Does anyone else NOT want kids?
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same here I 've never been the one to say I want them, I get along with them I'm silly like and with kids but they go home with their parents afterwards. Anything is possible but so far my thoughts have always been that I don't want to have any.0
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It is my duty to God to stop the overpopulation of the planet.....seriously, we don't even have enough resources to go around now.
I just come out and say that I don't want kids. Everyone tells me that I will change my mind. I just smile and say that maybe I will. I am not going to get into a debate over a matter of opinion.
I love kids (sometimes I get along with them beter than adults) but I have NEVER felt that they were in my future, though I am considering fostering to adopt an older child in ten to fifteen years (not sure if that counts as wanting kids).0 -
I used to work with a girl who had one child. She told everyone, " I wouldn't take a million dollar for the one I have and I wouldn't give you a nickel for another one." I have two girls myself and I am ready for them to be out of the house and the idea of grand children is not appealing at all. I think you should do what is right for you and forget what everyone else thinks.0
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world is overpopulated as it is.. and I am pretty leery of the future after i'm gone.. so no kids 4 me.0
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I don't want to have kids. My boyfriend wants kids. I told him the baby deadline is when I turn 36.
The only way I will have children is if we could afford:
-Live-in nanny
-Cleaning lady
-Surrogate mother
When I think of children, I automatically think of the terrible twos and teenagers. I shudder at both.0 -
I can't tell if this is serious or notI believe it to be my holy duty to help God populate the Earth. I am looking for a good Christian woman to join me in this journey to lose weight and have children.0 -
it is different when they are yours. i do not like guys and i have one. Love him more than life itself but i cannot stand kids. I get a lot of flack fo rnot wanting more and it drives me crazy. I am so happy with the one i have that there is no need to bring in another one in to this world. As far as your MIL just tell her its none of her business and to stop talking about it. I have a gradnma who says i am nto a real mom because i only have one kid. Pretty sure i am a mom.0
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Its a personal choice. I know many people that are fulfilled and have no kids..and others that are fulfilled and have kids. My parents never pressured me to have kids cause they know my health situation..but I have always wanted them..now..I am counting down till my youngest is in college..LOL...
I think its your life..and you should make the decisions..not some MIL..after all..she isnt the one who will be taking care of them..it would be you.
Do what you feel is best for you...don't cave...0 -
I don't want to have kids. My boyfriend wants kids. I told him the baby deadline is when I turn 36.
The only way I will have children is if we could afford:
-Live-in nanny
-Cleaning lady
-Surrogate mother
When I think of children, I automatically think of the terrible twos and teenagers. I shudder at both.
A ten year old girl is a bigger pain than a 2 year old.0 -
meh.. I never wanted kids, hated kids, but somehow I ended up with my first one while on the pill. since then i've had two more. It's different when they are your own.
I still hate other people's kids
Me exactly!!!!!0 -
I didn't want any. My husband & I discussed it before we got married. He wanted at least 2. So I told him I would compromise & have 1. We now have 5. lol I have friends that don't have any or only have 1. My husband has a friend who was married for about 15 years & they always said they didn't want kids. They just had one a few years ago. You may change your mind & you may not. I don't think there is anything wrong with not having any. Everyone is different.0
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i definitely don't want them. never have. never will. & nothing infuriates me more than the people -- who are generally being pulled on by a snot-nosed kid -- who say, "oh, you will. just wait. you'll see." no. i won't see. jerks.0
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I wish more people would decide not to. Some people should not spawn. Not saying you shouldn't, but I wish some people wouldn't have them just because they can.0
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I think people that don't want kids are selfish.
LOL. Ducking.
Nah, j/k. But, I always wonder...who will take care of you when you can't take care of yourself. that's why you have kids. Isn't it? That's my reason.
There's no guarantee that your kids will be willing or able to take care of you.
Except for the brainwashing I do with them all the time about it.0 -
Nope not interested! Rather than the crazy lady with cats I shall be the crazy lady with horses! lol
I have raised my sibling so I already feel like I ave had kids to be honest0 -
I believe it to be my holy duty to help God populate the Earth. I am looking for a good Christian woman to join me in this journey to lose weight and have children.
First and foremost..rather than populating the earth..you need to take of the little ones that are already here...thats what we did..coudnt "populate" the earth..so we took in what was already here..and you cant tell my daughters werent here from the get-go..no one believes that they are adopted..cause they look so much like me..I only have one answer.."God is Great!"0 -
I'm almost 37 and have no desire for kids. I always said let me turn 40 and I'd rethink it. I personally can't stand most children in public places including my nephews. I'm happy with animals and my man. To each his/her own. It's not like there is a lack of reproduction in this world. (except white middle class America, but that is another discussion).0
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kids? No thank you!0
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So Much ignorance out there, it amazes me. if you look at the stastistics there is enough room in TEXAS for everyone on the planet to have one square foot. That is just texas! Come on people. I think there are way to many selfish people in this world, why do you think Germany is at negative population growth.If everyone thinks like this what do you think will happen in 50 years? Good thing your parents didn' t think like you or you would never have been given a chance to experience your wonderful life.
(1) How is not having children you don't want more selfish than having children you don't want? I never understand this. To me one of the worst things a person can do is have, and keep, a child they don't really want and aren't prepared to care for. I have studied child maltreatment, and it is a terrible thing. I have close friends who grew up knowing they were never wanted--I can't begin to imagine what that felt like. How can not having children be more selfish than that?
(2) What in the world does the size of Texas have to do with the dangers of over-population? The absolute reality, not just according to people like me, but according groups like the World Health Organization, is that the world cannot be full of people who live (eat, consume, etc.) like Americans, it's just not environmentally sustainable.
(3) If I hadn't been born, I wouldn't know the difference, now would I?
(4) Everyone doesn't think like me, that is how the world works. Some people have kids, some don't, it's okay, really...Especially since the U.S. is still well over replacement levels of births.
(5) There are plenty of children out there who don't have good homes. If you think children are so important, why not work on making sure all the ones that are here, on this planet, right now are well cared for in loving homes before you go shaking the stick at those of us who chose not to add to the surplus of children.0 -
I like kids. I think they're fun. I respect parents like nobody's business 'cos it's HARD WORK.
I have never wanted kids. Ever. I knew when I was five I didn't want kids. I didn't babysit much, I never found babies adorable, and the idea of pushing a pot roast through my nostril holds about as much appeal as incubating a human. I've been upfront with every one I ever dated - and my ex-husband became my ex-husband when he told me that he thought I'd change my mind (ladies, seriously: you make a mess for the rest of us when you do that!) - and that it was non-negotiable (so I let him go so he could find that wife).
I love being an aunt, I love my friends' kids, and I am so honoured to be an important part in the lives of these kids.
I also love giving the kids back.0 -
I think people that don't want kids are selfish.
LOL. Ducking.
Nah, j/k. But, I always wonder...who will take care of you when you can't take care of yourself. that's why you have kids. Isn't it? That's my reason.
Lol. And so having them so they will take care of you... how is this not being selfish?0 -
No interest at all. I will take my pets over children any day!0
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I'm 48 and never had any children, but I have been both a step-mom and a foster mom. I wanted children in my life, I just didn't want them there forever!0
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But then, they won't be my children.I believe it to be my holy duty to help God populate the Earth. I am looking for a good Christian woman to join me in this journey to lose weight and have children.
First and foremost..rather than populating the earth..you need to take of the little ones that are already here...thats what we did..coudnt "populate" the earth..so we took in what was already here..and you cant tell my daughters werent here from the get-go..no one believes that they are adopted..cause they look so much like me..I only have one answer.."God is Great!"0 -
My sister was married young and became a young widow at 28--they did not have kids. She is now engaged to a man she met when she was 30--they've been together for 21 years now. They did not want kids. There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids. We have one son. Thought about a second one and just never got around to it.
Everyone chooses their own path and if that path doesn't include having children, then don't. Too many folks who shouldn't ever have kids, do. I commend you for knowing what you want and not being pressured into something YOU will have to live with that you don't want.
As for telling your folks and in-laws: I am a MIL. Our DIL is expecting now. I am thrilled, but if they had decided not to have kids, I would have understood. It is THEIR decision, not the family's. You just need to tell them that at this time you have no plans for having children. (this statement won't upset hubby if he has already told them he wants kids.) It leaves it open for future discussion but puts it on hold until YOU say so. Good luck. This can be really emotional for the older folks! lol.0 -
I didn't want kids at first. Then everyone around me was having kids and suddenly at 25, I wanted one. My second kid kind of just came. I was content with one. Now that I am 30, I am DONE. The only way I will take on more kids is if they come with the package. It's work being a parent, so if you don't want kids, don't have kids, regardless to the people who elude that you should.0
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Just tell her. No big deal that you don't want kids. Regardless it is YOUR choice.0
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I'm 33 and I don't want them. I've been with my husband 15 years, married for eight, and neither of us are interested. I never have been. Who knows? Maybe someday I'll want them but if I haven't as of yet, I doubt I will later.
I'm so happy and content being an aunt!0 -
i don't have any advice on how to tell her to mind her own beeswax, but i don't know if i want kids either. i keep saying when i am in my 30s but i don't know if i want to dedicate my whole life to raising children, my fiance feels the exact same. i'd love to babysit kids....or take in exchange students. but have them for my whole life, i don't know. and the world is a pretty ****ty place, i don't know if i could deal with the heartache of them being bullied, sexually assualted, kidnapped, etc.0
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I was told in my 20s I couldn't have children due to endometriosis and
I just kinda accepted that, I never really
got to consider whether I wanted to have kids or not
course when my friends and sister started having kids
I felt like I missed out on something wish I could have
then i remarried and my husband has kids from previous marriage
10 and 13 years old they are my step kids but not "mine" ya know
so that plus Im going thru mid life crisis at 40 lol I kinda wish I could
but its not an option we dont live the type of lifestyle where I could
even consider to adopt he's always gone and I dont have the energy
for raising a little one by myself
soooo when I get the maternal feelings I borrow my nephew or friend's
kids sugar them up and then send them home 0
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