What if your daughter's boyfriend did this?
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I would be scared that the boyfriend tried meth and liked it well enough that he wants to do it again. His problem is that he (likely) doesn't have the endless amounts of $$ it would require to keep himself in the habit and therefore got the brilliant idea that he could make it himself. My daughter means too much to me to allow her boyfriend the chance to explain those internet searches. Relationship would be over, period. His parents would be informed as to his online searches and they can deal with him however they see fit.0
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How are you sure it's not your daughter looking up how to cook meth?0
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I'd say he's probably just curious/ engaging in a Walter White fantasy, but I'd just ask him straight up.
Look at it this way-- if he's trying to cook meth but is too dumb to erase his browser history, he probably won't be doing it very long.0 -
I'd sit him down and tell him that although the internet is a great resource, the only way to really get things right is through trial and error. Go out, make that meth, sell it, and earn some bank. It's what any responsible parent should do.0
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Curiosity.0
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... maybe he's setting you up so the FBI looks at your computer thinking YOU are trying to make meth... next thing you know it'll be pedophilia.... I'd suggest passwording your computer, and maybe locking up the mouse and keyboard, or monitor, so he can't do anything with your computer..0
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Gathering information ias not bad. People are curious. Doing things is something entirely different.
My daughter had surgery. Two days later her boyfriend took her pain pills and OD'd on them. (Silly boy. She has a codeine allergy so they weren't even opiate based.) Anywho...I got a call from the police that they were planning to charge my daughter with posession of narcotics. and posession of a prescription that wasn't hers. (I put 10 pills in an old bottle for the same drug but the bottle had my name.)
I politely suggested they check their drug books and her medic alert bracelet because they are not narcotics. Then I even less politely suggested they go to the Walgreen's around the corner and verify she had a prescription that was filled the day prior.
After the dumb kid got out of the hospital, he spent a month in treatment and she was not allowed to see him again.
OK veered way off topic but back to your original question: I would do anything but monitor.0 -
he would be dead..................that is all!0
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I was that kind of nuts in high school. I looked up that stuff all the time just because I wanted to *KNOW.* Had no intention of doing it, I just had no compunctions about learning stuff other people found distasteful.0
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They'd be dragging me off the bloody mess I made of him.
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Don't jump to conclusions.
If anyone looked at my search history, they would see all sorts of things from "how to inject heroin" to "how drag queens tuck". Doesn't mean that I'm doing any of those things...
OMG! I'm going right away to get "how drag queens tuck" into the search history of my husband's computer. Then I'm gonna confront him on it! Bwahahahaha! :devil:0 -
he would be dead..................that is all!
Because looking something up on the Internet is worthy of a death sentence.0 -
If he used MY computer (her computer is owned by me also) to look up illegal activities around MY daughter, he'd no longer be allowed in my home and I'd make it as difficult as I could to make sure they were no longer boyfriend and girlfriend. I don't even care if the excuse is he was just curious. If that's the crap you're curious about, I don't want you around my daughter.0
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let his parents know and tell him he is no longer allowed to use any computers in your house. they can track those things to you.0
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I would be scared that the boyfriend tried meth and liked it well enough that he wants to do it again. His problem is that he (likely) doesn't have the endless amounts of $$ it would require to keep himself in the habit and therefore got the brilliant idea that he could make it himself. My daughter means too much to me to allow her boyfriend the chance to explain those internet searches. Relationship would be over, period. His parents would be informed as to his online searches and they can deal with him however they see fit.
and she would be riding him buckwild within a day.
Tell her you love her bf that will break them up.0 -
I have found out that he has been using my computer to find sites on information on how to make meth. Not sure if he is actually doing this but why else would he be looking up the info?
Turn his *kitten* in, forbid her to see him. End of story.0 -
(I put 10 pills in an old bottle for the same drug but the bottle had my name.)
Why would you do that?0 -
Don't jump to conclusions.
If anyone looked at my search history, they would see all sorts of things from "how to inject heroin" to "how drag queens tuck". Doesn't mean that I'm doing any of those things...
OMG! I'm going right away to get "how drag queens tuck" into the search history of my husband's computer. Then I'm gonna confront him on it! Bwahahahaha! :devil:
LOL!0 -
I have found out that he has been using my computer to find sites on information on how to make meth. Not sure if he is actually doing this but why else would he be looking up the info?
Turn his *kitten* in, forbid her to see him. End of story.
It's not illegal to check wikipedia on how to make meth.0 -
If my daughter was underage still I would make her stop seeing him (if that's even possible) and I would put a child protection on my computer so nobody can look up sites that are not allowed. I suggest you ask him about the meth site and if he is making it don't let him to your house anymore.0
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Ever looked up two girls one cup? I've watched it, but that doesn't mean i'll do it.
Damn. I liked where you were going for a min.
Do you think I should be more open minded about this foreplay Jac?0 -
Ever looked up two girls one cup? I've watched it, but that doesn't mean i'll do it.
Damn. I liked where you were going for a min.
I assume I should not look this up on my work computer?0 -
If he used MY computer (her computer is owned by me also) to look up illegal activities around MY daughter, he'd no longer be allowed in my home and I'd make it as difficult as I could to make sure they were no longer boyfriend and girlfriend. I don't even care if the excuse is he was just curious. If that's the crap you're curious about, I don't want you around my daughter.
Exactly! I agree!!!!0 -
I would sit both of them down and ask them about it. If I suspected they were actually using or manufacturing meth I would tell them that. Their reaction will let you know for sure. I always knew when my son was lying. Then I would give them the option of voluntarily going to rehab or going kicking and screaming, their choice.
Too many people worry that their child will get mad at them and wont be their 'friend' anymore. I raised my son to know I wasn't his friend, I am his mother. I will ALWAYS have his best interest at heart. Our family is not a democracy, it is a dictatorship and I am the benevolent queen. I can giveth, I can taketh away. He is now a wonderful, responsible, caring grandson, son, husband and father.
I hope that the search was out of curiosity, but curiosity did kill the cat. Good luck!0 -
Ever looked up two girls one cup? I've watched it, but that doesn't mean i'll do it.
Damn. I liked where you were going for a min.
I assume I should not look this up on my work computer?
No do 2 guys 1 hammer
I promise it wont scare you for life.
also do not look this up haha0 -
I would ask your daughter if she or he have had a research paper or assignment recently and ask what the assignment was all about. If it's the case, than you have no issue. If nothing pops up, I'd then talk to them both - family intervention style - and basically tell them both you found out they were researching this topic (drug use) and would like to make sure there wasn't an issue (friend or family member whose facing dangers) they need to talk about. You can even come prepared with books and pictures and all sorts of details so you can educate them about why you were concerned. Basically, this sort of thing merits a calm parent discussion as maybe the issue isn't even your daughter or her boyfriend. It could be a friend and they may be trying to figure out what to do to help them. If there's defiance and anger, you probably have a problem and it might be a good idea to take your daughter to a doctor for a drug test through blood sample. At least you'll know that she's not using. I know some signs are not doing well in school or even aggression. It may be a good idea to look it up. Unfortunately, kids really do get mixed up with the wrong people so it's good to keep the communication lines open.
FYI - If it's a research paper, they might be looking up information about the creation of the drug to explain it in a paper. I know that health classes sometimes touch on this subject and also students may research a topic like this for a research paper to talk about abuse of drugs and how easy they are to get. I agree with the one poster that you don't want to be too aggressive as that would put your daughter on the defensive and wouldn't get you the right answers.0 -
idk, i would confront him about it..
but in the world today with breaking bad glamouring the process and showing how much you bank, maybe he was just curious?0 -
I'm late, but making meth is very interesting. It is an interesting and very dangerous process. I have lokoed it up myself, along with lots of other things. I am so random, I'll just think, 'Hmmmm, I wonder how I could do ____________." You fill in the blank, and I'll google it. I've looked up how to make airplanes, duct tape wallets, beer, wine, how to grow pot, how to do sugery at home on yourself, how to build a house, how to quickly kill a person, how to kill a person a not leave a trace, how to make a bomb, how to join the mafia, how to make a million real quick, how to never pay taxes, how to join a commune, and the list goes on and on. I just think of something and google it. If someone did a complete search on my search history, they might think I was either really super fly, or that I was crazy, depending on who they are. LOL. But, it's just curiosity, not really that I'm going to do anything.
My son is the same way, sometimes I look at his search history, and it's funny, one time I found, how to make a chicken dish. I find all kinds of super random things. He's into random facts, so it will be something like, "who was the first person to drive a car", or some weird crap like that. I would never be concerned by it unless there were behavioral issues that seemed to match up with the searches.0 -
They'd be dragging me off the bloody mess I made of him.
lmao!!0 -
*clears search history*
It's probably nothing.
After I watched an episode of King of the Hill where Bobby's science project ended up being how to make meth, I googled too.
And Breaking Bad can be the cause of the search too.
Going bat *kitten* crazy over a google search won't solve anything, but if it bothers you that much don't have him use your computer.
How about you google "How to tell if someone is using meth." and have him see the search history.0
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