Why aren't more guys ballsy?

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  • thebaconbeast
    thebaconbeast Posts: 560 Member
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    You haven't met me then , I will at any opportunity given ...
  • Tat2dDom624
    Tat2dDom624 Posts: 1,226 Member
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    because I'm married and my wife wouldnt appreciate me doing that.. otherwise......

    I'm in the same boat.....
  • Merrychrissmith
    Merrychrissmith Posts: 238 Member
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    I mean this in a gentle way but "being old fashioned" about not making an approach of your own is another way of saying "I fear rejection, so you make the first move and I will decide to reject....or not."

    Double standard.
  • Hendrix7
    Hendrix7 Posts: 1,903 Member
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    Why don't you ask?

    Because I'm a tad old fashioned

    You can't have it both ways.

    Take the initiative or stop complaining.
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
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    Funny only gets you so far. I don't do lines. But I there are a couple of times I walked up to someone and tried to start a conversation (which I am damn good at) and she looked at me like I just handed her a moldy fish. I show no fear in talking to someone so this was based on looks alone.
    Have that happen a couple of times and meh...
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
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    Move to Canada, lot's of ballsy guys here :)
  • Drenched_N_Motivation
    Drenched_N_Motivation Posts: 1,004 Member
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    Amber, how tall are you?
  • pornstarzombie
    pornstarzombie Posts: 297
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    And I mean that as in personality.

    I'm single. Super tall girl so I intimidate the crap out of men, apparently. But if see an attractive girl that you want to take out, why not just ask? Stop being so damn shy! lol

    That's my "rant"...

    I'm 6', and I have the same issue. Lots of "appreciative" looks...but no one with the guts to walk up to me. I've been told multiple times I am intimidating. But geeze.
  • AlayshaJ
    AlayshaJ Posts: 703 Member
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    Pahaha, I was about to say... I know some pretty ballsy guys. My husband is one of them! I'm pretty sure only a select few would have the confidence to date a woman taller than them.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
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    I mean this in a gentle way but "being old fashioned" about not making an approach of your own is another way of saying "I fear rejection, so you make the first move and I will decide to reject....or not."

    Double standard.

    This.
    Good Job, Santa
  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,167 Member
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    last time i was ballsy girl didn't say yes. i will say i am happy to be admired from afar :laugh:
    and i am more attracted to hispanic girls and area around me is mostly white peoples ;)
  • Going4Lean
    Going4Lean Posts: 1,077 Member
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    I can be extremely shy and i am afraid of rejection.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,468 Member
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    Amber, how tall are you?

    I'm 5'10
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,468 Member
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    Pahaha, I was about to say... I know some pretty ballsy guys. My husband is one of them! I'm pretty sure only a select few would have the confidence to date a woman taller than them.

    I don't date guys shorter than me
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
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    And I mean that as in personality. I'm single. Super tall girl so I intimidate the crap out of men, apparently. But if see an attractive girl that you want to take out, why not just ask?

    True, way too many guys are wimps when it comes to cold approaching.

    Are you approachable? You can vastly improve your chances by initiating eye contact and smiling, having open body language, and not hanging out in a herd (3+) of women. Most guys have no desire to tear down the "shield" of a woman who looks like she wants to be left alone, or try to carve her out of a group. The ones that do are usually douches.

    I'm old-fashioned too. Women don't have to approach men if they don't want, instead, make yourself very approachable.
  • REALBIGBATBASTARD
    REALBIGBATBASTARD Posts: 103 Member
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    How ballsy is too ballsy?
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,443 Member
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    Legend has it that the nurses all gathered round when I was born and said, "my... he sure has big balls. Doesn't he?!" OK, it was just my grandma... but still.
  • trojanbb
    trojanbb Posts: 1,297 Member
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    And I mean that as in personality.

    I'm single. Super tall girl so I intimidate the crap out of men, apparently. But if see an attractive girl that you want to take out, why not just ask? Stop being so damn shy! lol

    That's my "rant"...

    because you all make it so damn hard. Why dont YOU ask us? I can count the number of times I've been approached in my life on one hand.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
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    Because rejection for guys sucks as bad as rejection for women.

    Why don't you ask a guy out?

    So true.
  • trojanbb
    trojanbb Posts: 1,297 Member
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    if he's not asking could it possibly be that he's not interested? And, if he is interested & not asking... he lacks confidence. why would you want to date that? the right one will ask.

    reminds me that being single can sometimes suck.

    good luck!

    lol, this may be the dumbest thing I've ever read.

    This exactly answers the OP's question...THIS mentality is why we dont often ask.

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