Broken up with Again...

Midnight_Sunshine

Men never fail to astound me.

xMillyLouisex

oh my god what a complete C U NEXT TUESDAY!!

i wouldnt worry about it, who the hell would want to be with someone like that anyway, like everyone has said, you have definately dodged a bullet and he wont last long with a girl with that attitude cos he'l just get kicked to the curb then he will understand what rejection feels like.. aargh it makes me mad!

i hope you are okay though i know something like that can really hurt ur self esteem, i used to be obese as a child/ early teenager and always got comments like that it really, really hurts

x

complicatedmoves

So I'd started dating this great guy. Before I thought I'd never be in the same league as him in order to go out with such a good lucking guy that was also smart and funny and willing for adventure. We met through a dating site and I was upfront when he asked me about my weight. I told him I was overweight but had already lost a good chunk of weight (I think i was around 23 lbs lost at the time). Well, he and I did meet up and went out on two different dates and since then my weight loss has grown and I'm now sitting at a36 lbs lost, almost 37.

Both of our dates involved exercise, be it swimming, biking, walking, or running. All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

screw him! You want to be with someone, that wants to be with you. If he can't be with you through the good and bad. He isn't worth it, he isn't worth you. He is a total superficial jerk!

Your prince will come, just wait.

sdavis448

Send a picture of him when you hit goal weight...

Tell him that he should give you a call when he grows up and stops being such an *kitten*.
If it weren't for those factors, he'd fit your criteria quite well.

AprilRN10

Wow. What a moron. You definitely deserve better than that. Tell him to contact you if he ever decides to grow up.

This.

_Timmeh_

So I'd started dating this great guy. Before I thought I'd never be in the same league as him in order to go out with such a good lucking guy that was also smart and funny and willing for adventure. We met through a dating site and I was upfront when he asked me about my weight. I told him I was overweight but had already lost a good chunk of weight (I think i was around 23 lbs lost at the time). Well, he and I did meet up and went out on two different dates and since then my weight loss has grown and I'm now sitting at a36 lbs lost, almost 37.

Both of our dates involved exercise, be it swimming, biking, walking, or running. All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

When you do get to your goal weight, buy a hot sexy outfit, take a pic and send it to him with a note saying here is something you will never have, *kitten*.

Rhea30

So I'd started dating this great guy. Before I thought I'd never be in the same league as him in order to go out with such a good lucking guy that was also smart and funny and willing for adventure. We met through a dating site and I was upfront when he asked me about my weight. I told him I was overweight but had already lost a good chunk of weight (I think i was around 23 lbs lost at the time). Well, he and I did meet up and went out on two different dates and since then my weight loss has grown and I'm now sitting at a36 lbs lost, almost 37.

Both of our dates involved exercise, be it swimming, biking, walking, or running. All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

He isn't worth it and he obviously has insecure issues if he cares that heavily on what others are thinking. You don't want to get with someone who is that insecure.

rml_16

So I'd started dating this great guy. Before I thought I'd never be in the same league as him in order to go out with such a good lucking guy that was also smart and funny and willing for adventure. We met through a dating site and I was upfront when he asked me about my weight. I told him I was overweight but had already lost a good chunk of weight (I think i was around 23 lbs lost at the time). Well, he and I did meet up and went out on two different dates and since then my weight loss has grown and I'm now sitting at a36 lbs lost, almost 37.

Both of our dates involved exercise, be it swimming, biking, walking, or running. All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

I think, while it hurts, you dodged a bullet.

And I think when you get to your goal weight, you should have long since lost his number.

Creep.

MissAnjy

Better yet, when you do hit your goal weight, send him photos of you and your NEW boyfriend.

wingchunrick

Sounds like he's done you a huge favour. He's a loser and you deserve someone that wants to be with you because of who you are, not what he wants you to be.

wlkumpf

push through, when you get down to your goal weight... the best revenge is not caring. Find another guy who isnt' shallow
I tend to take negatives and push them towards motivation and also revenge in the most passive sense of the word.

At least you found out now. He could have let it go a lot farther and just planned isolated dates where you were alone. He sounds like someone you are better off without.

Do this for you You are worth it and YOU are doing fantastic!!!!!

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

from the other responses, I'll probably get a serious tongue lashing but:

truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man. u have expectations of what u desire in a man/mate, y can't he w/o being bashed for a normal human tendency?

u a grown woman...u've three choices: get healthy n contact him n c where this "thing" goes....or get healthy n press on, finding someone new who may or may not be honest n true to either himself or u of his expectations n desires.....or rock it solo, where the only one's expectations u have to meet r ur own.

Here's the issue I have with this... she was UP FRONT with him. He KNEW what he was getting into BEFORE they ever went out and they went out TWICE at her size. That is no good man. That's a douche. He seriously did her a favor by being one so early on, so she could move on with her life and find the guy who will love her for her and not her (current) size.

rml_16

from the other responses, I'll probably get a serious tongue lashing but:

truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man. u have expectations of what u desire in a man/mate, y can't he w/o being bashed for a normal human tendency?

u a grown woman...u've three choices: get healthy n contact him n c where this "thing" goes....or get healthy n press on, finding someone new who may or may not be honest n true to either himself or u of his expectations n desires.....or rock it solo, where the only one's expectations u have to meet r ur own.

Here's the issue I have with this... she was UP FRONT with him. He KNEW what he was getting into BEFORE they ever went out and they went out TWICE at her size. That is no good man. That's a douche. He seriously did her a favor by being one so early on, so she could move on with her life and find the guy who will love her for her and not her (current) size.

Not to mention the "I don't want to be seen with someone who looks like you" part.

Is that really necessary??? He was just mean. Not honest. Mean.

TheUglyFriend

"If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe

His loss.

Voncreepy2

:explode: He did you a favor.....can you imagine being married to someone like that, honestly? Someone that shallow doesn't deserve anyone. We have an aqaintance like this. He scrutinizes the outside appearence of every woman....I mean finds something wrong with everyone even women who I think are just flawless. He is STILL single and I believe always will be....no big surprise here. You will meet someone deserving of you one day, who will love you warts and all. That is the type of man who will stick it out through thick and thin. This makes me sooooo mad that he would actually say that outloud!!!!! What a dill hole!!!!:noway:

victorialeehyde

Wow, dude is a jerk. Totally not relationship material to begin with.

lcn1220

OP: You can lose all the weight in your wl ticker and look absolutely stunning. This "great" guy on the other hand will be a vain, shallow, cowardly ahole for the rest of his life.

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

from the other responses, I'll probably get a serious tongue lashing but:

truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man. u have expectations of what u desire in a man/mate, y can't he w/o being bashed for a normal human tendency?

u a grown woman...u've three choices: get healthy n contact him n c where this "thing" goes....or get healthy n press on, finding someone new who may or may not be honest n true to either himself or u of his expectations n desires.....or rock it solo, where the only one's expectations u have to meet r ur own.

Here's the issue I have with this... she was UP FRONT with him. He KNEW what he was getting into BEFORE they ever went out and they went out TWICE at her size. That is no good man. That's a douche. He seriously did her a favor by being one so early on, so she could move on with her life and find the guy who will love her for her and not her (current) size.

Not to mention the "I don't want to be seen with someone who looks like you" part.

Is that really necessary??? He was just mean. Not honest. Mean.

Exactly. Who DOES that to another human?

almc170

Dudes like that ARE NOT worth getting upset over. His comments say far more about him than you. I dated a guy once in college who gave me grief for not having the body of a porn star (like any of them are natural!!). It didn’t matter that I was thin and in good shape at the time. He was just a pathetic douche who would have criticized me no matter what.

felice03

email him back and tell him he doesn't fit your criteria of NOT BEING A DOUCHE! Tell him if he ever finds that he is no longer a douche, to re evaluate himself...because he will always be a douche.