Petpeeves, what does YOUR partner do?

Long_and_Lean

@songbyrd (we were bordering on quote abuse there)

"I don't assume he has that capability...I just waited and saw. He went to his mental man-cave initially and came out when he was ready. Had he lacked it, my trying to force it wouldn't have helped at all anyway."

I've been waiting and seeing for 5 years. Then I've tried to talk to him about it, we were both agreeing that something had to be done but we didn't know what. So now we are getting outside perspective. In your previous statements, there appears to be an interpretation of forcing or badgering on my part, which leads me to believe that you have a completely inaccurate view of the relationship dynamic I am describing. There was no force involved at any point, no nagging, nothing of the sort. We're trying to meet each other's needs even better that we already are, and didn't quite know how to go about it on our own.

"I can understand if a man really has anxiety because his emotional constipation is eating away at him, but in many cases, they are simply quiet and reflective whereas women are vocal and relative. Like you said--evolution. It's not just societal norms that create differences in males and females. It is actual brain anatomy. Perhaps I look at things differently as a physiologist and Taoist. To me, pain comes from wishing things were different. Instead I accept them or move on if they are absolutely contrary to my values. If my man wants quiet reflective time, I respect that, and I feel no different about our relationship because of it."

We're talking about nature v. nurture here, and we can't really know which came first. There are definite anatomical differences, for sure. Brain scans prove that. But in the west, there is also a societal expectation for the man to be strong, quiet and in control. Which came first? Who knows and who cares. We can only deal with it as it is. Also, you *are* assuming that your man, during his "quiet time" is reflecting, and he probably is, based on your accounts. And then he comes to you to deal with his emotions *in his own way*. That is communication and openness. What if he wasn't? What if he never processed his thoughts and feelings on his own, and never came to you for support? And to be clear, that looking for support doesn't mean coming to talk. It could mean coming for physical affection. Or whatever else. I never once said that I want my husband to communicate with me in the same way that I communicate with him. But I do want him to communicate with me and to connect with me. Do you see the difference?

That makes more sense. Initially it sounded like you were looking for verbal communication because you were discussing opinions.

I have been with a man who wouldn't express any emotions. I left. He ended up with someone who apparently didn't mind. *shrug* I think I have an easy time of things these days because I don't stick with things that don't vibe with me on important levels. Instead of trying to change things I let the things change around me until they're good things and I keep them. So my experience is coming from a different place since I have been fortunate to have been found by a person who is someone I can fully accept.

Your language about "fully accepting" someone troubles me, perhaps it was just an unfortunate choice of words on your part. Loving someone so much that you want to understand them better and make them happy doesn't mean you're not accepting them. Also, I don't know how long you've been in your current relationship, but it has been my experience that these kinds of incongruities between partners happen in every relationship eventually, and don't speak to the "compatibility" between partners. They're just a fact of life because we're all individuals. The key is love and understanding, a mutual desire for personal growth, as well as putting your ego aside when it's time to get some outside perspective.

songbyrdsweet

@songbyrd (we were bordering on quote abuse there)

"I don't assume he has that capability...I just waited and saw. He went to his mental man-cave initially and came out when he was ready. Had he lacked it, my trying to force it wouldn't have helped at all anyway."

I've been waiting and seeing for 5 years. Then I've tried to talk to him about it, we were both agreeing that something had to be done but we didn't know what. So now we are getting outside perspective. In your previous statements, there appears to be an interpretation of forcing or badgering on my part, which leads me to believe that you have a completely inaccurate view of the relationship dynamic I am describing. There was no force involved at any point, no nagging, nothing of the sort. We're trying to meet each other's needs even better that we already are, and didn't quite know how to go about it on our own.

"I can understand if a man really has anxiety because his emotional constipation is eating away at him, but in many cases, they are simply quiet and reflective whereas women are vocal and relative. Like you said--evolution. It's not just societal norms that create differences in males and females. It is actual brain anatomy. Perhaps I look at things differently as a physiologist and Taoist. To me, pain comes from wishing things were different. Instead I accept them or move on if they are absolutely contrary to my values. If my man wants quiet reflective time, I respect that, and I feel no different about our relationship because of it."

We're talking about nature v. nurture here, and we can't really know which came first. There are definite anatomical differences, for sure. Brain scans prove that. But in the west, there is also a societal expectation for the man to be strong, quiet and in control. Which came first? Who knows and who cares. We can only deal with it as it is. Also, you *are* assuming that your man, during his "quiet time" is reflecting, and he probably is, based on your accounts. And then he comes to you to deal with his emotions *in his own way*. That is communication and openness. What if he wasn't? What if he never processed his thoughts and feelings on his own, and never came to you for support? And to be clear, that looking for support doesn't mean coming to talk. It could mean coming for physical affection. Or whatever else. I never once said that I want my husband to communicate with me in the same way that I communicate with him. But I do want him to communicate with me and to connect with me. Do you see the difference?

That makes more sense. Initially it sounded like you were looking for verbal communication because you were discussing opinions.

I have been with a man who wouldn't express any emotions. I left. He ended up with someone who apparently didn't mind. *shrug* I think I have an easy time of things these days because I don't stick with things that don't vibe with me on important levels. Instead of trying to change things I let the things change around me until they're good things and I keep them. So my experience is coming from a different place since I have been fortunate to have been found by a person who is someone I can fully accept.

Your language about "fully accepting" someone troubles me, perhaps it was just an unfortunate choice of words on your part. Loving someone so much that you want to understand them better and make them happy doesn't mean you're not accepting them. Also, I don't know how long you've been in your current relationship, but it has been my experience that these kinds of incongruities between partners happen in every relationship eventually, and don't speak to the "compatibility" between partners. They're just a fact of life because we're all individuals. The key is love and understanding, a mutual desire for personal growth, as well as putting your ego aside when it's time to get some outside perspective.

No, those were the words I meant. I am cognizant that he and I will both change and I accept that too. Without change there's no room for growth. Without ego there is infinite room.

JuneBPrice

We're talking about nature v. nurture here, and we can't really know which came first. There are definite anatomical differences, for sure. Brain scans prove that. But in the west, there is also a societal expectation for the man to be strong, quiet and in control. Which came first? Who knows and who cares. We can only deal with it as it is. Also, you *are* assuming that your man, during his "quiet time" is reflecting, and he probably is, based on your accounts. And then he comes to you to deal with his emotions *in his own way*. That is communication and openness. What if he wasn't? What if he never processed his thoughts and feelings on his own, and never came to you for support? And to be clear, that looking for support doesn't mean coming to talk. It could mean coming for physical affection. Or whatever else. I never once said that I want my husband to communicate with me in the same way that I communicate with him. But I do want him to communicate with me and to connect with me. Do you see the difference?

So how do you explain it when the shoe is on the other foot? One of the biggest reasons why me and my ex broke up is because we had this problem, but with the gender roles in reverse.

katkins3

We shop for groceries together and I always ask him if there is anything he wants or would like to have for dinner etc.
He doesn't have any suggestions and doesn't pick out anything for himself. Then he eats Everything!
I go to have a sandwich and all the lunch meat is gone, so is all the yogurt, fruit, Weight Watcher ice cream bars, salad fixings. There's a jar of olives left!
He is underweight. the doctor told him to gain 10 pounds, but all he eats is the stuff I bought for myself, especially if its fat free, low fat, vegetarian or Weight Watchers. I keep telling him to pick out some food for himself! What is his problem?

songbyrdsweet

We're talking about nature v. nurture here, and we can't really know which came first. There are definite anatomical differences, for sure. Brain scans prove that. But in the west, there is also a societal expectation for the man to be strong, quiet and in control. Which came first? Who knows and who cares. We can only deal with it as it is. Also, you *are* assuming that your man, during his "quiet time" is reflecting, and he probably is, based on your accounts. And then he comes to you to deal with his emotions *in his own way*. That is communication and openness. What if he wasn't? What if he never processed his thoughts and feelings on his own, and never came to you for support? And to be clear, that looking for support doesn't mean coming to talk. It could mean coming for physical affection. Or whatever else. I never once said that I want my husband to communicate with me in the same way that I communicate with him. But I do want him to communicate with me and to connect with me. Do you see the difference?

So how do you explain it when the shoe is on the other foot? One of the biggest reasons why me and my ex broke up is because we had this problem, but with the gender roles in reverse.

This is why I kept saying 'individuals' and pointing out that there's nothing sexist about it. Generally speaking, males are one way and females are another. But there are certainly exceptions and my bottom line was that a person's need for quiet reflection isn't any less important than their spouse's need for emotional communication.

JuneBPrice

We're talking about nature v. nurture here, and we can't really know which came first. There are definite anatomical differences, for sure. Brain scans prove that. But in the west, there is also a societal expectation for the man to be strong, quiet and in control. Which came first? Who knows and who cares. We can only deal with it as it is. Also, you *are* assuming that your man, during his "quiet time" is reflecting, and he probably is, based on your accounts. And then he comes to you to deal with his emotions *in his own way*. That is communication and openness. What if he wasn't? What if he never processed his thoughts and feelings on his own, and never came to you for support? And to be clear, that looking for support doesn't mean coming to talk. It could mean coming for physical affection. Or whatever else. I never once said that I want my husband to communicate with me in the same way that I communicate with him. But I do want him to communicate with me and to connect with me. Do you see the difference?

So how do you explain it when the shoe is on the other foot? One of the biggest reasons why me and my ex broke up is because we had this problem, but with the gender roles in reverse.

This is why I kept saying 'individuals' and pointing out that there's nothing sexist about it. Generally speaking, males are one way and females are another. But there are certainly exceptions and my bottom line was that a person's need for quiet reflection isn't any less important than their spouse's need for emotional communication.

I wasn't trying to say it was sexist. I was just asking, how do you suppose that this problem arises in reverse given that he and I have brains that match our gender and are raised in this society to fit certain roles? (Sorry if this has been less than coherent, I haven't slept in over 24 hours. Don't ask.)

akaporn

C'mon... Not all the man are like that. Let me see I would I do. Again, Being an engineer, I'll go with the analytical approach an keeping track of the score. I'll try to do my best and not missing a thing.

GUYS (HUSBAND/BOYFRIEND/MALE PARTNER)! IT"LL BE FUN TO EVALUATE YOURSELF THROUGH THIS LIST AS WELL. BEING A PARTNER IS A RESPONSIBILITY, NOT A PRIVILEGE.

(0/1) He leaves the toilet seat UP!!
> Not me we have a cat in the house.

(0/2) When he opens a cupboard, he forgets how to shut it I guess!
> Always shut

(0/3) Flushes before he is done so OF COURSE theres pee in the toilet still.
> Nope, Always pee like a girl (sitting down, too lazy to aim)

(0.5/4) Strips down to his boxers and dumps all the clothes on the floor
Nope, undress at the laundry machine walk naked around the house. -Deduct 0.5 point

(0.5/5) Doesn't give enough time to get ready- when he is ready to go do something he just grabs his keys and says let's go
Communication, All I have to do is let her know in advance, right... EASY ONE

(0.5/ ) screw lids & caps on tightly. sometimes they just rest on the bottle or jar.
Nope, This is another easy one.. I'm not even gonna count it.

(1/6) "lets things 'soak' " which is just manspeak for making a science experiment in the sink.
Yep, did those. But, never ever overnight. .. (Can I at least save 0.5 point? Please)

(1/7) stomps all over the kitchen in his work boots and tracks dirt everywhere.
Nope, 'cos I'm the one cleaning the house.

takes his clothes off upstairs and throws them down to the next level =Same as #4

(1/8) He will dawdle along until we have 20 minutes to be somewhere and then he gets ready.
Nope, Grandpa is a train operator. Always on schedule.

(1/8) He repeats himself over and over. Drives me NUTS !
That's spacial... Let's just don't count this one.

he'll throw his jeans/belt on the floor, then when i wake up on the middle of the night =See #4

Not exist. == I'm here (kidding)

(1/9) Im gonna stop and get something to drink. Really? You cant wait till we get to our already late destination?
Nope, water bottle everywhere I go.. But, pee every 1/2 Hr, though..

We have closet for a reason and that is where clothes should be! There are still clothes on the bar stools at all times. = another #4

(1.5/10) Complains/groans/moans about a head cold but tells me to suck it up if I have one
I only do it just to grab her attention... Let's agree with 0.5 point

(1.5/11). He compliments me when I do the house work or yard work, but never jumps in to help, just watches
Easy one, I do all the above. It's a man job. Good exercise.

(2.5/12) The only thing I can think of is he blows his nose in the shower UGH!!!
Got me on this one... That's why I gave her the master bathroom and I use the third one (We do reserve the 2nd one for our guest)

"Delay Fish". He's never ever EVER EVERRRR even remotely close to on time, unless I'm right behind him, forcing him to not get distracted. see #8

(3.5/13) Although my biggest one is that he chews ice. C.A.N.T S.T.A.N.D I.T!!!
Guilty.. But, what's wrong with that???

(3.5/14) Mine forgets to flush! Every time I walk into a bathroom and see the pee sitting in there,
Not guilty But, It's my bathroom! I already gave you the big one == wow, this is getting tougher than I thought.

(3.5/15) And he does the eternal male thing- makes believe he's listening, but never heard a word I say. Then he will ask me to prepeat myself over and over.
I love to hear whatever she has in mind... It bugs me BIG time but, she's always right 99%

(4.5/16) Has NO SHAME farting when we're laying down and thinks it's hysterical.
I did that... no comment

(5.5/17) Chews on random things all the time, like pen caps etc...
Guilty

(5.5/18). Always thinks he's right. Always. (He's not!)
see #15

I understand guys fart.. but do they HAVE to fart ALL the TIME? I mean, I lean in for a sweet kiss... BAM.
WHILE eating dinner....BAM.. In bed..BAM.. ANYTIME he is just standing there.. BAM..
YES, WE DO... BAM

(5.5/19) Is the table where your hat, wallet, and keys go as soon as you step in the door?
Grew up with a half-blinded grandpa teach me things got to be in their places.

(6/20) He forgets that women like to be thanked for things they do for their partner. This is big, I feel like appreciation is needed SOMETIMES.
Always give her compliments.. Still nowhere near enough. So I'll gladly split the point on this one.

My biggest one is he rolls his socks off inside out and he wears these heavy work boots and they are all sweaty--- and I have to wash them!!
See #4 I do my laundry, hers, everything except her undies... Have no idea how to deal with delicate stuffs..

OCD who doesn't flush? This is my first one.

(7/21) My husband insists that I drive us everywhere (partly because I have a shiny new car, mostly because he's lazy), and then while I'm driving at his behest, he b!tches about how I drive and what route I choose to take!
I drive to work 100mi/day. My gf appreciate that. I did complain. But only when she breaks the law (Stop signs, speed zone, changing lane) Regarding the route, What's the deal with the girl and her GPS??? It's a machine. It's stupid most of the time.

(7/22) I hear you on the "I love you" thing. We just had an argument last night and that was included. He thinks I should just know...but instead I doubt because he doesn't bother telling me.
Every morning before i leave, every evening when I got home, Every night because I always go to bed earlier... I tried my best. I'm not giving you guys any point on this one.

My husband does his own laundry, does all the grocery shopping, cooks our meals, cleans our house, packs my lunches, cleans his own bathroom, tells me he loves several times a day.....pet peeves? None. Sometimes I wonder if he's really a human being. LOL
SEE!!!! We EXIST!!!!

(7/23) several-day silent treatment
Always initiate the discussion. Very important

(7/24) If we pull up to the house, and mine has to pee, he doesnt go inside the house... thats too far... he pees on the bush. REALLY?
Eww!

(7/25) PUT DEODERANT ON EVERYDAY! I DONT CARE IF YOU ARE OFF WORK RIGHT NOW OR NOT.
My gf hates perfumey stuffs. Quitted putting them on 15 years ago.. Lucky that I don't have bad smell except after the workout.

(7/26) May I please have a cup of coffee?" or "Please pour me some Coke" Should he not be the one pouring me some Tab or maybe offer me some tea? Shame I think it but I never moan because he really works hard and can do with a little nap after a hard day:)
Gentleman shouldn't be asking the ladies to do that. That's just how I was brought up. Get a Thai guy. and you won't have this problem.

Blah Blah Blah....

(8/27) He uses our dining room table to store his outerwear, bags and general crap when there is a hall closet 2 feet away!
Guilty ONCE. Learn a big lesson from it. My dog ate my chocolate... Almost lose her. went to IKEA and got a closet just for my stuffs. Will never happen again

(8/28) "hun....do we have peanut butter?"
It's my kitchen. It's my domain. I dictate where things are.

(8/29) One thing that does bother me is that he will never discuss politics with me.
Find some common thing that you both passionate about and discuss!... I would love to discuss soccer with my girl as well. For her, there are only two people in the world playing soccer.. David Beckham and Christiano Ronaldo... Mam, they need 11 players in a team!

(8/30) Brings drinks up to the bedroom each night and never brings the cups down. After 3-5 accumulate, I take them all down.
Bedroom is for two activities only. We can both continue in the kitchen if we are thirsty after the first round.

(8/31) He can never make a decision about anything! Where we're going to eat, what movie we're going to see... He always wants me to pick. But then everything I choose is wrong. Ugh, drives me crazy.
I pick the restaurant she pick the food then we share. We got Netflic no problem there.

(8/32) He is so picky! I swear, I can't get him to eat anything.
That's why I cook

He won't feed our baby. Says she doesn't like it when he holds the bottle. Mhm.
No baby.

(9/33) He does not answer his mother so I have to
YEP, WHOA! That's your JOB! Protecting me from my MOM....!!!!

There you go girls... My take on your issues. Pretty good eye-opening discovery for me for sure... Very fun indeed.

jkimmett

My husband works very hard for us and works long days so I really hate to ***** about him, lol. BUT. He things he does that annoy me most are his sabatoging of my weight loss success. We always used to share a bucket of ice cream, or go for a pizza run at 10:00 at night, that kind of thing. Well I don't do that anymore, so he brings home ice cream or chocolate and knows I have a really hard time resisting but he brings it home anyway. It used to be the way he showed me he cared but now it drives me crazy. Now he says its for the kids and brings them home candy and crap food. I am trying so hard to be a good role model and feed them healthy foods, it just drives me nuts!

UhOhItsKylie

I love my husband to death, but I swear I will wind up killing him one day because I will get too sick of finding DIRTY SOCKS in random places all over the house.

He just kicks them off wherever he happens to be. I've found them in the couch cushions, tangled up in the sheets in our bed, on top of the coffee table in the living room...this morning I found a pair in the corner underneath the kitchen table! *head explodes*

maden2629

I hate watching movies with mine. He's always pausing it every 5 to 10 minutes because he thinks he needs to explain the movie to me or to anyone else that is watching it. Same with tv series that are on dvds. Drives me nuts.

jlaurena

flicks boogers on me and laughs! EWWWWW

trojanbb

I hate watching movies with mine. He's always pausing it every 5 to 10 minutes because he thinks he needs to explain the movie to me or to anyone else that is watching it. Same with tv series that are on dvds. Drives me nuts.

Because if we dont, we end up having to explain it all afterwards.

And FYI, that "men are conditioned into not expressing their feelings" BS is mostly just that, BS. To a small extent it is true. But is mostly hormonal. We dont have raging estrogen like you, we are not dominated by mood swings and "empathy". Dont try changing us, it will not work.

songbyrdsweet

I hate watching movies with mine. He's always pausing it every 5 to 10 minutes because he thinks he needs to explain the movie to me or to anyone else that is watching it. Same with tv series that are on dvds. Drives me nuts.

Because if we dont, we end up having to explain it all afterwards.

And FYI, that "men are conditioned into not expressing their feelings" BS is mostly just that, BS. To a small extent it is true. But is mostly hormonal. We dont have raging estrogen like you, we are not dominated by mood swings and "empathy". Dont try changing us, it will not work.

Damn, I wouldn't kick you out of bed for eating crackers or whatever that saying is.

In other words, you look good without a shirt on.

Also you don't need to share your feelings with me.

MUByM

-Flushes before he is done (ew)
-He cuts his hair and when it falls on to the carpet in the bathroom he just flips it over so it looks like he cleaned up. I asked him why he does this and he said because I like to clean. Yeah, sure.
-Farts ANYWHERE. If we are at a store and he farts, he gives me a look and I know I better get the hell out of that aisle.
-Where he stands to take his clothes off is where it stays.
-When he actually puts clothes in the closet, he rolls them up in a ball and throws them in there.
-He changes clothes more times a day than me.
-Very picky eater! He won't eat the same thing two days in a row.
-Acts like he is dying when he is sick.

and so on..

BaileyKat52

Me: Steve invited us over Saturday night (or any other statement you can think of)

Him: Wha?

Me: nevermind

Him: Steve invited us over Saturday night?

Me: Why the hell do you say what when you heard what I said the first time?

Just to clarify. I used to repeat myself. The nevermind was a little experiment. He knows what I said every time.

Why oh why?

Do they all do that????

aippolito1

My boyfriend cannot throw away a box of food he finishes for his life. When I first went to his house when we first started dating, I would pick up boxes in the freezer, thinking they had food in them, and they were empty. Empty hot pocket boxes, empty pizza bread boxes. It was confusing and I still don't get it. His brother does it too. They can finish a 6-pack of beer and the cardboard box stays in the fridge until I or his roommate throws it away. Crazy.

vim_n_vigor

To start it off, here's a few of what MINE does.....

*He leaves the toilet seat UP!!

*When he opens a cupboard, he forgets how to shut it I guess!

*Flushes before he is done so OF COURSE theres pee in the toilet still.

Ready, Set, GO!!!

Wait. Are you married to my husband?

midcoast_mommy

1. Leaves the lights on. I CANNOT stand this.

2. Leaves his clothes randomly scattered throughout the house.

3. Picks his nose and wipes it wherever. Gross. Use a freaking tissue!

4. Complains about me "dragging" him to get-togethers with friends or family, and 9 out of 10 times he ends up having fun.

Ohh but I love him dearly lol

cjcjcjcjcj

My boyfriend is a twig, he can eat anything and everything he wants without putting on so much as an ounce, enough said!

trojanbb

I hate watching movies with mine. He's always pausing it every 5 to 10 minutes because he thinks he needs to explain the movie to me or to anyone else that is watching it. Same with tv series that are on dvds. Drives me nuts.

Because if we dont, we end up having to explain it all afterwards.

And FYI, that "men are conditioned into not expressing their feelings" BS is mostly just that, BS. To a small extent it is true. But is mostly hormonal. We dont have raging estrogen like you, we are not dominated by mood swings and "empathy". Dont try changing us, it will not work.

Damn, I wouldn't kick you out of bed for eating crackers or whatever that saying is.

In other words, you look good without a shirt on.

Also you don't need to share your feelings with me.

LOL

-Flushes before he is done (ew)
-He cuts his hair and when it falls on to the carpet in the bathroom he just flips it over so it looks like he cleaned up. I asked him why he does this and he said because I like to clean. Yeah, sure.
-Farts ANYWHERE. If we are at a store and he farts, he gives me a look and I know I better get the hell out of that aisle.
-Where he stands to take his clothes off is where it stays.
-When he actually puts clothes in the closet, he rolls them up in a ball and throws them in there.
-He changes clothes more times a day than me.
-Very picky eater! He won't eat the same thing two days in a row.
-Acts like he is dying when he is sick.

and so on..

He must be my twin

saustin201

He smacks his lips when he eats and sometimes chews with his mouth open. Sometimes it bothers me, but after 20 years I still cannot shut it out completely.

However, he is a good dad, good hubby and works very hard to support us. I'll keep him because I have habits that annoy him too. :laugh:

weighlossforbaby

1. Play too many Video games.

2. Wanting to have as many rigs (computers) as he can.

3. He cooks every night since he have been laid off but he leaves a sink full for me to wash (we don't use our dishwasher anymore) after my walk that I take after 8 pm.

4. Puts his clothes in a corner in our room so when I wash laundry I forget about them.

5. He's way too laid back of a person.

Other than that he is a great husband :happy:

smkafka

Throw his dirty clothes in front of the laundry shoot. Why not just throw them down the shoot right away!

Ask me where something is in the frig because he is afraid to move the milk to see it.

musicstardust67

1. leaves the toilet seat up

2. after showering or basically just whenever, he leaves his clothes on the living room floor or just on the floor in general.

3. Instead of putting his clean clothes away, he leaves them on the floor.

4. Soaks dishes but never actually washes them until I step in

5. Right after work, immediately gets into his boxers even if we are going somewhere later that day.

6. Is obsessed with video games to the point where stuff doesn't get cleaned.

kmm7309

My husband is the sole provider, and he works really hard. Because of this, I have accepted/worked through some of the little stuff. The things I can't get over are:

1) He leaves his work boots, smell and all, under the coffee table in the living room. That wouldn't be that bad unless you count the 4 or 5 other pairs that end up there, even though we have a shoe place one room over!

2) He NEVER makes a decision. Not about what to eat, wear, do, have, buy, sell, throw away, NOTHING!! He looks to me about accepting job offers or leaving a job. He's always been that way, "I just want everyone to be happy".

3) He takes longer to get ready than me. A. lot. longer. I cut down as much time as I can by picking his clothes, making a drink, collecting his wallet and keys, turning off the TV, but nothing works. We are always late.

4) If he starts something, by God he's going to finish it, even if it will
-make us late
-have to be re-fixed later
-not be improved by his tinkering
-cost him sleep
-hurt him physically
-etc

5) Tends to displace blame on me (i.e.- if we're late somewhere, he just rolls his eyes and says "women!" when someone asks about our tardiness). He doesn't do it very seriously, but it is still annoying because I'm always ready before him.

But those things I can handle. He's supportive, loving, and puts the toilet seat down!

EDIT: After reading my post again, I think that being late annoys me a lot more than any of these one things.

slkehl

My ex was addicted to his iPhone. I called Suri the "other woman"

marie_cressman

If I don't expect anything of him (as far as things in the house goes..), I can't be disappointed. LOL The whole "leaving clothes on the floor", "toilets", etc doesn't bother me much. BUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT he likes to pass gas and lock the windows when we are in the car. REALLY??? WHO DOES THIS *kitten*??? Oh yeah. My husband. LMAO Nasty Effer.

achampionsheart

so many....
1. he slurps his cereal and milk from his spoon...he has literally woke me up from sleep doing this..
2. he snores very loudly, in my ear, then blows his stinkin breath in my face while im trying to sleep
3. he puts his dirty socks on my CLEAN dining room table....DOES A DINING ROOM TABLE LOOK LIKE A CLOTHES HAMPER TO YOU?

i love my hubby and he works hard, but dayyyyuuummmmmm......c'mon man

earthtoemilyy

i'm really not trying to be a ***** but don't complain too much about your partners, you never know how much you miss things like these till they're gone.

i could have filled up a page with petpeeves about my ex but we broke up two months ago and i would do anything. ANYTHING. to have him back.
pet peeves and all

Heather_Rider

To start it off, here's a few of what MINE does.....

*He leaves the toilet seat UP!!

*When he opens a cupboard, he forgets how to shut it I guess!

*Flushes before he is done so OF COURSE theres pee in the toilet still.

Ready, Set, GO!!!

OMG.. HE LEAVES THE TOILET SEAT UP...........

BET YOU LEAVE THE TOILET SEAT DOWN!

What a sad sad soul you are complaining about your man for pitiful things....... I hope he isnt on some site complainig that you are a whining person who has nothing more to do than be a complaining *****!

GAH!