Why aren't more guys ballsy?
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I've always wondered if that was sort of the equivalent of saying "why aren't girls more twatty?" and if guys should be offended.
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And I mean that as in personality.
I'm single. Super tall girl so I intimidate the crap out of men, apparently. But if see an attractive girl that you want to take out, why not just ask? Stop being so damn shy! lol
That's my "rant"...
You should consider taking a first step here on MFP and open your profile so that you reveal your face, age, and location to those that might want to friend you and get to know you.
Many women are unconsciously closed minded and not open to inquiries from men...0 -
So you're 5'10", won't date guys shorter than you and won't approach men?
No offense but it's no wonder your single. You've just labeled 50% of the men in the world un-dateable and you've probably cut out another 25% by ruling out shy guys.
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Why don't you ask?
Because I'm a tad old fashioned
You can't have it both ways.
Take the initiative or stop complaining.
LOL I agree! Suck it up and deal! I chased my husband until I was able to tackle him! Now we have been together for 8 years!
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lol, this may be the dumbest thing I've ever read. This exactly answers the OP's question...THIS mentality is why we dont often ask.
I don't see it as dumb, it's refreshingly honest. Women like confidence, and there's nothing wrong with that.0 -
A couple of guy friends were talking about the fact that they'd never date a woman that weighs more than 150lbs.
<----155.
Everyone is allowed their preferences. But IMO, such hard "rules" only make dating that much harder on yourself.
No such rules here!!!!
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Maybe you (or *insert girl here*) aren't approachable or just not their type.
As much as I like a cutie/hottie, some women concentrate WAY too hard on trying to be the cutest and not at all on their intelligence or personality. Luckily, my fiance' has all qualities for me.
You limited yourself already by saying "you're a bit old fashioned"
You limited yourself by "I don't date shorter guys"
That limits your pool and is not a problem that should be projected at the male gender.
Guys and Gals will usually feel more comfortable with approachable people.
An interesting observation. Women choose who they date, but men choose who they marry. Things have an interesting way of balancing themselves.0 -
i'm slightly offended by this topic lol.
seriously wth?0 -
Tall girls are hot!!0
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Pahaha, I was about to say... I know some pretty ballsy guys. My husband is one of them! I'm pretty sure only a select few would have the confidence to date a woman taller than them.
I don't date guys shorter than me
And, they likely are afraid they don't meet these rules of yours... Don't get me wrong, I'm also tall and have certain physical attributes I'm more attracted to.
Wanna go out?0 -
Sometimes we're oblivious and other times we just don't care. It isn't always about a lack of confidence.
And sometimes it's awesome when the girl takes the initiative in the case of oblivion. Went out with an awesome girl and got to be really good friends because we'd hung out a couple times, but she was graduating college soon and then going abroad for six weeks before coming back, but she took the initiative and sent me a message on FB and said in general terms, "You're awesome and we need to go out sometime before I go on my trip, so here's my number. If you don't call me, I'll call you."
You don't have to ask the guy out, but at least give him a chance to know in very specific terms that you'd be open if he did.0 -
Since when was 5'10 super tall for a woman??? Sounds more like slightly above average.
I think the problem is with you, not the guys.0 -
Pahaha, I was about to say... I know some pretty ballsy guys. My husband is one of them! I'm pretty sure only a select few would have the confidence to date a woman taller than them.
I don't date guys shorter than me
And, they likely are afraid they don't meet these rules of yours... Don't get me wrong, I'm also tall and have certain physical attributes I'm more attracted to.
Wanna go out?
With you? Absof*ckinglutely, gorgeous.0 -
So you're 5'10", won't date guys shorter than you and won't approach men?
No offense but it's no wonder your single. You've just labeled 50% of the men in the world un-dateable and you've probably cut out another 25% by ruling out shy guys.
there are guys out there with just as many rules about dating girls, if not more. i know guys that would never date a girl that are taller then them, or weigh more then them, or only date blondes or only date certain ethnic groups. Amber just wants guys that are taller then her, and wants them to approach her. Why? cuz she's a woman, thats why, and she wants to feel like one goddammit. she doesn't want to be the one in the relationship that has to reach for the pickle jar on the top shelf and then open it.
i on the other hand, am not picky at all. not in the slightest. no uggos, though.0 -
From my experience, and from what MANY of my male friends have told me, men LOVE it when a woman makes the first move. The onus should not always be on the guys. Ladies need to take some initiative, too. It works both ways.
If you think you intimidate men, then maybe you do, and so it is MORE SO up to you to make a move...to show you are a genuine person.
I'm sure guys don't deal any better with rejection than us?!0 -
Pretty much all guys suck... I am 6'1 and I guess I am intimidating, I will likely never marry and I am okay with that.0
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I don't think your height is the problem.0
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Sorry but it's your generation. Guys hide behind the computer and have no confidence to approach a woman!!
A real man goes after what he wants and will approach you!!
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Most girls, don't like to date guys shorter, so the problem is that they think you fall under the same mentality besides, if it was me, I like to get to know the person friendwise before hand... normally that dooms me to the friend zone for life but ... eh... not really interested in dating... so no big loss for me0
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Since when was 5'10 super tall for a woman??? Sounds more like slightly above average.
Last I knew, average is 5'4' for women and 5'9" for men, so yes, it's pretty tall, so it's bit more than "slight".0 -
I'm 6' tall and never had any issues with men being "intimidated" by me. Truthfully, it's personality. Maybe you scare the crap out of them and you should work on yourself some more0
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Because I'm ugly!0
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Yikes! It's not your height, its your attitude and lack of confidence. Be happy with yourself first and love with find its way around. Jeesh!Pretty much all guys suck... I am 6'1 and I guess I am intimidating, I will likely never marry and I am okay with that.0
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Give a guy a reason to come talk to you. Make eye contact and give him a smile. If he can't come up to you after that, then he is either already taken or not even worth your time.0
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I'm old fashioned and I asked my husband out first. And, I never let him forget it!!!! Started dating in '94, married in '98 and still together.0
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Are you approachable? You can vastly improve your chances by initiating eye contact and smiling, having open body language, and not hanging out in a herd (3+) of women. Most guys have no desire to tear down the "shield" of a woman who looks like she wants to be left alone, or try to carve her out of a group. The ones that do are usually douches.
I'm old-fashioned too. Women don't have to approach men if they don't want, instead, make yourself very approachable.
This is very good advice. I'm 5'8" and old fashioned as well OP, and I get asked out regularly (I decline since I'm dating someone now) but like the above poster said, you have to look approachable. When I'm single and go out to social events, I never bring more than 1 girl friend out with me, I smile and start random conversations with both men and women, and if I notice a guy looking at me, I look back at him and give him a smirk; he'll usually come up to say something after that.
The ones who don't approach even after you make it known, non-verbally, that you're interested, are not the ones you want to date anyhow. Some women like shy men, you and I do not, so no need worrying about them.0 -
Yikes! It's not your height, its your attitude and lack of confidence. Be happy with yourself first and love with find its way around. Jeesh!Pretty much all guys suck... I am 6'1 and I guess I am intimidating, I will likely never marry and I am okay with that.
Ha ha! Nothing like the man-hater vibe to really draw them in right? :laugh:0 -
"Men Suck"
No no no... you're doing it wrong. YOU suck.0 -
Funny joke my dad told me.
One a day a guy see's his friend walking down the street and he has a black eye.
He says what the heck happened to you?
Oh some girl punched me.
What for what did you do?
I asked her if she wanted to fvck.
Why did you do that?
Guy says,I ask every girl I meet if they want to fvck.
He says damn you must get hit a lot.
Yea I do, but I also get laid a lot.0 -
So you're 5'10", won't date guys shorter than you and won't approach men?
No offense but it's no wonder your single. You've just labeled 50% of the men in the world un-dateable and you've probably cut out another 25% by ruling out shy guys.
LOL so true. I am 5'11 and I've only dated two guys who are taller than me in my life.
Good luck not approaching all of those 6' and above guys who won't approach you.0
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