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  • mello
    mello Posts: 817 Member
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    Pay cash for everything except maybe home and car.

    Don't go into debt overload, you would be amazed at what are wants and what are actual needs. Don't worry about the "Joneses" like the TV commercial says, they are in debt up to their eyeballs...one paycheck away from financial ruin.

    Your worth, success and achievement as a couple are not determined by the size of your home, number of toys in the garage (boats, atv, etc) and how current your cell phone is.

    Try to save a little out of each paycheck, you would be amazed at what $10, $20, $50 a pay day saved can add up to over years.

    All my best to you:flowerforyou:
  • stephensmith0929
    stephensmith0929 Posts: 160
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    Dont do it Courtney!!!!
  • candykay0605
    candykay0605 Posts: 1,019 Member
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    experiment with toys") invest in a swing
  • Diary_Queen
    Diary_Queen Posts: 1,314 Member
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    Two Words..... No Panties.

    There I fixed it.


    I'm a lingerie freak..... so it's nice to have a little something, but very very little!
  • phillieschic
    phillieschic Posts: 615
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    Always listen with your full attention.

    Even if you don't have an answer, just listen. :indifferent:
  • corrinnebrown
    corrinnebrown Posts: 345 Member
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    Remember that you have to WORK at marriage. Its not just some fairy tale. It takes work to be so happy :)
  • Peep_chic
    Peep_chic Posts: 369 Member
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    Ever heard : "Everything is fare in love & war"? Soo Not true. There are rules for war. Cant shoot a man on a parachute, cant shoot medics and clergy, & a bunch of others. Same in marriage. Set rules for battles because they will come. One to begin the list. 1. Be respectful or appologize after disrespecting. (even when u dont feel like it)
    2. Be loving or appologize after acting unloving. (even when u dont feel like it)
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
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    Two Words..... No Panties.

    There I fixed it.


    I'm a lingerie freak..... so it's nice to have a little something, but very very little!

    Unless you are married to someone that likes short short skirts with nothing underneath... :wink:
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
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    Check his texts daily.

    And his internet history (seriously... *this* has gotten me tons of hugs and kisses </sarc>)

    No really, I'd recommend the internet history too. Knowing about his fascination with "hot teenage porn" probably would've opened my eyes a little before I married him...

    Any man worth being with, won't care if you check his texts, email, or internet history...lol.

    Seriously.

    Meh, we both have our passwords saved on the computers... so it's super easy to access our facebook profiles, emails and the like... and we generally don't check up on each other just because wrong conclusions can be made, but it usually doesn't matter because we don't do or say anything that would disrespect the other (at least not intentionally).

    This is what I mean exactly...if he/she's keeping it private, there's almost ALWAYS a reason. People with nothing to hide, don't become defensive when other people (that they're supposed to be loving and sharing their lives with) want to learn more about them, or just see what they do with their time away from each other.

    Any man worth being with, won't care if you check his texts, email, or internet history...lol.

    Seriously.

    lol! I agree. I'll hand over all my usernames/passwords for everything, and I wouldn't care a bit. I have nothing to hide and I kind of feel if i was curious, he should feel the same.

    Definitely. My passwords are usually catchy and relatively simple to remember once you know them. I always make a point to casually ask her to log in to check something for me. This shows trust on my part, and gives her permanent access for future snooping.

    I'm 100% ok with her snooping lol.

    More seriously though...email accounts are interesting...you learn so many things about the person you're with (particularly in a new relationship, obviously) that you may never have thought to ask, or may have taken years to learn otherwise. When you've been together for any period of time (meaning living together etc), open access is just a given.

    Together, means 'together'...not 'together...but don't you dare snoop in my private life!'.
  • LovingLisa2012
    LovingLisa2012 Posts: 802 Member
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    to many pages to read them all , so sorry if this is already said

    " never go to bed angry"
    even if you can't work out the problem that night, make sure you tell each other I love you ! ..
  • MamaKeeks
    MamaKeeks Posts: 234
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    Laugh - A LOT!!! It will help you thru the hardest times together.

    Also, make sure the person you are marrying is the person you want standing beside you in the toughest moments of your life to come... births, deaths, loss, pain... this is the person who will help hold you up when you're falling down. Make sure this is the person you want beside you when you are at your weakest and most vulnerable.

    Finally, don't expect anyone, including your spouse, to make you happy - make YOURSELF happy!

    That's all I gots...
  • shelbynicole32
    shelbynicole32 Posts: 179 Member
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    Dont become roomates.
  • melb2003
    melb2003 Posts: 198
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    Check his texts daily.

    And his internet history (seriously... *this* has gotten me tons of hugs and kisses </sarc>)

    No really, I'd recommend the internet history too. Knowing about his fascination with "hot teenage porn" probably would've opened my eyes a little before I married him...

    Any man worth being with, won't care if you check his texts, email, or internet history...lol.

    Seriously.

    Meh, we both have our passwords saved on the computers... so it's super easy to access our facebook profiles, emails and the like... and we generally don't check up on each other just because wrong conclusions can be made, but it usually doesn't matter because we don't do or say anything that would disrespect the other (at least not intentionally).

    This is what I mean exactly...if he/she's keeping it private, there's almost ALWAYS a reason. People with nothing to hide, don't become defensive when other people (that they're supposed to be loving and sharing their lives with) want to learn more about them, or just see what they do with their time away from each other.

    Any man worth being with, won't care if you check his texts, email, or internet history...lol.

    Seriously.

    lol! I agree. I'll hand over all my usernames/passwords for everything, and I wouldn't care a bit. I have nothing to hide and I kind of feel if i was curious, he should feel the same.

    Definitely. My passwords are usually catchy and relatively simple to remember once you know them. I always make a point to casually ask her to log in to check something for me. This shows trust on my part, and gives her permanent access for future snooping.

    I'm 100% ok with her snooping lol.

    More seriously though...email accounts are interesting...you learn so many things about the person you're with (particularly in a new relationship, obviously) that you may never have thought to ask, or may have taken years to learn otherwise. When you've been together for any period of time (meaning living together etc), open access is just a given.

    Together, means 'together'...not 'together...but don't you dare snoop in my private life!'.

    100 % agree with this!
  • phillieschic
    phillieschic Posts: 615
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    Sex...outside...on the trampoline...

    Who said we bought it just for the kids? :drinker:
  • GasMasterFlash
    GasMasterFlash Posts: 2,206 Member
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    if you get a dog, it might eat its own poop.
  • marynmarty
    marynmarty Posts: 89 Member
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    Always plan a date night....never let go of those dating moments with each other no matter how crazy life can get. Cherish each other and always keep the "romance" alive hehe. Enjoy each other!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • WildFlower7
    WildFlower7 Posts: 714 Member
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    Have sex a few times a week. It lowers your risk of Heart Disease and keeps the hubby (and you) happy:blushing: . Can't go wrong there :bigsmile:
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
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    My first advice is why marry? Just stay *kitten* buddies. But, if you NEED to do it for some weird reason, the only other thing you really need to know is:

    When she stops sucking your weeny, it's over.
  • candykay0605
    candykay0605 Posts: 1,019 Member
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    Sex...outside...on the trampoline...

    Who said we bought it just for the kids? :drinker:

    hmmmm a must try
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
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    Marrying someone says you think they have a good heart, so even when he doesn't make sense, or he's looking at you like you're an alien, always assume the other has the best of intentions. Question the behavior, not the motive.

    Be each others best cheerleaders.

    Clearly state what your needs are. Hints don't get through.
    And when he states his needs, don't critique them or blow it off.

    When making requests, allow room for the word "No".

    If there are any issues, each person should deal with their side of the family.

    Don't gossip about your spouse. Fastest way to break trust is to air private matters.

    Be a team! Fight together, not each other.

    Use please and thank you.

    Kiss often.

    Dance naked for him every once in a while.

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