pregnant smokers

lorib75
lorib75 Posts: 490 Member
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Ok, there is a girl ( young looking like under 20) outside my office window who is quite pregnant and smoking like a freight train. I want to go out there and thump her...
I almost feel obligated to that baby to go out there and tell her this is a non smoking facility and that means the parking lot too. BUT as an employee I feel like I have to keep my mouth shut.
OPINIONS????
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  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    Maybe she is just fat.
  • hillm12345
    hillm12345 Posts: 313 Member
    the ex smoker in me wants to tell you that it's none of your business and if she's outside, as sad as it is.. it's her right..

    however, the health nut in me wants you to go out there and smack her upside the head for not only damaging herself, but her unborn baby.
  • stephmo86
    stephmo86 Posts: 45
    hah time traveled to 1960.
  • rob1976
    rob1976 Posts: 1,328 Member
    There are some doctors that recommend heavy smokers that are pregnant NOT quit, especially if it is a high-risk pregnancy. The effects of nicotine withdrawal could be too much for the fetus to handle and she could lose the baby.

    Just something to think about.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Her body. Her baby. Her business.
  • caraiselite
    caraiselite Posts: 2,631 Member
    my mom smoked with me and i turned out okay =D
  • lorib75
    lorib75 Posts: 490 Member
    To clarify, it is clearly posted on the doors of our building ( Medical Plaza ) that this is a non smoking facility.
  • PayneAS
    PayneAS Posts: 669 Member
    this is a non smoking facility and that means the parking lot too.

    Unfortunately, the laws usually state that it only means smokers have to be 50' from a building entrance which does not include the parking lot.
  • Nikachelle
    Nikachelle Posts: 66 Member
    Her body. Her baby. Her business.
    How pissed off would you be if you found your mother was a smoker and you ended up with lung problems? Very. Effing. Pissed.
  • lorib75
    lorib75 Posts: 490 Member
    the ex smoker in me wants to tell you that it's none of your business and if she's outside, as sad as it is.. it's her right..

    however, the health nut in me wants you to go out there and smack her upside the head for not only damaging herself, but her unborn baby.

    LIKE
  • RealWomenLovePitbulls
    RealWomenLovePitbulls Posts: 729 Member
    unofrtunately for that baby, if she is smoking like that while pregnant, she will probably have no problems smoking around the child after it is born (in the car, in the house, etc.) it's not fair for a child to not even have the choice of whether or not they have to breathe that crap, yet a lot of mothers (and fathers) make the decision to smoke around their children. I don't smoke and have never smoked, and when I have children, they are not going to be made to sit in a room filled with smoke. People know the bad effects of smoking and second hand smoke and it should be considered child abuse. I'm an adult and I don't like being around people who are smoking and I think it's just a selfish thing to do. I also work in a nursing home and see the effects of all those years of smoking, you think you can just quit anytime, but the longer you do it the worse off you are going to be. My grandma quit smoking over 20 years before she died, but she died with complications that were caused from the years that she did smoke (COPD and Sleep Apnea) which caused her to have heart problems and everything else. She was only 65
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    Well wouldn't you be required to say something to her as an employee that she cannot smoke there? Pregnant or not?
  • lorib75
    lorib75 Posts: 490 Member
    this is a non smoking facility and that means the parking lot too.

    Unfortunately, the laws usually state that it only means smokers have to be 50' from a building entrance which does not include the parking lot.

    Sorry, but most states ( we are in MO) are passing laws that Healthcare facilities are to be non smoking, including the parking lot!
  • PaulieUK
    PaulieUK Posts: 11
    Her body. Her baby. Her business.

    I don't usually comment on forums but I just saw your replies...I have a friend (loosely speaking) that smoked during her last two pregnancies. Bother children are deaf as a result. Yes it was her business to quit but how do you think she now feels knowing that her smoking took away her child's hearing?

    Just saying.
  • secretlobster
    secretlobster Posts: 3,566 Member
    Yeah expectant mothers should be required to live in a sterilized bubble, a transparent one so that strangers can judge them
  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
    There are some doctors that recommend heavy smokers that are pregnant NOT quit, especially if it is a high-risk pregnancy. The effects of nicotine withdrawal could be too much for the fetus to handle and she could lose the baby.

    Just something to think about.

    I've heard this same thing, that a woman misscarried some 3-4 times as a result from the stress and withdrawls of trying to quit smoking.
    Finally, she just scaled it back a bit when she got pregnant again, and carried a healthy baby to term.
    I also have a close friend who smoked through her whole pregnancy with her 3rd child while her husband was deployed. I had the pleasure of watching her perfectly healthy baby when she was about 5wks old.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Her body. Her baby. Her business.
    How pissed off would you be if you found your mother was a smoker and you ended up with lung problems? Very. Effing. Pissed.

    Of course. I'm not saying what she is doing is a good idea, but a stranger approaching her in a parking lot, lecturing her on how bad smoking is will not change her mind. Everyone knows smoking isn't good for them.
  • apedeb09
    apedeb09 Posts: 805 Member
    I know how you feel.. I feel the same everytime I see a pregnant chick smoking. I mean, I smoke too but all 3 times I was pregnant I quit as soon as I found out... Unfortunately there is really nothing you can do about it. :/
  • jennkain97
    jennkain97 Posts: 290 Member
    Her body. Her baby. Her business.

    i disagree. if she were doing drugs or drinking, that baby would likely be taken away from her at birth. why is it ok to poison a baby w/ nicotine (and the thousands of other chemicals in cigarettes)?
  • lorib75
    lorib75 Posts: 490 Member
    Maybe she is just fat.
    Unless her fat is shaped into beach ball roundness and only in her abdomen.....I'd say she's prego!
  • corrinnebrown
    corrinnebrown Posts: 345 Member
    Same thing goes for the people that smoke with their children in the car. I want to beat the snot out of them..no its not her body, her kids, her business....its called lung cancer and shes gonna feel like a effiing moron when her child gets it
  • suzieqcookie
    suzieqcookie Posts: 314 Member
    i smoked early on with my last pregnancy under doctors orders... but weaned so i was done before i was 5 months...she was a, um, bonus baby. With the previous planned pregnancies, i quit before i got pregnant. Smoking during pregnancy under doctors orders usually is only until you can wean yourself. But smoking during pregnancy and the non-smoking facility are 2 very separate issues. No one, pregnant or not should smoke where they shouldn't.
  • butterfli7o
    butterfli7o Posts: 1,319 Member
    Effing gross. I can't STAND it when I see or hear of pregnant women smoking. WTF?:sick:
  • rok2run
    rok2run Posts: 17
    unfortunately whether you say something or not, even if she were to put out the cig in front of you, she will continue to do whatever she wants in private. I fully agree with your wanting to bob her one, but it wouldn't change a thing.

    **BOP her one... lol not sure what "bobbing" someone would en-tale
  • kburns0709
    kburns0709 Posts: 297 Member
    i had a similar dilemma, a woman that lives across the street from me smoked the whole time she was pregnant, and now brings the baby with her and holds it during smoke breaks

    i just think its very sad because people smoked around me when i was a baby and i have pretty bad asthma because of it

    its terrible because like someone said the child doesnt have any choice and it causes a lot of health problems that the child has to deal with throughout their lives because of something they had no control over
  • erikapereira
    erikapereira Posts: 196
    Well wouldn't you be required to say something to her as an employee that she cannot smoke there? Pregnant or not?
    This ^^^
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Her body. Her baby. Her business.

    I don't usually comment on forums but I just saw your replies...I have a friend (loosely speaking) that smoked during her last two pregnancies. Bother children are deaf as a result. Yes it was her business to quit but how do you think she now feels knowing that her smoking took away her child's hearing?

    Just saying.

    I don't agree with people smoking whilst pregnant, but there isn't much anyone can do, is there? The pregnant woman has the right to make her own choices. Whether we agree with them or not isn't the point.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    You are very unlikely to sway this stranger away from smoking, and technically she's not doing any illegal. Abhorrent, IMO, but not illegal.
  • butterfli7o
    butterfli7o Posts: 1,319 Member
    Same thing goes for the people that smoke with their children in the car. I want to beat the snot out of them..no its not her body, her kids, her business....its called lung cancer and shes gonna feel like a effiing moron when her child gets it

    ^This too.
  • jennkain97
    jennkain97 Posts: 290 Member
    this is a non smoking facility and that means the parking lot too.

    Unfortunately, the laws usually state that it only means smokers have to be 50' from a building entrance which does not include the parking lot.

    if it is private property, their rules trump the "law". they have every right to make every inch of their property smoke free.

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