Putting your KID on a leash
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I hope the OP got what she was looking for by posting such a controversial topic. I never understand why topics such as these....or politics, religion etc are posted on a fitness site. It wasn't like she was asking a question or needed input, she just wanted to drop a radon thought/attack and run.
While I love a little debate, I hate the attacks on people's child rearing, and beliefs. No one is right or wrong, no one should look at someone and think they are "lazy", "inhumane " etc for a decision they make. Why should someone be made to feel like they are being judged b/c they are making a decision they think is keeping their child safe. As someone said I'd rather my child be safe than on the side of a milk carton.
Couldnt agree with you more!!
There is a difference between voicing an opinion about a product, then about the people using the product.0 -
toddlers...
you can either push them in a buggy, hold their hand or use a leash. you need them tethered to something because they're too young to know danger, they move fast and you can't have your attention on them and only them when you're out and about, especially if you have more than one child
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the kid feels more indepenent and comfortable on a leash. have you had your arm held over your head for over an hour lately? been strapped into a chair while everyone else stretches their legs? they're also pretty cool for saving the skin on their knees and hands from the frequent toppling over that toddlers do.
18-36 months, leashes are great!
you think a two year old worries that you think leashes are for animals? or do you think they're too busy eploring the world, on their own two feel, with both hands free and comfortable? your prejudices mean nothing to them. nothing at all.
a safety line is lazy? a security precaution is bad parenting? silly. silly is the word that springs to mind.
Totally. Be my friend. Lol0 -
I dont bother with the leash. I just duct tape them to the nearest tree.
LOL! FWIW I did bungee cord my twins together by their pant loops when they were about 18 months old, in a giant museum. At least that way they stayed together but could still walk independently! Hahahaha!0 -
Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
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toddlers...
you can either push them in a buggy, hold their hand or use a leash. you need them tethered to something because they're too young to know danger, they move fast and you can't have your attention on them and only them when you're out and about, especially if you have more than one child
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the kid feels more indepenent and comfortable on a leash. have you had your arm held over your head for over an hour lately? been strapped into a chair while everyone else stretches their legs? they're also pretty cool for saving the skin on their knees and hands from the frequent toppling over that toddlers do.
18-36 months, leashes are great!
you think a two year old worries that you think leashes are for animals? or do you think they're too busy eploring the world, on their own two feel, with both hands free and comfortable? your prejudices mean nothing to them. nothing at all.
a safety line is lazy? a security precaution is bad parenting? silly. silly is the word that springs to mind.
Finally a voice of reason. This, this, this, and then this.0 -
how about just stop worrying about what other people are doing
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Okay, I will admit to using a leash once when my son was about two. Every time we went out walking, he would bolt off without warning. So I told him if he did it again, I would put him on a leash like the dogs. I thought that would be enough to deter him but apparently not. The next time we were out, he bolted. I put him on a leash and he was horrified because "I'm not a dog!". But he never did it again. For me it was a safety issue, I didn't want to take the chance of him deciding to take off and run into the street in front of a car so I needed him to follow my direction of walking near me. I didn't do it out of laziness or lack of parenting skills. Besides, once I said I was going to do it, I had to follow through no matter what the neighbors might have thought of it.0
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There have definitely been times, as a PARENT, that I wish I had a leash for my boy. Toddler under 2. He is a good little kid but too curious and has no fear...why should he. I have seen this kid move so fast and nearly faceplant into the pool or take off without a moment's notice. For those PARENTS who do employ a harness or leash, I am sure it is for safety of their little boy or girl. As I said, I often contemplate having one, but I don't. For the naysayers, especially those who do not even have a child, when it comes to the safety of our children, and has absolutely NOTHING to do with our PARENTING skills.0
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Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
(Runs to bomb shelter :bigsmile: )
oh wow! I am going to try that with my two year old. Who knew it was so easy, just voice a command and they will listen.0 -
Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
(Runs to bomb shelter :bigsmile: )
HAHA! Try reasoning with a 14 month old, its not as easy as it sounds! I use a backpack that has a leash attached to it for my boys,not because I am a bad parent, but because when they are little they dont understand danger and I like to keep my kids safe. I honestly would like someone to say something to my face, when I am out with my boys and they are wearing their backpacks!0 -
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Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
(Runs to bomb shelter :bigsmile: )
Tells us more about this discipline I keep hearing about. I would love to hear your recommendations.0 -
Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
(Runs to bomb shelter :bigsmile: )
oh wow! I am going to try that with my two year old. Who knew it was so easy, just voice a command and they will listen.
Well that's what my mom did and it worked....and that's what I did with my cousin that i raised and he listened
yeah try it! 0 -
Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
(Runs to bomb shelter :bigsmile: )
oh wow! I am going to try that with my two year old. Who knew it was so easy, just voice a command and they will listen.
Well that's what my mom did and it worked....and that's what I did with my cousin that i raised and he listened yeah try it!
I am SO impressed that you have found the universal rule of parenting that will work for ALL children on the entire planet!! And all before having a child of your own. Well done!0 -
Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
(Runs to bomb shelter :bigsmile: )
Bwhahahaha, That was a joke right???:laugh:
Damn, why haven't I thought of that??? Parenting, that's a new concept to me, being a parent of 3 year old twins, I've never tried it....0 -
if she would gamble your toddler life on you obeying? i'll pass.If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
my daughter was never a runner, stayed close by my side, but there was always the chance that today would be the first time. why risk it?0 -
My parents had a leash for me. I was an inquisitive child who would wander off to look at things I found interesting. I was also fast and fearless.
I have grown into an inquisitive adult who wanders off to look at things I find interesting.0 -
i used them with my son purely because i have two younger children and he would just take off and run without any warning, and he wouldnt look back or stop. would never know when he was going to do it, was always on my guard. its not a leash.. its a safety device, we put dogs on leashes to keep them safe eg. from the road, the harness for children is called a safety harness and is exactly that, to keep them safe! some people are so judgemental!0
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@kburks0709
Sure, If I see another person being harassed or abused, and I'm not talking about a toddler on a leash being watched closely my his mother, then I will just ignore it and walk on by. After all it is none of my business0 -
Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
(Runs to bomb shelter :bigsmile: )
oh wow! I am going to try that with my two year old. Who knew it was so easy, just voice a command and they will listen.
Well that's what my mom did and it worked....and that's what I did with my cousin that i raised and he listened yeah try it!
I am SO impressed that you have found the universal rule of parenting! Well done!
I know! I already feel like more of an adequate parent after reading this. I mean all children are the same, and so what my two year has little reasoning. She will heed my commands and be fearful.0 -
Do you have children? I wouldnt judge if I were you.0
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WOW, this thread is ridiculous. Congrats to the people who think they know everything.
do what works for you and yours.0 -
Why do you keep talking about kids being runners? If you are firm, and discipline that child, and train them well, they wond be running around all wild.
If I was a runner and my mother said "Do not run there", I did not run there. <--- parenting, try it!
(Runs to bomb shelter :bigsmile: )
oh wow! I am going to try that with my two year old. Who knew it was so easy, just voice a command and they will listen.
Well that's what my mom did and it worked....and that's what I did with my cousin that i raised and he listened yeah try it!
I am SO impressed that you have found the universal rule of parenting! Well done!
I know! I already feel like more of an adequate parent after reading this. I mean all children are the same, and so what my two year has little reasoning. She will heed my commands and be fearful.
Obviously! How were we so lost for so long??????0 -
I would be curious to know if the people who say 'no way' have kids or not. Just to get some perspective on their opinion.
Yes I have a daughter and I also have a niece and nephew
I have two teens, 1 boy, 1 girl, 2 years apart. I never even considered using a leash even with a baby and toddler. I am their mother. It was my responsability to teach them to stay with me, or hold their hands.0 -
You have your bundle of joy and you never thought you could bring something so beautiful into the world, so you spoil them rotten,by not giving them any structure. Then when they misbehave you say "he's just a baby,that's how he expresses himself" then when they don't know how to behave in public (because you say things like he's only 2) you slap a leash on them and steer them like you would a puppy, to save yourself the embarassment of people looking at you with your out of control child.0
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It's amazing how many posters can remember following their parents orders at 18 months or 2 years old not to run or to stay close. I can barely remember being 7. As for EVERY child in the world being the same, able to follow the same orders identically? lol, clueless.
Some kids are scaredly cats & will always follow a parents commands but some kids (like mine) are fierce & strong willed & every command has to be repeated numerous times for it to sink in. This has nothing to do with a "look" or "parenting" (what does that imply btw) it is merely FACT. Are all adults the same, do all adults follow the same path? No so why the f&*% would a child.
Really, this thread is an eye opener to how judgmental, self satisfying & clueless many people on this site are.0 -
You have your bundle of joy and you never thought you could bring something so beautiful into the world, so you spoil them rotten,by not giving them any structure. Then when they misbehave you say "he's just a baby,that's how he expresses himself" then when they don't know how to behave in public (because you say things like he's only 2) you slap a leash on them and steer them like you would a puppy, to save yourself the embarassment of people looking at you with your out of control child.
Being that you said you have no children you sound a bit ignorant on this little rant.0 -
Reality is all kids and parents are not the same, I know shocker but hey. You believe what you believe. I have the best kids, have from the get go. I could take them out to eat and you never heard them cry or whine or cause a scene. I could take them to the stores and you never heard the screaming and crying and begging for things. I could set a bowl of chocolate kisses out on the coffee table and they ask before they touch, they can even take it to their rooms and still ask before they eat any. But my daughter ran off at a crowded park, she just wanted to see this one slide so she went to look, she was lost (to me) for about 20 minutes. Then when my son was born and a few years later we went to Disney World I made a harness for him so he could not run off. I have always kept a close eye on my kids but they have their own minds and if they want to see something they don't think it's wrong to go look, but at 4 they don't think to ask to go if they are excited about something.
When I said no it meant no and they didn't ask why and they didn't ask a second time. When I say it's time for bed at 8 pm they went to bed with no crying no fussing and no screaming.
You can't know what it's like to have a child walk off from you unless you've been thru it, so don't judge others who have and who need to make sure their children are safe. No one is perfect and we all do what we have to do to be sure our children are safe, you do it your way and let others do it their way. Just be thankful they care enough to keep them safe.0 -
How is strapping them in a stroller any different? Is it lazy of a parent to put them in a stroller? I don't think so! A leash does not equal laziness either.
At least by having them on a leash the kids have a little freedom. Sure, I see some parents let them winder too far but I also see others that use it responsibly.
It all comes down to safety. I would rather see a leash on a kid than a kid that is wondering all over the place. In a crowded area it can be very difficult to keep your little ones close, especially if you have more than one.
To each their own.0 -
i also only make my son wear a cycle helmet because i'm too lazy to teach him not to pop a wheelie in front of a bus.You have your bundle of joy and you never thought you could bring something so beautiful into the world, so you spoil them rotten,by not giving them any structure. Then when they misbehave you say "he's just a baby,that's how he expresses himself" then when they don't know how to behave in public (because you say things like he's only 2) you slap a leash on them and steer them like you would a puppy, to save yourself the embarassment of people looking at you with your out of control child.0
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