Polygamy, Your thoughts.
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I've thought about this for a while to be honest, if all people in the marriage are happy and of age, then whats the problem? Why not let them live the way they want to? I know in my heart that i could never share my husband, but i see some positives in polygamy. The large, helpful, tight knit family. Think of all the help you would have? What are your thoughts? Cause people seem to think im crazy when i say i don't have a problem with polygamy.
Me too! I have no problem with this...as long as everyone is over 18 and fully understands what is going on. That being said...I have never been able to share well...and can't see sharing my husband with another woman just as I'm sure he wouldn't wanna share me with another guy.0 -
I also have no problem with it but it's dangerous when
used in a "culty" way where the women are basically slaves to the men
like in the groups that are broke-up and pasted all over the news.0 -
why do people ASSume that it's always multiple women with one man? What about having several husbands?
Because that is what Polygamy is?0 -
what is cracking me up here is everyone assuming the relationship would be one man with multiple wives. I have friends in my life where it is one woman and two men. It's not about the men sharing the woman. They all love (and enjoy) each other equally.
I haven't read all 12 pages, so I don't know if someone pointed this out, but polygamy is by definition one man and multiple wives. Polyandry is multiple husbands. Just an FYI!
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I'm not going to read through the entire thing, because I can DEFINATLY see this getting ugly
However, I'd like to say, I find that every culture is interesting (it's why I'm currently in Anthropology), and while I don't think I could handle my boyfriend having other girlfriends in a polygamous relationship (I believe it's polygamy that refers to a man having multiple wives, but don't quote me I don't have my text book from Anth 100 from two years ago sitting in front of me), I understand there are more cultures than you'd think that do operate under systems as such.
As well, I think it's good to note as well, that there are, what I'm pretty sure are called 'Polydrynous' societies (again, don't have my text handy), in which women marry multiple men while men can only marry one woman. There are also a few societies in where men and women can have more than one husband or wife.
Honestly, what people do with their lives is their business as they have personal reasons for it, and it would be wrong of me to force something like my own personal beliefs (be they religioius, cultural or whatever) onto another. I'd rather find out reasons why to better understand.
Short answer, I'm fine with it Not in my relationship, but I won't condemn someone who practices. 0 -
when i googled the definition of polygamy, it didn't say it's specifically multiple wives. It's mulitple partners "of the opposite sex".... so I assume this includes marriages in which there are more than one husband. I saw a little documentary on tv about a polygamous marriage in which there was two men and one woman. It was a three way. It wasn't like the men had nothing to do with eachother. It was cute, actually.
From the defintion:
(n.) The having of a plurality of wives or husbands at the same time; usually, the marriage of a man to more than one woman, or the practice of having several wives, at the same time; -- opposed to monogamy; as, the nations of the East practiced polygamy. See the Note under Bigamy, and cf. Polyandry.
(n.) The condition or state of a plant which bears both perfect and unisexual flowers.
(n.) The state or habit of having more than one mate.0 -
Are there any multi-husband polygamy sects out there. I could do with more than one man round the place.
Yes actually. There's actually one society in Yunan I believe it is, where women have men come to them (they walk for miles) to have sex with them and give them a baby, and then are no longer part of the child's life. Rather, it is the mother's brother that becomes like a father to the child. So, your mother's brother (uncle) would be the most important man in your life.
That's just one example. There are plenty out there and lots of theories as to why societies would organize themselves this way.0 -
why do people ASSume that it's always multiple women with one man? What about having several husbands?
Because that is what Polygamy is?
No, it just means more than one partner, it does not mean what sex those partners are....
There are woman that have more than one husband or partner at a time.....it is just not as common, and does not have a spotlight on it right now....0 -
There are thousands of known polygamists in the state of Utah. Overwhelmingly Mormon/FLDS. Listen to some of the stories of kids (usually teenagers/young adults) trying to escape this lifestyle (which is made very, very difficult) and then think about it again. 90% of these people have been physically or sexually abused. Education is actively discouraged in these communities. Thousands and thousands of people in Utah alone. It isn't a few crazies living in a tent village in the desert.
It's about far more than 'what people do behind closed doors'.0 -
Its not for me...but if other consenting adults want to do it more power to them..I"m addicted to the show sister wives, but I don't get along with other women in general and I don't share well lol.0
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I feel lucky I was born in america, I feel lucky I was raised Wiccan and not brainwashed by a Christian family - there's many who don't agree with that. Everyone will never agree on everything.
So you were brainwashed by a Wiccan family instead.0 -
i think it should be an individual choice and something that is not forced. if there is a breadwinner (or more) who can provide and contribute appropriately to society, then why not. just sayin`0
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Just my luck that I would get 4 women to go along with this idea and then their TOM didn't synch up. Every week there would be one woman p*ssed off.
with you on that one0 -
I personally don't have a problem with it and don't see the big deal. However, I wonder what man or woman would want to put up with that many spouses! :indifferent: :indifferent:0
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There are thousands of known polygamists in the state of Utah. Overwhelmingly Mormon/FLDS. Listen to some of the stories of kids (usually teenagers/young adults) trying to escape this lifestyle (which is made very, very difficult) and then think about it again. 90% of these people have been physically or sexually abused. Education is actively discouraged in these communities. Thousands and thousands of people in Utah alone. It isn't a few crazies living in a tent village in the desert.
It's about far more than 'what people do behind closed doors'.
Hmmm. I think you are connecting two things that don't neccessarily need to be connected. Polygamy can exist outside a cult setting in which child abuse happens.
Just like prostitution can exist outside of child prostitution. Prostitution is legal in one county in Nevada and brothels are up and running. Its definitely not the same as sex trafficking or child prostitution that is forced upon people against their will.
I think in both cases, the difference is one scenario is consenting adults (adult prostitution, adult polygamy) and the other is a situation of abuse/coercion/lack of consent. I agree with you that children should not be treated as you describe. But I don't think that really has anything to do with polygamy, per se.0 -
I need a few more wives around this place to help me take care of my damn dogs!!!!! Any takers????0
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The reason you could not share your husband ... you were raised with the "notion" that it's OK for a woman to have a positive sense of self worth. It's OK for you to feel that your are equal to a man.
Girls raised in polygamy are not taught this. If a woman who share's her husband is jealous ... the woman has a problem. She's the bad guy. It's not like "Big Love" ... girls raised in this environment are taught they are second class citizens.
that is also how girls are raised in the middle east, even Mexice (the oldest boy of the family gets no discipline and is revered) it's someone else's culture. I feel lucky I was born in america, I feel lucky I was raised Wiccan and not brainwashed by a Christian family - there's many who don't agree with that. Everyone will never agree on everything.
I was raised christian and was not "brain washed". I am very tolerant of what other people believe/do with their lives. Its an ignorant statement to make.0 -
In a perfect world, things like polygamy would work fine, but the world is far from perfect and people make many things as bad as they can possibly be.
Unfortunately the cultures where polygamy is strongest respect women the least.
That is why polygamy should be illegal.0 -
I just have one thing to say about both Polygamy and gay marriage
IF ALL PERSONS INVOLVED ARE CONSENTING ADULTS, WHO CARES?!
Seriously. Seriously.0 -
that's all i need in my house ... TWO guys sitting on the couch playing videogames.0
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that's all i need in my house ... TWO guys sitting on the couch playing videogames.
Hhhhhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahahahahahhahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!
Oh dang.
That was funny!0 -
I feel lucky I was born in america, I feel lucky I was raised Wiccan and not brainwashed by a Christian family - there's many who don't agree with that. Everyone will never agree on everything.
So you were brainwashed by a Wiccan family instead.
Lol, yeah, pretty much.0 -
when i googled the definition of polygamy, it didn't say it's specifically multiple wives. It's mulitple partners "of the opposite sex".... so I assume this includes marriages in which there are more than one husband. I saw a little documentary on tv about a polygamous marriage in which there was two men and one woman. It was a three way. It wasn't like the men had nothing to do with eachother. It was cute, actually.
From the defintion:
(n.) The having of a plurality of wives or husbands at the same time; usually, the marriage of a man to more than one woman, or the practice of having several wives, at the same time; -- opposed to monogamy; as, the nations of the East practiced polygamy. See the Note under Bigamy, and cf. Polyandry.
(n.) The condition or state of a plant which bears both perfect and unisexual flowers.
(n.) The state or habit of having more than one mate.
Multiple women: Polygyny
Multiple men: Polyandry
The general term is Polygamy.0 -
As long as people are happy and aren't causing harm to others, let them live their damn lives. Regardless if they're gay, polygamists, Mormons, whatever. People should be allowed to be happy - no one should infringe on that (as long as there's no harm being caused.)
Exactly.
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It's a personal preference that shouldn't be interfered with by government. Unless young children are involved (making them marry), then it's not a concern to me.
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My feelings exactly!0 -
I think one of the biggest reasons they don't make it legal in the USA is due to the fact that then bigamy would be legal. So your husband, knowing that you would leave him if he married someone else, would just keep it behind your back. They can do that anyway, obviously but not legally.
I think that Polygyny(one man with more than one female)is fine as long as Polyandry(the mating of one female with more than one male while each male mates with only one female is known as polyandry (literally, "many males") is also legal.
I don't want more than one spouse and neither does my husband!0 -
That Michelle Duggar looks like she could use a few more hands around the house.0
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what is cracking me up here is everyone assuming the relationship would be one man with multiple wives. I have friends in my life where it is one woman and two men. It's not about the men sharing the woman. They all love (and enjoy) each other equally.
I/We would...in a heartbeat. I was raised by christian parents and he had no religion exposure other than what he sought out himself and read about. That being said, we have talked about this and although it's never been anything more than just a discussion on the topic, we decided that *polyamory* would be the way to go and NOT polygamy. We've both been married and divorced and see no need to do it again.
Oh, and I would want to be the "single female" of our trifecta since I'm a bit of the jealous type and he is not. lol...0 -
to each their own0
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