Broken up with Again...

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  • Becoming_A_Butterfly
    Becoming_A_Butterfly Posts: 2,536 Member
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    I wouldn't respond to him at all, or even acknowledge receiving his email. What kind of wimp breaks up by email anyway? Seriously, delete it, delete his address and phone number, delete HIM and move on with improving your health, minus a disease like him.
  • fit4lifeUcan2
    fit4lifeUcan2 Posts: 1,458 Member
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    Reminds me of the quote- "If he can't handle you at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best."

    You're better off girl. Don't let this derail you from any of you goals.

    I second that!
  • 126siany
    126siany Posts: 1,386 Member
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    truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man.

    OP: Don't date him^^ either.
  • Amberonamission
    Amberonamission Posts: 836 Member
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    Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet.
    THIS!!!!!!
  • nananie2
    nananie2 Posts: 272 Member
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    truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man.

    OP: Don't date him^^ either.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • craigpix2000
    craigpix2000 Posts: 84
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    What a prick sighn his email upto a load of gay porn sites your better off with out him mate
  • wade78
    wade78 Posts: 141 Member
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    He's a *kitten*. Tell him to contact you again when he's got a personality. And then tell him to f**k off
  • xoMeaghan
    xoMeaghan Posts: 175
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    Reminds me of the quote- "If he can't handle you at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best."

    You're better off girl. Don't let this derail you from any of you goals.

    LOVE IT - You are definitely better off! You want a guy who accepts you for who you ARE not who they want you to be !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :heart: :heart: :heart: :flowerforyou:
  • Becoming_A_Butterfly
    Becoming_A_Butterfly Posts: 2,536 Member
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    truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man.

    You consider a man who can't hold a mature face-to-face conversation a quality specimen and a truly good man?
  • courtniemarie
    courtniemarie Posts: 172 Member
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    Holy crap, he SAID that? :noway: :explode: :grumble:

    Girl, you dodged a bullet then.

    Please understand that none of what he said has anything to do with you. It really doesn't. He is so incredibly insecure that he is looking for an accessory, not a relationship and certainly not a partner. And I can tell you from personal experience (unfortunately) that no matter what you weigh, wear, do with your hair, etc.--that sort of man will always find fault with your appearance and do his best to drag you down to his own personal level of hell.

    No wonder he is single. :sick:

    I agree with the above. Don't let yourself get worked up about him, just brush your shoulders off.
  • MonicaLee92
    MonicaLee92 Posts: 222
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    Well he just saved you a lot of time and effort then. If he is going to break up with you because of that then he doesn't even deserve you. You can do better than him.
  • sandi117
    sandi117 Posts: 445 Member
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    Does he not realize people can be overweight and fit? In high school I was 180, and I was considered overweight. However, I was a competitive swimmer and did powder puff football (it's no joke!) I was overweight, yes, but I was athletic. (And carried my weight much differently than now.)

    He did you the BIGGEST favor. If he's got such a huge ego, and it so shallow about the fact that you're a little bigger than his personal preference, what else would he have not liked? Would you end up being too skinny once you hit your goal weight? I'd call him a D-bag, but that would imply that he can even get near any lady parts. No wonder why he's single!

    But honestly, he's probably super insecure and relies solely on his looks to get him by right now. Those will change and fade away, and when he's an ugly old man, remember you'll be that hot MILF (if/when you have kids) that all the other ladies are jealous of, and teenage boys fantasize about.
  • rossi02
    rossi02 Posts: 549 Member
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    Be happy it ended now.. someone who puts qualifiers on you like that (especially when they know you are making healthy changes) will always find a reason with why you aren't enough. Focus on you and forget him, even when you hit your goal weight.. find someone who's main goal isn't how you look on their arm when you go out on a date, but who you are as a person.
  • mrswaite08
    mrswaite08 Posts: 93 Member
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    That's terrible! Like the pp's said, you dodged a bullet & he did you a favor. There is no future with someone that shallow. Keep getting healthy for you! The right person will come along, loving you for who you are, regardless of your weight.
  • wade78
    wade78 Posts: 141 Member
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    truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man.

    This is a joke right? Yep I'm treating it as a joke for my own sanity. 'Making of a truly good man' my @ss!
  • aaeros
    aaeros Posts: 157
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    Wow, what an a-hole.
  • KittieLea
    KittieLea Posts: 1,156 Member
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    WHOA! What a douche! He did you a favor! Keep working hard at your weight loss and focusing on YOU! Someone who is worthy of you will come along in good time.
    I bet next time you run into that loser, he'll be fat and out of shape. Karma can be a b!tch!
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
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    he did you a favor, if he is that shallow just think of how terrible things would be in the long run.

    this!

    what if you broke your leg, would he dump you because you couldnt exercise?

    what if you got pregnant, and put on weight?! aaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrgggghhh!!!!!!

    he sounds like a total idiot, who would want to be in the stupid league?!
  • 126siany
    126siany Posts: 1,386 Member
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    Be happy it ended now.. someone who puts qualifiers on you like that (especially when they know you are making healthy changes) will always find a reason with why you aren't enough. Focus on you and forget him, even when you hit your goal weight.. find someone who's main goal isn't how you look on their arm when you go out on a date, but who you are as a person.

    Exactly.

    The key phrase is "will always find a reason why you aren't enough". Absolutely true.
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
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    All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

    It's one thing to have preferences or to end things if it doesn't work, but wow, I'm impressed at the level of callousness in his response. (Then again, women are equally mean too. Welcome to combat dating!)

    With an attitude like that he... wait, no, he's going to get laid a *lot*.

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