Why be a side-chick???
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Just read a post that asked why people cheat... Okay most ppl suggested it was because of selfishness. But I have always wondered about the other person. The one that knows they are a side-piece. What are their motives? I cant imagine that they would want to be cheated on, so why be the other person in anothers situation?? Boggles my mind and I will never understand.. P.S.Side chicks/pieces responses welcome
* Specifically speaking of the chick or chico that knows. Not the one that is unaware she is even on "the side" (she doesnt count, her position is not intentionally malicious)
* Specifically speaking of the chick or chico that knows. Not the one that is unaware she is even on "the side" (she doesnt count, her position is not intentionally malicious)
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we are all sluts0
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we are all sluts
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Seriously just end the thread there. That was perfect.0 -
The majority of the time the "side chick" doesn't know shes the "side chick".0
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*grabs popcorn*
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Probably lots of reasons. Some of the things I think are reasonable . . . there's a self-esteem boost in knowing that someone, who someone else finds desirable, finds you desirable - or more desirable, since they're willing to injure an existing, significant relationship. I believe there's a perverse allure for some people to induce a sig-other to cheat.0
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The majority of the time the "side chick" doesn't know shes the "side chick".
THIS IS SO TRUE. SO MANY OF THOSE MEN LIE AND CHEAT AND THE SIDE CHICK DOES NOT KNOW SHE IS A SIDE CHICK BUT FOR THE ONES WHO KNOW THEIR MAN HAS A WOMAN AT HOME, THAT'S JUST PURE PATHETIC, SOME PPL ENJOY IT.0 -
"He wine and dine, but me and you we wine and grind, and when I'm on the field keep it on the sidelines!" - Ghandi0
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guys can be a side chic too0
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I think most women DO know when they are the "other woman." They either think they can change the guy's mind or they have so little self-respect that they're willing to play second fiddle just to have something. Or they're evil and they just don't care.0
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Once upon a time, I was a side chick. Mostly because the person was convenient and I didn't want the strings attached.
Why not just find someone else to hook up with, rather than someone in a relationship?
In this case.. Because we had a great platonic relationship before hand and I knew it wouldn't try to evolve into more (or so I thought). He caught feelings for me. I left the situation.
I was much younger then.
Today.. I'd never be a "side chick" again. It leaves a bad stigma for the next guy you're with. Luckily, I've since found someone and we have the most trusting relationship ever. Neither of us could be happier. He knows about my past and understands that it IS the past and people grow as individuals.
I can't say it wasn't fun while it lasted. But, it's not something I'd ever do again. (Even if I were single)
No hate comments... Just figured I'd give my two cents.0 -
I think most women DO know when they are the "other woman." They either think they can change the guy's mind or they have so little self-respect that they're willing to play second fiddle just to have something. Or they're evil and they just don't care.
Just out of curiousity.
Who is more evil, the side chick (that knows she is) OR the person in the committed relationship doing the cheating?
I'm not sure why someone should be expected to respect a relationship IF one of the people in the relationship obviously have no respect for it themselves.0 -
I think most women DO know when they are the "other woman." They either think they can change the guy's mind or they have so little self-respect that they're willing to play second fiddle just to have something. Or they're evil and they just don't care.
Just out of curiousity.
Who is more evil, the side chick (that knows she is) OR the person in the committed relationship doing the cheating?
I'm not sure why someone should be expected to respect a relationship IF one of the people in the relationship obviously have no respect for it themselves.
Agreed.0 -
The majority of the time the "side chick" doesn't know shes the "side chick".
THIS IS SO TRUE. SO MANY OF THOSE MEN LIE AND CHEAT AND THE SIDE CHICK DOES NOT KNOW SHE IS A SIDE CHICK BUT FOR THE ONES WHO KNOW THEIR MAN HAS A WOMAN AT HOME, THAT'S JUST PURE PATHETIC, SOME PPL ENJOY IT.
You sound a little bittter. Like this happened to you.
Side chicks get spoiled, trips, shopping all the fun while the main chick sits at home depressed, chasing the kids, worried where her man is posting on mfp.
So that's why.
#provocativedave0 -
The majority of the time the "side chick" doesn't know shes the "side chick".
I am specifically speaking of the ones that know, not the ones that don't (they dont count, there position is not malicious, as far as they know they're just dating a guy)0 -
Good sex without the commitment or headache.0
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The majority of the time the "side chick" doesn't know shes the "side chick".
THIS IS SO TRUE. SO MANY OF THOSE MEN LIE AND CHEAT AND THE SIDE CHICK DOES NOT KNOW SHE IS A SIDE CHICK BUT FOR THE ONES WHO KNOW THEIR MAN HAS A WOMAN AT HOME, THAT'S JUST PURE PATHETIC, SOME PPL ENJOY IT.
You sound a little bittter. Like this happened to you.
Side chicks get spoiled, trips, shopping all the fun while the main chick sits at home depressed, chasing the kids, worried where her man is posting on mfp.
So that's why.
#provocativedave
You sound a bit experienced....0 -
Once upon a time, I was a side chick. Mostly because the person was convenient and I didn't want the strings attached.
Why not just find someone else to hook up with, rather than someone in a relationship?
In this case.. Because we had a great platonic relationship before hand and I knew it wouldn't try to evolve into more (or so I thought). He caught feelings for me. I left the situation.
I was much younger then.
Today.. I'd never be a "side chick" again. It leaves a bad stigma for the next guy you're with. Luckily, I've since found someone and we have the most trusting relationship ever. Neither of us could be happier. He knows about my past and understands that it IS the past and people grow as individuals.
I can't say it wasn't fun while it lasted. But, it's not something I'd ever do again. (Even if I were single)
No hate comments... Just figured I'd give my two cents.
I do appreciate your response. Everyone has a past. And I believe in change and forgiveness. i was just curious. Thanx :-)0 -
It seems to me that they get some kind of perverse sense of self worth if they can actually get the dude to cheat on the girlfriend/wife. Not necessarily true all the time, some are just evil and don't care if they break up a perfectly good relationship, but then again how can it be all that "good" to begin with if he ends up cheating? :ohwell: No one truly knows the motivations behind the actions but the person doing them..IMHO0
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I think most women DO know when they are the "other woman." They either think they can change the guy's mind or they have so little self-respect that they're willing to play second fiddle just to have something. Or they're evil and they just don't care.
Just out of curiousity.
Who is more evil, the side chick (that knows she is) OR the person in the committed relationship doing the cheating?
I'm not sure why someone should be expected to respect a relationship IF one of the people in the relationship obviously have no respect for it themselves.0 -
For me, it was because I didn't have to deal with any of the BS of a "relationship". I could set up an appointment for sex, fill my rx and send him to his crib. I wanted him for one thing. I got that one thing without having to deal with any of the other things. If I wanted to go on a date with someone else, I could, If I wanted to chill with the girls at the club, I could. He couldn't really veto any of it, because he was taken and understood that he couldn't ask me to live a life of solitude while he had his other life. It was a great relationship where we cared deeply about each other. We both went into it with the understanding that it had to be what it was. I knew he wasn't gonna leave his wife for me. I didn't want him to. We did love each other, but with the understanding that he also loved her. And he loved her in a much different way, and I was ok with that, because it was not what I wanted. I was into stuff in the bedroom that she wasn't, and I didn't want to clean up after him and make him sandwiches. Maybe someone, someday. But not him and not then.0
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