Polygamy, Your thoughts.

penrbrown

There are several problems with polygamy (and polyandry). But I don't care to play professor, you can research the topic more if it really interests you.

Instead I would like to ask...

are there any non-religious polygamists out there? Really? I, personally, have never heard of any so I'm just curious.

Jessamine

This is my take:

Polygamy is inadmissible for me for religious reasons. I do not expect other people to adhere to the same moral standards that I do. I also don't even expect them to fully understand WHY I believe the way I do. I do hope that other people will show me the same courtesy. The way I live my life is a personal decision and not something that I should measure other people by.

I also don't expect to live up to my morals in perfect fashion. What I believe and what I do are sometimes in conflict. That doesn't negate my religion/beliefs/morals. It means I'm human, like everyone else.

california_peach

I would love to get a Brother Husband for my husband. I think it would work out nicely.

EpiGaiaRepens

There are several problems with polygamy (and polyandry). But I don't care to play professor, you can research the topic more if it really interests you.

Instead I would like to ask...

are there any non-religious polygamists out there? Really? I, personally, have never heard of any so I'm just curious.

I know lots of people who are into open relationships, which is usually called polyamory... but i don't really think there is much non-religious traditional polygamy (one husband, many wives). But there are polygamist pagans in which there are more than two spouses, but the sex/gender isn't specific (can be two boys and one girl, for example).

EpiGaiaRepens

I've thought about this for a while to be honest, if all people in the marriage are happy and of age, then whats the problem? Why not let them live the way they want to? I know in my heart that i could never share my husband, but i see some positives in polygamy. The large, helpful, tight knit family. Think of all the help you would have? What are your thoughts? Cause people seem to think im crazy when i say i don't have a problem with polygamy.

I think it is disgusting and selfish.

I think its weird that you would find it disgusting and selfish if everyone involved is consenting and happy. It seems to me to be more selfish to remove someone's right to do what makes them happy just because you find it disgusting.

jaimemariel

Two words: welfare fraud.

PrncessBre

I've starting feeling like, as long as people are happy and aren't causing harm to others, let them live their damn lives. Regardless if they're gay, polygamists, Mormons, whatever. People should be allowed to be happy - no one should infringe on that (as long as there's no harm being caused.)

Totally agreed! :drinker:

tlafrance

Just my luck that I would get 4 women to go along with this idea and then their TOM didn't synch up. Every week there would be one woman p*ssed off.

LMAO!! :laugh:

hotpickles

I thought about this for a long time after seeing the show Sister Wives on tv. At first I was kind of turned off by it, but I watched a show. I kept watching, and my opinion changed.

My theory is - it is their lives. If this is what makes them happy, if this is what they want, then that is their decision. It in no way affects my life.

WhittRak

I've thought about this for a while to be honest, if all people in the marriage are happy and of age, then whats the problem? Why not let them live the way they want to? I know in my heart that i could never share my husband, but i see some positives in polygamy. The large, helpful, tight knit family. Think of all the help you would have? What are your thoughts? Cause people seem to think im crazy when i say i don't have a problem with polygamy.

I think it is disgusting and selfish.

I think its weird that you would find it disgusting and selfish if everyone involved is consenting and happy. It seems to me to be more selfish to remove someone's right to do what makes them happy just because you find it disgusting.

I didn't say anything about removing anyones rights. Now did I? Point it out if I did. Nope..I didn't think so. I would suggest you not get on threads and take others opinions and twist them. Not smart.

iam_thatdude

im against gay marriage and polygomy on moral grounds. From legal grounds I think they all should be able to engage in a legal arrangement, (i.e.) a Civil Union, but let's not call it marriage, because that isnt what marriage is.

kiminikimkim

Depends on the situation. I am only against it if the people involved are not in there by choice but forced upon them, like underage children for instance. If it is a union of consenting adults, then go for it.

BrianSharpe

My only problem with polygamy is that it seems only to be practiced in cultures where women are considered second class citizens (I'd be interested to see how people would react to a woman having several husbands.....)

Personally I'd probably shoot myself in the face if I had 4 wives all nagging me at once......:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

PurplePookie

The reason you could not share your husband ... you were raised with the "notion" that it's OK for a woman to have a positive sense of self worth. It's OK for you to feel that your are equal to a man.

Girls raised in polygamy are not taught this. If a woman who share's her husband is jealous ... the woman has a problem. She's the bad guy. It's not like "Big Love" ... girls raised in this environment are taught they are second class citizens.

This is one (highly publicized) group and in no way represents all polygamist. This would be akin to saying that we shouldn't allow marriage in general because some men treat their wives like slaves or objects. There are good and bad in every situation. Make the laws reflect the true problems (child brides, no access to proper education, forced marriages, etc.) and let the rest marry as many men or women as they want.

SugarPlumm19

I was raised in a polygamy family... Life was awesome! I love my big huge happy family

r1ghtpath

in polygamist families that are choosing that lifestyle due to religion would have one couple legally married. the others would religious/ symbolic, but not legal. being legally married to more than one person is bigamy.

so, if there was a divorce, it would be only a legal thing with ONE wife and the husband. the others could make the choice to dissolve the marriage in a religious/ symbolic way......

Legally, polygamy would be a MESS. Can you imagine legally distributing wealth, earnings, and everything else to multiple wives in the case of divorce? Because in many states they wouldn't just have access to child support, they'd have access to the house and paychecks. That would just be a nightmare trying to figure out who was more entitled to what, and how it would all be distributed. Would the wife who was first be entitled to more goods, because she came first? Or would they all have the same rights? Setting that precedence in court would be a nightmare for a judge without any legal history to go from. I pity the fool who could end up taking on the first civil case, haha.

That being said, I don't particularly care what adults do with their marriages. If they're happy, more power to 'em.

i would support polygamy. i think my life would be easier a lot of the time if i had some sister wives.

i have read that legalizing gay marriage would leave a door wide open to legalizing polygamy as well........ so, it's entirely possible that it might happen.

Mormons do not practice polygamy, it's illegal and therefore you cannot practice and remain a member of the church. Big Love was very incorrect when it came to that. the "compound" is more an a Fundamentalist LDS sect..... and the family living in suburbia, were not allowed to be part of either the LDS church or Jupiter Creek......

Smuterella

Are there any multi-husband polygamy sects out there. I could do with more than one man round the place.

Brandicaloriecountess

I wouldn't mind having a few husbands, can I go that way too?

secretgirl4611

O ugh! Idk man they weird me out!
How stupid their kids and theirselves dress so poorly and just look down right weird kinda like they belonged back when the PILGRIMS were around.. Idk I also think they are like Imbreads for reals.. I mean Ive watched some things about them on tv and yea some of the girls who got out and are not allowed back in. said some HORRIBLE stories of being raped and whatnot.. ITS JUST A WEIRD WAY OF LIFE.. REALLY!
AND THEY LIVE SO OLD FASHIONED.. WOW

lyrics4mal

I've heard of worse arrangements..
Polygamy doesn't offend me at all. If all parties are approving and everyone is happy, then I don't see the argument against it. We all like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.. maybe I don't like your brand of peanut butter but I would never tell you you're wrong for eating it.
Be happy people.. just be happy!

NicolioRussell

I've thought about this for my husband and I (and we kind of talked about it) and the conundrum has been that I wouldn't want to share him, but I am totally cool with being shared (though my husband is against sharing me - and he would be okay with sharing himself). I suppose that means we are both selfish, protective people haha

Either way though, it's not something I fully understand, and thus I can't pass judgement. I'm not sure how those families work out the jealousy issues that you know have to be present....and so I just choose not to do it. However, more power to them if they can make it work and it is healthy for all involved.

secretgirl4611

How and why would the guy want to **** all those woman ne ways. None of them look attractive at all! Dressed the way they do, or how they PRESENT themselves. I know I may get bagged on for sayin it but damn they look so freakin old.. Like back in the horse and wagon days LMAO! And I cant imagine their sex lives would be at all fun. Prob just the same old missionary style with every woman.. Ive seen them in public before and they just look so damn drab and boring!

court211006

im against gay marriage and polygomy on moral grounds. From legal grounds I think they all should be able to engage in a legal arrangement, (i.e.) a Civil Union, but let's not call it marriage, because that isnt what marriage is.

isn't a marriage what those involved decide it is?

isa75

I wouldn't mind a few extra husbands, but no I would not share with other women....

penrbrown

im against gay marriage and polygomy on moral grounds. From legal grounds I think they all should be able to engage in a legal arrangement, (i.e.) a Civil Union, but let's not call it marriage, because that isnt what marriage is.

isn't a marriage what those involved decide it is?

Nope. Not legally.

EpiGaiaRepens

I've thought about this for a while to be honest, if all people in the marriage are happy and of age, then whats the problem? Why not let them live the way they want to? I know in my heart that i could never share my husband, but i see some positives in polygamy. The large, helpful, tight knit family. Think of all the help you would have? What are your thoughts? Cause people seem to think im crazy when i say i don't have a problem with polygamy.

I think it is disgusting and selfish.

I think its weird that you would find it disgusting and selfish if everyone involved is consenting and happy. It seems to me to be more selfish to remove someone's right to do what makes them happy just because you find it disgusting.

I didn't say anything about removing anyones rights. Now did I? Point it out if I did. Nope..I didn't think so. I would suggest you not get on threads and take others opinions and twist them. Not smart.

Ummm...it's already illegal. Because of opinions like yours. Doh!

Don't post on forums about subjects and ignore the larger context.
Not smart.

SugarPlumm19

The problem with the FLDS is they force young girls/teenagers into this life style.

That's a bunch of bull ****. Don't believe everything you see on tv.

SugarPlumm19

O ugh! Idk man they weird me out!
How stupid their kids and theirselves dress so poorly and just look down right weird kinda like they belonged back when the PILGRIMS were around.. Idk I also think they are like Imbreads for reals.. I mean Ive watched some things about them on tv and yea some of the girls who got out and are not allowed back in. said some HORRIBLE stories of being raped and whatnot.. ITS JUST A WEIRD WAY OF LIFE.. REALLY!
AND THEY LIVE SO OLD FASHIONED.. WOW

Hahahaha good gosh! People like you make me laugh. Why do you give a shi* how we dress? And young girls don't get "raped and whatnot" life there is awesome! I chose who I wanted to marry and I never got rapped... Btw I'm a plig kid from Colorado city Az

PaleoPath4Lyfe

I've starting feeling like, as long as people are happy and aren't causing harm to others, let them live their damn lives. Regardless if they're gay, polygamists, Mormons, whatever. People should be allowed to be happy - no one should infringe on that (as long as there's no harm being caused.)

:drinker:

christine24t

When I watch Sister Wives, I think they're all crazy. They could all go get their own man, yet four of them share one. I wish they had higher self-esteem. I would rather be alone than share a man with another women, let alone more women.