Broken up with Again...
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Well he just saved you a lot of time and effort then. If he is going to break up with you because of that then he doesn't even deserve you. You can do better than him.0
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Does he not realize people can be overweight and fit? In high school I was 180, and I was considered overweight. However, I was a competitive swimmer and did powder puff football (it's no joke!) I was overweight, yes, but I was athletic. (And carried my weight much differently than now.)
He did you the BIGGEST favor. If he's got such a huge ego, and it so shallow about the fact that you're a little bigger than his personal preference, what else would he have not liked? Would you end up being too skinny once you hit your goal weight? I'd call him a D-bag, but that would imply that he can even get near any lady parts. No wonder why he's single!
But honestly, he's probably super insecure and relies solely on his looks to get him by right now. Those will change and fade away, and when he's an ugly old man, remember you'll be that hot MILF (if/when you have kids) that all the other ladies are jealous of, and teenage boys fantasize about.0 -
Be happy it ended now.. someone who puts qualifiers on you like that (especially when they know you are making healthy changes) will always find a reason with why you aren't enough. Focus on you and forget him, even when you hit your goal weight.. find someone who's main goal isn't how you look on their arm when you go out on a date, but who you are as a person.0
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That's terrible! Like the pp's said, you dodged a bullet & he did you a favor. There is no future with someone that shallow. Keep getting healthy for you! The right person will come along, loving you for who you are, regardless of your weight.0
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truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man.
This is a joke right? Yep I'm treating it as a joke for my own sanity. 'Making of a truly good man' my @ss!0 -
Wow, what an a-hole.0
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WHOA! What a douche! He did you a favor! Keep working hard at your weight loss and focusing on YOU! Someone who is worthy of you will come along in good time.
I bet next time you run into that loser, he'll be fat and out of shape. Karma can be a b!tch!0 -
he did you a favor, if he is that shallow just think of how terrible things would be in the long run.
this!
what if you broke your leg, would he dump you because you couldnt exercise?
what if you got pregnant, and put on weight?! aaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrgggghhh!!!!!!
he sounds like a total idiot, who would want to be in the stupid league?!0 -
Be happy it ended now.. someone who puts qualifiers on you like that (especially when they know you are making healthy changes) will always find a reason with why you aren't enough. Focus on you and forget him, even when you hit your goal weight.. find someone who's main goal isn't how you look on their arm when you go out on a date, but who you are as a person.
Exactly.
The key phrase is "will always find a reason why you aren't enough". Absolutely true.0 -
All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.
It's one thing to have preferences or to end things if it doesn't work, but wow, I'm impressed at the level of callousness in his response. (Then again, women are equally mean too. Welcome to combat dating!)
With an attitude like that he... wait, no, he's going to get laid a *lot*.0 -
Congrats on getting rid of that piece of crap.0
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It sucks I know but really this guy is the one missing out....It is just better that you found out now. If he really liked you then he would support you. Its cool that he was honest but that doesnt mean that he is a good man. Not sayin that he isnt I really dont know enough about him to tell....It does seem tho that he is not really ready to be in it for the long haul with anyone...fit or not...0
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he just made room for you to meet a better guy.0
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he did you a favor, if he is that shallow just think of how terrible things would be in the long run.
I definitely agree.0 -
Once again, I'm thankful that I personally am so awesome...otherwise, these *kitten*-hats would make me ashamed to be a man.0
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never judged him to be a good man....still honesty, though far from tactfully displayed, is a quality worth noting. granted he lacks tact in all respects but I've turned down brothers solely on their not meeting my height requirements. no better I know, but what's worst my honesty or my stringing them along because I can when I know they don't stand a chance?0
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You don't need a man like that in your life!0
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Definitely better off without someone like that in your life. If anything, use his shallowness as motivation. You'll reach your goal - look fantastic and be a good person - he'll still be an *kitten*. Anyone who places 100% of your value in line with your number on a scale is not worth it.0
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1. He's an *kitten*. Like major, big time, *kitten*. You're better off.
2. Not seeing eachother again after 2 dates =/= breaking up. You can't lose what you never had, and I think you should be thankful to have not started a relationship with this toolbox.0 -
Sorry to hear that, he is definitely a piece of **** and your better off without him thats for sure!!!0
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never judged him to be a good man....still honesty, though far from tactfully displayed, is a quality worth noting. granted he lacks tact in all respects but I've turned down brothers solely on their not meeting my height requirements. no better I know, but what's worst my honesty or my stringing them along because I can when I know they don't stand a chance?
You are correct...but by all means not trying to be funny...they are done growing and will never meet your height requirement. So for him to say call me when you hit your goal weight is a little different in a sense. if you like her and everything about her fits except the weight issue why dont you say hey let me help you or we can do this. Stand by her why she is on this journey. dont be a d-bag and say yah i cant be with you cause you aint fit but call me when you hit your goal weight. just my thought.0 -
Geez, what an idiot.
Thank god, he ditched you. Maybe it does not sound positive in the first place, but it is meant well.
Cause you should be an equal partner for someone you are dating and not a trophy something to be seen with!0 -
truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man.
You consider a man who can't hold a mature face-to-face conversation a quality specimen and a truly good man?
Don't throw any fire on me, but I agree that at least he was honest. He could have kept dating you and just started seeing other girls behind your back BUT if he can't be with you while your fighting the good fight then as someone else has said he doesn't deserve you once you once the battle is done. And an email? Really? If it were one date I can maybe see a phone call but two dates? He should have met with you and explained his insecurities and that its really him not you, because its obvious you have it all girl. The only thing your WORKING on (not missing) is your health being in order. Keep pushing, let this fuel the fire, please don't let your flame go out because some guy wants the model chick with the work in progress heart.0 -
He did you a favor. Doesn't make him any less of a loser though and I know it doesn't fix your feelings. You were honest and upfront with him. If he wanted someone athletic and thin, he should have been honest and upfront about that. Email him when you are at goal and tell him that he did you a huge favor cause you realized that you didn't want to be seen with schlubs like him.0
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he did you a favor, if he is that shallow just think of how terrible things would be in the long run.
Definitely this ^^^ You certianly don't need a db like him in your life.0 -
Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet.
I agree. He doesn't like you for you - he wants you to change. Imagine what it would be like if you got back together with him when you *do* get down to your goal weight! "I think you should grow your hair out," "Are those....stretch marks?!", "Why are you eating that burger?"...he's a *kitten* because he's not that into you. Not your weight - YOU! You deserve better.
That doesn't mean you can't find a hot guy with a six pack of abs that won't like you for you. Trust me, I dated and dumped them before, at over 200 pounds. I'm telling you it's not your weight that's the issue here. It's because he's a d*ck.0 -
What a complete f**king a**hole..........Damn I'm still fuming :explode: :explode: :explode:
You deserve someone that loves you for who you are today, not who they want you to become.
He did you a huge favor............move on and find someone that will love and accept you for who you are NOW and support you on your journey.0 -
truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man.
You consider a man who can't hold a mature face-to-face conversation a quality specimen and a truly good man?
Don't throw any fire on me, but I agree that at least he was honest. He could have kept dating you and just started seeing other girls behind your back BUT if he can't be with you while your fighting the good fight then as someone else has said he doesn't deserve you once you once the battle is done. And an email? Really? If it were one date I can maybe see a phone call but two dates? He should have met with you and explained his insecurities and that its really him not you, because its obvious you have it all girl. The only thing your WORKING on (not missing) is your health being in order. Keep pushing, let this fuel the fire, please don't let your flame go out because some guy wants the model chick with the work in progress heart.
But that's the thing-he wasn't honest.
He went on two dates knowing her appearance and fitness level. Obviously, it wasn't her appearance or there would have been no dates.
This sort of man will never be happy with anyone because he is so insecure. No woman will ever meet his list of requirements because as soon as she does he will change them.
Apparently you've been lucky enough to never get involved with one of these excuses for a human being, so you don't recognize it. I'm sincerely glad that you've dodged men like this, but they are not "honest".0 -
He sounds very shallow babe
I think that someone who will be good for you is going to want to be with you through your journey!
Dont let it get you down....save his name and number and when you reach that goal take a pic and say "Eat your heart out"
I have come across people like him in my days, I think if someone is shallow enough to be like that they will be lonely for a while lol
Dont let him get to you, we are amazingly beautiful women and we dont need shady, shallow men to tell us "we are not good enough!"
You are too good, becuase you have the motivation to change and he obviously doesnt!0 -
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