: Thanks, I'll remember that!

Stinkerbelle84

WoW you should be PROUD of yourself!!! Because if it was me, he would have had to look around for his teeth!!! LMAO (NO JOKE) I seriously would have lost all of my God given senses and kick him in the sweets haha but, I agree with the rest of all these GOOD people, dont let one ugly simple minded bafoon ruin your day!!! SMILE!!!

Love it! And agreed. I don't think he would have gotten the statement out of his mouth before I kicked the crap out of him.

Elizabeth_C34

Thank you, everyone .. it was just such a weird, surreal moment to actually have someone vocalize my weight out loud. I'm fortunate that I've gone this long without someone bullying or taunting my weight (I got through all of junior high and high school without, thank goodness) but it felt odd that the very month I begin actively and aggressively fighting my weight, this is said.

I appreciate all of your support so much. And all of the laughs. :laugh: You are all amazing people. I really shouldn't let it get to me as much as I have. He's not worth my time and I know it!

Stronger by Kelly Clarkson came on in the car as I left work. God's way of telling me something I guess, haha. What doesn't kill me makes me stronger. :bigsmile:

Take up boxing and picture his face in the heavy bag when you practice. Burn calories and get that anger out. DOUBLE WIN!

AND if he says it again, you'll have your right hook down to a science by then.

TheBraveryLover

I’m so sorry you had to endure that. That was nothing less than cruel, joking or not. But use that insult as a motivational piece on reaching your goals.

I, too, have never been called fat and have never lacked in attention from both sexes and that's part of the reason I waited so long before I ever attempted to lose weight.

Anytime you feel like stopping, think of his words today and keep going.

theartichoke

I'm so sorry that happened to you. You're on the path to reclaiming your health and nothing else matters. When the air gets knocked out if me like that it always takes a while to hit the reset button. Be kind to yourself. Don't take what he said, his ugliness, on as yours. If this helps, once the reset comes, write him a letter. It doesn't matter if you give it to him or not. You can burn it if you want. Write him about what happened, how you felt in that exact moment and what it felt like after. End it with a request to never speak to you that way again and exactly what you plan to do if he does. I know this sounds silly but I promise, this is so helpful and healing. My heart is with you.

AlmstHvn

Let's all show up and sit on him. Then punch him in the knee caps and sit on him again.

t_rog

yeah....you're so not a fatty at all. what an *kitten*. i would suggest you don't give him the time of day again!

CJuliaV

He's horrible. And dead to you.

This is who HE is -- a crap *kitten* person. and you are one in a long line of people he has offended. and other people know it. including your boss. He will go nowhere. you will do everything you want. it is not you. it is him. just sucks he made you feel bad.

Actually, I really like the post two above mine about sitting on him, punching his knee caps and sitting on him again, particulalry bc it is accompanied by such a sweet looking photo!

kmuree

Let's all show up and sit on him. Then punch him in the knee caps and sit on him again.

I just died a little. :laugh:

Ready2Rock206

Clearly he's an idiot. Don't waste another moment being concerned with a total clueless a##hat.

kmuree

He's horrible. And dead to you.

This is who HE is -- a crap *kitten* person. and you are one in a long line of people he has offended. and other people know it. including your boss. He will go nowhere. you will do everything you want. it is not you. it is him. just sucks he made you feel bad.

THAT'S the thing! My boss and his wife are obese (300-400+) and have recently been heavily working towards their own loss goals, very successfully! I can only imagine what will be said when my boss finds out from my general manager what he has sad. :grumble:

Karma!

JBsCrazyGirl

girl... you are NOT a fatty... :indifferent:
gawd that word is so harsh... :mad:
if anything, how immature was he to even think to say such a a childish word in the first place? :huh:

That is the mean name we call ourselves when we are eating something we are not suppose to and who ever is around us gets all uncomfortable because they do not know how to respond to what we just called ourselves.

Every journey we go on, is going to have bumps and exactly like you said, you cant fix ugly..
You definitely cant fix an ugly bump.

Once you hit your goal, after you had kept going and going, despite the *kitten* people who cant stand seeing other people move forward in such a positive and life fulfilling way, every one and everything that matters will be right there with you, cheering you and congratulating you. everything else? doesn't matter :flowerforyou:
you stay strong.

NewLIFEstyle4ME

{{{ Hugs }}}

I'm so sorry :flowerforyou:

Take this insult from an ignorant person and turn it around to your benefit. Realize he's obviously a lost, lonely and certainly a most miserable person--rather than give him your "Power" PLEASE feel sorry for him--for anyone that openly says or does such things is truly truly to be pitied. FORGIVE him NOW and THANK HIM ( in your heart/mind and thoughts) if you pray...pray for this poor rascal, and let his "curse" be your blessing instead, as you begin or continue on your journey to health and healing and an adventure in your weight-loss/new lifestyle journey. Here's some famous quotes to meditate upon about this:

A man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green.
FRANCIS BACON, Essays

The best revenge is massive success.
FRANK SINATRA

Heat not a furnace for your foe so hot that it doth singe yourself.
WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE

Laura_Suzie

As someone who has been called "fatty", "flubber", and every other nasty name in the book, 99.9% of the time the person who called you the name is just insecure themselves...

A couple years ago I had a really, really nasty boy tell me I was a fat pig. Not long after that, I found out he had an eating disorder. People are mean because they don't feel good about themselves.

Whatever the reason though, it still hurts. I know. The best advice I can give you is to use this experience and what you're feeling and channel it toward the greater good. All the mean nasty things people did to me helped me be a kinder, more sympathetic, positive person.

mrsejennings

People that say such things are insecure in their own skin so they like to pick out flaws in others. Arrogant, mindless fools. Ignore them and when you feel down, come on here and chat to us....the people that know that it takes guts, determination and a ****load of strength to go on the journey we are on. The same idiot will probably want your number soon, then Id tell him to shove it!! :-)) BTW...you are NOT ugly!

^^^agreed. People are so rude.:explode: Even when they dont realize it.:grumble: I like to quote Eleanor Roosevelt "No one can make you feel inferior with out your consent." Chin up. Pretend it didnt happen. Dont make it ruin you. Keep up your good work...show em what your made of. :bigsmile: They don't win. We win. We always win in the end.

wanderinglight

kmuree, I'm sorry that he said that. But I bet those careless words will push you even harder as you work towards your goal. Long after he has forgotten, you will still be reaping the rewards from what he said -- in the form of determination, strength, motivation and continued reliance on yourself. Don't let him win...kick his *kitten* up and down every day in your mind in the gym and I bet you will see results faster than you could have ever imagined.

arctiknitter

You are giving one person too much power. You live this life.

THIS!! Well said.

focus4fitness

What a &^%*! Man people can be jerks.

jnsangel33

In my entire life of being overweight (roughly ten years now), I've never been blatantly told that I'm fat. Curvy, yes. A little chubby, yes.

A male co-worker of mine was joking around about craving some cookie dough, and when a female co-worker of mine asked what we were talking about, he said, "Don't worry about it, (name), I'm talking to a fatty about something."

I feel numb. I can't even cry.
I feel like saying, screw you.

You can fix fat. You can't fix ugly.

It's not in my nature though. Why bother wasting my energy?
I feel so ugly now though. I feel like everyone sees me as this walking pocket of fat.

I want to just get on the treadmill and run forever.

My beautiful, beautiful, beautiful Krystyna..... you of all people KNOW BETTER than to listen to ridiculous nonsense such as this!! I know you have your sensitive side as we all do, but you are one of the toughest girls I know. You simply now know that this girl is someone you can NOT count on to make you feel safe.... she is no longer needed in your life other than as a co-worker. I love you. AND YOU ARE NOT FAT!!! You are cuddly!!!

JoeD1968

Sometimes an insult helps us motivate, use it to drive you to your goal!

kmuree

In my entire life of being overweight (roughly ten years now), I've never been blatantly told that I'm fat. Curvy, yes. A little chubby, yes.

A male co-worker of mine was joking around about craving some cookie dough, and when a female co-worker of mine asked what we were talking about, he said, "Don't worry about it, (name), I'm talking to a fatty about something."

I feel numb. I can't even cry.
I feel like saying, screw you.

You can fix fat. You can't fix ugly.

It's not in my nature though. Why bother wasting my energy?
I feel so ugly now though. I feel like everyone sees me as this walking pocket of fat.

I want to just get on the treadmill and run forever.

My beautiful, beautiful, beautiful Krystyna..... you of all people KNOW BETTER than to listen to ridiculous nonsense such as this!! I know you have your sensitive side as we all do, but you are one of the toughest girls I know. You simply now know that this girl is someone you can NOT count on to make you feel safe.... she is no longer needed in your life other than as a co-worker. I love you. AND YOU ARE NOT FAT!!! You are cuddly!!!

My future mother-in-law. I usually feel tougher than that but not today I guess. /: It's okay, though. A couple of my girlfriends from work and I toilet papered his entire lawn, car and house. :devil: Muahahaha. :blushing:

hanniejong

Holy crap, what an *kitten*.

I'm so sorry he did that. You are NOT a fatty.

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This!!! I know these words can hurt but in fact you are a very beautiful person and you just remember that.

sandralila

What a sad human being he is. I can feel your pain, that comment is abusive, I hope you go back to him and tell him how it made you feel. Either he really likes you and felt comfortable making what he thought was a funny joke, (some males are unknowingly insensitive) or is simply a jerk. Either way, don't stew over the comment, be direct and tell him how he hurt you. Stand up for yourself. You are strong!

XXXMinnieXXX

imagine his face when you reach your goal

This! X

TasTam

ROTFLMAO!!! I just loved it that you TP'd his house!! I work with all men (33 years now) and they can be totally insensitive and think their jokes are funny. My boss told me the other day I should just give in and eat a donut and that"once a fat *kitten* always a fat *kitten*". I told him that when I reached my goal that I was going to come into work and whip his sorry *kitten* with my bony hands!! I thought the other guys were going to fall out of their seats!! He just looked at me with that usual stupid *kitten* look on his face!!! But, I have to say it just makes me that more motivated to prove him wrong!!

melaniejleigh

Not to play devil's advocate, but I work with a lot of men and they really don't think when they talk. They will often treat
me just like one of the guys and they're insensitive and mean when that happens. I am very sorry he said that though.
I had a customer one time blatantly ask me how far along I was.
I had to very embarrassingly tell him that I wasn't pregnant I was just fat. All of my coworkers witnessed it and made fun of me about it for weeks.

I wouldn't let it get to me though. I just used it to push me and that's when I started losing weight. So I guess I won that game.

kristynkayte

I'm so sorry you had to experience that...but like you said...you can lose weight...his personality and arrogance will never change. Would it make you laugh a little bit if I told you my 4 year old nephew calls me Auntie Bootie??? Lol. I'm so hoping that by joining this site and taking charge of my health that I will no longer resemble the nickname. Lol Congrats on your weight loss so far and i wish you much continued success!!!!!

ann506

Just use it as motivation to keep moving foward. He's a jerk...and he can't fix that.
I had someone ask me when my baby was due. I laughed (because it was funny) and told her I wasnt pregnant I was just fat. She said she had trouble loosing baby weight too. I just laughed again and told her I didn't have children...I am just fat...but I'm walking and doing my best...and that is all can do.