What if your daughter's boyfriend did this?

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  • Effpcos
    Effpcos Posts: 350 Member
    I've googled how to make meth before, and I'm a law-abiding mother of five, because I was suspicious of one of our neighbours odd purchases. Turns out I was right...
  • maremare312
    maremare312 Posts: 1,143 Member
    How do you know it was him and not your daughter or someone else?
  • wewon
    wewon Posts: 838 Member
    They'd no longer be dating because he is stupid. Stupid for researching it, but more stupid for doing it on my computer.

    He's stupid for research? Stupid for literally trying to know something? Lord help us all.

    Don't cha know that der' book lurnin' lead's to nuttin good?
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    It's not about "looking up random *kitten*". It's about my daughter's boyfriend looking up something like that in my home on my computer. It's disrespectful and done using poor judgement. There is much more to think about in his actions than just WHAT he was looking up.
  • peles_fire
    peles_fire Posts: 501
    I'd be searching for a remote spot to dump the body...
  • pudadough
    pudadough Posts: 1,271 Member
    There's a huge difference between just researching something for 5 minutes on a single occasion because you're morbidly curious or doing genuine research, and looking for it multiple times at length.

    If he's looking into it at length, it's not a casual fascination. Don't play around with this. Confront him so he knows that you know, at least.
  • holeshottdr
    holeshottdr Posts: 364 Member
    I have a .45 and a shovel, doubt he would be missed....
    Not joking.
  • jimmmer
    jimmmer Posts: 3,515 Member
    Who doesn't password protect their computers nowadays?

    Stop letting a stupid kid use your gear. Let him google stuff on his own computer. Problem solved
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    It's disrespectful and done using poor judgement. There is much more to think about in his actions than just WHAT he was looking up.

    Of course it was done using poor judgement -- he's a teenager! I understand your concern, but unless one of us is secretly him ( :glasses: ) or has supernatural powers in order to know why he looked meth up, asking him is probably a lot more efficient than asking us.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    It's not about "looking up random *kitten*". It's about my daughter's boyfriend looking up something like that in my home on my computer. It's disrespectful and done using poor judgement. There is much more to think about in his actions than just WHAT he was looking up.

    Um, but there is nothing wrong with looking that up if he was just curious.I don't get why it's disrespectful or using poor judgement, assuming he had permission to use the computer. It's not like it's kiddie porn or something. He was curious about a how to make meth, he looked up how to do it. Unless you think he's actually making it, you're getting uptight for the sake of getting uptight and you should probably knock it off.
  • JakeFlick
    JakeFlick Posts: 169
    I would show him my collection of hand-guns and pay close attention to the sweat beading on his forehead.
  • Kearsed
    Kearsed Posts: 70 Member
    Maybe he is just a fan of Breaking Bad.
  • daffodilsoup
    daffodilsoup Posts: 1,972 Member
    I'd be searching for a remote spot to dump the body...

    I always find responses like this to be counter-productive and honestly kind of upsetting. Here, there are people talking about why a teenage boy would be looking up how to make meth on a computer - does it mean he is really interested in making meth, or simply curious?

    What if the boy's parents saw your response, or any other one threatening bodily harm, and took it a serious threat? Wouldn't it sort of be the same thing? I'm not saying OP's daughter's boyfriend didn't use poor judgment, because he definitely did, but responses like this are hypocritical and over-the-top.
  • Athijade
    Athijade Posts: 3,300 Member
    A lot of people here are sad and scary individuals. Jumping to conclusions only makes you look stupid.

    1) We don't know if it was actually the boyfriend at all.

    2) We don't know what the reasoning behind the search is.

    3) We don't know what kind of person the boyfriend is.

    4) We don't have any background or history of the OP, boyfriend, and daughter.

    As such, the best coarse of action would be to simply ask the boyfriend and daughter about it and keep an eye on things. Anything else contains too many assumptions... and you know what they say about assuming things.
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    I can't believe some of you, honestly. Researching how to make illegal drugs is okay in your books?
  • SuperstarDJ
    SuperstarDJ Posts: 442 Member
    A lot of people here are sad and scary individuals. Jumping to conclusions only makes you look stupid.

    1) We don't know if it was actually the boyfriend at all.

    2) We don't know what the reasoning behind the search is.

    3) We don't know what kind of person the boyfriend is.

    4) We don't have any background or history of the OP, boyfriend, and daughter.

    As such, the best coarse of action would be to simply ask the boyfriend and daughter about it and keep an eye on things. Anything else contains too many assumptions... and you know what they say about assuming things.

    This. How do you know it was her boyfriend?

    I would speak with your daughter first - not in an accusatory fashion - just out of concern. You are not his mother, but you do have a responsibility to your daughter so start there first.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    Does he watch breaking bad?

    My hubby and I googled "making meth" after an episode because we had some questions.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    I can't believe some of you, honestly. Researching how to make illegal drugs is okay in your books?

    Curiosity really is TERRIBLE.
  • kbubbles87
    kbubbles87 Posts: 28 Member
    Sounds like hes been watching Breaking Bad.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Does he watch breaking bad?

    My hubby and I googled "making meth" after an episode because we had some questions.

    A million times THIS. I google all kinds of things, curiosity is a good thing. Unless there is a reason to suspect that the boyfriend is actually making meth, this is not something to really worry about.
  • lsapphire
    lsapphire Posts: 297 Member
    talk to him and your daughter. Keep an eye open, investigate the signs of meth us
  • Aquarian
    Aquarian Posts: 1,094 Member
    I would talk to both together, and tell them I don't appreciate his "research" or his using my computer. I would also talk to my daughter alone, and try to reason with her.
  • Fallouts
    Fallouts Posts: 16
    Buy an RV, head down to KFC or Popeyes and see if the owner is really a drug kingpin looking for a new cook.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Buy an RV, head down to KFC or Popeyes and see if the owner is really a drug kingpin looking for a new cook.

    :drinker:
  • Yieya
    Yieya Posts: 168 Member
    I can't believe some of you, honestly. Researching how to make illegal drugs is okay in your books?

    Curiosity really is TERRIBLE.

    It killed the cat....lol

    All kidding aside, why not talk to you daughter about it ?
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    Does he watch breaking bad?

    My hubby and I googled "making meth" after an episode because we had some questions.

    A million times THIS. I google all kinds of things, curiosity is a good thing. Unless there is a reason to suspect that the boyfriend is actually making meth, this is not something to really worry about.
    I remember googling "smurfing" after one episode, to see if it was a real thing.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    I have a .45 and a shovel, doubt he would be missed....
    Not joking.
    all the outrage over the boyfriend, when THIS Is the frightening post.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    If you are too protective, then she will cease to be your baby girl.
    Thank you for the parenting advice.
    You're ASKING for parenting advice on a weight loss and fitness forum, aren't you? Or did I misunderstand the intent of the OP.
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    If you are too protective, then she will cease to be your baby girl.
    Thank you for the parenting advice.
    You're ASKING for parenting advice on a weight loss and fitness forum, aren't you? Or did I misunderstand the intent of the OP.
    I'm not the OP.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    If you are too protective, then she will cease to be your baby girl.
    Thank you for the parenting advice.
    You're ASKING for parenting advice on a weight loss and fitness forum, aren't you? Or did I misunderstand the intent of the OP.
    I'm not the OP.
    whoops! lost track

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