Broken up with Again...

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  • droberts3311
    droberts3311 Posts: 87
    I would not be affraid to tell everyone what he said and done, that will make the a-hole glow!!!! You are way better off.................:wink: So not worth anyone's time...............................
  • smp0723
    smp0723 Posts: 88
    Reminds me of the quote- "If he can't handle you at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best."

    You're better off girl. Don't let this derail you from any of you goals.

    absolutely!!! What a shallow piece of pond scum!!!
  • smp0723
    smp0723 Posts: 88
    What a d!ck!

    Wanna go key his car?!

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!!! I'm with you!!
  • Rhea30
    Rhea30 Posts: 625 Member
    Lol No I don't believe in doing violence against someone just for being mean to me.

    I'm not going to let it stop me. I'm going to continue to do my best.

    Just remember that someone like him is below your league, not out of it! He might be good looking but there are issues inside of him, not good ones either!
  • xginanax
    xginanax Posts: 333 Member
    What a *kitten* HOOOOOLEE! dont even bother going back with him once u do, and u know what hun. this should be more of a motivation to you because once u go down to your goal weight, hell come across u one day and wish he never ended anything with you. WHAT A JERK! U beautiful just the way you are.
  • Polly758
    Polly758 Posts: 623 Member
    I thought I'd never be in the same league as him in order to go out with such a good lucking guy that was also smart and funny and willing for adventure.

    I gotta say, this is the first sign it wasn't going to work out. If you felt inferior to him from the beginning, he undoubtedly felt he was superior to you, and it was only a matter of time before he let you know how things stood. I'm sure he felt like he was training you for the greatness of being with him and now he's letting you go without your training wheels to see if you can catch up to him.

    He is bad news, using disapointment as a weapon against you. Imagine a long term relationship with this guy. Do you think it would stop when you lost weight? No, then it would be something else, and then something else, constantly keeping you off balance and trying to please him.

    Don't ever settle for someone who is settling for you. I know it hurts, but write him off as a close call.
  • bonster1983
    bonster1983 Posts: 17 Member
    Wow! That is such a jerky thing to do! I would get fit as hell and then get in touch with to show him what he COULD have had. I would not ever even consider being with someone who is sooo shallow. For real if he can't love you no matter how you look then he shouldn't fit you criteria.
  • SelenityJ
    SelenityJ Posts: 168 Member
    Thanks so much everyone. I was really down after reading that from him but now i feel better. It's true he did think I was an awesome cook, really nice, and smart the only issue he had with me was my weight. He loved my long hair to, specially when he got to see it when it was wet and see the real length before it goes all curly frizzy.

    I'll concentrate on my weight loss and fitness goals and not so much on dating. Thanks everyone.
  • cgale8
    cgale8 Posts: 34 Member
    Aparently his parents did not teach him how to value another human being on who they are not what they look like. You are on this journey for you not anyone else!!
  • bonster1983
    bonster1983 Posts: 17 Member
    What a d!ck!

    Wanna go key his car?!

    Hahahaha! ^^^great idea!
  • whittlelauraann
    whittlelauraann Posts: 175
    You are definitely better off without him!!
  • RetroSnowflake
    RetroSnowflake Posts: 168
    Oh my god. What an *kitten*. Good riddance to him (:
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Thanks so much everyone. I was really down after reading that from him but now i feel better. It's true he did think I was an awesome cook, really nice, and smart the only issue he had with me was my weight. He loved my long hair to, specially when he got to see it when it was wet and see the real length before it goes all curly frizzy.

    I'll concentrate on my weight loss and fitness goals and not so much on dating. Thanks everyone.

    Just know that there are really great guys out there.

    We can't help what attracts us physically, but we can help how we treat people. His flaw is not that he wasn't attracted to you, but that he was so nasty about letting you know.

    There are men out there who will love you for you, no matter what.
  • boy03727
    boy03727 Posts: 26 Member
    I am sorry you had to experience that. I had a girl say something very similar to me before. Even though you know you are better off without him and he is a total jerk, it still hurts to have someone say something like that. Keep your head up, someday you will find a real man that will treat you like a princess.
  • bizorra
    bizorra Posts: 151 Member
    He's not a great guy. Don't get so hung up on what "league" people are in, that's your insecurity telling you that people's worth are attached to their looks, and your looks don't allow you enough worth. A great guy is a guy who loves to spend time with you, and have fun with you, and make like overall more joyful and better. A great guy would realise that a fit activity partner can come in any size.
  • CarmenSRT
    CarmenSRT Posts: 843 Member
    he did you a favor, if he is that shallow just think of how terrible things would be in the long run.

    Indeed. Lose the guy's number and block his email. There are men out there who will view you as a human being, not some fashion accessory to be judged by.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Don't get so hung up on what "league" people are in, that's your insecurity telling you that people's worth are attached to their looks, and your looks don't allow you enough worth.

    This, too.

    I have never in my life thought any man was out of my league. I have a lot to offer and it isn't about looks.
  • Smuterella
    Smuterella Posts: 1,623 Member
    truth often hurts....one thing u can say for him is that he's honest with u and himself about what he wants and expects from someone who wants to be with him. can't knock him for that...i call that quality in the making of a truly good man.

    Yep. Here is the proof that you should never trust anyone too lazy to type "you" in full.
  • shortybb26
    shortybb26 Posts: 19 Member
    JERK!!! Plain and simple!! Wow makes me happy i'm married. Sorry that happened to you.
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    never judged him to be a good man....still honesty, though far from tactfully displayed, is a quality worth noting. granted he lacks tact in all respects but I've turned down brothers solely on their not meeting my height requirements. no better I know, but what's worst my honesty or my stringing them along because I can when I know they don't stand a chance?

    But the difference is HE agreed to go out with her TWICE knowing he really wasn't feeling her. As opposed to you not giving a short man the time of day because he isnt your type. Big difference. He should have NEVER agreed to go out with her so that does make him an *kitten*.
  • Calderon46
    Calderon46 Posts: 116 Member
    His loss, not yours, you can do so much better than him. He will turn out to be one lonely old man. He doesn't deserve you.
  • SelenityJ
    SelenityJ Posts: 168 Member
    Thanks guys. I really appreciate all the support.
  • supergirlie00
    supergirlie00 Posts: 169
    Weight can be lost.... and being a shallow s.o.b. doesn't change in people like that. You're going to find someone who really appreciate you for you and not for what you look like. I hope when you hit you goal you contact him and show him what he's missing and drop it like its hot!!

    Stay strong! :flowerforyou: You're already done such a great job already.
  • debradeanne0681
    debradeanne0681 Posts: 5 Member
    What a jerk! Dont let him bring you down. He doesnt deserve you.
  • CharleneExtreme
    CharleneExtreme Posts: 372
    Usually i avoid going on the forums (well, try to) because the OP's usually say something to put me in a horrible mood. Today has been an unwelcome change. OP, you haven't pee'd me off but the man you were unfortunate enough to waste a few moments of your life with has rightfully got on my nerves. WHAT AN *kitten*!!!!
    I know you probably don't agree, and that's natural, because you were made feel this way - but you are WAY too good for him. Men like this deserve to die alone.
    You've had some brilliant progress in your weight loss and seem like a genuinely interesting person to spend time with (you like adventure!). Its completely his loss and he has done you a favor by disappearing! There are better guys out there - don't let one of the idiots give them all a bad name!!
  • SelenityJ
    SelenityJ Posts: 168 Member
    Usually i avoid going on the forums (well, try to) because the OP's usually say something to put me in a horrible mood. Today has been an unwelcome change. OP, you haven't pee'd me off but the man you were unfortunate enough to waste a few moments of your life with has rightfully got on my nerves. WHAT AN *kitten*!!!!
    I know you probably don't agree, and that's natural, because you were made feel this way - but you are WAY too good for him. Men like this deserve to die alone.
    You've had some brilliant progress in your weight loss and seem like a genuinely interesting person to spend time with (you like adventure!). Its completely his loss and he has done you a favor by disappearing! There are better guys out there - don't let one of the idiots give them all a bad name!!

    Well I'm glad I haven't upset you! Sorry he upset you with what he did but yeah I'm not used to feeling better or to good for someone. Probably because I like trusting people first to be their best. I'm an eternal optimist. But this has taught me that I need to reevaluate how I look at myself what with thinking people are 'out of my league.' Thank you so much for the encouragement!
  • kealambert
    kealambert Posts: 961 Member
    don't bite on the 'rub it in his face' gimmick, you're better than that.

    it sucks, but it's life. gotta work on what you want for your sake, not other peoples'
  • SelenityJ
    SelenityJ Posts: 168 Member
    don't bite on the 'rub it in his face' gimmick, you're better than that.

    it sucks, but it's life. gotta work on what you want for your sake, not other peoples'

    Nah, I won't do the rub it in his face gimmick. If I run into him again when I'm fit, I run into him again. But hopefully if I do run into him again I'll be civil I just doubt I'd actually date him again.
  • anrev42
    anrev42 Posts: 331
    This is just me - if I'm in your shoes, I won't let this guy bring me down but rather focus on myself! I wouldn't waste my energy on someone not worth my time. Of course no one can tell you how you should feel or do. You will do what's best for you when you're ready. Hang in there!
  • anthony438
    anthony438 Posts: 578 Member
    So I'd started dating this great guy. Before I thought I'd never be in the same league as him in order to go out with such a good lucking guy that was also smart and funny and willing for adventure. We met through a dating site and I was upfront when he asked me about my weight. I told him I was overweight but had already lost a good chunk of weight (I think i was around 23 lbs lost at the time). Well, he and I did meet up and went out on two different dates and since then my weight loss has grown and I'm now sitting at a36 lbs lost, almost 37.

    Both of our dates involved exercise, be it swimming, biking, walking, or running. All were things I did with him but now he sent me an email saying that because I wasn't fit things had to end but to get in contact with him if I got down to my goal weight because other than that he says I fit his criteria but he doesn't want to be seen with someone as out of shape as I am. This hurts and was definitely a major downer for me.

    His loss, not yours :flowerforyou:

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