Little Kids Telling You That You Are Fat

ndnmomma

Awe I know how this feels. In fact I hate the fact kids are honest with us to honest at times, but that is no excuse to be rude or express those comments. Mine have said that to people before, but make no mistake the are soon after corrected. To me its not acceptable behavior and I will not have kids like that manners and politeness can be learned and it should be!

PlunderBunneh

OMG!!! Do their parents not talk to them about this? .... It's the parents that should be taking responsibility for their actions and correcting them.

I do everything I can to teach my four year old to be polite, and while she never calls anyone fat, she has made innocent comments about my sister's size ("oh, the car really moved when you got in, you're so big!"). It hurts when little ones say things like that, but they don't mean it rudely, they just don't have a social filter. We as parents can guide them as much as possible, but things will still be said, even if we talk to them about every single issue adults may be offended over.
Most of the time, it really is just innocent kid talk.
When it's more than that, it's time to talk to the mother.

misskatibear

I've had it a couple of times, and I knew/know I've been overweight but never thought it was enough to be noticable for random children on the street/in the park to yell it at me! I think kids will be kids, I've always found it to be nasty little boys who say it mainly because they think they're being funny.

Not a weight thing, but recently been yelled at by a kid saying 'You're ugly and you know it!" and I was sitting in traffic lights in the passenger seat of my boyfriends car with the window down. Some kids just like to be mean, and obviously a lot of kids are now raised on this 'ideal' typed woman, thank you to the media. It's getting worse an worse, they think these tiny models are 'normal'. I suppose really, it's not their fault.

teemarania

I've had kids if I was having a baby. I've had adults ask too. All my freaking life!!! Looking forward to that never happening again, until I really am pregnant!

DrowningMermaid

The boy I babysit was walking into the pool with me and his mom (for water aerobics) and he looked over at me and said "You look like you're going to have a baby". His mom was horrified but having a kid of my own (who has said "Wow, Mommy, your belly is BIIIIIIIIIIIG!" or exclaimed how large my butt is while I was trying on clothes in a crowded Walmart), I was unphased.

I simply told him "I understand this is the way you feel and think, but if it was anyone but me, you'd have really hurt their feelings. There's a difference between speaking what you think in your head and keeping things to yourself. You may think someone is really fat, but it makes them sad if you say it out loud. If someone called you fat, would you be happy?" He shook his head no and I think he understood a bit better. He's a thick kid and I have a feeling he's been called fat in the past.

Next time some kid (family or otherwise) mentions you in a fat-bashing way, even if they're unaware that's what it is, you need to set your sore feelings aside and tell them it's hurtful talk. If their parents aren't going to curb that behavior, someone needs to.

cmeade20

I cant believe how many people are saying oh shes only 7 blah blah blah. Im starting to see why kids can be such brats these days....Its one thing for a kid to ask what the stretch marks on your belly are or if youre having a baby. That is genuine childhood innocence and curiosity. Its quite another to jiggle your aunts thighs and tell her her legs are so fat. That is rude,obnoxious, disrespectful and mean. Never would fly in my house.

Erisad

This is why I wanna get skinny before I even have kids, then burn the baby weight off before they learn how to speak. I don't know if I could handle that. Enough people my own age have asked if I was pregnant so I don't want it to come from a child. >.<'

One of my cousins used to strut around singing, "Momma's got a big ol' butt, awww yeeeeeeah!" His mom was really thin and found it hilarious. XD

GlitterMamma11

One time when my youngest was about 4yrs old we were in Barnes and Noble and this very, very large man walked in right in front of us. If you've been in a B&N before you know it's fairly quiet and my son loud as can be (and in an amazed tone) said, "That guy is so fat how does he fit in a car!" I about died! We quickly went in the opposite direction. I felt so awful. Then another time at the grocery store deli counter he says to me as the guy is helping me, "that guy is so fat!". They guy wasn't all that big but he just laughed and agreed. I was mortified. I'm big so it's not like he hasn't seen anyone overweight before! We had to have a talk about how everyone is different and that isn't bad. kids. ;o)

sandrajune72

My eldest son once asked me if the lady passing us by in the street was a man or a woman!!! Now that was embarrassing!!! :laugh:

Kids eh?! It's up to us parents to educate them in whats polite and pc!!

Contrarian

My 7-year-old niece grabbed my thighs, and said "These are bigger than my mom's and dad's combined. Your so fat." I've also had kids run up to me and grab my belly, with their parents looking horrified. Seriously, it's humiliating. Just wanted to get that off my chest.

Edit: Oh, I forgot to mention when my niece said, "You have the body of a fat man." Nice.

Look em dead in the eye and tell them they were adopted

What's wrong with being adopted?

jsmith2377

I teach middle schoolers so I've been asked quite a bit if I'm pregnant. I just respond with 'No, I'm just fat. Thanks.' They are super apologetic and then I usually explain how it's very impolite to ask a woman that.
Also, when I was about 9 months pregnant with my first son, I worked at a K-8 school and had a kinder student say to me 'My mommy has a belly like yours....but there's no baby in there' and just walk away. All I could say was WOW.

joybedford

I once went shopping with my twins they were about 4 at the time. My son asked why we were we shopping and I replied "none of my holiday clothes fit me anymore", to which my daughter replied " Piers mummy is fat is it". I was upset but she was spot on. They now tell me how slim I am all the time I don,t mind that.

determinedbutlazy

When I worked in China as teacher, the kids would call me fat. That's what I get for teaching the little suckers adjectives.
Also, my ex's family (Also Chinese) would quite matter-of-factly tell me I was too fat and I should go on a diet.
Family, eh? Can't live with 'em, can't cut them up into tiny pieces and feed them to the dogs.

deadstarsunburn

I cant believe how many people are saying oh shes only 7 blah blah blah. Im starting to see why kids can be such brats these days....Its one thing for a kid to ask what the stretch marks on your belly are or if youre having a baby. That is genuine childhood innocence and curiosity. Its quite another to jiggle your aunts thighs and tell her her legs are so fat. That is rude,obnoxious, disrespectful and mean. Never would fly in my house.

I agree. My cousin is six and she knows better than to say that stuff to people so does my boyfriends five year old sister. I think five and up the child should be expected to know better.

I'm sorry that was said to you, I've not had a child say that to me as an adult but as a kid I was told almost daily how fat I was.

lbaileyjohannsen

I've had many little kids straight up tell me I'm really fat, I just chuckle and tell them it's rude to comment about someone's appearance, whether it's true or not! Kids are like sociopaths, they have to learn empathy and social skills. A kid, whether they are yours or someone else's, should be corrected. Then again, I've never felt humiliated or ashamed when someone calls me fat, because it's true. If they can't think of a more clever way to make me feel bad about myself, then they are an IDIOT (or a child!!)

iKapuniai

Speaking of little kids telling you that you're fat...

My son, who just turned 4, has a habit of coming up to me and poking my breasts, which we call chi-chi's... one day he came up behind me, poked my back and said "Mama... why do you have chi-chi's on your back?"

Ugh. So embarassing. Luckily, I don't THINK anyone heard it... either that, or they could imagine the humility and refrained from acknowledging it lol... but I think the thing that bothered me most is the fact that my son shouldn't have such an overweight, unhealthy mother... it made me sad. Not for me, but for him. He's my inspiration/motivation.

Anywho, ever since I told him it was rude to comment about something like that... any time anyone says the word "fat"... my son says, with passion: "THAT'S NOT A NICE WORD!!" LOL... God, I love that boy!

Umeboshi

If a kid came up to me and called me fat, I'd smile and say "Yes, I am. And there's nothing wrong with that. People come in all shapes and sizes, and that's a wonderful thing."

Contrarian

I still want to know why some of you think that telling a child they are adopted is a reasonable retort.

Acliff510

I still want to know why some of you think that telling a child they are adopted is a reasonable retort.

I think it was a silly joke. I wouldn't read into it much ... Apdoption can be a beautiful thing & i'm sure offending you or anyone else was not there intention.

Now for me, i was adopted by my stepmother when I was 6 yrs old, & I now dispise the witch and just wish I had NO Mother listed on my birth certificate ... BUT ... i can't ... unless I want to spend the money to i guess.

JD2000

why not let kids just be honest and all of us take it as the only honest criticism we are likely to hear?

So I'm supposed to just sit back and let a 7-year-old continuously tell me "You're ugly" and ask me "Why are you so fat? You are the fattest person I know"? Great.

Right now this girl knows it gets to you. She can smell your fear. Show her that it doesn't matter to you any more. Turn around and walk away. Any attention, even negative, is still attention and she's seeking that. If she says why aren't you talking to me/playing with me tell her truthfully she is rude and you don't stay around rude people. Your non-reaction will be your best weapon.