What if your daughter's boyfriend did this?

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  • beckajw
    beckajw Posts: 1,728 Member
    He is not curious and he is not doing this for some project. After I heard what he is doing I had a friend look him up online. He has a very long record with the court systems in three states.
    Time to have a conversation with your daughter.

    ^^ This.
  • beckajw
    beckajw Posts: 1,728 Member
    He is not curious and he is not doing this for some project. After I heard what he is doing I had a friend look him up online. He has a very long record with the court systems in three states.

    And, again, you left out a ton of pertinent information in your first post and waited three days to clarify why you were so concerned.

    BAER

    Yes, this would have changed a lot of answers. It is totally different than the impression you first gave.
  • peles_fire
    peles_fire Posts: 501
    I'd still kill him and bury the body in a shallow grave. Why take chances? :bigsmile:

    Although I wonder...how many google meth searches have been caused by watching "Breaking Bad?"
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    Where there's smoke, there's usually fire. Not always, but when it's my daughter- better safe than sorry. Glad you caught him.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I have looked up stuff before that I had no intention of doing anything with the information. I read about weird things. But that being said, examine his other behavior as well before you jump to conclusions. It could be for school, for personal knowledge, for something he is reading in a book. But if there is other evidence I would be concerned.
  • ChelseaYepThatsMe
    ChelseaYepThatsMe Posts: 457
    I would talk to the kid, tell him what you found, and see where it goes.
  • Swissmiss
    Swissmiss Posts: 8,754 Member
    I am sure that he is not looking this up just for the fun of it. I have spoken to a police office in our town. This boy has a longer record then we knew. We also found out that the police has had him under supervision for a long time. They didn't know where he gone when he moved from his appartment to our house. They do know now and they will be watching him. Like I said...this boy is banned from both of our local food stores. But, he still goes to them. The police asked us to call them when we know that he is at a store and they will give the store a visit. I have not talked to the boy or my daughter because I am going to let the police take care of it. They have been given info that they can use. If I were to confront him or my daughter then he will know that we are on to him.
  • scottpwilliams
    scottpwilliams Posts: 18
    It could be something as innocent as him watching Breaking Bad on TV (awesome show!) and wondering if it was really true?

    Or hes a wannabe dealer lol. If he rocks up in a pimped out Range Rover, you know the answer ;)
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    I am sure that he is not looking this up just for the fun of it. I have spoken to a police office in our town. This boy has a longer record then we knew. We also found out that the police has had him under supervision for a long time. They didn't know where he gone when he moved from his appartment to our house. They do know now and they will be watching him. Like I said...this boy is banned from both of our local food stores. But, he still goes to them. The police asked us to call them when we know that he is at a store and they will give the store a visit. I have not talked to the boy or my daughter because I am going to let the police take care of it. They have been given info that they can use. If I were to confront him or my daughter then he will know that we are on to him.

    Put aside the meth stuff.

    This is reason enough to not approve of him. Also, how old is he and how old is your daughter?

    I was under the assumption that both were teenagers, but I read another one of your posts in which you stated he has been in trouble with the law in three different states and you stated here that he moved from an apartment to your house. Is he living with you and your daughter now??
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I am sure that he is not looking this up just for the fun of it. I have spoken to a police office in our town. This boy has a longer record then we knew. We also found out that the police has had him under supervision for a long time. They didn't know where he gone when he moved from his appartment to our house. They do know now and they will be watching him. Like I said...this boy is banned from both of our local food stores. But, he still goes to them. The police asked us to call them when we know that he is at a store and they will give the store a visit. I have not talked to the boy or my daughter because I am going to let the police take care of it. They have been given info that they can use. If I were to confront him or my daughter then he will know that we are on to him.

    Put aside the meth stuff.

    This is reason enough to not approve of him. Also, how old is he and how old is your daughter?

    I was under the assumption that both were teenagers, but I read another one of your posts in which you stated he has been in trouble with the law in three different states and you stated here that he moved from an apartment to your house. Is he living with you and your daughter now??

    Clearly, there is much more to this story than we're getting and clearly, Mom and Dad should have put a stop to this long before she found the search on the computer.
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    I am sure that he is not looking this up just for the fun of it. I have spoken to a police office in our town. This boy has a longer record then we knew. We also found out that the police has had him under supervision for a long time. They didn't know where he gone when he moved from his appartment to our house. They do know now and they will be watching him. Like I said...this boy is banned from both of our local food stores. But, he still goes to them. The police asked us to call them when we know that he is at a store and they will give the store a visit. I have not talked to the boy or my daughter because I am going to let the police take care of it. They have been given info that they can use. If I were to confront him or my daughter then he will know that we are on to him.

    You mean to say that you are allowing a live in boyfriend that has "a long record in three states" - why are you NOT talking to your daughter about this?

    These are the moments that I'm gald my daughter's KNOW that I will bury the body WELL...
  • LoriBeMe
    LoriBeMe Posts: 165 Member
    Why is this dude still living in your house AND still dating your daughter???
  • jamers3111
    jamers3111 Posts: 495 Member
    Tell him you know, and ask him, straight up- why he looked it up. Then youll have your answer :smokin:

    ^^This. Sit them both down and ask. I didn't read all the comments, so I'm not sure if you even mentioned how old your daughter/her bf are.
  • sjebert
    sjebert Posts: 212 Member
    She would be looking for a new boyfriend, I would be looking for a good Lawyer
  • graceylou222
    graceylou222 Posts: 198 Member
    My first assumption is he's curious because he probably heard something about it so he looked it up. Doesn't mean he's planning to do it. I look up random, crazy stuff online all the time.

    Yeah, don't make assumptions. People are curious. Maybe you're curious how it is made now too that you saw that... no biggie.
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    If you looked at my browser history you would think I was a homicidal maniac that cooked meth. I have odd interests which include serial killers and the making of drugs. I have not ever killed a person, nor have I ever cooked or done meth in my entire life.

    my guess is he watched a show like Breaking Bad and was curious how accurate it was. You could always ask him but I would not ever assume anything, chances are its innocent.
  • Usbornegal
    Usbornegal Posts: 601 Member
    I have found out that he has been using my computer to find sites on information on how to make meth. Not sure if he is actually doing this but why else would he be looking up the info?

    So WHY is he using YOUR computer for ANYTHING!!!? Password protect, and tell your daughter that someone went to some really stupid sites on your computer that could be illegal, that you could be held criminally liable for, so from now on your computer is YOUR computer. You make clear ethical statements, and clear boundary statements.

    Do you know that meth cooking is toxic, explosive AND illegal? That it would cost thousands to detoxify your house if he cooks it there? KICK HIM OUT NOW.
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    Last three posts by the OP. Some people seem to have missed these.
    I am sure that he is not looking this up just for the fun of it. I have spoken to a police office in our town. This boy has a longer record then we knew. We also found out that the police has had him under supervision for a long time. They didn't know where he gone when he moved from his appartment to our house. They do know now and they will be watching him. Like I said...this boy is banned from both of our local food stores. But, he still goes to them. The police asked us to call them when we know that he is at a store and they will give the store a visit. I have not talked to the boy or my daughter because I am going to let the police take care of it. They have been given info that they can use. If I were to confront him or my daughter then he will know that we are on to him.
    He is not curious and he is not doing this for some project. After I heard what he is doing I had a friend look him up online. He has a very long record with the court systems in three states.
    These site were certainly visited by the boyfriend. He is the only one to have access to the computer in months. As an update....we spoke to our local police and found that they are watching him. They know that something isn't right. The boyfriend has been caught shop lifting from both of our grocery stores. He is banded from going into of them but I found him at these stores all the time. One thing he has begun to do is to leave the house for hours on end. Not even my daughter knows where he goes. She thought he went to Krogers last night so we drove there to see if my daughter's bike was outside the store. (He uses her bike whenever he leaves. Had a bike himself that I think he stoled but then it got stolen from him.) He wasn't there but he was out for over 4 hours.
  • kathleennicolet
    kathleennicolet Posts: 18
    LOL !
  • Swissmiss
    Swissmiss Posts: 8,754 Member
    He is not curious and he is not doing this for some project. After I heard what he is doing I had a friend look him up online. He has a very long record with the court systems in three states.

    And, again, you left out a ton of pertinent information in your first post and waited three days to clarify why you were so concerned.

    BAER

    Yes, this would have changed a lot of answers. It is totally different than the impression you first gave.


    I didn't leave out pertinent information. Some of this was found out after I had posted. We have been in contact with the police. Plus, we talked to the stores, this weekend, that he is banned from. They all say that they see him all the time but didn't realize that he was not to be there. Well, he went to each of these stores over the weekend and nothing was done. A friend followed him in a department store on Saturday. He spent at least 1 1/2 hours there. (It could have been more...I can only be sure of the time that I am sure he was there). He did not go through a checkout but he did come home with items from that store. My biggest concern is that my daughter will side with him. I am praying that he get caught to show her his true self.
  • Janet9906
    Janet9906 Posts: 546 Member
    My daughter would never see him again.
  • wewon
    wewon Posts: 838 Member
    I am sure that he is not looking this up just for the fun of it. I have spoken to a police office in our town. This boy has a longer record then we knew. We also found out that the police has had him under supervision for a long time. They didn't know where he gone when he moved from his appartment to our house. They do know now and they will be watching him. Like I said...this boy is banned from both of our local food stores. But, he still goes to them. The police asked us to call them when we know that he is at a store and they will give the store a visit. I have not talked to the boy or my daughter because I am going to let the police take care of it. They have been given info that they can use. If I were to confront him or my daughter then he will know that we are on to him.

    Put aside the meth stuff.

    This is reason enough to not approve of him. Also, how old is he and how old is your daughter?

    I was under the assumption that both were teenagers, but I read another one of your posts in which you stated he has been in trouble with the law in three different states and you stated here that he moved from an apartment to your house. Is he living with you and your daughter now??

    Clearly, there is much more to this story than we're getting and clearly, Mom and Dad should have put a stop to this long before she found the search on the computer.

    Absolutely.

    The question is not, "what if your daughter's boyfriend looked up how to make meth?"

    The question is, "What if your daughter's boyfriend, who has been in trouble in 3 states, banned from several local businesses, and is being observed by the police, googled how to make meth?"

    Completely different question, completely different context, and a lot of assumptions/speculations that did not need to be made.

    A person with that background was surely throwing off clues that he was less than desirable.

    Boys and girls, this is how NOT to write and OP.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    He is not curious and he is not doing this for some project. After I heard what he is doing I had a friend look him up online. He has a very long record with the court systems in three states.

    And, again, you left out a ton of pertinent information in your first post and waited three days to clarify why you were so concerned.

    BAER

    Yes, this would have changed a lot of answers. It is totally different than the impression you first gave.


    I didn't leave out pertinent information. Some of this was found out after I had posted. We have been in contact with the police. Plus, we talked to the stores, this weekend, that he is banned from. They all say that they see him all the time but didn't realize that he was not to be there. Well, he went to each of these stores over the weekend and nothing was done. A friend followed him in a department store on Saturday. He spent at least 1 1/2 hours there. (It could have been more...I can only be sure of the time that I am sure he was there). He did not go through a checkout but he did come home with items from that store. My biggest concern is that my daughter will side with him. I am praying that he get caught to show her his true self.

    You left out a lot. Clearly, this guy is years older than your teenage daughter, yet you allowed him to move into your home, where he's probably having sex with her -- statutory rape. It's illegal. You have the option to press charges.

    And if someone doing a web earch sent up so many red flags, you had other reasons to suspect he was up to no good. If MY daughter looked that up, I wouldn't worry. I know she has no interest in participating in that, but she might have a school project or just be curious. I would only be suspicious if I had other reasons to be. You clearly did, but didn't let the rest of us in on the details.
  • kimg68
    kimg68 Posts: 64
    Now you know all of this stuff about this guy, and he is still living under your roof? With your daughter? SMH. You need more help than anything you are going to get on a weight loss message board lady. Good luck with that.
  • lookpretty
    lookpretty Posts: 276 Member
    It depends on what hes like, I have looked up all sorts of stuff, meth was one of them.... so wait wait wait let me get this straight, you do this this and this... and you ingest it.... youve got to be sh***ing me. But then again Ive looked up bomb making (whoa you can do what with a soda bottle!?) i think Im pretty harmless, depends on context
  • Swissmiss
    Swissmiss Posts: 8,754 Member
    My patience has paid off. He has been taken away in handcuffs. My daughter has had the authorities tell her just what is going on. She understands all.
  • beckajw
    beckajw Posts: 1,728 Member
    My patience has paid off. He has been taken away in handcuffs. My daughter has had the authorities tell her just what is going on. She understands all.

    Patience?
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    Yup. This thread still makes me want to drink bleach.
  • jus_in_bello
    jus_in_bello Posts: 326 Member
    It really depends on the kid, and how often he's researching how to make meth, and if he's looking for places to buy stuff for it. I know how to make all kinds of thing I shouldn't, I was a curious kid, I googled stuff, but I'd probably be a little wary if I knew my daughter's boyfriend was looking it up, any chance it's a project? My best friend did a project on abortions and her parents freaked out when "home abortions" and other things showed up in the history.
  • Usbornegal
    Usbornegal Posts: 601 Member
    I recommend reading a really good book called 'Boundaries'. Can't remember the author off hand, but it could help you avoid this in the future.

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