Putting your KID on a leash
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using a harness is not the same as treating your child like an animal. anyone who compares them have VERY strange relationships with animals. :bigsmile:0
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it's been fun, folks!0 -
I have a great deal of experience with large groups of very young kids and I never used a leash.
In general, children grow into what you expect of them and treating them like a pet will not create good American citizens.
Children grow into what we expect of them?
Seriously?
Perhaps you've worked with robots, and you simply typed "children" instead.0 -
Some kids at a certain age will not hold your hand, throw themselves about and refuse to be restrained in a seat or stroller.
yep. my little sister was one of those. tried to hold her hand and she did the whole lazy body thing when she would kick and scream and let her whole body weight lag on the floor so she made sure u were dragging her by the arm, rather than letting her walk on her own. complete drama baby.
that's what you call a spoiled brat =P
lol this is true. u should see her now when she doesnt get her way ... and she's 30 years old now haha0 -
Wow... never used a carseat? That's just unsafe IMO! My daughter will be 8 and she still sits in a high backbooster. I can't imagine a two year old never using a carseat... unless they were never in a car!
Wow it's called public transportation...lol
An 8 yr in a booster hahaha omg smh my nephew is 7 and he doesn't use one.
doesn't use one in a car? how dangerous, his parents are horrible, just horrible. (more sarcasm but fyi, it is advised to use a booster until they are over a certain height as the damage that can be done to a child from a seat belt incorrectly positioned is horrific, I presume they DO use a seat belt for him right? In order to restrain him, you know, to protect him))
My Husband is in law enforcement and it is pretty horrible what a improperly worn seat belt can do. (example, cut someone in half if it is twisted)0 -
Wow.
glittermama, my post is not a dig against Americans at all even though it might have come across that way. It was in response to the odd post about raising good American citizens. Lots of us aren't American so clearly would not be looking to do that!.0 -
When I had my child now 2 I seriously considered getting one...not because isdidn't want to watch her but because it only takes a second of looking the other way for someone to snatch her...now that she is 2 I still think about it if I am ever. in a situation where we have to go to the airport or someplace like that...I would rather have people think me to be a lazy parent than to not have my child any more0
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I would rather put my toddler on a leash than have them get snatched or run out into traffic. According to Erickson's stages of development 2-5 year olds are exploring their surroundings and are trying to accomplish things by themselves, so naturally they will be harder to keep safe without some kind of help. A leash will keep them safe and allow them to explore their environment while I as the parent can allow them to do so without them harming themselves.0
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When I had my child now 2 I seriously considered getting one...not because isdidn't want to watch her but because it only takes a second of looking the other way for someone to snatch her...now that she is 2 I still think about it if I am ever. in a situation where we have to go to the airport or someplace like that...I would rather have people think me to be a lazy parent than to not have my child any more
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my sister puts her toddler on one when she goes to the airport... but then she is also carrying her younger child and her luggage and that seems way easier than taking the risk of the kid running off.0
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I lived in a country where my blond kids were at a greater risk for kidnapping. I used a leash to ensure I ALWAYS knew where my son was. I used them with my daughter because it gave her greater freedom than holding my hand. I also had a brother die because he slipped out of his aunts hand and got hit by a car. It is not a promise that they won't get hurt, but it is a security that made me feel better, for that matter my kids - ASKED to ware it rather than having to hold my hand. It depends on how you address it to them.0
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I always want to go up to the parents of kids who do this and go "Awe, how cute, what breed is he/she?" Leashes belong on dogs, not kids. I don't have kids myself, but I've babysat a LOT. I've never once had a problem losing any, IMO parents put their kids on a leash because they are too lazy to enforce rules, and think it's okay. It's really not that difficult to hold onto their hand or put them in a cart. I've also had to deal with some very bratty kids too. Again, I've never lost a kid this way, and I won't when I have my kids either. Of course, I plan on paying attention to my kids and teaching them how to behave in a good manor.
DISAGREE DISAGREE DISAGREE...well, If and when you do have kids please teach them how to behave but not how to spell....manor=MANNER!!!!0 -
I know a mom who had 5 kids. All good kids, one had ADD and that was the only one I ever saw on a leash. I would not make a determination about the worth of a parent when I don't know the circumstances of the child. I have 4 of my own and each is uniquely different and requires different parenting techniques.
AMEN!!! They certainly do! I have a son who has no impulse control whatsoever and another son who is as chill as a child can be. I have a little monkey backpack/leash that I have used one time, when we took our son with impulse control issues to the cherry festival air show in Traverse City, MI because there is always an insane amount of people and I love him and didnt want to lose him. I used it as more of a safety chain. I held his hand and kept the leash looped around my wrist so that if he broke free (and he did a few times) he wouldnt get far... Why is this bad parenting? Please tell me...those of you who have never had a child with serious impulse control issues.
In my humble experience parenting is tough and you use whatever tools you have to keep your kiddos safe from harm. If there are those that abuse the kiddie leash... oh well. 0 -
I have a great deal of experience with large groups of very young kids and I never used a leash.
In general, children grow into what you expect of them and treating them like a pet will not create good American citizens.
yes. i completely agree. i am angry and now taking it out on society that i am now a certified gangster fo life because my mom had me on a child leash when i was little.
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doesn't use one in a car? how dangerous, his parents are horrible, just horrible. (more sarcasm but fyi, it is advised to use a booster until they are over a certain height as the damage that can be done to a child from a seat belt incorrectly positioned is horrific, I presume they DO use a seat belt for him right? In order to restrain him, you know, to protect him))
My Husband is in law enforcement and it is pretty horrible what a improperly worn seat belt can do. (example, cut someone in half if it is twisted)
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Yup know a case where someone got beheaded by the mighty safe seatbelt. People also get traped by seatbelts.
Seatbelts are safe! but I can poke holes in that...back to leashing, DOWN WITH LEASHING HUMANS!0 -
My mom had 3 kids by 22 years old (my older sis is 18 months older than me and my twin sister) so she had one for my older sister when she was out with us. I don't think it's child abuse or whatever. I see a lot of kids wearing one. If leashes/harnesses are for just dogs why do they make strollers and seat belts for dogs?0
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Wow... never used a carseat? That's just unsafe IMO! My daughter will be 8 and she still sits in a high backbooster. I can't imagine a two year old never using a carseat... unless they were never in a car!
Wow it's called public transportation...lol
An 8 yr in a booster hahaha omg smh my nephew is 7 and he doesn't use one.
doesn't use one in a car? how dangerous, his parents are horrible, just horrible. (more sarcasm but fyi, it is advised to use a booster until they are over a certain height as the damage that can be done to a child from a seat belt incorrectly positioned is horrific, I presume they DO use a seat belt for him right? In order to restrain him, you know, to protect him))
My Husband is in law enforcement and it is pretty horrible what a improperly worn seat belt can do. (example, cut someone in half if it is twisted)
or (decapitation) dislocates the brain from the stem causing permanent paralysis or death0 -
My daughter has autism and when she was younger she was extremely impulsive, had zero sense of danger, and didn't even know her own name until she was 3. We would've put her in a harness if we'd had one but we didn't think about it at the time. Taking her places was a very nerve-wracking experience so I can see why some parents use them.0
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Well, you should know it depends on size. It's safer to be in a booster than not. Try looking up carseat safety rules. I'm sure SHE is making sure her child is as safe as possible.Wow... never used a carseat? That's just unsafe IMO! My daughter will be 8 and she still sits in a high backbooster. I can't imagine a two year old never using a carseat... unless they were never in a car!
Wow it's called public transportation...lol
An 8 yr in a booster hahaha omg smh my nephew is 7 and he doesn't use one.
"hahaha omg smh" is more worthy when it comes to a seven year old NOT in a booster seat. My daughter isn't small, she's 66 lbs. Boosters are made for children below 100 lbs and below a certain height requirement. I'm used to the looks I get when I take her booster out if we're are switching cars or something and they see my third grader in a booster seat...where she's supposed to me. I took public transportation at one time and my kid always had a carseat for when we would ride in cars. Carseats and boosters are the law where I'm from. It's a shame more people don't take it seriously. It bugs the crap out of me but I'm only responsible for my child and the children riding in my car...who HAVE to have carseats or they can ride with their parents! Maybe they've never seen the damage a serious car crash can do?? I have and that's why I don't play no games when it comes to carseat safety and children. She will be in a booster until she meets height & weight requirements. Eight years old or not...0 -
I worked in a major pet store chain for 14 years. You'd be amazed by what can be going on at one end of the leash without being noticed at the other end. That said, if your kid isn't likely to behave, at least s/he will be within sight if on a leash.
There are 3 incidents that immediately come to mind. The first happened to me. I was bagging fish when a little boy (young, but old enough to know better), walked up to a shelf full of plactic critter keepers with small pacman frogs in them. He picked one up and started shaking it up and down as hard as he could. I had to drop what I was doing, run over and snatch the frog away from him. I told him "NO!" in the meanest voice I could and put the frog back. He looked shocked, as if he'd never heard the word before. I told him he needed to go back to his parents and he took off.
Another happened to a friend at work. She was cleaning up in the bird habitat and noticed a little girl, maybe 4 years old, watching her. No adult in sight. The friend asked the girl if she was with a grown up and she said "Mommy." And the friend asked her where her mommy was. The little girl took her hand and walked to the other side of the store. As they approached, the mother looked up from the dog food at her daughter holding a stranger's hand. My friend asked "Is this yours?"
The last time was when I was working near the front of the store. I saw a little girl standing there looking very upset and scared. I asked if she was OK and she said she lost her mommy and started crying. I told her it would be OK and I would find her mommy. I went on the intercom and asked for her mother to come to the front of the store. No response. By now a father with a couple kids was there and his son was holding the little girl's hand. Another associate started walking the aisles of the store, looking for the girl's mom. About 10 minutes passed before a woman came back in the store looking for her daughter. She had paid and left without noticing that her 4 year old wasn't with her. She had 3 other kids and apparently couldn't handle watching all of them.
These all had happy endings. They could have just as easily ended very badly. If you can't control your kids, if you can't handle watching them, you need another way to keep them safe (and make sure they behave).0 -
Well, you should know it depends on size. It's safer to be in a booster than not. Try looking up carseat safety rules. I'm sure SHE is making sure her child is as safe as possible.Wow... never used a carseat? That's just unsafe IMO! My daughter will be 8 and she still sits in a high backbooster. I can't imagine a two year old never using a carseat... unless they were never in a car!
Wow it's called public transportation...lol
An 8 yr in a booster hahaha omg smh my nephew is 7 and he doesn't use one.
"hahaha omg smh" is more worthy when it comes to a seven year old NOT in a booster seat. My daughter isn't small, she's 66 lbs. Boosters are made for children below 100 lbs and below a certain height requirement. I'm used to the looks I get when I take her booster out if we're are switching cars or something and they see my third grader in a booster seat...where she's supposed to me. I took public transportation at one time and my kid always had a carseat for when we would ride in cars. Carseats and boosters are the law where I'm from. It's a shame more people don't take it seriously. It bugs the crap out of me but I'm only responsible for my child and the children riding in my car...who HAVE to have carseats or they can ride with their parents! Maybe they've never seen the damage a serious car crash can do?? I have and that's why I don't play no games when it comes to carseat safety and children. She will be in a booster until she meets height & weight requirements. Eight years old or not...
my love I wouldn't have even justified that bit of childish trolling with an answer. you know what you're doing is right.0 -
Ok my child rearing was from another age and I did have couple of occassions to need one, first one was a severely disabled foster child who didn't see very well and didn't really tolerate a lot of touching but I think liked the security of leading me about as the leash was one of the few things he would tolerate that was at all constricting. The second was a bolter (my very active daugther) who was weirdly enough very insecure about places with large crowds so would get her "leash" (which we referred to as My leash) our of the glove box, hand it to me and tell me to put my leash on as she needed to keep track of me. Lol, all my kids were awesome but their comfort zones were very different. I really doubt most of you would have appreciated a small person (about the size of a 5 years though he was 10) getting in your face without asking permission, but he couldn't ask and was endlessly curious about everything but I had to keep him safe.
So, as you stand there judging Parents and the idea that if they use a leash they must suck as parents, walk a mile in their shoes, for those of you with children I am very glad you all had perfect children in all situations or perhaps risky situations you just left then home with a sitter, we all have our own path to trod and throwing rocks without walking up to a parent and asking them politely why the child needs a leash, please consider your perspective on the situation.0 -
Completely agree with you on the carseat/booster topic. My son was in a booster seat until 4th grade b/c of his weight. He is now 13 years old and barely weighs 100 pounds. I still make him sit in the back of the car b/c of his weight the airbag is not activated in the front passenger seat. Heck, I weigh 108 and I would feel safer riding in the back!Well, you should know it depends on size. It's safer to be in a booster than not. Try looking up carseat safety rules. I'm sure SHE is making sure her child is as safe as possible.Wow... never used a carseat? That's just unsafe IMO! My daughter will be 8 and she still sits in a high backbooster. I can't imagine a two year old never using a carseat... unless they were never in a car!
Wow it's called public transportation...lol
An 8 yr in a booster hahaha omg smh my nephew is 7 and he doesn't use one.
"hahaha omg smh" is more worthy when it comes to a seven year old NOT in a booster seat. My daughter isn't small, she's 66 lbs. Boosters are made for children below 100 lbs and below a certain height requirement. I'm used to the looks I get when I take her booster out if we're are switching cars or something and they see my third grader in a booster seat...where she's supposed to me. I took public transportation at one time and my kid always had a carseat for when we would ride in cars. Carseats and boosters are the law where I'm from. It's a shame more people don't take it seriously. It bugs the crap out of me but I'm only responsible for my child and the children riding in my car...who HAVE to have carseats or they can ride with their parents! Maybe they've never seen the damage a serious car crash can do?? I have and that's why I don't play no games when it comes to carseat safety and children. She will be in a booster until she meets height & weight requirements. Eight years old or not...0 -
Hey there
I do not believe you should put your child on a leash. They are not animals they are children. You should be able to handle your child when you are out. When my 3 children were little they were either in a stroller or when they got little older we all held hands. They knew how to behave and they had to stick with me. They were not allow to run in a store or walk away from me. We took our children everywhere with us
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just like to point out that a stroller is basically the same thing as putting your kid in a harnessp excet in a harness they have a bit of freedom to explore & exercise. yet so much better to keep them under control in a stroller right? such superior parenting
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I am not saying this applies in every situation so please don't take it that way. Most of the children that I see on leashes are trying to break free of it, or wrapping it around their neck or getting into something they shouldnt be all while the parents is gazing off into his or her smart phone or shoving their faces or just completely ignoring the kid. Of course the kids is not being disciplined because the busy parent has no clue what is going on. Most leashed kids I have seen seem to be seeking attention from their parents for most of the time they are on the leash.
That being said, what my wife and I practice have people that question it as well. We are baby wearers. We spend the extra money on a carrier for each of our boys comfort and our own. We have a four year old and an 18 month old. I actually enjoy it a lot, even if I do get the occasional weird glance. Having my four year old on my back keeps him from having to yell at the top of his lungs to get my attention because he usually props his head on my shoulder so we are cheek to cheek almost. We can carry on a conversation as normal people would. I have both of my hands free at all times. It would take a crane to yank him off of my back and try to take him anywhere. He is close to me and I can feel him there all the time so I know he is safe. If he does wish to walk, he can get down and hold my hand and i just keep the carrier on my back. When he is tired, throw him right back up on my back. This was a life-saver on a recent family vacation. We took an Amtrak (highly reccomended if you are taking your time and enjoying your travel) across half of the country. With my hands free I could wheel my luggage and not worry about where my son was going or what he was doing. Or worrying about him getting bounced around by a suitcase or something to that effect. My wife and I walked everywhere during our layovers in D.C. and Chicago. It was amazing how much easier it made things. Our youngest was easliy rocked to sleep by the motion of my wife walking. I do not remember any of us complaining about it at all. I just do not see this being possible with a leash.
I feel that if you are depending on something of this nature for your child's safety, you may want to take a look at your ideas of safety.
I totally would have done this if I had known anything about this practice when my girls were little ones. However, in the early 90s, it was essentially unheard of. It simply didn't occur to the average mom. My husband and I both practice babywearing with our 6-month old granddaughter, and we LOVE it! So does she. Glad to see other babywearers putting the word out there!0 -
Well said!just like to point out that a stroller is basically the same thing as putting your kid in a harnessp excet in a harness they have a bit of freedom to explore & exercise. yet so much better to keep them under control in a stroller right? such superior parenting0 -
I would never put my kids on a leash. It is called parenting, watch your kids when your out somewhere. I have 4 young kids and I have figured it out...if parents need to put their kid on a leash it is definately because they aren't well behaved/trained to stay close to their parents.
No kids, but I agree..If your child is well trained he/she wont misbehave, and if you watch him/her closely and keep him/her near and incheck, they wont be snatched by anyone.
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just like to point out that a stroller is basically the same thing as putting your kid in a harnessp excet in a harness they have a bit of freedom to explore & exercise. yet so much better to keep them under control in a stroller right? such superior parenting
Exactly. I love how some parents think strapping toddler to stroller is superior to harness. Well, while your child is sitting there, mine is picking dandelions. Lol
But hey, at least all our kids are safe.0
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