Are most men like this to live with??
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I haven't read trough all of the replies, but NO, not all men are like that, and the ones that are need their *kitten* kicked. :-/
I'd tell him to get off his *kitten* and do something. I'll be damned if my girls end up with lazy *kitten* men. And my boys won't be lazy neither. I can't tolerate that ****.0 -
I didn't read all 5 pages. What happens if you tell him to do his own damn dishes and make his own dinner?0
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See if he mother did everything? Please, he knows what to do, but give him a change. Talk to him. Lay your concerns on the table. LOL. This is just to funny to me, but lay the everything on the table. Let see what the attitude or reaction will be. Sometimes you have to train them, some dont come already trained.
Then again you may have gotten a boy instead of a man.
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NO! Not all guys are like this, your guys sounds like a complete douche who is going to want to control you the rest of his life so get out now, and for those people who say that all guys are like this have been living with a douche as well. If you can't learn to share in the responsibilities than it isn't going to work out at all. He had to do all of those things on his own before you moved in so it shouldn't be a big deal for him to keep doing them.0
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You have to tell him what you want first. If he doesn't comply, withhold sex. That would get me to do the dishes! Then again, maybe I'd just buy paper plates so I could throw them away. Lol0
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I can't believe that you are sleeping on a single mattress on the floor when your boyfriend has a nice, new double bed. Something about this whole situation screams of power and control issues. It is one thing to be lazy, but he seems worse than that. I hate to say it, but get you a job, and get out of there. :frown:0
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My man knows better than to leave his dirty plates/clothes and mess laying around!0
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I can't get over the fact he has you sleeping on a mattress on the floor :frown:
Not even my pets sleep on the floor! :frown:
I had an ex a bit like this. I did loads of overtime and saved up in secret until I could get the flip flop away from him.0 -
What I have learned from this... don't take advice from people who have a frickin cat for their profile picture.0
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if life together is so awful that you cant see past this and you'd rather ask strangers than the man you love, totally break up with him.0
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What I have learned from this... don't take advice from people who have a frickin cat for their profile picture.
Yeah you're right. I should have stayed with my ex. Esp after he broke a wall using my head.0 -
lol wtfmaking his bed??? do you have separate beds??
stop babying him..hes a grown man...set the record straight NOW or he will expect you to do this FOREVER!!!!
We actually do have separate beds which I find quite weird! I never thought at the age of 26 that my bf and I would sleep in different beds. We have an arrangement happening where he has his comfy new double mattress and I have a single mattress on the floor. He expects me to make his bed which I resent a bit I must say when I have to make it and then make my own small single mattress...
The thing is we're not financially equal, I don't pay rent at the moment because I've moved here from overseas and I'm looking for full time work (which im looking forward to to get me out of the house and meeting people).0 -
wow he souds like an *kitten*. have you tried to talk to him about how you dont like it? if you did and he refused i would say get out while you still can. ive lived with my boyfriend for two years and i will admit that he is lazy, but he will clean up if i ask him. i dont think about it like him being crule, its kinda just how he is. which sucks, but i knew who he was when we started dating. that being said, he is probably only going to demand more the longer you stay with him. im just guessing, but even with the slightest chance of being true its worth it to leave. you dont 'need' him you can find another way to make it. i enjoy cooking and cleaning, but i dont do it to 'hold my share' even tho i make less money then him it dosent matter. this is a talk you should have had before moving in with eachother0
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Not at all...most men use only Solo Cups and ping pong balls. The rest just happens when a woman moves in0
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I hate man bashing threads with an all-consuming passion.
Men. Are. Awesome.
Guess what - I suck at keeping the dishes and laundry and other chores done. I'm a girl.
Penises don't make someone a slob. Being a slob makes someone a slob.
Men - YOU ROCK! I love that you're logical and solution-based. I love when you make me feel safe. I love the way you smell. I love the way you look. I love when you fix things for me or show me how to fix them. I love that you put up with my emotional roller coasters.
Men. Are. Awesome.
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Yes, all men are like this -- it's a requirement to having a penis.
The only logical suggestion, to end this vicious cycle, is for you to become a lesbian immediately.0 -
making his bed??? do you have separate beds??
stop babying him..hes a grown man...set the record straight NOW or he will expect you to do this FOREVER!!!!
We actually do have separate beds which I find quite weird! I never thought at the age of 26 that my bf and I would sleep in different beds. We have an arrangement happening where he has his comfy new double mattress and I have a single mattress on the floor. He expects me to make his bed which I resent a bit I must say when I have to make it and then make my own small single mattress...
The thing is we're not financially equal, I don't pay rent at the moment because I've moved here from overseas and I'm looking for full time work (which im looking forward to to get me out of the house and meeting people).
:noway: WHAT?!?!? Absurdity to say the least! Who cares how much money you do or do not make? You are a human being! You are not a dog that needs to be sleeping in a little special bed on the floor! Demand respect! If he can't deliver, move on!0 -
I hate man bashing threads with an all-consuming passion.
Men. Are. Awesome.
Guess what - I suck at keeping the dishes and laundry and other chores done. I'm a girl.
Penises don't make someone a slob. Being a slob makes someone a slob.
Men - YOU ROCK! I love that you're logical and solution-based. I love when you make me feel safe. I love the way you smell. I love the way you look. I love when you fix things for me or show me how to fix them. I love that you put up with my emotional roller coasters.
Men. Are. Awesome.
/endrant
I love how you look while eating a banana. 0 -
I hate man bashing threads with an all-consuming passion.
Men. Are. Awesome.
Guess what - I suck at keeping the dishes and laundry and other chores done. I'm a girl.
Penises don't make someone a slob. Being a slob makes someone a slob.
Men - YOU ROCK! I love that you're logical and solution-based. I love when you make me feel safe. I love the way you smell. I love the way you look. I love when you fix things for me or show me how to fix them. I love that you put up with my emotional roller coasters.
Men. Are. Awesome.
/endrant
Thanks! I love this post...and what I really can't stand whether it's men or women bashing...The guy isn't here to defend himself or tell his side...For all we know...She could be living rent free and he could be making her car payments...mowing the lawn and doing other stuff....We will never know....0 -
Yes, all men are like this -- it's a requirement to having a penis.
The only logical suggestion, to end this vicious cycle, is for you to become a lesbian immediately.
LOL!0 -
not me, my dad raised me right. but as many have said, talk to him aobut it and let him know you expect him to clean up. that way it is not a mystery to him when you get upset and loudly suggest he should "clean if F***ing plate before you shove it up his a**"0
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He used to live with his mother for quite a while prior to us moving in together, I figure now she must have done most, if not all of the cleaning and other chores.
I really don't see this as a way I want to live my life long term and I don't even think I want to get married now. I know that if I have the talk with him about dividing things up equally that he will get really angry and defensive so I would rather just let the issue go. It's a shame though because we got along so well together before we started living together and I would have my own place if it wasn't for the fact that I'm broke right now.
Do you have family and a support system? That is what is needed here. I feel like there is a bit of low self esteem also. You dont have to let him treat you like that. That is why you should not shack up. He is getting everything and not contributing anything. You can get what he is giving you anywhere on the street. Leave him and get yourself together. Never be dependent on a man. You want to make him feel like a man, but he must deserve it. He is behaving like a child and you or what 26 years old? Do you really see yourself with him in 2 years, 1 year or even six month? Please get your mind together, you know the way he is behaving is not correct or you would not be writing asking opinions. Like I use to let men know, "I grew up with a daddy, so I know what to expect from you". :laugh: But, you know how much you can put up with also.0 -
I've recently moved in with my boyfriend and I'm just wondering if I'm being taken advantage of or if all guys are like this?
My boyfriend NEVER washes up his dishes which really annoys me because he has friend eggs and bacon every morning for breakfast. I just think he could at least clean his pans and plates and cups once as a sign of respect rather than leaving than for me. I also have cereal every morning which he knows that I don't use a pan...I just have one bowl.
He also just expects I'm going to make his dinner every night which is a pain for me because I'm a vegetarian and he's not so I have to make separate meals. He often doesn't finish until late so I have to make sure his meal is ready and hot by the time he gets home. I hate to sound like I'm ranting and being selfish but it's getting to the point where I don't want to do it anymore and I resent him for it sometimes. It's things too like making his bed which he just expects I'll do every morning and then it's funny because sometimes I'll leave a couple of crumbs on his couch and he'll say 'You can't eat breakfast on the couch, it has to be at the table...you're too messy' and then I'll look in the sink and there's a bazillion plates and cups there again :I
I'm just wondering if it's me being picky or if there really is a problem here?
Stop being picky. He is preparing you for the rest of your life together. You should be thankful he is willing to show you the ropes so quickly.0 -
I hate man bashing threads with an all-consuming passion.
Men. Are. Awesome.
Guess what - I suck at keeping the dishes and laundry and other chores done. I'm a girl.
Penises don't make someone a slob. Being a slob makes someone a slob.
Men - YOU ROCK! I love that you're logical and solution-based. I love when you make me feel safe. I love the way you smell. I love the way you look. I love when you fix things for me or show me how to fix them. I love that you put up with my emotional roller coasters.
Men. Are. Awesome.
/endrant
this ^0 -
Communication. You need to tell him what's bothering you.
^^^THIS^^^0 -
(and you didn't even see the video)I hate man bashing threads with an all-consuming passion.
Men. Are. Awesome.
Guess what - I suck at keeping the dishes and laundry and other chores done. I'm a girl.
Penises don't make someone a slob. Being a slob makes someone a slob.
Men - YOU ROCK! I love that you're logical and solution-based. I love when you make me feel safe. I love the way you smell. I love the way you look. I love when you fix things for me or show me how to fix them. I love that you put up with my emotional roller coasters.
Men. Are. Awesome.
/endrant
I love how you look while eating a banana.0 -
that is not quite a relationship....its more like your his maid/play thing who lives on a cot on the floor...
lol wtfmaking his bed??? do you have separate beds??
stop babying him..hes a grown man...set the record straight NOW or he will expect you to do this FOREVER!!!!
We actually do have separate beds which I find quite weird! I never thought at the age of 26 that my bf and I would sleep in different beds. We have an arrangement happening where he has his comfy new double mattress and I have a single mattress on the floor. He expects me to make his bed which I resent a bit I must say when I have to make it and then make my own small single mattress...
The thing is we're not financially equal, I don't pay rent at the moment because I've moved here from overseas and I'm looking for full time work (which im looking forward to to get me out of the house and meeting people).0 -
^Agreed lolI hate man bashing threads with an all-consuming passion.
Men. Are. Awesome.
Guess what - I suck at keeping the dishes and laundry and other chores done. I'm a girl.
Penises don't make someone a slob. Being a slob makes someone a slob.
Men - YOU ROCK! I love that you're logical and solution-based. I love when you make me feel safe. I love the way you smell. I love the way you look. I love when you fix things for me or show me how to fix them. I love that you put up with my emotional roller coasters.
Men. Are. Awesome.
/endrant
this post plus your default pic make me think you seriously want a man in your life.0 -
What is this thread were:
Are most BLACK people like this?
Are most GAYS like this?
Are most ______ like this?
The commenters probably would not be so cavalier in their negative generalizations.0 -
oh hell no! He sounds like a as$.. but if you started this trend before you two lived together then you are the as$. jus saying.. I see it all the time where women are all betty crocker until they get their hooks in then they cry later when the guy expects it. Not saying this is your case.. just making a statement that most wont say. Not going to sugar coat it..ya know.
Now if he was not this way and you were never this way then I say speak up and let him know your opinion.. if he dont like it well it will never work. I dont tip toe around ones feelings so if this offends .. well you asked for opinions.0
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