does anyone have a hard time making friends?
i do.
i am nice and fun. a lot of people i know sit around inside and play video games all day, or are content with never making plans.
i find i never get phone calls anymore, i have to call them.
does anyone else have this problem? some days they just don't seem worth the effort. i swear.
i am nice and fun. a lot of people i know sit around inside and play video games all day, or are content with never making plans.
i find i never get phone calls anymore, i have to call them.
does anyone else have this problem? some days they just don't seem worth the effort. i swear.
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YES!
Sometimes I swear I'm one of those people that has something wrong with them but doesnt know it! (not true). I'm really outgoing and kind but I have zero friends. Lots of aquaintences but I have no one to actually talk to. No one that I can just call up and say hey to. It makes me feel pathetic. But I know Im a good person, wether they see it or not. Its definitely one of my top 5 reasons for wanting to lose weight. No one wants to hang out with the fat chick, right? Thankfully, I have my daughter to keep me company!0 -
maybe we need to put ourselves out there more. at least this is what i tell myself.
i have so many acquantances also.
whenever i have a party, people say "oh, i will see what i'm doing..if i don't have plans"...um, you're doing my party, your plans are my party!
maybe people are scared of my ambition....earlier this year i thought people might just be jealous of me, but i know that is so self-absorbed. i can't explain it otherwise.0 -
I feel the same way it was so much easier when i was in high school and everyone wanted to hangout lol0
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I think once you get older, it's just not "cool" to hang out with friends that much. I can't imagine having to make time for a BFF when I have family and gym obligations.... Add a job in there and I'd be spent!! Plus pets and kids and homework and house chores... It's not feasible and I'm very ok with that. I'll make friends in the retirement home and i can't wait to hear about the other old ladies lives over craft time!!! Right now....no time!!0
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i think i am having a hard time with my age then.....i am only 26, but once i moved (only a 30 minute drive) no one wanted to come out. they will, but very seldomly. soon enough the phone calls stopped. today when i looked at my phone to see no missed calls, i thought..."i could be dead and they would never know!"...maybe it is time for me to grow up
i am too social though. i will have to find new friends.0 -
I think it is easier to make friends when you are younger. You get older, life gets busy, you have to work. I also think you are better friends with people that knew you back in the day. You know, when you did dumb stuff and they liked you anyway. It's like they were there to watch the foundation being built.0
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The story of my life. :sad:0
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i am happy to know i am not the only lonely person, lol0
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I have a hard time making friends. I feel I have outgrown my past friends and have yet to meet new people that share my interests,ideology and way of life. I would hardly call online friends "friends". They are more like strangers you bs with at a bar for awhile then you go home to your life.0
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I have this problem. Sometimes it gets really lonely and I feel bad about myself...
But then I realize that I have to make an effort as well.0 -
I have a hard time too. im kinda shy.. plus i h ate bothering people. I always think that if so and so wanted to hang out they would call me. i call them thou.. usually just play phone tag or something.
it can be rough0 -
I have this problem. Sometimes it gets really lonely and I feel bad about myself...
But then I realize that I have to make an effort as well.
and then you continue to be the only one that makes the effort. at least that is my life.0 -
i would rather sit inside and play video games.
all my friends are online.
i'm happy. people suck.0 -
Where abouts are you based Foxy?0
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me... to everything you said0
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alot of people are in the same situation and there are groups on the internet where you can hang out with people with similar interests. I think there is one site called 'meet up'.0
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Where abouts are you based Foxy?
i am in mississauga, ontario, canada
wanna hang out? :P0 -
I was just thinking about the friend thing myself. I don't fit into the area we live, and anyone I might have something in common with live in other cities hours away. I used to have really good friends, but that was also before I was married with child. I'm also much older than I was when I was sociable. I'm also conscious of my weight and I feel I look old.0
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alot of people are in the same situation and there are groups on the internet where you can hang out with people with similar interests. I think there is one site called 'meet up'.
i have seen this.....do you know of anyone who has used it. i feel so strange going out to spend time with strangers.0 -
I'm always lonely...kind of get used to it after a while tho.0
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I 'lost' my best friend in Feb last year and have had a hell of a time trying to find someone to replace her.
I work hard to meet new people, but I'm really, really picky.
I have found that most lonely people with no friends are socially LAZY.
I meet tons of new people (I have met at least 30 since December) but they are usually too lazy to stick to plans - even ones they have organized and invited me to.
I guess it's a bit like dating - you gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find a friend.
Just put yourself out there! (and don't be lazy)0 -
I think this is a common problem people don't think about as they age--in school, we were around the same people for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week--for most people, the same kind of bonding won't happen when they get older and have other responsibilities. I think it's one of those things you just have to come to terms with, honestly.0
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i do.
i am nice and fun. a lot of people i know sit around inside and play video games all day, or are content with never making plans.
i find i never get phone calls anymore, i have to call them.
does anyone else have this problem? some days they just don't seem worth the effort. i swear.
I have the same problem. I don't mind having to contact people, but I do mind when they don't contact me at all unless I contact them first. If that makes sense... Basically, I'm perfectly fine with contacting them, but I also want them to put in the effort to contact me too. I've recently let someone I used to be really close to go because she never contacted me unless she needed help, or to talk about her problems, and mainly even then it ended up in me contacting her trying to stay friends. I reqire effort put into any relationship, be it friend, bf husband fiance, family, etc. Or I let them go out of my life, because I feel like Im just not that important to them.0 -
hahah I seem to do okay on the internet but toss me in real life and I'm toast :sad:0
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alot of people are in the same situation and there are groups on the internet where you can hang out with people with similar interests. I think there is one site called 'meet up'.
i have seen this.....do you know of anyone who has used it. i feel so strange going out to spend time with strangers.
not yet but I am keen to try it out. There is one group that meet every week for trivia night at the local pub which I think would suit me as your not just trying to make conversation but working on the answers.0 -
I 'lost' my best friend in Feb last year and have had a hell of a time trying to find someone to replace her.
I work hard to meet new people, but I'm really, really picky.
I have found that most lonely people with no friends are socially LAZY.
I meet tons of new people (I have met at least 30 since December) but they are usually too lazy to stick to plans - even ones they have organized and invited me to.
I guess it's a bit like dating - you gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find a friend.
Just put yourself out there! (and don't be lazy)
I'm in the same boat. I'm very picky as well! It's true. I've been trying to find friends to actually hang out with, and in the end they give up even texting or I keep trying to actually hang out and they always say they are busy, and can't do it. It's really lame. I know people have responsibilities, but if they care, they should put in effort. I have 1 friend who works crazy hours but she always finds time to hang out and do stuff which is really surprising. And honestly, I'm waiting for that to stop actually happening0 -
alot of people are in the same situation and there are groups on the internet where you can hang out with people with similar interests. I think there is one site called 'meet up'.
i have seen this.....do you know of anyone who has used it. i feel so strange going out to spend time with strangers.
not yet but I am keen to try it out. There is one group that meet every week for trivia night at the local pub which I think would suit me as your not just trying to make conversation but working on the answers.
i wish you the best :flowerforyou: ... i am heading over to that site right now0 -
alot of people are in the same situation and there are groups on the internet where you can hang out with people with similar interests. I think there is one site called 'meet up'.
i have seen this.....do you know of anyone who has used it. i feel so strange going out to spend time with strangers.
They are only a stranger until you meet.
As for me hell no. I have no problem meeting people.
As for your friends they just may be caught in their own lives.
Put yourself out there girl....0 -
Glad to see it's not just me!! I would have to say that my list (or lack there of) of friends pretty much stinks. Love everything else about my life and where I am, but really wish I still had that go to friend other than the hubby.0
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I had the same problem moved 30 mine out of town family obligations etc. Some of the lost friends was my fault from me doing what your friends did. I just wanted to be a home body ive recently started to change that and I'm starting to gain more friendships from my aquinteces by being more out going and jumping on chances to hang out after work etc.0
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