Putting your KID on a leash
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There are a lot of parents stuck to their computer screens this afternoon. This topic has been going on a while. Where are your children on a nice Saturday afternoon?
Making mommy a blood mary. They're good boys.
Well, now that is training a child. I'm impressed. Bet you just gave them "the look".
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justify it all you want but if you put your cousin in a crib you were being a horrible, horrible parent. Or if you weren't with him 24/7 & never let him leave your sight .(that's sarcasm by the way, I have a feeling you wont get it unless I make that clear)
As I said before I never slept in a crib, my cousin never slept in a crib hahaha guess i'm not that horrible after all :bigsmile:0 -
I use to feel that way.
BUT
I am a mothers helper to a family currently - and there is a 3 yr old and 1 year old.
The 3 year old will NOT sit in a stroller, Not be held, hold onto the stroller or stay beside you.
He CONSTANTLY takes off running, and you can't hold the baby / push the stroller and run fast enough to catch up and grab him.
I mean, the other day luckily I was there, to grab and hold the baby while the mom ran after him, as he tried to go swimming with ducks.
a "Leash" would stop this.
Sometimes its hard if your kids are young and close in age like that.
no, dont use it forever, or all the time.
but when you need to be reassured they wont take off running / get lost from you - it does work.0 -
There are a lot of parents stuck to their computer screens this afternoon. This topic has been going on a while. Where are your children on a nice Saturday afternoon?
Taking their afternoon rest.0 -
i have 1 confirmed escape artist, who thinks its histarical to run off and hide-she is 4- i have a monkey back pack with a long tail-used it in the airport worked great. normaly we just hold on to her hand, if we let go of her out in public the second we let go of her hand she runs....if you think it imberassing having people give you dirty looks for one on a leash imagin the ones you get trying to chase down a screaming 4 year old in the zoo/store/park/airport/library ect, and yes we have been questioned by security after. our 1 year old also thinks its fun when the oldest runs off because she get to "race" in her stroller/pack.....so yeah i am all for "leashes"0
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There are a lot of parents stuck to their computer screens this afternoon. This topic has been going on a while. Where are your children on a nice Saturday afternoon?
Taking their afternoon rest.
Good Mommy!0 -
There are a lot of parents stuck to their computer screens this afternoon. This topic has been going on a while. Where are your children on a nice Saturday afternoon?
Making mommy a blood mary. They're good boys.
Well, now that is training a child. I'm impressed. Bet you just gave them "the look".
I just shook my empty glass with them. They know what to do when they hear the ice clink.0 -
YMMV but I’d rather see the leash than have a little bolt in front of my car, that goes for fur babies as well as the humans.
I have used the kid leash (the cute plush animal back back/harness) at the Zoo where my little one's are prone to be faster than this slow moving mama. It's a nice helper for when they wiggle out of the hand holding and want to run. Both my boys are on the autism spectrum and have a tough time with impulse control.
But for quick trips to the store, it's cart time or else one of us stays home and the other does the shopping.0 -
Removing my post, b/c I'm not going to judge, I would be no better than those who said "parents who use leashes are lazy".0
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There are a lot of parents stuck to their computer screens this afternoon. This topic has been going on a while. Where are your children on a nice Saturday afternoon?
Making mommy a blood mary. They're good boys.
Well, now that is training a child. I'm impressed. Bet you just gave them "the look".
I just shook my empty glass with them. They know what to do when they hear the ice clink.
Wow. I'm working on my dogs to bring me a beer from the fridge and you've got your kids mixing drinks...together, we could make the cutest little bartenders!!!!! =D =D =D0 -
They are reins & if you knew my toddler you wouldn't think twice! he loves them they are a dinosaur backpack & he happily puts them on if it means he can walk rather than ride in the pram, I've a 9week old too so no chance I could abandon him to run after my toddler. We love to walk by the river & safety first!0
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I have two rather rambunctious Autistic kids at home and I've never even considered putting my kids on a leash. I bring someone else with me if I have to go out and do something. I can understand certain circumstances where it might be needed, but if your just walking down the street and have your kids on a leash? That's why holding hands was invented.
Hi there,
another mom of a Spectrum Kid here... So glad holding hands works for you and your Spectrum Kids. My oldest son had a very hard time tollerating his hand being held. When we had an international flight with a several hour layover in Germand (along with an infant who wanted to nurse around the clock) i REALLY wished that i had one of those monkey backpack tethers. Holding his hand for hours was virtually impossible. I was in tears by the end of that layover. Was soooo incredibly stressful. My son had bolted in a split second at the Boston Aquarium 2 months earlier and by the time i figured out which way he went, he was up 2 floors on that spiral ramp that goes around the huge central tank. I was TERRIFIED. Earlier that same day, he pushed the 'door close' button on the elevator as i was trying to push his brother's stroller into the elevator, then pushed the L for lobby. ... He had no sense to not run and it only took a split second for him to be gone. Thank God no harm came to him in either incident, but you can imagine the panic!! I've never used a tether, but if i were to do it again, i would!!! (he is now 7 1/2 and sticks close by, for the most part, thank God!)0 -
I would never put my kids on a leash. It is called parenting, watch your kids when your out somewhere. I have 4 young kids and I have figured it out...if parents need to put their kid on a leash it is definately because they aren't well behaved/trained to stay close to their parents.
No kids, but I agree..If your child is well trained he/she wont misbehave, and if you watch him/her closely and keep him/her near and incheck, they wont be snatched by anyone.
I have two children, the first one never needed that extra 'leash' as you call it - talk about using emotive language! My second child, however has Down Syndrome and, I'm sorry but you can't say that any of her tendency to wander off etc was due to poor parenting on our part. Some children are harder to 'train' than others, and not all misbehaviour can be blamed on the parents. I don't use the reins any more, but at 11 years old I am still having to reiterate all the rules about road safety and staying close to me and holding my hand every time we go out somewhere. Some of us have to put a lot more effort into our parenting for a longer time than others and things like reins that make us feel a little safer when the children are young are invaluable.0 -
I'm in a wheelchair, I can't hold on to my child's hand and so I certainly need a way for an unruly child that is prone to run away from me a way to keep them near me, since I can't hold their hand and wheel at the same time.
So I'm leashing my future children, for sure.0 -
and they shall rule the world.0
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I have one of those stuffed animal harnesses with like a two foot lead. I have used it maybe twice. For a couple of minutes each time.
My son is 18 months, he likes to be able to walk around and look at things without me always holding his hand. I put the harness on him so he could walk around the mall. Usually I have him in the stroller, but it was a quick trip and I wanted him to be able to walk around. He does like to just take off at a dead run. Anyways I ended up taking the harness off and just holding him. It didnt workout well so I probably wont use it again.
So why does this make me a bad mother, and what gives any of you the right to judge me??
For your info my son is napping right now and when he gets up we will go have a nice afternoon out. Without the harness, but again that is non of your business.0 -
I would never put my kids on a leash. It is called parenting, watch your kids when your out somewhere. I have 4 young kids and I have figured it out...if parents need to put their kid on a leash it is definately because they aren't well behaved/trained to stay close to their parents.
No kids, but I agree..If your child is well trained he/she wont misbehave, and if you watch him/her closely and keep him/her near and incheck, they wont be snatched by anyone.
Eh. As the mother of three, I disagree. My kids are very "well trained" or I guess I should say, raised well, that doesn't mean that they don't occasionally lose their ever loving minds and embarrass me in public. Children simply do not know how to regulate their emotions. They have very real reactions to frustration, anger, sadness. It is our job as parents to teach them how to handle those emotions in certain situations, but that doesn't mean they are going to do it 100% right 100% of the time. I keep my kids close, teach them how to behave and they still have those moments.
I think believing that children won't "misbehave" is only said by those who have no experience with children. Wait until you have some (if you do). You will also quickly learn it isn't "misbehaving". They are kids. They aren't bad, inherently.0 -
The thing is: Part of being two years old -- three or four, whatever -- is that you don't have restraint. Something exciting happens, you get excited, and all discretion goes out the window. It is part of being a baby. It is like a dog. You can have the best trained dog in the world, but a squirrel comes by and he forgets himself in a moment.
You can say 'my child behaves.' But he or she doesn't if a distraction comes up. They simply do not have the capacity yet.
Unless, they are in mortal fear of you.
I have two boys, both teenagers, by the way.
To have a dog that would break concentration like that obviously means it's not well trained...0 -
Some kids at a certain age will not hold your hand, throw themselves about and refuse to be restrained in a seat or stroller. It happens. They may be perfectly happy to have 2 feet of "room" to dance around ahead or beside you. As an early childhood specialist with a background in psychology, teaching Pre school and as a paraprofessional having worked with developmentally delayed/disabled young children with behavioral challenges- I'm not judging. Never done it myself but I personally see nothing wrong with it. Letting your 2 year old wander around out of your sight in a public/crowded setting? See that allllll the time and seriously dangerous.0
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Some kids at a certain age will not hold your hand, throw themselves about and refuse to be restrained in a seat or stroller. It happens. They may be perfectly happy to have 2 feet of "room" to dance around ahead or beside you. As an early childhood specialist with a background in psychology, teaching Pre school and as a paraprofessional having worked with developmentally delayed/disabled young children with behavioral challenges- I'm not judging. Never done it myself but I personally see nothing wrong with it. Letting your 2 year old wander around out of your sight in a public/crowded setting? See that allllll the time and seriously dangerous.
This! =D An educated response! Thank you!0 -
I had a major back injury due to work. I was not very mobile for the first year afterwards.... my grand daughter started walking at 9 months.... which I thought was not possible... but it is.... you know how low you have to stoop to hold an itty bittys hand?....I got a leash.... she hated it.... we never ended up using it.... but man it sure would have saved on the stooping over when we were in crowds..... so for some it may not totally be a control issue... it may just be ergonomics....thats my two cents....0
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lolololololol! Oh my! I was anti kid leash till I had my second child. Korbin (my first son) understood rules and limitations from the get go. My second son, Nigel, did the exact opposite. If there is danger, he is there. Blink and there is trouble. We used a leash with him only once because we were at Riverfest which is a big thing in our state and even with 3 sets of eyes on him, he still was unable to be contained. He could never use a high chair because no amount of straps could keep him contained for longer than 30 seconds. So when we set off on this trip when he was 2 yrs old, my MIL insisted I bring the hand me down kid leash my sister gave me (unused) when I had my first child. I brought it as a precaution and was glad I did. First off, Nigel LOVED it. He enjoyed having that 4 ft of freedom. It was also an Elmo harness and that is what he was into at the time so he thought it looked awesome. We all had an excellent time because he was happy and not being told "NO" constantly. When we got back home, he wore the harness as an accessory but there was no leash attached.
I feel like sometimes a leash is better than constantly yelling at the kid. If the kid doesn't hate it then you shouldn't either. Sometimes it is the best thing so the family can have a good time. I do not believe in using them constantly but when there are a few thousand people it doesn't hurt to be extra cautious.0 -
Leashes are sad, but I've babysat enough crazy children to know that their use can be justified!0
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Wow... never used a carseat? That's just unsafe IMO! My daughter will be 8 and she still sits in a high backbooster. I can't imagine a two year old never using a carseat... unless they were never in a car!
Wow it's called public transportation...lol
An 8 yr in a booster hahaha omg smh my nephew is 7 and he doesn't use one.0 -
oh, and my kids are playing inside today. We have already been swimming, fishing and boating today.0
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Apparently my mom used to use one with my brother...
she only started after he ran away in crowds numerous times... and the time we were on vacation, and we got out of the car and he sprinted through the gate and jumped into the deep end of the pool... he was only 3, couldn't swim...
so i understand.0 -
I notice this a lot, parents with their toddler on a leash. Personally I think a leash is for a furry animal, not a child. I can't be the only one who feels this way.
My 2 yr old daughter would run out in to the street in a heart beat if I didn't put her on a leash, I have one, but haven't used it cuz we don't go out that much but I'd much rather have her on a leash than run out in the street and get hit by a car. (she refuses to hold my hand and won't let me hold her)0 -
WOW, this thread is ridiculous. Congrats to the people who think they know everything.
do what works for you and yours.
Thanks, duct tape fixes everything!0 -
Well, you should know it depends on size. It's safer to be in a booster than not. Try looking up carseat safety rules. I'm sure SHE is making sure her child is as safe as possible.Wow... never used a carseat? That's just unsafe IMO! My daughter will be 8 and she still sits in a high backbooster. I can't imagine a two year old never using a carseat... unless they were never in a car!
Wow it's called public transportation...lol
An 8 yr in a booster hahaha omg smh my nephew is 7 and he doesn't use one.0 -
Btw it's 9pm here - my children are in bed upstairs for the night!0
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