Marriage Advice

k8blujay2

if you get a dog, it might eat its own poop.

It's all about breeding... I know this from personal experience with our literal dog.

fluffysexyme

1. Sex is the glue which holds a marriage together. (Given to me by my 50-something year old cousin)
2. Always speak to each other with the same respect with which you'd speak to a colleague at work. (Same cousin)
3. Never tell your family when you two are fighting big time. You'll forgive and forget, but they never will.
4. Never bring up the big "D" for 6 months surrounding any big life change (move, new job, kid, etc)...and try to agree never to bring it up at all.
5. Sex. A lot. With each other, preferably.

Good luck, and congratulations.

^ this! Plus, you have to learn how to speak each others love language. He may not be verbal while you are, but that doesn't mean me doesn't love you he just shows it while you say it kinda thing.
Also, remember that no matter what, you love him/her and "Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." 1 Corinthians 13:1, 4-7
Best of luck!!

k8blujay2

Sex...outside...on the trampoline...

Who said we bought it just for the kids? :drinker:

Now I must get a tramplone for our toddler... :laugh:

arewethereyet

Set the bar low... don't spoil him. :bigsmile:

:drinker:

arewethereyet

Start as you mean to go on. If you can't see yourself in 10 years picking up his underwear of the floor and making his lunches, don't do it in the first place. Remember to look at things from his point of view when he seems like he's being totally ridiculous. He may actually have a point. Or he may not, but still try to understand.

:drinker:

mamamudbug

to many pages to read them all , so sorry if this is already said

" never go to bed angry"
even if you can't work out the problem that night, make sure you tell each other I love you ! ..

Everyone says this but sometimes it's just best to leave each other alone and cool off. Learn when those times are. Take a break and look at things from your spouse's perspective.

k8blujay2

to many pages to read them all , so sorry if this is already said

" never go to bed angry"
even if you can't work out the problem that night, make sure you tell each other I love you ! ..

Everyone says this but sometimes it's just best to leave each other alone and cool off. Learn when those times are. Take a break and look at things from your spouse's perspective.

I totally agree with this.

liftingbro

Sex...outside...on the trampoline...

Who said we bought it just for the kids? :drinker:

Sounds like a broken wiener waiting to happen. :laugh:

karenwill2

Set the bar low... don't spoil him. :bigsmile:

This. And lower expectations. Marriage is NOT rainbows and puppy dogs. You will see each other at your literal worst and yet still find the other sexy.

Jferg69

Wedlock is a 2 way street. As long as I can run away in either direction, i'm fine, hahaha

BigDaddyBRC

Smack him on the *kitten* for a "job" well done. Make sure to leave a hand print

picassoadagio

You can look, but remember not to touch. It can lead to problems in the future.

freeindeed33

Love is about being selfLESS NOT selfISH. Real love does not worry about getting only giving....this is the type of mindset/heartset that sets up a marriage to succeed!!!
Be blessed!

Lay821

Bump

mamamudbug

if you get a dog, it might eat its own poop.

If you have kids, they'll poop in the tub.

LoViNlIFe0225

A couple things my mom told me right before my wedding was:

1) remember when you're mad at him...that you're flawed to.
2) Never quit having sex...when you lose that intimacy the marriage is doomed.
3) Never let your babies sleep in bed with you...they'll never stop and that should be a sacred place between you and your husband.
4) Laugh together...allow yourself to feel happiness without scrutinizing it.
5) Don't try to like and be interested in everything he likes to do....its okay to have differences embrace them and maintain your independence to some level.
6) But yourself aside sometimes...its okay to put him and his needs first sometimes...even if this means doing something you don't like.
7) make time to date.
8) Forgive each other.
9) Get dressed up sometimes.
10) Cook dinner...cook dinner as much as you can! :happy:

She gave many many many more, but I just can't list them all. She married my dad when she wa 18 and he was 21, they had four daughters and have been happily married for 36 years so I would say she knows what she is talking about! Good luck!

babyshme

Sex...outside...on the trampoline...

Who said we bought it just for the kids? :drinker:

Sounds like a broken wiener waiting to happen. :laugh:

LMAO!!! Sex in many places work.

If you don't want him now, you wont want him later. Kids do change every thing. If they are living together now, nothing will really change right away. They will change over time though. So just brace for it. Have fun.

phillieschic

Sex...outside...on the trampoline...

Who said we bought it just for the kids? :drinker:

Sounds like a broken wiener waiting to happen. :laugh:

Then you're obviously not doing something right... :noway:

wolfehound22

Good communication, don't sweat the small stuff and honestly it's all small stuff, lots of oral and everything else just takes care of itself.

I love you lol :bigsmile:

babyshme

3) Never let your babies sleep in bed with you...they'll never stop and that should be a sacred place between you and your husband

THEY NEVER LEAVE YOUR BED, IF YOU DON'T MAKE THEM LEAVE ... That statement is false in my case. Share my bed with all my kids and oddly, I still went on to have more..;. This is very true for a lot of people. When kids are involved, do what you feel is best.

AnneGenevieveS

A friend of mine had sent cards to everyone to mail back with such advice.

Another friend passed around a book for everyone to write in during the bridal shower, wedding reception, etc.

MY unsolicited ADVICE: If you always are looking out for each other and think of the other person before yourself, your marriage will go far. He always tries to make you happy, and you always try to make him happy, then everyone ends up happy but it takes TWO. Don't forget to tell each other how important you are to each other, even after many years. Hold hands like little kids, and snuggle up on dates. and don't forget to go on dates! I haven't been married forever, but I have 10 years of marriage experience, and I'd say those things will carry you through a lot, even times of fighting.

GasMasterFlash

Beware flesh eating bacterias.

http://latino.foxnews.com/latino/health/2012/05/18/flesh-eating-bacteria-consumes-man-penis/

EmCarroll1990

6) But yourself aside sometimes...its okay to put him and his needs first sometimes...even if this means doing something you don't like.

Like anal.

babyshme

6) But yourself aside sometimes...its okay to put him and his needs first sometimes...even if this means doing something you don't like.

Like anal.

Or other things. Like oral.

GasMasterFlash

6) But yourself aside sometimes...its okay to put him and his needs first sometimes...even if this means doing something you don't like.

Like anal.

I think that's exactly what they meant. Notice how they used "but" -- oh so close to "butt" -- instead of "put"?

mejustsmaller316

Let your other half be right every once in a while, even know there not.

angryguy77

Vote the way your husband tells you too

WildFlower7

Sex...outside...on the trampoline...

Who said we bought it just for the kids? :drinker:

hmmmm a must try

:laugh: :laugh: LOVE it! :laugh: I was afraid I was the only one.:bigsmile:

stevewynjones

I won't offer any advice.

I wish you both the very best in life.

GasMasterFlash

Vote the way your husband tells you too

Exactly! This was the prerequisite for allowing y'all to vote!