(some of the) American guys...
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tbut this guy kept complaining about every dollar he spent, and seemed very frustrated that as a girl, i don't have to spend that much.. like, you don't pay for the entrance to a club because you are a girl and looked at me as if i was supposed to apologize for that.
This isn't a typical American behavior - this guy is a jerk. Can't believe you gave him a second chance!0 -
Until my fiance and I get married our money is in seperate bank accounts, as it always has been for the last almost 8 year, if there is a movie he wants to see, or something he wants to do, or a place he wants to eat, he pays. Vice versa, if its a movie I want to see, something I want to do, or somewhere I want to eat, I pay. Some guys are cheap, some guys aren't, same goes for the girl. It's 2012, if women get offended by men expecting us to do all the cooking, cleaning, and what not, isn't it a little offending to expect a man to pay for all our meals and what not?0
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I dated until I married at thirty. I never paid and nobody complained. It was understood as part of the courtship. I live in Texas.0
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he is just a cheap skate... I have never paid for anything on a date i don't expect it. I"m just told that the guy is covering it.0
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i don't mind being spoiled i am not a feminist or stand for woman's rights or whatever, i do let the guy pay on a date but i don't do it for too long, i am always more comfortable when i pay for myself.
and this is not just one guy, there is a certain stereotype about american guys (again, this is not meant to offend anyone, i am a serbian and most of you will immediately think, terrorist)
i don't know what to say because a guy made me feel like i demanded from him to spend too much.
My question is why do you make MASSIVE generalizations about people. Not all American men are like that, not all people will think because you are Serbian you are a terrorist. Maybe if you expanded your views a bit and stopped being so narrow minded and making generalizations you might get somewhere. :grumble:0 -
It's why I date outside of the U.S. I am from the u.s. myself from the Pacific Northwest to be exact. I am currently dating (online I know I don't like American guys!) a guy who lives in Turkey. So far he is the sweetest guy I have dated yet! He sends me gifts through the mail, expensive gifts for sure! I have never asked for anything from him he just enjoys spoiling me0
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Complaining about money on a date is just bad form, though I am the pay for myself sort as well. I've known a few men that were very vocal about things being too expensive, and it's definitely embarrassing/irritating. Oh course the guy most guilty of this that I know is Russian, so... I'm pretty sure it's not just Americans.0
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There are cheap *kitten* no matter where you go, male and female from all over this world lol it happens0
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sounds more like the guy just didn't like you very much0
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It depends on the guy and that one is just a cheap/kind of bitter guy. I've been out with guys like that and I've been out with guys that wouldn't let me pay a penny towards any restaurant bill/activity we do. My SO and I have been together for almost 2 years and he always snatches up the check the second it gets to the table and I can count on my fingers the number of times I've been able to sneakily pay for a simple cup of coffee or movie ticket (maybe like 5 or 6 times?). I wish he'd let me pay more or at least go dutch more because I feel bad (not that we always go out to expensive places but still, it adds up!).0
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they're not all like that. I met a gentleman who was charming! he opened doors, led the way, paid for everything, and never laid a hand on me! I on the other hand, placed my hand on his thigh while he was driving, and rubbed my leg against his under the table at the library while he was reading out loud to my nephew. lol!!!! meeeeeoooooooww!!!!! ;D0
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I have never once had this problem, and I live (most of the time) in the US. You just met a guy who either can't admit he's on a budget, or is a jerk, or who is using it as an excuse. I think it's time to move on..0
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There is a huge difference between being cheap and having no class. A guy who complains about prices and how women don't have to pay simply has no class.
Someone on a budget can be discrete about his finances and choose less expensive places to hang out. If you're a down-to-earth girl you might enjoy activities that don't require a lot of money. If you need to be treated lavishly then maybe the guy wasn't right for you. Many guys worry they are only being "used".
Question to OP: how would you feel about a guy that was upfront and said he liked you but really couldn't afford to go to high-end restaurants/bars or buy you stuff?0 -
Never had that problem. If it's a boyfriend I've been with for a long time we'll have cheap dates sometimes. But before that, no0
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You met a cheap guy. Not all guys are like that. Not all Americans are like that.
This ^^
Some guys are actually decent guys!! They might think that they hate spending the money, but it's rude to constantly ***** about it. A good guy knows the difference.0 -
I always offer to pay. I also always tip her when she leaves.
In all seriousness though I don't think I've ever been on a date that I haven't paid for. It's just the polite thing to do and I think that as long as the woman I date continue to be appreciative of that fact that I will continue doing it. The only real problem I see with the guy you are dating though is that he's complaining about it. Its not a necessity that he pays but if he does he sure shouldn't be complaining about it because that was his choice.
I'd buy all the women here a round! The only complaining I would do is when your cup was empty0 -
Question to OP: how would you feel about a guy that was upfront and said he liked you but really couldn't afford to go to high-end restaurants/bars or buy you stuff?
well as I said, he was the one to suggest those places. Some people here are being really rude, saying that i expect to be treated like a princess (read the post first, that's all i can say)
the thing is, i liked him so if he suggested going out for a walk or something like that i would still do it.
the problem is not that the guy didn't pay for everything,it's just that he was whining all the time.0 -
Wow. So we are comparing all American guys to the few crappy ones you met? Very nice.
Majority of my dates usually refuse to let me pay for things. Where are you meeting your guys at? :laugh:0 -
the problem is not that the guy didn't pay for everything,it's just that he was whining all the time.0
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I was talking to a guy for about a year online before we finally decided to meet, when we did meet I wanted to me somewhere public and somewhere we could walk around and talk, so I choose the sponge docks in Tarpon Springs. As soon as he met me he started complaining about having to pay $2 for parking, I knew then and there it wasn't gonna work..0
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