What does a woman really want for her birthday
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She wants to be pampered!! Massage, facial.... a lil wine and chocolate... or maybe thats just me? haha0
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Well, since my birthday is right around the corner, I'll tell you what I want.
I want my husband to take me out on a date. A REAL date. As in, tell me what time to be ready and that's all I have to do.
I want him to plan every last little detail, like making plans for the kids to spend the night somewhere, making dinner reservations, taking me to see a show at the Performing Arts Center, and renting a hotel room. I want him to think of things that he normally wouldn't do.
Do I think it will happen? Nope.
I wish he could understand how something like this would mean so much to me. I am so tired of taking care of everyone and everything that I could freakin' scream. I want one night where I don't have to think about a damn thing besides enjoying myself and feeling like I'm actually worth someone's attention.
Did you cleary tell him this? I ask because I clearly told the luckiest man in the world this and it is exactly what I got. He picked a restaurant, made reservations, presented me with a small gift when he picked me up, opened doors, helped with my jacket, held chairs, everything. I enjoyed it so much, he did it again. And again. And again. And he still does it long after we've moved in together - no special occassions needed.
I've been married damn near forever by today's standards. Yes, I have told him what I want. Does it ever happen? No. Do I love him with all my heart? Absolutely. It's not his fault he was born without the romantic gene. It just gets old. I can't seem to make him realize how much something like this would mean to me.
You'll forgive me if I don't believe that you were as direct with him as you were with us. Because if you were you wouldn't be complaining right now. I'm quite sure if he saw what you wrote here it would motivate him. It might even make him feel guilty. But I'll put money on the fact that he didn't see this post, and probably never will. If you give me his email address I will be glad to forward it to him for you so there can be no confusion.
Be direct and be honest. Don't beat around the bush. You can't place blame on him until you've tried this approach.
I never said I spelled out the way I want my birthday to go. I said that he knows. He knows what I want in terms of him doing more for me. Would it kill him to show me that he cared? Would it kill him to hold my hand or put his arm around me in public? Would it kill him to put my needs first for once? Because, believe me, I've asked him to do it...I've told him what I need...but it still doesn't happen.
I refuse to plan my day because 1) it will piss me off; and 2) it will make me sad because he didn't think enough of me to do it himself.
Do I doubt that he loves me? No, but I'm nearing the end of my rope.
If you have any other questions, feel free to PM me. This thread has gotten off topic and I'm not the type to burden people with my problems.0 -
I've been married damn near forever by today's standards. Yes, I have told him what I want. Does it ever happen? No. Do I love him with all my heart? Absolutely. It's not his fault he was born without the romantic gene. It just gets old. I can't seem to make him realize how much something like this would mean to me.
Maybe this year e-mail it to him? My birthday is 6 days before Christmas... sucky. His is 7. people always have plans with so many Christmas parties and such0 -
A sunset picnic on a beach, long making out sessions and needs to tell me how much he loves me over and over gain
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Very close to the above, just prefer a more secluded spot with trees, or mountains of some sort. Waterfall would be nice....but yeah a picnic and love. 0
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I would like this great new multi-drill that I saw recently because mine's broken...Or a better home gym...Or a new guitar...
I would settle for a nice meal, a few G&Ts and a good gig!0 -
I would like this great new multi-drill that I saw recently because mine's broken...Or a better home gym...Or a new guitar...
I would settle for a nice meal, a few G&Ts and a good gig!
Need to find a Beautiful Lady like shreddedtweet - multi-drill, home gym.... assuming that I can use it too
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My fiance got me a Kitchenaid stand mixer for my birthday our first year together. I about went in to hysterics. But I love to bake, so I'm a little nuts about my kitchen toys!0
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nevermind lol0
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My birthday is just around the corner and all I want is a left front wheel bearing for my 2006 Monte Carlo.0
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Tickets to something we could do together.
Sexy lingerie. (Although I know a lot of girls wouldn't like this for some reason??)
Date night.
Many girls would like jewelry (I do not wear jewelry so that's not for me.)
Personally, what I would like, it may seem silly but I would like sexy lingerie, a stuffed koala (those cute stuffed animal bears, LOVE them!), cool lights/poster for the apartment. That sounds about right for me
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NOTHING, well thats me anyways although I love giraffes, so anything girarre is good too.
actualy there is one thing I really want and im getting myself for my birthday, and thats a new tattoo on my rib cage0 -
To be left da fvck alone0
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to be swept of her feet and suprised:bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile:0
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Sex. oh wait, you said what to buy.... um? i dunno. :huh:0
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Have you asked her? Our maybe even her best friend, sister, or mom? Somebody she confides in will probably know...;)0
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She wants a romantic gesture if its from her significant other. A nice trip somewhere exotic would be nice.
If its a friend, a gift card usually works just fine, especially if its for shoes or makeup. 0 -
to be remembered...! On the actual day!
Then jewelry works pretty well for most types of girls, if not you'd know that!0 -
Even if money is not a factor - plain and simple, show her how much you really LOVE her. She pretty much wants exactly what every man wants on his birthday!0
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Sex. oh wait, you said what to buy.... um? i dunno. :huh:
saramarie - :blushing: still a great birthday wish!0 -
what i DON"t want.. my last birthday i got a pair of wire cutters.. do NOT buy me wire cutters.. i do not want an office chair. i do not want stinky perfume. i do not want you to go out the day of my birthday and pick up anything that is close to you.
i want someone to take me out on a date.. someone mentioned.. to do all the detail work.. take care of the kids.. make arrangements.. dress up.
if it was a gift.. i want something someone has picked out for me... i love fabrics and beads and yarn.. magazine subscription.. i would love a basket of craft supplies.. picked out carefully.. with thought..
just knowing there was thought behind something.. anything would be nice..
i havent been on a DATE in 14 years. we always have the kids with us.. and i have to to plan every vacation, every dinner out, every dinner in... etc.
would be nice to have someone take care of me for one day. (damn .. even when i have had surgery.. i have had to get up the next day and do stuff.. or drive somewhere.. or go grocery shopping (not recommended after foot surgery btw!.. shoe full of blood and me nearly passing out at the market! lol)).
well,, that was a rant..0 -
I have two different options that I like a lot.
1. I am often saving up for things that cost $600-1000k. I don't want you to buy me that because I'll feel guilty when I can't/don't spend that much money on you. I would much rather have a donation towards my dream item than any amount of trinkets.
2. I love to play board, card and video games. I want you to play games with me all day! Mario party isn't as much fun by myself. Then let's go on some 30 min walks throughout the day so I have a chance to move. Knowing I got my exercise makes me feel even better yet!0 -
mind blowing sex AND diamonds!!!! you said honest.... id also like a 6pak if money is not a factor as I am classy0
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Well, since my birthday is right around the corner, I'll tell you what I want.
I want my husband to take me out on a date. A REAL date. As in, tell me what time to be ready and that's all I have to do.
I want him to plan every last little detail, like making plans for the kids to spend the night somewhere, making dinner reservations, taking me to see a show at the Performing Arts Center, and renting a hotel room. I want him to think of things that he normally wouldn't do.
Do I think it will happen? Nope.
I wish he could understand how something like this would mean so much to me. I am so tired of taking care of everyone and everything that I could freakin' scream. I want one night where I don't have to think about a damn thing besides enjoying myself and feeling like I'm actually worth someone's attention.
^^^^ This, I whole haeartedly agree! I've been asking for a date night for weeks now!0 -
Personally I'd be happy with my bf doing something with me/for me and preferabbly one of those things he's been saying we'd do for ages... like the hike/mountain climb he's been talking about for over a year... or the hotel weekend of going out dancing and checking out stores and shows etc, or going down hill mountain bike riding or going with me or my ultimate day out (shooting complex, indoor go-karting & a pub lunch topped off by a car cruise) rather than going to do all those things with his buddies...
sorry that turned into a bit of a rant0 -
I got smart and just started telling my husband what exactly I wanted. It saves disappointment and it helps him out a lot!
This past year I asked for a gift card to my favorite spa (a bit pricey) and of course he took me to dinner and gave me a sweet card. As much as he tries, he is just clueless when it comes to gift giving so it is much easier this way!0 -
I like experiences better than things. I would love a big adventure! Totally planned to the detail. (cus plans = love)
Maybe hiking In New Zealand, or a hot air ballon ride in Egypt! An African Safari! Spending a week living with a tribe in thenRainForest!0 -
For my recent birthday my boyfriend gave me a few presents, but honestly the part I loved the most was just walking together at the local park during night and he wrote this really sincere card that just brought a little tear to my eye. I really couldn't care less about the material gifts.0
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what i DON"t want.. my last birthday i got a pair of wire cutters.. do NOT buy me wire cutters.. i do not want an office chair. i do not want stinky perfume. i do not want you to go out the day of my birthday and pick up anything that is close to you.
i want someone to take me out on a date.. someone mentioned.. to do all the detail work.. take care of the kids.. make arrangements.. dress up.
if it was a gift.. i want something someone has picked out for me... i love fabrics and beads and yarn.. magazine subscription.. i would love a basket of craft supplies.. picked out carefully.. with thought..
just knowing there was thought behind something.. anything would be nice..
i havent been on a DATE in 14 years. we always have the kids with us.. and i have to to plan every vacation, every dinner out, every dinner in... etc.
would be nice to have someone take care of me for one day. (damn .. even when i have had surgery.. i have had to get up the next day and do stuff.. or drive somewhere.. or go grocery shopping (not recommended after foot surgery btw!.. shoe full of blood and me nearly passing out at the market! lol)).
well,, that was a rant..
I giggled out of empathy. Okay maybe not empathy, my husband hasn't done something that bad yet but we've only been married 5 years.. he still has time.
To the OP -- I think it's clear:
Take initiative. Most girls hate having to come up with the reservations, the hotel, the location, the entertainment, the way to dress, the mood, the theme, the gifts, the tips, place. We may not all live in England, but a lot of us still want to be treated like we are princesses. Treat her like one. Might feel corny for you to do things you see from movies... but they make those for girls for a reason... we like that kind of sappy ****.
Maybe not be vocally cheesy, but let the night just be very put together. From the time she is getting ready (have a sweet sentimental gift that means something to you both ready for her before she leaves through the door) to the time you get back home (whatever happens after midnight is up to HER) have no minute unplanned. But leave the plans open enough that if she wants to bail or do something else, you can. It doesn't have to be crazy elaborate, but know that if you have to wait for tables... knwo where to take a romantic walk.
Anyways... like all the others said 0 -
What does a woman really want for birthday from her BF/Husband?
Real estate.
Lol Isn't that from Charlie Brown??0
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